I turned 19 today, doesn't like matter now who wished or who didn't. I've been ghosted by mostly all the males I talk to , i remember telling this guy about how we will see a movie together on my birthday but he didn't even bother to wish me.

Does anyone wanna watch a movie 🥲

I hate everything
I hate my life
I hate myself and I just want to cry myself to sleep but it’s so hard, I don’t want to have panic attack or anxiety at night

I feel like this is incredibly rare and I’m one of the very few people who have lived a life like that.
I was always quite shy and extremely socially anxious especially after I hit puberty so I was always also be at school until I quit.
I feel like an alien.

I feel like I don't belong anywhere..even though I am sorrounded by many people have many friends..even though to other people it may seem I am happy and got good friends but it isn't that way...the thing is no one not my friends my cousins i am no one's first choice...it feels like everyone uses me and I have not a single geninue connection with anyone..like my head is fkedup..it hurts that I don't got anyone who will always pick me as their first choice ..and even when I am on trip with my friends I am always left out no one tries initiating a Convo with me ... every trip I feel like I am being left out every function/ event I feel like I am always left out and no one likes talking to me ..I can't explain but it hurts so much..I sometimes get very sad thinking about it and don't know what I should do ..I sometimes question that maybe it's my fault that no one really likes me not trying to get sympathy but I sometimes really feel like maybe it's the fault in me that everyone treats me this way

Does this happen to anyone else?

You are lonely you yearn for companionship but you are no good at sharing or saying things openly, so you make a post on Reddit. People message you. Some connect with you, but a lot are carrying heartbreak, anxiety or depression and just need someone to dump it on. And because you are the kind of idiot who cares too much, you listen. You stay up late. You invest. You genuinely want them to be okay.

A few days later, they are better and they ghost you. They got what they needed. You became obsolete.

The only problem is they left lighter, and you quietly ended up carrying a little of their pain too.

For a bit of context, I'm 30 F and my entire life I've always struggled with people just randomly disliking me? Sometimes for no reason as well. When I've asked them, they just say they don't like my vibe. I basically don't have any friends and now I'm in a place where I'm too anxious to meet people because I'm worried they won't like me.

I just don't really understand where I'm going wrong. I'm never horrible, I don't say anything mean to people. I try and show interest and ask them questions. Could it be due to me being a shy introverted person? Or perhaps my physical appearance just instantly makes people not like me?

I feel so lonely and get really upset because I so desperately want connections and friends.

I'm 25 years old. I've only had one relationship. Because it was my first time experiencing genuine care and love from a girl, I became completely attached to her. For one and a half years, she meant everything to me.

I was always strongly against long-distance relationships, but I made an exception for her.

She was everything I had ever hoped to find in a woman. She came into my life at the perfect time, just when I had accepted that I probably wasn't lucky enough to be loved. She came unexpectedly. At first, she was just a good friend.

We used to chat and talk almost all day. The only time we weren't talking was when we were asleep. Some nights we'd stay awake until 3 a.m., and even then, when I woke up, there would already be a message from her saying, "Eneeto?" That one message could make my entire day.

But everything changed. She changed, and I couldn't.

Now she's gone.

Now I just go to a job I don't love, paying bills and trying to find a better one. I have no close friends and no one to talk to. Every day feels like the same loop.

My life was like this before I met her, but back then I had somehow found happiness in it. She changed everything. She showed me the kind of love and care I had been craving all my life.

Now I miss that. I miss her.

And sometimes I'm afraid that I'll be lonely for the rest of my life.

It doesn't matter how I feel, what I say or do. No one seems to give a shit.

Can someone reaffirm my existence, lol? This feels unreal to a point, but it's all I've ever known. What'd feel even weirder is some actual affection. And that's just sad... But it is what it is.

I’m 33 f and I just recently lost my friend group. I was starting to feel incredibly lonely and not included in a lot of the groups activities, which turned out to be true they were inviting newer friends to do crafts and hangout and was told not to tell me. I didn’t understand why and vented my frustrations to two people that went and told them and then they actually officially kicked me out of the group. I feel sad and lost. They’ve been my friends for 3 years, I met them shortly after getting out of a severely isolating and abusive relationship where I moved to another state with this man before things ended and I settled here because I didn’t have an option or finances to head back to my home state. I’m not close with my family. With this I got off of instagram and Snapchat as well because my heart hurt seeing their updates. I don’t know what to do and feel so incredibly alone and I am not sure where I went wrong in the friendships. One of the girls said she thought everything was fine but I don’t understand that when they were actively not including me in group activities. I just feel lost and like I’m starting completely over and not having social media almost feels even more isolating now. Any advice would be helpful… to be fair I have felt a falling out with them or a shift in how I was being treated and included starting in February. Maybe I manifested this by feeling hurt but there was a shift.

I’ve gone my whole life without knowing you.
Here I am, almost 27 with 30 around the corner.
It’s something I have been searching for since I was 17.
Beforehand I didn’t care much about relationships, I was just that kind of kid.
Others paired off in high school, but I never felt the need or the desire to love somebody if I wasn’t all in. Or if the true feeling wasn’t there.
This awoke in me when I had my first crush after moving to a new high school states away from my hometown.
It’s a feeling like no other, something I could not place or control. I was so shy, too shy that created the problem where I couldn’t even speak to the person I liked.
So, that feeling eventually, went no where.
My luck has been dry, and my love life has essentially been non existent ever since.
Have I had anything close to that crush? Nope. Absolutely nothing.
But that yearning hasn’t gone away, and I don’t think it ever will.

That need for love has been in my thoughts constantly since, and I have never experienced it.
It almost feels crazy to say and write. It is the deepest yearning to be romantically loved, and I have learned through many years to live with its absence.

I have trouble really grasping the reality of how long I have been chronically lonely. So much so, in the rare moments that reality isn’t there, it feels completely out of place, even alien.
I think, so this is what it feels like to exist without that heaviness in your chest. To not feel that constant tinge of sadness, or the subtle yearning that you feel through every day and every moment.

All my heart wants is to love, but that love has nowhere to go. It’s like a map without a destination, a constant wandering without direction.
Putting this into words is a difficult feat. Sometimes it comes across too juvenile or needy.
But the reality is I’ve exhausted this feeling to ad nauseam. Its constant presence doesn’t even phase me anymore, it’s just that sometimes its weight feels heavier than other times.
It feels wrong even writing this.

I’ve exhausted this feeling to its end, and of if I have to live with this for the rest of my life? I don’t know what the outcome will be.

But the things is, I’m not afraid of feeling this way until the day I die. What I really worry about are the repercussions of a life not shared.
I know I could survive as a celibate or a hermit, easily. I’ve lived with loneliness this long, I can live with it longer and even forever.

But is that what I want? No. Time is precious. Life, is precious. The way we spend those two things are sacred. And is there really a point to it all if you’re living a life that you don’t really want, but can’t find a way out of?

Yes, I could live with it forever. But I don’t want to.
I want to know what it’s like to have someone to love me. I want to feel love for another, the way other people love.
It’s like being an indoor plant that never feels the sun. It’s there, but out of reach.
I’m not where I belong, this I know. I’m living a strangers life. A rehearsed character that pretends, acts content but never really feels the complexity of emotions that her heart desires.

If I live through this life like this forever, I’ll know I lived without. And I’ll know my heart never received what it so desperately needed. I have an over grown tree trapped within the cage of my heart.
It reached for the sun that will never be there to touch its leaves. My heart is in darkness, and there it will stay for god knows how long.
I’m so tired. Tired of feeling this way, and not the way I truly want.
There’s so much I want to give and to feel and to love. But will that day ever come? Only the uncertainty of time will answer that question.
God, what the fuck do I do?

I know people have their own lives and own problems but I hate that I’m there when you need me but never there when I need you. I desire your friendship and attention yet I’m just treated like an afterthought. I don’t ask you to care but I wish you would. My entire life even when I was a child I listened to everyone’s problems or I had to take the brunt of things I should have never had to hear. Now as an adult all I want is to be hugged and treated like you think about me just for a second. Like you care about me the same way I care about you but that’s never the case. I care so much about people even when they hurt me and I forgive even when they probably don’t deserve it. My mind hurts and some days even my body aches. It’s okay. I’m okay.

That’s what I tell myself. It’s not okay though. I’m not okay and it makes me realize I resent you but I don’t want to lose anyone else. Then you realize you’ve already lost said person and you are so desperate you don’t even realize it until it’s too late.

It's almost 7:00 PM, and today is my birthday. I'm 23 years old. I got some cool things, and I got kind of what I wanted, but all I really want is to be held and to just meet new people. I haven't been held in over three years and it's something that I'm desperate for, but not desperate enough to pay money for because then it doesn't feel real because it's like "if I'm paying them, do they even want to be there?".

Today I just spent my birthday with my mother, and she had work half the day, and in the morning I had a Nature Therapy session. So I spent my birthday with a therapist and my mother that I don't even really want to hang out with because all I want is to make new friends. Nobody understands that I've hung out with her for… 23 years now, It's time for me to hang out with somebody else now. It's time for me to be picked up by someone else, and have them drive me somewhere. But I don't have anyone. I'm blind, and most of my friends are Blind, so they can't do that. And every time I go outside, it's usually with either my mother or a therapist. And I'm just getting done. Done with all of this.

I'm grateful for everything My mother got me, and I'm grateful that I got to do what I have wanted to do for a year now, I got to try beef heart for the first time. And it was incredible! But I just wish I had a random stranger to spend the day with as well. I don't even want to talk to my old friends because it's like… All I want is to meet new people who have vision that can help me explore the world. People with vision who will actually want to hang out with me and talk with me. It's really hard to find. Especially people who are my age.

I just wanted to get this off my chest. I hope everyone is having a good day, as good as mine. Because when I tried heart as an appetizer for a Peruvian lunch today, that was the most excited I have been all month. I hope you guys can find something simple that has made you happy or just look at the world in wonder this month.

I have no real life friends, I am a bit introverted, and not great at forcing conversations, but I really value real, thoughtful people. I like talking about life, feelings, emotional & deep conversations, or just whatever is on someone’s mind.

No pressure at all, but if anyone wants to talk and build a genuine friendship slowly, we can talk, I have isolated myself for the past 3 years & it has made me extremely depressed, I still haven't given up just trying to make genuine connections.

I’m 24, nearly 25. Still unemployed despite sending my resumes a ton of times.

I don’t exactly know how to let this out so I’m just gonna say things

I’m not sure how much a job would improve my life but at least that could give me a routine.

I want to experience romance. I’m a gay male, having difficulty with relationships. I want to know what it’s like to kiss someone, to love someone.

Being unemployed, it has its ups and downs but I can’t seem to see my future as of now. And time is unforgiving.

I don’t have any clubs joined, I only go for a jog and sometimes workout here at home. My friends are all working, some moved abroad. Most of the friends I have here aren’t exactly my go-to’s.

I don’t wanna be depressed, I wanna know what love feels like, being excited to see someone and many things. But I don’t wanna dive into that yet if I don’t have money of my own.

Are there people like me? I feel like I’m the only one, I feel lonely.

I'm 21 years old boy, and I wish I had a best friend even if it's online to chat

I'm in the UK for tourism and I get to see many boys hanging around with their friends I see more goth boys and girls around too and I'm lonely and I don't have any friends irl.....I actually love goth people

And sometimes I cry but softly when I see everyone is smiling and happy with their friends.....

I try to make friends in the gym...I try to go to gym when I was 20 but only for 3 months I stopped

I got bullied for being bisexual by 3 muscular boys

I wish I had a friend who is protective and deeply caring and funny and with kindness

No one ever listens to me, never had anyone I could really talk to about how I feel.

The only person who listens to me is my counsellor, whose job it is, is to pretend to care about my problems.

I feel so empty and sad all the time. I hate my life. I try to be open and listen to others, but nobody listens to me or sees me.

I wish I could just cry into someone's arms, but I'm stuck on Reddit complaining about my shit life.

I don't really understand 30 M I did everything in my power. I don't understand am I worse than some horrible toxic people in relationship. I did everything put my self out there hit the gym got educated tried to be social wtf man ? is this natural selection leaving people?

I miss being a kid. It was so much easier to make friends back then. As an adult all these things affect whether people want you in their life. How much money you make, how prestigious your job is, how many connections you have, how attractive you are, how many dates you go on and how many sexual partners you had. Hobbies and skills only matter if you are incredibly good at them. None of this mattered as a kid. You didnt need to be impressive to deserve basic human connection. You were allowed to be bad at hobbies. Adulthood is just a rat race of trying to be better than everyone else.

.. and i need to learn how to ask for help instead of filing everything in my imaginary folders and diverting my attention to solving other people’s issues.

I am a 25 year old. I have no friends and recently out of a 5 year relationship. The days drag and all blend into one another. I don't want to feel sorry for myself, I am sincerely trying but I'm at my wits end. I've been dieting, working out, trying to dress batter. Yes, for me but also just to seem more appealing to others. Not necessarily romantically but just so that someone would maybe be open to talking to me. I work from home in mental health for high risk individuals and listen to their pain for 8 hours 5 days a week. I struggle with substance use and sh on a daily basis. My family insults me on a daily basis. My mother has called my a parasite and a burden ever since I was little, so I tend to lock myself in my room while I work. The friends I used to have, have now become addicted to hard substances or have become unrecognizable from one reason or another. I am so overwhelmed, I wish I didn't have to face this alone. I don't know what to do anymore. I feel like I'm drowning

I feel like as I get older, I no longer have anyone who really understands me.

While in school, there are so many opportunities to find like-minded people.

At work, it's harder because there's not as many people to start with. And the age differences and life experiences are so vast, it's truly hard to have a real friend and conversations are just polite.

I've tried church, and it seems people already have cliques and there's too many hoops to jump through and requirements to go to all the outings.

Even my old friends, we all ended up moving away for jobs and life stages are different.

Then parenthood during the pandemic really put an end to any socializing that I had left.

It's fine to make small talks with strangers or have those once every 6 month friend meetups (since we don't live nearby to each other anymore). But it just feels really lonely. Everyone is busy. Everyone is dealing with their own problems and demanding jobs/life.

Idk what I'm trying to say, other than, it feels really lonely. So maybe it's a me problem. I just feel so disconnected. And it makes me sad.

I know this isn't forever, and maybe I'll have time to volunteer or join something when the kids are older. But the last few years have been really lonely. Very lonely. I guess I'm writing here to just say it to the universe. And maybe it'll help just to let it out.

If anyone else feels like this. I guess this is where we echo each other and somehow it feels less lonely. Sending positive energy out there. Anyone. Everyone.

I've shifted to a new city and I feel so lonely because I don't have friends here. I can't blame anyone for this since moving here was my decision. I'm quite young (still in school) thus my parents can't allow me to travel solo because there is no direct train or bus from here to my hometown. Earlier I was in a metrocity from where I used to travel alone to my home.

I can't stop crying thus my parents are very worried. I also can't study because of all the stress that I'm taking. I don't have friends here and school sucks. I thought of going back to where I was but I don't want to give more stress to my parents because they left on Sunday after shifting me here. It takes 5-6 hours from here to go home. I hope life gets better and this city provides me comfort. Shyad zindagi itni bhi mushkil nahi honi chahiye.

How do I have so many “friends” but at the same time have no one to talk to…?

Why is it the people who are in my life just don't care. If it's not about them it's nothing. I'm nothing. I'm worthless. It hurts so much and it's never going to be better.