Hi! I'm F22 and I've never been in a relationship, let alone kissed a girl. I've been working on myself for a while now—losing weight, exercising, and trying to improve my skin and hair—but I still don't feel attractive enough. Part of me wonders if that's why no one's ever been interested in me.
I'd really appreciate some honest feedback. What are your first impressions, and what do you think I could improve?

I made a lesbian acrylic canvas painting for you all! 🤍

The kitten distribution system heard I needed a gaming buddy and matched me up with a small crackhead! His name is Dante and I'm obsessed with him.

Machexe on all platforms.

I am a fashion designer/ wedding planner. So as I am already in the artistic field, i would like to date a nerdy person.

I like never do this but I thought this look was pretty cute 😽

I’m not sure if it’s just the area I’ve moved to but it seems like every lesbian I meet these days is a Christian. Which I usually don’t discriminate and tend to be very open to other religions. But the last girl that I dated that was a Christian would claim to be open about our differing beliefs (I’m spiritual and like tarot, that type of stuff) but then she would randomly say things like “You should give God another chance” and “my sexuality is something I struggle with when it comes to my faith.” Sometimes she would say transphobic things as well.

I mean, it is honestly invalidating and exhausting to be expected to support and coddle someone else’s identity crisis. It also sucks to hear them say queerphobic and invalidating things about our sexuality while they’re actively having sex with you.

I’m only saying this because I just started talking to someone new and she just told me she’s a Christian, and I honestly don’t think I wanna risk going through that again. I don’t even know how to respond to her text tbh.

DROP YOUR BEST MEMES, RESPONSES, GIFs TO DUDE ASKING YOU OUT OVER TEXT.

A guy from my real estate brokerage, asked me to a movie, and I asked if anyone else was going, and he said “Nah just me and u” and I said “haha well I hope you know I’m gay!”
[side note: Why is it so hard for me to make others uncomfortable. Meanwhile they make me uncomfortable without any fux given. ] oh well
I wanna see your best responses

I just saw a TikTok that pissed me off and I wanted to talk about it. In it a straight girl talked about how there's too many shows centering queer people and too many queer plots, that she doesn't care and that representation is pushed everywhere even if it doesn't serve the plot. She said she sees a lot of series that only have queer characters and that when there are only gay people she can't relate, that she feels discriminated against and that she feels like she has to change her sexuality to relate.

Jesus Christ there's so many fucking shows with only straight people in them go watch them and stop bitching about it. It pissed me off so much because you don't have to relate to everything and not every show has to be for you. For years there was no representation and saying there's so much is an exaggeration to me. And I'm sorry she feels discriminated because her sexuality wasn't represented in some random tv show?? Queer people aren't represented everywhere either. Most shows and movies are aimed for straight people. Can't we have one fucking thing to ourselves? She doesn't even know what real discrimination feels like. I live in a country where meeting other gay people is hard and where I'm anxious about the future. I'm anxious that I won't find a girlfriend or if I'll ever be able to marry my girlfriend if I have one or whether or not my rights could be completely taken away in the future. Straight people don't have to worry about that. They don't have to worry about coming out to their families and whether or not they'll be accepted. They don't have to worry about being harassed on the street if they go out with their partner. Saying she feels discriminated against because of some show didn't include straight people is insane.

Maybe I am overreacting but it pissed me off hard and I needed to vent. I don't think my friends who are straight would see it as relevant to them so I'm doing it here.

While it's something I'll eventually talk about with people I know in real life, I wanted to talk a little with people who may have experienced something similar to what I've been through.

I am 22 years old, I have known that i'm sapphic since I was 6 years old, but as many people have said, it's much easier to realize that you like women than to realize that you don't like men.

It wasn't until I was 18 that I had a boyfriend and dates with men, even going so far as to have consensual sex with them. Whenever that happened, I would always fall into a deep depression because I wanted to cease to exist in order to erase his traces from me. I thought maybe i was asexual, that maybe he wasn't the right man.

I recently started talking to my friends about this, about how I'd never had an orgasm with a man, how I hated kissing them, and how uncomfortable it was when they asked for hugs or physical contact, but I thought it was normal, that hating your boyfriend for being incompetent was normal.

I thought I was bisexual, so I have experience dating women, who clearly meant everything to me; I don't even need to explain how beautiful a lesbian relationship is. I thought that's how the world worked, I believed that we could only fall in love with women because they are so beautiful and perfect, and that men had to be chosen, like just had to pick one and pretend that he's the one.

Seeing it like this, in this way, it seems so simple, but it was a very difficult path. because you do have feelings! They're not romantic, but when you grew up being the weird, ugly girl, getting male validation makes you feel normal, And you start to crave that validation, mistaking it for love.

On my journey I am still separating the idea that I need to look good to be loved. the idea that if I am not sexualized then I am not loved.

i'm sure of what i am, and since i came out i feel more relaxed. just wanted to share my feelings and journey in case somebody needed this! The sun will rise for everyone. 💜

My soon-to-be ex roommate/friend and I matched with the same person on Tinder.

Context: I had already mentioned to her about who I was speaking with briefly, but very briefly because I prefer to keep my dating life private. She had forgotten we both were talking already by the time they matched. She told me about her. I said we were talking. She kept her distance. We laughed it off. Haha small world. Moving on.

I invited The Match over to my place. All was well, we had a good time or so I thought. The Match decided to invite herself into my ex roommate’s DM’s. I was told by The Match it was all under platonic intentions. Okay.

They spontaneously decide to go to the movies together to hangout. Okay.

The Match decided to text me one night afterwards, stating I was “too distant”, despite me communicating with her many times how I was stressed and depressed from my current circumstances. She never mentioned once how she had started flirting with my roommate the entire time. She always kept saying they were speaking as friends.

My roommate never said anything to me, either.

I lowkey can’t help but feel dumb over feeling so upset with this situation.
At this point, I’m more devastated over how nobody felt the urge to be honest about how they were feeling from the get go. Would that have still hurt? Yeah, of course, but not as much as knowing things were developing behind my back. I didn’t need to know the details. I just wanted honesty from the very beginning.

I’m trying to move on, already have dates set up with other women in my area. Already set up my date to move back in with my family this month. My roommate and I were already showing signs of incompatibility but this situation put me over the edge. I cannot live with someone who’s going to be sneaky if my date decides to start wooing them. We’re all adults here, why did anybody have to move this way?

Oh well. Dear roommate, you won, congrats. Hope you’re happy. I’m just gonna move on and away from this whole ordeal and every single individual involved. Letting the emotions out through my body has been tough, though. I’ve been looking into rage rooms. So far, smoking weed, being in nature, and hanging out with my actual loved ones has been helping.

Who came out as bi-sexual and then fully realized later that the opposite gender is of no appeal?

I had never been with a woman until just recently. Before then I was "bi" but after being with her... I finally felt the things that you're supposed to feel when connecting with another human. The overwhelming anxiety never reached me. I felt peace. The wave of shame was gone. I felt passion. The disconnect from my body didn't make an appearance. I felt more present than I'd ever been before.

The desire I have for her is insurmountable. To have the opportunity to be with a woman is... I wish I had the words to describe the pure magic that occurs every time I touch her body or feel her skin under my lips.

I cannot fathom a timeline where I'd be anything but sapphic. Lucky for me, I have been positively ruined by a goddess.

So no, I've never actually been bi-sexual. I just hadn't had a chance to experience the true power of a woman.

I (29) have been dating a woman (37) for a few weeks. We had amazing dates and I genuinely like her. We have a lot of chemistry and I was excited to see where this could go.

The problem is that she still lives with her ex. She has been very open about it from the beginning. She insists there is nothing romantic or sexual between them anymore, and I believe her. But they're still extremely close.

They've lived together for years and continue to share a home. They cook together, spend a lot of time together, know everything about each other's lives, and she talks about her ex quite often. She also told me her ex got jealous because of me recently.

At first, I underestimated how much this would affect me. I didn´t fully understand how close they are. But as I got to know her better, I realized they aren't just exes who remained friends. They still function almost like a family, just without the romantic part.

Yesterday we had a big fight. We were going somewhere together and I suggested stopping by my favorite bar. We were there before together. But yesterday she immediately didn't want to because her ex had a terrible experience there. She said that her ex got mad when she told here we´ve been there together.

That triggered me more than it probably should have. I felt like once again her ex was influencing our dating. I got angry and said things I regret. I called her ex names, said their relationship was unhealthy, and that I didn't want to be part of that.

She became very upset and mad, and told me something like: "You'll have to accept that she exists, otherwise our relationship is impossible."

I apologized afterwards several times. I admitted I was drunk, admitted I was wrong for insulting her ex, and told her I really like her. She said we should sleep on it and talk the next day.

Today we haven't spoken yet.

I'm asking whether most people would genuinely struggle in this situation, or whether this is mostly my own insecurity that I need to work on.

And how you would move forward with this. Thank you!

No matter when you start living your truth, the world is always so much better for it 🩷🧡🤍

🫂🫂🫂🫂

Im on a mission to find a canadian lesbian or sapphic discord server. If you could possibly guide me to the server id love you forever!!
Pleeassse!!!
Several people i know want to know as well.

we were together for 9 months (3 getting to know each other and 6 officially dating), this was my longest relationship ever bcs ppl always lose interest in me or break up always bcs of the same reason: they just see me as a friend 

my ex-gf said she was in the relationship partly bcs inertia and that her feelings didn't really develop like she wanted to, AFTER 9 FUCKING MONTHS

she said the same as others: you did nothing wrong, i love you as a person and friend, u are an amazing partner, i want you in my life, it's not you, etc. but I'm the common denominator, I don't know what hurts more anymore 

I lost my gf and also reopened an old wound at the same time. I feel so unlovable, they say that I'm very lovable but then why didn't u love me. I'm just going nuts. i wish she had thought about this before, in just one month we were moving together with a friend to another city, now my parents and my friend convinced me to stay home as I'm not stable

my life plan for this next year is completely destroyed and changed in one day, that's also driving me mad

im in so much pain

i feel like i cant get her out of my mind, i want to just digest this and keep going on, but i remember her every little thing i do or see, im so tired

and tbh, she was a bad partner, she has ADHD, and always prioritized herself and her things, even when it hurt me, our mutual friends don't understand why she acted like she did and are kinda mad at her but trying not to take sides. also I did so many things for her and sacrificed so much and worked so hard, and she couldn't do that for me, nobody sees me as enough as to put in a little effort

im just so sad, so tired

I don't wanna go through this again but i love love, and i love being in relationships, though i really haven't been in a real one it seems, and I'm fucking 24 years old

i feel so unlovable and like im never enough

I’m moving to another country for love and I’m so excited ahhhhh!!! 🥹❤️

TW - homophobia/bigotry

As the title says - my wife and I went out for breakfast a few days ago, something that we rarely do so we were both really happy and excited. I'm disabled and walk with a quad cane and need her to support me to go very far, so we lock arms when we walk to avoid me falling. As we were coming out of the place we heard a man scream something, then he turned his truck and flew into the lot. He burst out and started screaming every slur he could at us in between comments of "Jesus loves you" and shit like that.

Now we live in an area that has never been safe for queer people, but incidents like this didn't start happening until around 2020. This is the third time someone has basically come after us, the worst time being when we were followed home from a Walmart and this man threatened to sick his dog on us (who was thankfully the sweetest little puppy just happy to be out and about).

My wife is an amazingly strong woman, she handled it with such grace and she made sure to not let it ruin her day, but I on the other hand, am still being affected. We are very poor and I'm on disability so moving is not an option but I wish there was something we could do. I'm disabled so I can't keep her safe, and my wife is masc presenting and we're both heavily punk. I'm so worried that anytime I send her out she's in danger. A few years ago my cane also was enough to give us deniability so we only got dirty looks but that doesn't seem to matter to bigots anymore.

Are there any other wlw out there going through similar experiences? How are you coping? Any advice or well wishes would also be appreciated. I could really use some positivity right now.

Does anyone else feel like they’ll never find their person? I’m only 22 and I’ve only been in two relationships, but both of them were so mentally draining that now I question if I’m just meant to be alone… or if I’m the problem. Has anyone else felt like this and eventually found a healthy relationship?

Hi everyone,

I wanted to share something I’ve been experiencing and ask whether anyone else has gone through something similar.

I was in a very unhealthy relationship, and ever since it ended, I’ve noticed that my interest in sex has decreased significantly. It’s not that I’ve lost my sex drive entirely, I don’t have an issue with masturbation, but the idea of being sexually intimate with another person now feels very different.

I don’t think I’m asexual. It’s more that, if I were to start a new relationship, I wouldn’t want sex for a long time. I’d need to build a strong foundation of trust first.

The reason is my previous relationship. The girl I dated treated me very badly, and by the end I felt completely used. I’ve written about the situation on this subreddit before. She presented herself as a lesbian, but later it became clear that she was deeply conflicted because of her religious beliefs. She would tell me she wanted to be with me one day, then say the next that her faith wouldn’t allow it. That constant emotional back-and-forth took a huge toll on me.

I think what affected me the most is the feeling of giving so much of yourself to someone, only to be discarded when they’re done. It left me feeling emotionally vulnerable, and this is actually the second time I’ve experienced something like this. In my previous relationship before that, the girl was openly queer, but eventually admitted she wasn’t looking for a committed relationship and only wanted something casual.

So now I find myself associating sex with emotional pain rather than closeness, and I’m wondering if that’s something that will fade with time.

Has anyone else gone through something similar after a toxic relationship? Did your desire for intimacy eventually come back? Do you have any advice on how to rebuild trust and feel safe opening up to someone again?

(By the way I’m 22)

Thanks to everyone who took the time to read this.

My gf first language is English and mine is Spanish, but we mostly go with English. It works out perfectly as most of the times we understand each other first try.

My only struggle is that I feel like I don't compliment her enough in a way that might be more meaninful to her. I (of course) compliment her a lot in my native language, but I feel like it is more meaningful to me than it is for her as I have to explain the meanings of some compliments/pet names such as (mi vida, me encantas, te adoro..) and I would love to compliment her in her own language.

Could anyone give me any tips or the compliments that are used..? I tend to go with gorgeous, pretty, beautiful or my love/love, but if there are any better options I'd love to know!

Thanks in advance and apologies in case of any grammar mistake :")