I received a payment of $1200 from a stranger on Venmo and immediately after, I got two requests for $1200 from the same person. They’re saying it’s for their wedding venue and that they accidentally sent it to the wrong person. Is it safe for me to send it back to them or could that potentially open me up to getting hacked? I tried contacting Venmo and they have not been helpful. The person seems legit and there’s other transactions relating to a wedding on their profile too.

He says I am trespassing and says he never met me to the cops (which is not the truth) he is just lying because he can as it was more of a verbal agreement for a room share as i am a student. What do I do?

Additional info: He threw 20% of my things out but I called the cops and he stopped. He thought he could do that. I am still figuring out my next steps as my laptop is broken the way he threw my backpack. 2 cracks, still works but screen needs to be replaced

I booked and paid for a hotel room for my boyfriend and me for a 2 day trip in a different city. We had only been there for about 2 hours when he started hitting his weed pen in the room. I wasn’t smoking it or anything but the room got foggy and then It set off the fire alar.
When the hotel staff came, my boyfriend tried to lie tell them it was incense, but they could clearly smell the weed and didn’t believe him. I thought it was so stupid for him to lie and say that and I did tell the hotel lady that he was smoking. We were kicked out with no refund, and now the hotel says they’re going to charge me an additional $250 because they have to call the fire department to turn off the alarm in the room .
The reservation and payment were all under my name, so I’m the one losing the money. My boyfriend is the one who decided to smoke inside the room, even though the hotel had a no-smoking policy.
I’m upset because I paid for everything and now I’m out the cost of the room plus another $250. I don’t know if I should dispute the charge if they add it to my card, or if I should just demand that my boyfriend reimburse me for everything.
What would you do in my situation?

Just some context, my husband got fired from a different hospital before from his residency program for having sex with a nurse in the hospital bathroom. A medical student reported them and they were escorted out of the hospital by security. He was put on probation because of this. After that, he was caught drinking in a rooftop bar during his night shift meeting with the same nurse so he was eventually fired and kicked out from his program. The program also knows he is using weed outside the hospital but still under the clock while doing notes for patient charts. All of this was reported to me by their chief resident, program director, and other "good samaritans" who messaged me anonymously on social media. I found out that he was telling everyone we're not married and was just boyfriend-girlfriend. (June 2024)

We recently just got married (2023) and I just received my green card so this is being put over my head about accepting him back and fixing things. It also matters to me because I have spent so much time and money for my application just for him to ruin it for me. We have been together 6 years not including the 3 years we have been married.

Fast forward to us moving to NYC where I'm working at (August 2024). I decided to move forward and build our life again (as a stupid wife). I supported him with my little salary, paid for rent, utilities, food, groceries. All he was paying for was our cats by using his parent's credit card. I helped him with my connections in the city to get back on his feet. He was finally able to convince another residency program to take him.

He worked in this hospital first with a different position (August 2025) and they decided to take him in as their resident. He's only been working there for a year before starting as a resident a month ago (residency starts on June, yearly). I was charging our Apple Watch on a random day and some women intuition was just telling me something's not right. I found out in his WhatsApp some messages from a girl saying "I want your kisses again (name)" and "Can you not wear your glasses when we ding ding" and "pound your white ass body on me". It felt like a bucket of ice was thrown on my body but I am also not surprised this happened again. The messages were recent from May 25, 2026. I decided to confront my husband about it when he gets home but I couldn't wait so I called him while he's in the hospital. He said he doesn't know that person when I asked him so I said I have seen the messages. He denied them until he said it was just flirtatious banters. But I pointed out that it said "kiss you again" means that not nothing happened. So he said it was going on for 3 months and blocked her already. He said they kiss on the hospital lobby and was walking her out.

Now I'm sitting on this thinking if I should report him to HR and his residency program. Please give me some advice. All I have are pictures of messages in his Apple Watch and videos showing that it is his account and showing girl's number and their messages. I don't know if this is enough evidence to report someone. I am also considering the NYS Medical Board. I would love to report the girl/nursing student also to her school since she knew about me and keeps messaging him that's why he blocked her (according to him). She's not rotating in the same hospital as my husband anymore and I do not have ways to find out more information about her. All I have is her first name and her number. I reverse-searched her number on Zelle and her registered name there is still unsearchable online. ALSO, he is still using weed while doing his patient charts at home. So many problems that he has which is becoming a pattern.

I understand everyone will just tell me to leave and that my Green Card will be fine but I'm also a doctor and honestly I would not let this slide if it were my co-worker fucking around the hospital. Please give me some enlightenment or some options on what to do.

​I don’t even know where to start. My heart and my life feel like they’ve shattered into a million pieces.

​Up until a week ago, my boyfriend (1.5 years together) was the most loving, caring, and wonderful partner I could have ever asked for. Just the day before he left, he surprised me at work out of nowhere just to see me. I felt so loved and secure.

​Then he left for a trip to the mountains with his friends, staying at a buddy’s apartment. Almost immediately, everything flipped 180 degrees. He completely started ignoring me. He pulled away, barely replied to my messages, and left me feeling like I was losing my mind. I knew in my gut that something was horribly wrong.

​When he finally came back, he acted distant and cold, as if he was waiting for me to break up with him. He had two full days to come clean or talk to me, but he stayed silent. Finally, I pressed him, and the truth came out.

​He admitted that while on the trip, he stayed close to a girl he literally met a week ago (who is visiting from abroad and leaves in a week). He confessed to:

​Sleeping right next to her while holding her hand.

​Going on evening walks with her, holding hands.

​Cuddling with her and having her sit on his lap.

​Emotional intimacy that went far beyond "friendship."

​He looked me in the eye and told me he thinks he "likes her" and felt a "spark" with her - a spark he claims had faded between us.

​At first, he acted cold. He said he wanted to break up, that he didn't deserve a second chance, and that he didn't even want one. Then, his story shifted, and he started claiming that "it wasn't actually cheating."

​Now, he’s spiraling and spamming me with horribly long messages begging for forgiveness. He says he suddenly realized what he lost, apologizing profusely, and literally told me he "destroyed his house for a night in a hotel." He is begging for another chance and claims that while it was happening, he didn't realize what he was doing or view it as cheating.

​To me, this is both physical and emotional cheatin, and the emotional betrayal hurts ten times worse. I feel so much disgust thinking about how he could do this after everything we built. That he could bond like that with some other girl that he wont see ever again.

​I’m completely lost. Cheating has always been an absolute dealbreaker for me, but I’m struggling to process this:

​Is it even possible for someone to "not realize" this was cheating, or is that just a pathetic excuse to shift guilt?

​How do I actually leave when I know in my head I have to, but my heart physically can't bring itself to let go?

​Is giving a second chance in a situation like this ever realistic, or am I just holding onto the ghost of who he used to be?

​I feel sick to my stomach and just need some honest advice or perspective from people who have been through this.

​TL;DR: My loving boyfriend of 1.5 years went on a trip, held hands, slept next to, and cuddled another girl he met a week ago. He claimed he felt a "spark," initially wanted to break up, then denied it was cheating, and is now begging for forgiveness saying he regrets "destroying his house for a night in a hotel." I feel broken and don't know how to walk away.

I'm the mom of a 19 year old. I recently noticed, while we were on holiday, that she has scars on her upper thigh. She wasn't aware that her shorts had ridden up when she sat down, so I don't think she realized they were visible.

I didn't want to bring it up while we were on holiday, but now that we're back, I'd like to mention it. I'm just not sure how to approach the conversation.

There are also a few other things I've noticed that concern me. She seems to have lost weight quite fast, and she's made a lot of negative comments about her body and how insecure she feels about herself. she skips meals a lot but plays it down that shes not hungry. maybe she really isnt but im not sure as i have dealt with eating issues as a teenager.

On top of that, she's made a lot of jokes about suicide. Her older sister has told me about them, and she was concerned enough to mention them to me. Apparently, shes even joked about making an attempt. I know that people sometimes joke about suicide, but I'm not sure how seriously I should take these comments, and I'm worried that I might dismiss something important. She has tiktok reposts about her mental health that my daughter has also shown me that point towards suicide and other stuff.

for unrelated things i told her she should go to the doctors but she never wants too, so im worried she will also downplay this and wont want to get help if she needs it.

There are several things I want to talk to her about, but I don't know how to bring them up in a way that doesn't make her shut down or feel judged.

I live in an apartment with my fiancée. Our neighbors across the hall have been smoking. We’re not Karen’s but the smell of smoke has been very strong in our apartment lately. After contacting the landlord and property manager they kept saying they’d take care of it. It would stop for 2 days or so and then return. Mind you the smell of cigarettes has been incredibly pungent inside our apartment. After calling the property manager and landlord, they posted a sign on everyone’s door today. The across the hall neighbor, upon returning home and seeing this, pounded on our door and was swearing up a storm. My fiancée was home alone for this before I could rush home from work. The lady left before I returned home. The landlord said he’d handle the neighbor tomorrow afternoon after she has a day to “cool down”. My fiancée doesn’t feel safe alone as the neighbor has a large man living with her. We’re not 100% sure what to do as we have done nothing wrong. We now have boot marks on our door and profanities screamed through our door. I know we could get a ring camera or something but that doesn’t really do much when there’s a woman home alone. Even if they stay or even if they get evicted, they’re mad at US and clearly aren’t afraid to make a fuss about it. Any advice?

I'm a male in my 20s, live by myself and have 5 years work experience in IT. My current job is exactly what I enjoy, team is great, culture is really relaxed. Plus, I got insanely lucky and can work remotely in my apartment. Now I’ve been offered a role paying around 150k, but it’d mean minimum 3 days in person, 30-minute drive each way, not accounting for peak hour traffic tbh, and I’m not sure about the culture. I honestly don’t know what to do. 

I (30M) have lived in a shitty, cramped apartment for years and want to finally move out. I am single with no kids, have no significant debt anymore. I have a 705 credit score and work as a software engineer (8 years experience) and earn around 130k annually after taxes.

I’m stuck between two houses and can’t figure out if I’m letting emotions cloud my judgment.

House #1 is $225k and has 2 beds, 2.5 baths, and 1,422 sq ft on a 3,136 sq ft lot. HOA is $63/month. I toured it recently and absolutely loved the interior. The layout, finishes, and overall feel of the place is just nice.

House #2 is $275k and has 3 beds, 2.5 baths, and 1,536 sq ft on a 3,920 sq ft lot. HOA is only $40/month. It’s also in a noticeably nicer area and would cut about 25 minutes off my commute to work, which is obviously a huge plus.

On paper, the second house seems like the smarter long-term choice: extra bedroom, bigger lot, lower HOA fees, shorter commute, and a better neighborhood. But the first house is $50k cheaper, and for whatever reason I genuinely enjoyed being inside it a lot more. What do I do?

she went to a beach trip with her family 3 days ago and has been feeling shit for the last three days. she's a pseudo recovered anorexic, so what i'm assuming is going to the beach made her feel more insecure about her own body. she's been talking more and more about her weight these past few weeks but now it's gone off the roof.

the thing is i practically lost my best-ever friend to a ed, to the point where he didn't text me for a week straight and started to cut contact because he didn't have the energy to talk to anyone because of his ed. I practically tore myself apart to help him, because I felt so lonely without him.

the problem is that i'm starting to see the signs that my old bsf gave me before starting to slowly cut everyone out of his life WITH HER TOO + i'm starting to see myself try to save her like i did my best friend also. I'm worried that she will cut me off like he did too, but i'm also worried that i'm gonna tear myself apart again trying to salvage us. what can i do?

good morning! asking for advice. bought a house about a year ago. I think once around halloween and once around christmas, we’d gotten a package delivered to our house with not the previous home owners name on it, but the person before that. they never contacted, must’ve just accepted the loss and moved on. since then, and moreso just in the past two months, the previous owner that we literally bought the house from, has been getting big packages sent to our house. i’m talking furniture, patio furniture, and overall heavy boxes (50+ lbs.) the first time it happened, we were like “oh man what do we do” and it was dropped off when we weren’t home. two days later, said previous owner came to our house and knocked on the door asking if we had her package which we did! handed it right over, my fiance actually helped load it to her car. (we had brought it in the garage due to heavy rain.) She apologized and said she had one other box already on the way and asked if we can text her when it comes, and she left her number. My fiance did just that, and she came to pick up the other box (left outside) the day after it was delivered. since then, my fiancé’s been fortunate enough to be home every time it’s happened but we KEEP getting packages here. my fiance runs outside every time the UPS or Fedex truck comes, and he turns away anything that isn’t addressed to us. the mail men are apologetic. We don’t know how to make it stop. i triple checked with my fiance that he didn’t give her permission to use our address however, he’s adamant she said it was just an accident and it wouldn’t happen again. is there ANYTHING i can do at this point?

I have been living at my current place for 14 years, and my next door neighbor is/was an elderly lady, but I never really had interactions with her, until she called the cops on me for a noise complaint the first year I lived at home. (My friends were talking too loudly at 3am smoking on my porch, so it was overblown, but whatever.)

Fast forward a few years and she no longer lives there. I talked to my other neighbor about her once and know she has 2 adult sons, where they are and their relationship with her, I have no idea. But just cause I said she no longer lives there doesn't mean she moved out or sold the house. This is where it gets weird.

Around the time she stopped living there, a new older guy showed up, and I noticed he wore a priest collar. I have been suspicious of him since the moment I laid eyes on him. He comes around to check on the house, and I have seen her with him from time to time - well, I assume it was her cause it looks like it could be her, but I have never been able to check up close. This guy always comes into my yard to throw away like 1 piece of trash that was probably in the lawn, but it looks like its an excuse to observe things between the houses because he seems to scan the area and be nosy.

Now, this is really all it amounts to, but like I just can't understand why you would maintain a house you aren't using for around 10 years. Also, a 2nd story window has been open for at least a year, and its one of those windows with a top section that can open downwards, so there is no screen either. I live in the midwest so we have all seasons, I can't imagine leaving a window wide open for a year straight is good for a house, even if there is an overhang directly above it.

Everything just seems so odd with this situation, it could have a normal reason, but I can't think of it. I have tried to get the police to look into it, but there isn't enough suspicion to warrant any action, which is what I kinda expected.

My brain keeps saying there are bodies in there, but I know I am probably just overthinking it and its probably some weird old lady reasoning or like maybe she is being scammed by someone who wants to take the house when she goes?

Either way, I don't NEED to do anything, but damn I am curious. I could theoretically do not quite legal things and snoop but I really would only do that if I had a high suspicion of something specific and dire. Otherwise, I see it as their business. I just can't shake the feeling that something odd is going on.

My boss is 54(M) and I think he has a bowel issue. He's very self conscious about it so idk how to approach the issue but no one else feels the need, in fact they think it's funny. I've been working at a small company for about three months and when I first started there they had this joke about how if something silent but violent happens everyone goes silent. My coworkers told me I would figure it out when it happened. On the third or fourth day I was working in the office off the workshop and I smelt something absolutely horrendous. The office is right next to the lunchroom and I was wondering if it was something someone was heating up. It was me and another coworker and the boss in the office and I said absent-mindedly 'do you guys smell that?'. The boss glared at me and said 'smell WHAT?' and I was genuinely so confused. Like, if it was him why wouldn't he just laugh or admit it? Or if he was embarrassed why wouldn't he just stay quiet? After he left my other coworker was laughing quietly and when I asked him what the deal was he told me it was related to that joke they had. If anyone says anything when the boss farts it's like the entire world is ending. Apparently even when his wife visits the workshop (she handles payroll and some other stuff so comes in once or twice a week), she doesn't say anything and she backs him up in saying there's no smell etc. The thing is, some days it's almost constant and it's at the point now where if he's in the lunchroom people won't eat in there. I think he has a massive problem and is just ignoring it and his wife is enabling him?? Obviously this is a delicate situation and I know I havent been there long but they're really lovely people and honestly Id feel awful if he was genuinely sick and I had just stayed silent out of social politeness. Any advice is appreciated.

Hello besties,

I’m a 20F who was working at a call center. The job was honestly pretty easy and chill. I’m a very creative person, so I was always coming up with ideas to make work easier for everyone. A few of my projects were actually approved and put into action, and they even replaced some old procedures with new ones because of those ideas. I was friends with most people in the office, and I was even looking forward to becoming a manager. My team lead and some of the trainers had talked about giving me that opportunity.

However, there was an old lady at work who got hired and, for some reason, she didn’t like me. Mind you, I had never even spoken to her. We sat in completely different areas of the office you couldn’t even see her from where I sat.

I started hearing rumors from my friends that she was talking badly about me and trying to turn people against me. On top of that, she was reporting me to management, saying I was rude and that I called someone stupid. None of that ever happened. I’m someone who takes accountability for my actions. If I say or do something wrong, I’ll own it because I’m an adult and I know actions have consequences. But these were things I never did, and it really bothered me because I was hoping to move into a management position. I didn’t want people believing things that weren’t true.

So I spoke to my team lead about it, and he said he would take care of it. That was last week. I even saw the team leads talking to her, so I thought everything had been handled.

It hadn’t.

Today I was called into the management office, and the worst happened, I got fired.

I have a video of the meeting. You’ll hear me getting fired. This is the first time I’ve ever been fired in my life, and I was in complete shock. All I could say was “okay” because I knew if I tried to explain myself, I would start crying. I was trying so hard to hold myself together. They didn’t even let me grab my things before walking me out.

The crazy part is that this wasn’t the first accusation. Last month, this same lady and one of her friends claimed they heard me talking badly about someone. The truth is, I was joking around with my friends about other friends. It was just normal conversation, nothing mean. She somehow changed the story and said I was talking about someone in the company. The thing is, I never even mentioned anyone’s name, so I don’t know how she came to that conclusion. I still got written up, and as far as I know, there was never any real investigation and again no choice but signed it.

I live in Utah, where jobs don’t pay very well, so this has been devastating. I was finally getting close to moving out of my parents’ house, and now I have to stay longer because I suddenly have no job.

I honestly still can’t believe this happened

FIRST EDIT:I love all of your comments, questions, kindness, and advice. ❤️ I noticed a lot of people were asking for more information, so here’s a shorter explanation now that I’ve had time to calm down.

An older woman in her 60s was hired last month. I never really spoke to her because we didn’t have much in common. I was actually away from work for about four weeks, and when I came back, several coworkers warned me that she liked to gossip.

Not long after, she reported me, claiming she heard me badmouthing another agent. That never happened. I was talking with three friends about mutual friends, and we weren’t saying anything negative. She sits far away from us, so I don’t even know how she could have heard what she claimed.
Then six different coworkers told me she had been talking badly about me. I reported the situation to a team lead, making it clear I wasn’t trying to get anyone fired. After that, she reported me to HR for allegedly bullying her and other people. I have six witnesses who can back up my side of the story.
Also, when an adjuster at work harassed me by calling me a baby and saying he would kiss me, I reported it because it made me uncomfortable. Other women said they were scared of him too. HR simply told him not to do it again, and he still works there.

SECOND EDIT: Hey guys, I’m back with a few clarifications now that I’ve had time to think everything through.

As much as I appreciate everyone suggesting unemployment, I won’t be applying. In my opinion, those benefits should go to people who are really struggling financially. I’m fortunate enough to live with my parents and have a good amount in savings.

The “joking” everyone keeps asking about was simply me talking with my friends about my friend’s baby, who has a ton of hair. I joked that I wanted a baby with that much hair too. That’s it.

Unfortunately, in Utah this isn’t illegal, so there’s not much I can do besides accept it and move forward.

I included the reason for my first write-up. I had worked there for a long time without ever receiving one. Then, within the first month of this older woman being hired, I got my very first write-up because of her report.

​

I really need advice because I feel completely helpless.

A few months ago, I logged into my boyfriend's ChatGPT account on my laptop because I needed it for my studies. I barely used it, and after that I created my own ChatGPT account and have only been using mine ever since.

Last night, my boyfriend suddenly accused me of cheating. He showed me screenshots of what looked like WhatsApp conversations between me and one of my classmates. The problem is that those conversations never happened. They were fake.

Because my boyfriend didn't trust me, I messaged my classmate to clear things up. I asked him, "We're just friends, right?" He replied, "Yes, we are friends. Why are you asking this?" I took a screenshot of that conversation and sent it to my boyfriend, hoping it would reassure him that there was never anything between us except friendship.

Even after that, he still didn't believe me.

Then he showed me something from his ChatGPT account. Someone had uploaded screenshots and typed "This is me and my bf chat" before asking ChatGPT to analyze the conversation and give advice. My boyfriend keeps pointing to that sentence and saying, "This is definitely you because it says 'me and my bf.'"

I tried explaining that anyone could type those words before uploading screenshots. A sentence like that doesn't prove who actually uploaded it. I also showed him how AI and editing tools can create convincing fake conversations and screenshots.

I haven't been using his ChatGPT account, and I didn't upload anything there. I don't know who did it. I do wonder if someone created the fake screenshots elsewhere and then uploaded them to his account, but I don't have proof of that. What I do know is that I didn't create those chats.

The part that hurts the most is that he didn't believe me even after I explained everything and showed him the screenshot from my classmate confirming we were just friends. Instead, he believed the screenshots and the ChatGPT upload.

He said a lot of things that broke my heart. It felt like he had already decided I was guilty, and nothing I said mattered anymore.

I don't know how to prove I didn't do something that never happened. How would you handle a situation like this? If you were in my boyfriend's position, what would convince you? And if you were in mine, what would you do?

UPDATE : I finally found out the truth. While I was in class with my best friend, my boyfriend called her phone. I noticed his contact was saved with his name and a ❤️ next to it. At first, I wanted to make sure it was actually him and not someone else with the same name, so I checked the phone number. That's when I confirmed it was my boyfriend. I went to her house because I wanted answers. At first, she denied everything and kept making excuses. I still hoped I was wrong because I never thought my best friend of 19 years would betray me. She refused to tell me the truth, so I took her phone and checked it myself. That's when I saw their chats. After I confronted her with what I found, she finally admitted that she and my boyfriend had been seeing each other behind my back for the past three months. She also admitted that they had planned all of this because they wanted to get rid of me by making me look like the one who cheated, so my boyfriend could leave the relationship looking innocent. I wish none of this had been true. Losing my boyfriend hurts, but losing my best friend of 19 years hurts even more. She was the person I trusted most, and finding out that they both betrayed me has completely broken me.

Thanks to everyone who offered genuine advice.

I couldn't edit the original post so I am posting this seperately, sorry about that. I was finally convinced that there is no way around and I had to damage the door. Ended up drilling a hole big enough to fit my arm and pushed the thing that way. Thanks for your support guys.

So for context my friend was talking to me about how we shouldn’t eat meat because of how they treat the animals before we receive them. I essentially said that I was going to keep eating meat. They responded with well meat is very high in cholesterol and it’s not healthy for you. I disagreed and said well not all meat is bad for you. I was going to follow up with another point, but they cut me off and called me a mindless follower. Which I felt was very disrespectful, and kind of outrageous. Especially considering that I didn’t even want to have a debate with them. Also you’re going to call me a mindless follower over meat? I just wanted to talk with them about their stance, but immediately they basically went into calling me mindless and a follower. They ended up apologizing, but I still don’t want to forgive them. Not because of the name, but because they were willing to disrespect me at the cost of just believing in their point that much. What should I do?

Quit a remote job 5/18 and began a new in-person job. I still have all of the equipment (monitor, PC, etc).

I have contacted multiple times various points of contact. I am constantly forwarded to other departments and points of contact. Nobody will facilitate me returning this stuff

I'm moving on Saturday. I want this equipment gone. I can't just get rid of it and pawn it off to a thrift store since I don't want to face legal issues. But I'm so sick of this computer sitting there and nobody letting me return it

What do I do? It seems insignificant but it's driving me nuts

My(33F) mom (62) is coming to visit my family and I in a few weeks. I am the one booking her ticket and finalizing all of the plans. My husband and I will be paying for her ticket, checked bags and all. We live about 1 and a half to two hours from Denver airport. We have a closer airport to our home, literally 5 minutes from us- and even though its a tad bit more expensive, it would be so much easier on me as a mother of a toddler to go to the airport closest to us, as my husband works regular business hours.

I sent a ticket to my mother, to see if the time and such worked for her; $400 total round trip give or take. It was leaving the airport that's closest to her home although like us, she has a bigger airport near her where the ticket would be cheaper. No problem for us, though.

I just got off the phone with her, and she pissed me straight the fuck off and I am probably being way too harsh..but, she sent me a different ticket after days of her trying to find someone to watch her dog, and reschedule a doctors appointment. I saw that she put the arriving airport to be the Denver airport. It is also arriving at 4pm, which is better than nighttime, but traffic in Denver at that time is insane- especially around the airport.

I told her that the ticket we sent her made the most sense, in every possible way. She then said she had a bum-knee, which I had never heard of her complain about before; and the ticket we picked out wouldn't work for her as there is a connecting flight and she would have to walk all over the airport to catch her connecting flight. (Which the layover is a little over an hour for, she would have time to walk there with no issue for time) I told her I would set up for an attendant to assist her with a wheelchair if need be, and she said no, that the flight from Chicago was on a "puddle jumper" and those planes make her feel unsafe.

The entire purpose of this trip is for her to see and spend time with our daughter. She is poor, we don't really have it like that but we want our daughter to see and spend time with her grandmother. She has visited a total of 4/5 times, of which each time we paid for her to travel; AND she has pulled this shit and made everything a headache.

Am I overreacting if I just say, "maybe next time" and forget about her coming out here at all? I just feel as if it is just entitlement, and I don't want to give in again and change up our plans AGAIN especially when I don't have to.

ETA- She is a retired flight attendant, lol she is no stranger to air travel. She has been a control freak my entire life, even re-arranging my house and taking over when she visits.

My fiancé (31M) let's call him Tom for this post and I (27F) have been together since 2015 and are hosting our first Thanksgiving together. Neither of us has a traditional family, I grew up in foster care and his family abandoned him after he turned 17, so I thought it would be nice to invite our siblings. I’ve reconnected with five of my siblings, and two or three may accept my invitation. My fiancé recently (between 2020 and 2021) found out that he has a sister (28F) his parents gave up at birth. Let’s call her **Marley**. She lives in Idaho, while we live in Texas. They talk on the phone often but have never met in person.

Unfortunately, Marley and I do not get along.

When my fiancé first suggested that we meet over the phone, I didn’t want to, but I agreed because she is in a way the only family he has outside of me. The conversation went badly. Marley made it very clear I had to go through her to get to Tom (even though if known him way longer than her) and acted very territorial. She also said I must be intimidated by her because I didn’t want to talk to his “only relative.” How she came to that conclusion I don't know. After a conversation between Tom and me, he told Marley somethings i said *accidentally*. She later contacted me about said things and since then, we have disliked each other. We don’t speak during their phone calls, and every now and then I’ll hear her make a slick comment that my fiancé usually doesn’t address but I know it's backhanded and directed at how she thinks he 'deserves better'.

Now, here’s where I may be crazy.

Marley recently told Tom she was coming to Texas to see him but he shut it down very quickly telling her there's nothing for her in texas he'd come to idaho instead. Knowing that our finances are tied up on a wedding, house, and honeymoon and just regular daily bills that isn't likely anytime soon. I thought what if we invite Marley to Texas for Thanksgiving so they can finally meet in person! Tom has made it very clear that he does not want me communicating with Marley or even meeting her anymore. So I’ve been considering reaching out to Marley myself, having an adult conversation, and seeing if we could put our issues aside for my fiancé’s sake.

I would potentially help with her flight, hotel, and transportation and have her stay somewhere close to us. Then, right before Thanksgiving dinner, I could tell my fiancé I have an early Christmas present for him and boon Marley would show up!

I know this would go against my fiancé’s wishes, which is why I’m questioning whether it’s a terrible idea. I feel like the issues between Marley and me should not be more important than my fiancé’s future happiness. I love seeing him happy, and I know seeing his sister in the flesh would make him incredibly happy.

But so many questions pile up in my head about this like...

Should I secretly reach out to Marley and hope everything goes well?

Would I be disrespecting my fiancé by reaching out to her after he specifically told me not to?

Am I completely in over my head?

Should I reach out to her just to have a conversation, without necessarily telling her about the surprise and maybe then he'll be ok with Thanksgiving so it doesn't have to be a suprise?

Am I childish for wanting her there even though we currently hate each other?

Thoughts??

I (27F) been texting with a guy (30M) all day, everyday for about a week.

He seems like a great guy, we have good chemistry- overall- I honestly like him. And it seems like he’s serious too.

We are set up to meet tomorrow- we haven’t done that yet because I was on a vacation.

Everything feels good. Except one problem- 1-2 days ago, he started being more open and talk a lot about sex/sex-related topics.

I wrote him that I feel uncomfortable about this, and he apologised and agreed to stop, but still- I have a bad feeling in my gut that he might not be serious.

What do I do?

*For context, we played a “game” where he wanted me to guess a fetish that he has (he hasn’t told me yet, I just guessed), and he talked a little about his sexual history. When he started asking questions about my sexual history- I told him that I’m uncomfortable with it and he stopped.

I (F 31) was recently let go from my full time job that I had worked for the last 5 years. It was a WFH job. I bartended on the side, just to get around people.

My friend, let’s call her Ashley (33) moved to my town last August. The whole process has involved her relying heavily on me/my social group/my connections for every aspect of life.

For the last year Ashely has worked a part time job from home, and has been talking about getting a restaurant job. I’ve sent her close to 100 job listings- yet she doesn’t do anything with the info, just continues to complain about being broke. She has been for 1 interview, got the job, then just decided not to take it.

After that job fell through she has been talking about wanting to work at a restaurant that was long anticipated to open for the last 6 months. Lots of “oh I’ll just get a job at x when they open!” “X seems like a great fit for me, I’ll just wait for them!” - you get the idea.

The owners of X are regulars at my bartending job, and when they found out I had been laid off, recommended I go in and apply. Well, I got the job on the spot.

Issue is, idk how to tell Ashley. She is someone that takes things VERY personally. For reasons not to be disclosed, this is not a “let her be mad, or cut her out” sitch- our lives are very connected and that will not change.

I know I’m not in the wrong, I have actively been trying to help, and she could have gone in herself to apply (as they have been open for 2 weeks now) but I know this isn’t going to go over well. Thoughts?

This post needs a bit of backstory. To put it briefly, I had broken up with my gf due to multiple reasons, one being the feelings I have for someone else, a coworker. These feelings had always been around after, but came back strong after we had both confessed we had feelings for each other at different points, and that neither of us were particularly happy in our current relationship. She has a bf, and she ended finding out about my breakup. I assured her I would never want to try split her and her bf up and she said she didn’t care about that and she doesn’t see it as a big deal and why it should alter our friendship.

Anyway, recently we have being hanging out a bit outside of work, in a group, but more so just hanging around each other. Her bf doesn’t go to any of these little hangouts. We get along really well, and the dynamic after me leaving my gf isn’t weird. What is weird is an increase in her interest on how I feel about things to do with her. Does her new hair look nice, do I miss her outside of work, etc. I always try and play it off. Regardless if I do miss her or if she does look good, it feels weird telling her that considering she has a bf. on top of that, we have been chatting more through social media and she had asked me for my snap (already talking on insta) and after I made fun of her for being 20 and still using snap, she said “she thought I wouldve wanted it”. We’ve been snapping the last couple days, some with her topless, which even tho I can’t see anything, it still feels weird. She’s also insisted I come along to a mutual friends party, and especially pointed out her bf won’t be there.

I am getting some very weird vibes. I like her and do still have feelings, but ultimately don’t want jeopardise a friendship, and potentially her current relationship. Friends have told me I might just be a source of validation or attention for her, but I feel like that’s not her character to do that.

Regardless, I don’t know what to do, and I feel like I’m going to do something I regret.