Ok without going into too much detail…

So I’ve doubted my sexuality for a long time or at least rebelled against it, because I’ve always liked women- (26 M). But I have a gay friend who has fancied me for a long time and by pure chance I ran into him and his friends at a pub. It was a great night drinking and talking, then I noticed he was coming onto me whenever there was a chance no one would see. He’d put his hand on my thigh or glance at me. To be honest I don’t really fancy him, but every time he touched me I felt electric. He has mentioned many times that he is in an open relationship and I am single, he even mentioned it at the table.

When we had a moment alone he told me how handsome I was and that we could have a moment together if I dropped him home… So when it was finally time to go home, he cleverly asked for a lift to the station and as soon as he was in my car he was like “soooooo” and that’s when I got so nervous! I was like “ummm where am I driving?” We stopped off at a quiet place and he was really chill thankfully. I felt like an absolute virgin (I guess i was to this) despite having sex with girls. He didn’t put any pressure on me, he just made it clear that he wanted me, and I kind of needed him to make the first move. He stroked my hair first and put his hand on my lap, which felt amazing.

Then I’m not sure how much detail I can go into, but we started kissing and the rest unfolded as you can imagine in my car. Kissing him was a little awkward and to be honest I wish he was more handsome. At times I felt like I should have been touching a woman, like when I reached for his breast and there was nothing there 😂. But the experience really made me laugh and made me happy. I don’t know why I couldn’t stop laughing. It felt like a relief. He actually topped me as well… which was mad, but I wanted it 😬. I moaned and my breathing was fast, it felt great.

I realised even in the moment, that I wanted the intimacy of a relationship. This was fine because this was just a hook up, it was the perfect opportunity. Feeling his touch, even holding his hand was amazing. It wasn’t romantic and I really do want to find that romanticism, probably with a girl, which I told him. But it was nice to be wanted, because I’ve been alone for a long time. It was nice to hold someone close.

Afterwards I said to him, “so you reckon I’m not completely straight?” Which was crazy and definitely confirmed my bisexuality. I did ask him to keep it a secret between us because I’m just not sure if I’m comfortable with everyone knowing in our friend group, but I’m really glad that it happened and there is even a chance we will meet again. As I said I am waiting for the right girl to have a relationship with, I would just rather a girlfriend i think. But he did say not to completely close myself off to potentially something wonderful one day with a guy. Anyway I thought I would share this experience. This was my first time with a guy and it was safe, really funny and very pleasurable ☺️

we’re both in our 20s. every girl and gay friends that we know ship the two of us saying that they have never seen two people closer together. we don’t deny it and just laugh through the rumors. I don’t thinn he’s ready to come out or fully understands his feelings. I think I’ve fallen for him.

He’s really smart, nerdy, and if I ever need help he always tries finding a solution. we sleep together in the same bed every night and I big spoon him to sleep. which I think goes beyond what fully straight guys do. We start making cute voices / noises at each other. I’m a powerlifter and even when I started bulking and felt insecure about my belly that was forming he said it was his favorite part and loves the way it felt on him back when he cuddled. I also let my excited little guy poke him in the back which only made him scoot back to me even more. he lets me touch his cheeks and even encourages it through the day. If I ever need to stop cuddling or turn he always finds a way to have a portion of our bodies touching when we sleep.

I'm a 22 yo gay guy.

I feel like a guy, but I suffered from genital dysphoria, so about a year ago I had PPT vaginoplasty (which, I promise you, turned out really well after spending almost €30k). Let's just say it closed off possibilities with some guys, but opened them up with others. Anyway, I did it for myself, and now I feel good in my body.

So anyway, about two weeks ago I went out with a bisexual guy who I'll call Kevin.

Kevin, like a lot of guys, was, let's say, curious about sleeping with me, but even so, from the very first moment he was such a sweetheart. You know, one of those people you look at and think they wouldn't hurt a fly.

He was a bit awkward but super cute, and after a few minutes I already had butterflies in my stomach. I won't bother explaining what falling for someone feels like, since everyone already knows.

Anyway, after dinner he said he'd forgotten his medication at home and asked me to walk him back. I walked him home, and, without getting into details, we slept together. Kevin didn't last very long, but I have to say he was really good 😂

Afterward he said it had been amazing, I smiled at him, and then he added, "Wait, let me get the door for you, the handle's a bit stiff." HONESTLY, IT FELT LIKE A PRETTY BLATANT EXCUSE TO SEND ME HOME.

I don't know if he said it with that intention, or if he's just so sweet and clueless that he wanted to help me without even thinking I might have wanted to stay over.

Today he texted me, "Want to come over tonight? 😘" I said, "Sure, what time?" and he replied, "Whenever you want, after 9pm, I'll be home waiting for you 😘"

On one hand it was really sweet of him to use those emojis, but on the other, I don't get why we're not having dinner together first???

What do you guys think his intentions are? I mean, I fall for people easily, but with him I really, truly have so many butterflies, and I don't know what to think.

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No one can stop you

I've been seeing so many posts here sharing experiences of biphobia against men in particular, and I just wanted to show some positivity and love for them by sharing my story.

Long, long before I ever figured out I was bi, I LOVED bi guys. The thought of being able to share thoughts about boys... to a BOY?! I would fantasize about one day meeting a bi guy who might even take me out on a date. Of course, I was not popular enough to have any boy fawn over me in high school back in a time when we called pretty boys 'metrosexual' ^{(yes, I'm old)} - much less one brave enough to be out. But hey, a girl could dream.

By some miraculous serendipity, university decided that should change with one of my first flatmates. By some further miracle, both of us managed to stumble through enough clumsy flirting for me to ask him out, and he even agreed!

I remember mentioning to my sister in our first year that he was bisexual and before I could add, "isn't it crazy he gets flak for that?" she threw me off when she shook her head and said, "Mm-mm. I couldn't do that. What if he cheated?" Well, jokes on her, because we're still together 15 years later!

Ironically, the whole cheating thing was pretty irrelevant, because we're thriving as a poly couple. So the next boy I dated, well, he was bi! The boy after that came out as bi after a while. And the boy after? Well, he was straight. Until 4 years ago, when he realized he might be bi. (That one and I have been going strong for 9 years!)

I don't purposefully seek them out, I swear! I just happen to fall for bi boys. Even the ones who didn't know, there's just something about them, a whole package of things I love. They're more open-minded, they dress nicer, they're better at treating women as people, they tend to open up more, and best of all they can be just as goblin-like as me! And also, they like me. I wear my hair short, apparently I'm both bubbly and intimidating, and my appearance belies the fact that I'm a domme... a lot of men don't like the last two points.

I love all the things that make bi guys who they are. Not every bi guy are those things, of course. And not every bisexual is non-monogamous. But I am, and I love that about me because I love seeing other people love my partners the same way I do. I want everyone to experience the privilege of dating bisexual men.

Don't like straight men? Congrats, date a bisexual man! It's literally that easy.

Bi men are the BEST. Don't ever let small-minded dates make you think otherwise.

Hypothetically if I wanted to try stuff without being caught by friends and locals, how would yall go about trying stuff without being caught or noticed

I (26M) work in a small family-owned business in the financial services industry. I am seeing this guy right now and am planning to come out for him if we continue to work out. Will this likely affect my career? I’m very straight-passing and feel it’s really no one’s business but just wanted some opinions so I can prepare. TIA!

Ever since I came out to her and went back in the closet due to her reactions essentially, things have been good cause the situation has been ignored in a way but I still get the occasional moments where she'll question everything still ....

It just sucks being a late bloomer I can't get over the fact that I feel like I ruined everything by confessing.

I'm scared of losing my relationship, and my kids.

Also, my ability to feel like I'm connected to God is on/off because of biphobia due to growing up in a homophobic household.

I feel like I don't have a right to be accepted by God or that I'm not worthy ...

I'm also scared of the thought of ever having to move on, to be honest I'd probably be single forever if I lose this relationship.... I don't know if I'll ever be ready to be out to the world so I wouldn't want to hurt anyone after being hurt t

I confessed to my gf cause I was already caught looking at things and she told me to it's ok to be honest, I thought it wouldn't turn out terrible which at first it didn't but it eventually did and now I never look the same to her...

I feel wrong but I feel baited too, she's a great person but this is part of her no no's and she's been dealing with it day by day like I have so I won't disregard her feelings cause she has her right to feel how she does but so do I....

Sorry just needed to vent.

Hey so I'm 26 (F) and I've always felt equally attracted to both genres 50/50 (or as I like to say it, I'm 100% gay and 100% straight). I guess you could also say I'm pansexual, don't know if there's any difference. I just can feel attracted to any human being.

So I've noticed that when I feel sexually attracted to a guy it usually comes with butterflies on my stomach. But with girls it's more focused on my you-know-where, and it feels easier to get turned on (and way easier to catch my visual attention)

In my case I honestly don't think it has anything to do with personalities or how deep the connection is with that person, cause sometimes I can feel the butterflies with a super random guy I just met if I let my imagination fly. I think it's as simple as how "titties vs d*ck" triggers my brain or something.

Also, a curious fact: my straight boyfriend does feel butterflies with me. In his words: "you make my stomach warm and toasty" (I love him so much hehe). So I suppose there are plenty of guys who feel butterflies with women, but for some reason I can't?

Maybe this is an old topic in this sub, idk cause I'm new here. I'm just curious to know if there are other people who feel the same way about butterflies (especially the women!)

But to everybody in general, do you have different physical sensations for different genres?

I haven’t come out yet to any of my friends and I feel really weird about it. The same “gay jokes” feel kinda uncomfortable now, or just even looking at them may feel weird. But not because I’m attracted to one of my same gender friends, but because I feel like I’m lying to them in some way. I’m not quite sure how I feel exactly about it, but probably, I’m just ashamed that I “hide“ my sexuality from them which probably could make them feel uncomfortable with me. Which feels heartbreaking to me. I’m not sure if I’m ready to come out to any of my friends (considering that I came out only to my therapist), but also I feel really embarassed of myself for not telling them. I know that I probably should take my time, make sure that I feel ready and then come out only to people that I want to, because there is no pressure on me blah blah blah. Can someone share their story or recommend something that may be a little bit more niche than some stuff that I mentioned above, because I’ve got no idea how to feel or what to do about it?

I (18 F) had the biggest crush on a boy in 2nd grade, but after that, I couldn’t be attracted to boys. Still can’t. The idea of sleeping with or dating one is disgusting. But I DEFINITELY had attraction that boy in 2nd grade, so why can’t I have that same attraction to any other male??? This is so frustrating and confusing. I only like women, and still consider myself bi bc of that one crush, but I’m annoyed bc I don’t FEEL bi. Do any other bi women experience this? Feeling isolated bc of it.

I’m struggling with these thoughts about wanting to date a girl often, I figured it was just my sexuality fluctuating often. But now I’m questioning what I want. I mean my bf is sweet and kind and he den a lot of time buying me gifts and trips deposits only dating for 4 months. But what once sorta started as what I thought was love is now causing me to question my love for him.

When I think about dating a woman it makes me wanna cry, like I’ve thought about dating a woman since I was a teen. I’m bi so I obviously feel attracted to men as well, but feel like I lose feelings with them easily. So when the feelings lasted 3 months instead of after a few weeks I felt like it was real, so we continued for a few more weeks before he asked me out and I agreed but asked to take it slow which he agreed. Now, 4 months later I’m questioning it again. I dunno how to bring this up to him, he’s bought us a trip to a con in like October this year, so I’d feel awful if I broke up with him or vice versa because of these thoughts, and he wasted his money. I know I’m attracted to women so to crave, wishing I was dating a woman feels wrong even with a bf. But now I’m not sure if I even like him now. When I look at him, I don’t want to kiss him, in fact I feel myself wanting to pull away. Which makes me feel nasty for only now realising I might not like him.

I know, I should just break up with him, or go in a break while I figure out my shit, but I don’t even know where to begin. Like “Hey sorry, I don’t think I’m in love with you anymore-“ or “I’m not attracted to you enough to wanna stay-“ I feel sick thinking about it. I know I should just man up but still, I feel awful for it. Especially just after 2 weeks ago I stayed down with him and he bought me stuff cause he wanted to. He’s one of the greenest flags I’ve ever met (minus some needing constant reassurance issues from an ex) Whay should I do? Should I go on a break or straight up break up? If so how should I go about it while hurting his feelings the least way possible…. I dunno how to bring it up.

Im 17 and always had a thing for other boys but i nerver told anyone and only had 2 relationships with girls exept i didnt even were really sexually attracted to them and couldnt stand them anymore after a few weeks. So how the hell can i finally find a boyfriend even if i werent in the closet i dont know NOTHING help😭🤞

So basically I’m bi , and my ex (f) used to be really into it , like she would peg me and every thing
But I feel like my new girlfriend would react bad and it would effect are reaction ship , but I also feel like I should tell her , idk what to do

Okay so recently I’ve started to become repulsed by men. Sort of. Like I find them attractive and I can have crushes (I guess you could say) but when it comes to sex the whole time I’m just like “please cum quick” or I zone out during the whole thing. It’s never good and so I go long stretches without having sex because it’s not good. Whenever ever I do bite the bullet I feel worse than I did before.

Here’s the thing though. I find women attractive but I’m sort of picky with them. I enjoy making out with them (never slept with any). I don’t know what I am anymore I just know that recently I don’t really like men right now but also I only see myself marrying a man? But I don’t know if that’s just internalized homophobia or what.

Please help and tell me if that’s normal or what cause idk.

Also I’m a girl just to make that clear

14F I can’t consider myself a lesbian because I am attracted to men, but if I’m honest, I don’t want to date them.

Men are alright, and I can picture myself with one in the future, but this might be because my dad is homophobic and I want kids.

But women? A masc woman? I just want a gf so bad. I feel like I’d be so much more happy. I love women so much.

Help

I, 18F, have gotten myself into a super tricky situation. I've had romantic feelings for my close friend, 18F, since freshman year of high school, and I confessed my senior year. She told me she had feelings for me too, but that she also liked a boy. I let the situation simmer until she told me she no longer had feelings for this boy and that it was just me. I got hopeful, but nothing happened. We just stayed close as ever, with more tension in the air. I've tried making the first move a couple times: asking her to prom, starting conversations, etc. but no luck.

After several months of this, I began to wonder if it was going to actually go anywhere. I didn't talk to anyone else in hopes that something would change.

We were driving back to her house for a sleepover one night when we started talking about our classmate and close friend that passed away recently. She opened up about how they almost kissed, but she was scared to make a move because she didn't want to ruin the friendship.

I kind of realized that she might feel the same way about me so I decided to take a step back to not add extra pressure. She's going through a lot and I don't want to add more craziness into her life.

This is where the boy (18M) comes in. He DM'd me on Instagram and we started chatting naturally. I didn't think anything was going to come of it, so I didn't tell anybody (including my close friend).

He asked me out on a date, and honestly, for the plot right? I said yes and had so much fun. We went out a couple more times until he invited me over to his house......yeah....I know. I said hi to his family and again, had fun, but this time, things got a bit intimate, and we kissed. We hung out at his house two days in a row, and now we're getting pretty deep into the talking stage.

And, of course, my close friend decides to tell me she rejected a guy because she already had a crush on me. SO now I am probably a complete asshole who's playing with people's feelings. What did I get myself into and what do I do now?

I’m 54m and came out to my wife of 36 years today. I wasn’t able to accept myself until last week honestly when I told my therapist. Today I gathered the courage to tell my wife and she was so incredibly wonderful. I feel so grateful. I’m not interested in exploring with other people in person since she’s my person. But accepting myself and having her accept me without hesitation is such an amazing feeling that I wish I’d had the courage and self awareness to try sooner. But I can focus on the life ahead, loving myself truly for the first time and finally finding a true happiness. I wish this for everyone who has yet to find it. Thank you for this community. I’m so grateful to have others to share this with who understand.

I also thought it was quite funny that both my therapist and my wife suggested I watch Heated Rivalry. Which I had not heard of, but is quite the steamy show I understand.

I just came out of bi to all my friends and family and I feel relived but worried, everyone has reacted to it and I only lost 1 friend. And now I just feel relived but worried even though all the bad reactions had happened (me losing a friend due to him thinking it’s “just a phase”)

Hey everyone. I am feeling incredibly anxious just typing this out, but I really need to know if I'm alone here.

I’m a bisexual guy married to an incredibly supportive wife. She knows I’m bi, doesn't mind at all that I fantasise about men when I masturbate, and is totally fine with my sexuality.

The issue is entirely internal. Almost every time I pleasure myself to male fantasies—and especially when I explore tasting my own ejaculate—I am hit with an overwhelming wave of guilt and depression immediately afterward. What's worse is that it doesn't just go away after a few minutes; I often feel deeply sad, anxious, and down for a few days afterward.
Logically, I know I’ve done nothing wrong and my wife accepts me completely. But the emotional crash is brutal and lasts so long.

Has anyone else dealt with this kind of prolonged post-orgasm shame tied to your bisexual desires? How did you get past the internalized stigma and stop feeling so low for days after? I’d appreciate any advice or reassurance. Thanks.

(25M) I want to bottom because i haven’t tried it before and it sounds like a lot of pressure but i feel such good chemistry with my girl best friend.
I feel like she likes me as well and i want to tell her my feelings but what if i like bottoming more than topping? A relationship with a girl wouldn’t last long in that situation right?