The reason I’m writing is because I’m so tired of everyone around me giving me advice like I haven’t already read or tried every single thing they’re suggesting.
I know we’re “only” on cycle 6, and I know that’s not considered a long time medically, but I’m literally surrounded by people who got pregnant on cycle 1. Even my friend with PMOS conceived on her third cycle of trying.
Meanwhile, as far as I know, everything is normal. I’ve had an ultrasound (no hormone testing yet), I ovulate every cycle, I track with LH strips and confirm ovulation with my Oura Ring. My husband and I are both 31. He has never smoked (not did I) or drunk alcohol (I did on occasions, but stopped in March), he plays tennis three times a week, I do pilates and we’re both a healthy weight. We also eat pretty well, mostly home-cooked meals with the occasional takeaway. I used to drink 3 to 4 coffees a day but cut down to one six months ago, and I’ve been taking folic acid for nine months.
Is there anything obvious I’m missing? Or is this genuinely just one of those situations where you have to keep waiting?

I think what hurts the most is that we’re going home to visit our families in a few weeks. We live abroad, so we don’t get to see them often, and I had built up this picture in my head of finally being able to tell them in person that we were pregnant. After seeing another BFN at 12 DPO today, I honestly just want to scream into a pillow.
This cycle has hit me much harder than the others, and I think I just needed to vent to people who might actually understand.

Hi everyone, been TTC for a year & have a history of miscarriage from the past. Travelling for my first egg retrieval in two weeks & as soon as I wrap it up and come back, there's a baby shower for a friend that I have been invited to.

A bit of context: She's had PCOS & struggle with regular periods and conceived without any issues and was explaining how she randomly got pregnant. It came as a bit of a shock, while I was vocal about wanting to be a mom - she always sounded like she had no plans and dreaded the journey. I'm super happy for her, and we've hung out often ever since then as well. She's aware of my fertility issues and knows I'm travelling next month. I'm not sure how the process would go & in case of a negative outcome, I know I'm going to be in no space of mind to attend a baby shower. Does that make me an asshole? You can call a spade, a spade. I'm struggling with my feelings about IVF and my infertility and how every period cycle has been a heartbreak - while I try to act cool about it. I've often wanted to just burst into tears in the middle of my work in the office.

i also don't want to hurt her feelings, because I am going to be back in town just in time for her baby shower - my husband already mentioned how he doesn't want to attend it because it's a lot for him at this moment. We've been given very low chances of the 1st egg retrieval being successful.

Hello! I (30F) and husband (35M) have been trying, albeit off and on, for a year now. I’m normal weight, exercise regularly, but can admit I’m chronically anxious and work a high stress job. I went off birth control about 3 years ago and initially had normal cycles. About 2 years ago they become increasingly irregular, with about every other cycle being between 50-60 days. I blamed a lot of it on evening out after getting off BC, and a back injury at the time. About a year in I went to my OBGYN, did labs, and everything was normal.

We moved last November, where I had 2 regular cycles following, and since then repeated 55 days cycles. I had another back injury (sigh, chronic disc herniations), in early April where I really only gained mobility in early June. I give all this context because it maybe a contributing factor? Unsure.

This is my 4th nearing 55 day cycle in a row. I went to my OBGYN again a few weeks ago where they ordered literally every test under the sun, reg ultrasound, transvaginal as well, and the only issue was my very thin uterine lining (less than 2mm at day 30).

I just ordered the Inito hormone and fertility monitor to help sort some of this out but wondering if anyone has some thoughts or experience similar?? So frustrated that all of a sudden I seem to not be ovulating for no reason.

Here I am stuck in the endless loop of TTC. One year and a month of trying already. Have been googling every single symptom for a week as I'm at 8DPO today and just got a call that another close friend of mine got pregnant RIGHT in the first cycle of trying.

It's not the easiest thing to hear during this phase 🫠. Have you had similar experiences? How do you handle close friends or in-laws getting pregnant?

I know my in-laws will be trying soon and I just feel there's so many possible pregnancies this year. I already have got news from my sister (positive test 2 weeks ago) and 2 close friends (positive tests today and other 1 month ago). They all got pregnant at the first try. I'll be surrounded with pregnancies and babies..

This cycle I'm waiting until 15DPO before taking a pregnancy test and it just feels so hard to wait. At least I haven't done any today so I didn't have the pain of BFN when hearing the news.

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Hi All, this is going to be a long read but I really appreciate any advice from this community which has been helpful since last couple of months.

I have been TTC since May 2025 and had a chemical pregnancy in January 2026. I noticed irregularities in my ovulation being delayed leading to delayed cycles. My fertility clinic has diagnosed me with PCOS although missed the reason as to what is causing that.

Around may 2026 through my own laboratory tests I realized my hs-CRP is high around 6.4mg/l with homa IR index of 5.9 ultimately diagnosing me with being Insulin resistant.

Starting from June 1st, with the specialist nutritionist I started a healthy diet aligning with my cycles to reduce my inflammation, insulin resistance. Since the diet started I lost 4.2kgs weight since I started my diet partially also due to Metformin 1500mg which I have been on since June 15.

Yesterday I got another blood work done and noticed my insulin resistance came down to 2.4 reducing significantly, but surprisingly my inflammation Hs-CRP has further increased to 7.3mg/l (I expected it would slightly reduce due to reduced insulin resistance)

In Oct 2025 I started with levothyroxine 25 µg as my TSH was little above normal (4.49mU/l). In February 2026 this came down further below 1.60mU/l but yesterday test results show my TSH jump to 3.64mU/l essentially doubling and free t3 as of yesterday is 3.13ng/l and free t4 is 1.60ng/l

I am really confused why my thyroid increased despite taking medication and is that the sole reason for my inflammation? Or can it be anything else?

I have noticed I don't have any egg white cervical mucus during my ovulation and sometimes it is none dry unless I dig it with my finger. For sex we cannot proceed further unless we use a lubricant.

I have an appointment with my reproductive endocrinologist in 2 weeks but I'm looking for some experience or answers here to guide me into a right path. I'm gonna bring up the question of silent endometriosis and ask if it's worth checking but otherwise I don't have painful periods or pain while intercourse situation.

One thing is I'm constantly tired and can literally sleep all day. I observed that during night time I feel warm despite the weather being cold whereas during daytime I can sleep with a thick blanket, windows closed but the same thing during night time is impossible. I sometimes even sweat during my sleep.

In my blood tests in February my u.parvum for both myself and my husband it is showing as negative. But when I asked my doctor about he said nothing to worry as majority of couples have this positive.

Any pointers from anyone is highly helpful. I'm take metformin, prenatals, vitamin d, vitamin B12, coq10, NAC

Thank you!

Hello! I need advice. I am new to the game of TTC 38, about to turn 39 in Sept. and I am struggling with tracking my ovulation. I either miss taking my temp or don't test when I am ovulating as frequently as I should. I have no idea if I am ovulating or not because every time I test on those silly strips, nothing shows up. So that in itself is frustrating and makes me more inconsistent. To top it all off, all I am getting is ads for very expensive fertility trackers like Kegg, Inito, and Mira. Of course, the ads are getting to me because they are non-stop, and I am feeling like I need more accurate data on my LH etc. Has anyone here tried any of these? Am I better off just doing the ClearBlue ovulation tests? What helps you track?

That question you've been wanting to ask, but just didn't want to feel silly. Now's your chance! No question is too big or too small.

I feel like many people think infertility is rarely discussed and people tend to keep it for themselfves because they are ashamed or don't want others to talk obut them. For context, i live in eastern Europe so this may not be entirely true where you are from. For me it was my husband who didn't want me to tell anyone at the beginning, but two years down the road he gave up and allowed me to tell whomever i want to if I think that would help me feel better. So I told it to few close friends and my mother. At first I had intention to tell it to more people. I was kinda even excited to share my story and to contribute not making it a tabu. I am very introverted but reading about infertility made me try to open myself to others so i don't carry this burden inside and share it and maybe hear other people stories in order to feel better. Well... I was wrong.

The first person I told of course had this great idea that we should just relax and get drunk. Wow thank you for solving world's infertility problem. All doctors and scientists, step aside, she has solved it. We just needed to get drunk! Although i hated that comment I didn't react and we continued with another topic. I knew she didn't mean anything bad.

The second person I told is very religious and has a baby girl. What she told me still makes me cry when I think of it. She told me that maybe God thinks me and my husband still haven't built our relationship enough so maybe God doesn't want to give us baby right now but wants us to have a great relationship with each other first. Million thoughts in my mind. At that point me and my husband were married for three years, previous to marriage we have been together for seven years. I know the time doesn't have to mean anything but to me it sounded like 'oh we are a better couple so God gave us a child'. However, that was not the first thing that popped into my mind. First thing was my sister who's wedding has been on and off for months. They've broken up two months before the wedding then gotten back together but the wedding was not sure up till the last day. It was a really hard period for my sister because she was sure she wanted to get married but he wasn't. Even on the wedding day her now husband wanted to leave but she convinced him that it is just his personality of being indecisive and he stayed. Anyway, she got pregnant the month after the wedding. Guess God thought they have bulit their relationship better than me and my husband.

The other two people I told, a friend that had a misscarriage (although had gotten pregnant fast) and my mother didn't say anything to hurt me. However, they seem to try to find solutions and that really annoys me. My mother immediately started asking about tests we have done. 'Did you do this, did you go there' etc. and next time we saw again... 'What did you do about that' like...mom its not a problem that anything can be done about in a matter of days. It's month by month. That friend also suggested were we should go, what to do. Like I get it they don't mean anything bad and are just trying for help but that's not why I told them. I don't need them to solve my infertility, I have more than one doctor dealing with that. I just need someone as a friend and a shoulder to cry on.

Anyway, I know it's hard for someone who didn't go through it to get it. And I try to understand it but unfortunately I won't admit our problem to anyone else because all I get is more hurt and feeling worse. So that is the reason I don't want to talk anymore about it. It's either some bad comments or trying to be my doctor and solve my problem with 0 knowledge and experience.

Sorry for the long post, but obviously I can't vent to any of my friends so thank you for being here.

I just had my HsG yesterday. I have a lot of medical trauma (cancer survivor) and I cried before and after a lot. She couldnt visualize one of my tubes and is concerned I have scarring from a dislodged IUD years ago. The thought of going through another similar procedure to visualize the inside of my uterus, potential surgery to remove scar tissue, and then doing treatments at 39 feels overwhelming and scary. My husband is so loving and so supportive and says we will have a beautiful life whether we have a baby or not. Part of me longs to have a family, and the other part is like "we could buy a house, focus on hobbies, travel the world, help our nieces and nephews with college...IF we dont have the financial responsibility of a child." We both grew up poor and very recently reached financial wellness. Has anyone decided for their own mental and financial well being to stop trying when it got difficult?

These positive HSG experience posts helped me so much when spiraling prior to my scheduled HSG and now that I’m on the other side of it, I wanted to share my experience as well. **This is in no way trying to invalidate the pain that I know so many have from this procedure but just to be a glimpse of positivity for anyone in the Reddit black hole before their appointment.**

I had my HSG today and my experience was extremely positive. Here was a walkthrough of my appointment:

•Met the X-Ray tech who instructed me to remove clothing waist down and put on a gown (I kept my socks on and would recommend some cozy socks)
•I got up on the imaging bed and I didn’t even have stirrups but it ended up fine.
•Doctor inserted the speculum which was probably the most uncomfortable part for me but it’s no different than a Pap smear. It wasn’t painful but just uncomfy for about 10-15 seconds as she got it situated.
•Doctor cleaned off the cervix and inserted the catheter and I felt no pain whatsoever. Not even a pinch. She took the speculum out at this point so it would be more comfortable
•She then said I may feel cramps as she released the dye but again I felt nothing whatsoever. I didn’t have to rotate my hips or move at all. This part was done within 20-30 seconds as well.
•They took everything out and showed me the xray right then. Explained the results and that was that.
•They gave me a pad and some wipes to clean up after before changing and I didn’t have too much leaking out.

I’m pretty sure the whole procedure once I got on the bed was maybe a minute long. I had my stress ball that my husband gave me since he couldn’t be in the room and that honestly helped. I also took 600mg of ibuprofen an hour before. I feel like I kept anticipating pain but it never came. My tubes were both open so that is most likely the reason of no pain. I know there’s no way to know before going in and that’s why I personally was spiraling because you don’t know which experience you’ll get but I wanted to share one more positive experience for anyone who will be having it done. I was nervous about this for months because I knew it was a potential and I’m so grateful for the outcome.

If you’re reading this and have your appointment soon - I’m sending all the positive vibes your way!

A year into TTC, my husband (35) and I (33) went to a fertility clinic. It was an immensely frustrating year that started out so hopeful, giddy and excited. After six or so months passed things felt a little bleak. By the year mark, we had already completed some preliminary fertility testing (SA, HSG, day 3 bloodwork) and were ready see a specialist.

On the first visit, the doctor found a uterine polyp on the transvaginal ultrasound. I scheduled a removal within two weeks after that appointment. In a way I felt relieved that something was physically wrong with my uterus and could be corrected with surgery!

I was a little nervous to go under general anesthesia, but the nurses were very warm and comforting. I was in the surgery center at 8am, and out by 11am. Took a bunch of naps and watched TV and was able to work the next day. I had to abstain from exercise and sex for 7-10 days, which did force me to rest and recover.

Starting "trying" again this past cycle - felt a little thrilling that trying that this time it might actually work!

I had the follow-up surgery one month after surgery and doctor confirmed I had ovulated and noted that uterine lining looked good. My husband and I are going to try without interventions for 4-5 months before starting IUI. She didn't push us on IUI or IVF immediately. I'm definitely anxious about the waiting game again but want to think of it as a restart.

I know everyone's experience varies, but I wanted to share my experience with others, especially if you're heading into 1 year and you're nervous about what they may find on an ultrasound.