So we will try from September. I take Shreddy superwoman. Do I need to add anything else ( I have been pregnant before but want to be healthy as I will be busy with toddlers and work.

My husband is taking a male multivitamin.

Anything else?

hi, I have decided to start trying to conceive. I started taking a prenatal and my previous regular period is now a week late. I have taken a pregnancy test which is negative (I assumed it would be anyways since spouse was traveling for work a few weeks that month so no sex anywhere near ovulation). the only change is starting the prenatal this month.

I previously experienced RED-S but have had regular periods this entire year and my doctor said I am ovulating again and could start trying.

I know it can take a while to get pregnant, but after losing my period for a while before, I am so nervous that I will not be able to get pregnant.

I still exercise, but have been consistently putting on weight and lowered my exercise load.

Could it be the prenatal or possibly just the stress of it all?

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We are currently waiting to try until December/January.. mostly based on a Europe trip and wanting to try to line up due date month with my husbands off season. With all of this in mind, I still feel like I am going crazyyyyy waiting that long. I know its the smart thing to do to wait but I am so wanting to start trying now!

IUD was pulled in May to regulate my cycle beforehand and I already have been on prenatals in case of an oopsie. My husband and I plan to start doing some Trimester zero health things starting in Sept but mannnn this is hard!

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okay so for a bit of context my partner has two children from a previous relationship, so it’s nothing on him. this is solely about me. i was diagnosed with PCOS at 13 and told i would already have a higher chance of infertility due to that and my weight. i want to have a child soon, it’s a need due to my own family issues, and i am just terrified of being infertile. basically, if i can’t have a kid my whole family dies out i’m the only one left able to keep the generation going. now currently i am on nexplanon, but me and my partner have never had protected sex. perhaps i’m overthinking and the nexplanon truly is that much of a god-send, but you’d think there’d be some sort of hiccup in the 3 years. i also have never had a regular period or cleaning of the lining, and i worry that can also affect things. i only have a period about once or twice every year. this is NOT due to the nexplanon but has been my “regular” period ever since it began. it’s never been normal.

i guess what im just trying to say is does anyone else feel this way? is there a way to calm my fears? make sure i can become pregnant? we want to start trying around Sept. 2027.

My husband and I (me 26, he just turned 29 a few days ago), are seriously considering starting to try for a baby. For a while we’ve said that late next summer is when we’d potentially start trying, but in the past few weeks we’ve been talking about it a lot more and saying we feel like we’re mentally ready but we both still have some inhibitions. We’ve been together for 11+ years now- high school, college, grad school x2, a two week trip to Cancun, etc. We’ve had a lot of time together just us. We just moved into a rental house yesterday that absolutely has room for kids.

The main hang up: finances, of course. I have a pretty stable/secure job in a school (about 60k/yr with good benefits) (which is why we say trying to conceive in like August, because then we’d have a may baby and I’d get the whole summer with them). My husband though has had a hell of a time finding good work. His masters is in a very niche field, but he has experience in that as well as broader events/communication type jobs. He’s been dragged through so many months-long, several stage interviews just to be turned down over the past few years. He does currently work in his field, but he works for a small nonprofit who can only pay him about 22/hr and no benefits. We’ve been saying we will ‘just wait until he has a good job’ but honestly I don’t feel like waiting much more. We’ve both gotten cars in the last few years and we got mine paid off in just over 2 years. He has basically no student debt, but I have a lot from my masters but that’s not really a hang up for me.

Moms, Was there ever a moment where you just said “yeah. That’s it. I’m ready?” Him and I had talked about traveling more next summer but honestly the thought doesn’t spark as much interest as a baby would. When we’ve been talking about it recently we both get genuinely giggly and giddy about it. I also feel like his family will be absolutely head over heels and more than willing to financially help if needed- they are both retired and remarried, older (mid-late sixties), and this is their literal only chance for a grandchild as none of the other kids or stepkids on either side have had children (and won’t, they’re all older). I want my baby to know and remember their grandparents. I don’t know. The anxiety about the lack of a higher-paying job with benefits definitely is putting a damper on things. We’ve been hopping back and forth a lot the last few weeks. We’ve decided that if we do this, I’ll take out my ring at the beginning of August to hopefully conceive by mid-late August, but we’ll only really try for one cycle, and after (if we’re certain it didn’t stick) I’d just go back on birth control until next year. Were both fairly healthy (rarely ever drink, neither smoke, only edibles like once every few months and even then barely). I’m taking prenatals already. I just get so anxious thinking about it, but also excited.

Sorry for the mega post, but if anyone has any input, advice, etc, please feel free to comment 💙

At my annual exam this morning, I made an appointment for my IUD removal + a preconception visit. It’s still 10 months away, but somehow adding a date to it suddenly makes everything feel more real! Prior to now it was just a vague, “we’re planning to try next year.” Now the real wait begins…

hi - not sure if im looking for advice or just want to vent to someone other than my husband. were both 30 and have been married for almost two months. i've had an iud for the last few years and ultimately i decided that i want to have it removed early next year so we can start trying to conceive in the spring.

a lot of our friend group already has kids and one couple gave birth to a medically complex child in the last few weeks. their child's specific condition is more likely to occur with advanced maternal age and its making me rethink my timeline. i know waiting a year doesnt seem like a huge deal in the grand scheme of things but i also know waiting doesnt really help our situation. ultimately, i worry that moving up our timeline out of fear is just not the right mental space to try to conceive but its hard to ignore that there is so many more risks if we wait longer.

our reasons for waiting until next year are mostly selfish anyways, i signed up for a marathon in march and we loosely planned a trip abroad in may so it feels dumb to wait to start trying for these reasons alone. my husband wants us to purchase a home before we start trying but we both agree that its not a necessity for us to start trying.

all of this is to say, we're in a good spot financially to support a child (assuming they're not medically complex, which i know is never a guarantee) and i feel like we're both on the same page about how we want to navigate this but i just don't know if we really should consider moving up our timeline. ultimately, i wouldn't even be considering it if our friends weren't in the situation that they're currently in.

I booked a trip to Japan immediately following a miscarriage of my first pregnancy. It was a very rational yet very expensive decision but overall we are within our means and I gotta do it.

This means not TTC for 2 cycles. I TTC right after the miscarriage and nope no dice. AF returned a month after miscarriage.

Please tell me it’s ok to wait. I don’t want to deal with the consequences of being pregnant in another country or worse miscarry on vacation. On the other hand am I going to feel bad if I don’t try for 2 cycles?

Also should I try and conceive in Japan - like try but not try. Lol.

So I just got told I either have endometriosis or adenomyosis and either way that might affect my fertility. People keep saying to just stop waiting to try and have kids now but that wouldn’t be financially stable and we’d have to move to make space for a baby. I don’t mind the concept of maybe not being able to have children but seeing all my nieces and nephews coming to be has given me a little bit of baby fever. While the whole “might eventually become infertile” talk has been going on I’ve also been thinking about kittens or isopods to raise, because I have plenty of nieces and a nephew coming along.

Should I just settle for being the weird aunt? Should I TTC with my husband while I still have a chance of less complications? Should I keep waiting for a more stable time?

Idk. I’m tired of people trying to tell me what I’m doing is wrong or selfish.

Has anyone experienced the 'mirena crash'? I got mine taken out on the 2/07, ovulated a week later and had sex (we are TTC). I had some spotting around 14/15th and expected my period this weekend but nothing.

However I have been having mood swings and I have never felt this exhausted in my entire life. I have also been having random hot flushes, nausea, bloating etc.

I did do a pregnancy test a day before my period was due and it was negative. So I think my symptoms are down to the mirena crash. Has anyone else had this? If so how long did it last? I just want to feel normal again.

I will be 34 next month and my husband 33. We have been married for 5 years and together for 13. We have known for a while that we have wanted to start a family and are excited for that chapter but we knew we wanted to wait until we were in our 30s and in the right place. The last few years have been a struggle for us financially as I was finishing up my degree and my husband was also trying to establish his career as well. Things have been slightly better the last year because I finished my degree and started working full time and my husband got a new job in the hospital with slightly better pay and room for growth in the future but we still both make a very modest living and don’t have a lot of extra money. We are hoping to pay down some debts and get some money in savings in the next year. I was really hoping to TTC this fall but we have international travel plans next month and then are planning on moving back to our home state in October or November (hopefully October). The move is a really important part of our TTC journey because we would be closer to our family, have better career opportunities and also live somewhere where we will feel happiest. The state we currently live in has a lot less job opportunities for us, lower pay and no other family member in our state so we wouldn’t have any support or sense of community. Although I wanted to start TTC this fall, I know it’s better to wait until after we have already moved and gotten established at our jobs and been there long enough to get benefits and maternity leave. So we likely won’t begin trying until next year. Just this week, our close friends who just got married last month told us that they are pregnant. While I’m super excited for them, I also couldn’t help but feel a little sad for myself and have fomo. I had hoped that we would be pregnant/having babies around the same time. Also, they just got married and have it makes me sad that my husband and I have been together so long yet our journey to parenthood feels so far away. Motherhood is something I deeply want and as I get older I can’t help but get anxiety about it because I truly don’t know if it will happen right away or if it will take a while. I hope that we can be ready to start trying by December or early next year but our timeline has already been pushed back I started loosing hope, especially when everyone around me is announcing their pregnancies. If you were in my shoes, what would you do?

I (28F) am going through a rough patch with my husband (29M) about when to have kids. I’m not in a mega rush, but I have known fertility issues which is making things feel more urgent for me, and our friends are all married and most are starting to have children, and I want to as well.

We got into an argument about timing of having kids because he says he doesn’t “feel” ready. I asked what he meant or what goals he had in mind before having kids, and he said it’s just a feeling. He suggested we not talk about it for at least a year and then we can revisit and he can tell me if the “feeling” has changed.

I am not sure what to do about this. I want both of us to be ready, but I also don’t want to waste my time if the “feeling” doesn’t change. When I pushed for a timeline he suggested “maybe 2 years”. For our entire 8 year relationship we’ve both talked about wanting to have kids, but maybe the leap from concept to reality is hitting him and he’s shutting down. I feel this is unfair to me but I also know I can’t force him. I’m just looking for support, I’m just devastated by this

Had testing done a few months ago and my varicella came back as non-immune (.2 when it should’ve been 1.0 or more) and the rubella part of MMR came back around .8 when it should be 1.0. The mumps and measles are very well over the immune threshold.

The doctor recommended getting a booster. I’ve had the full series as a child/early teen. I’ve been a bit apprehensive to get them since I need two and am afraid of side effects given that the MM part of MMR are so high already. I think I am just nervous because I need two and haven’t really been told if it’s better to get them both together or separately. Not sure if anyone had a similar experience where they needed two live vaccines and whether they got any side effects and whether they took them together or not. Additionally, two doctors told me to wait a month before trying, but other countries recommendations I’ve seen are 3, 6 or more, so that makes me nervous as well. Any insight of what others did would be super appreciated.

Hi! We’ve been going back and forth on this pretty heavily for a little bit and just looking for some different perspectives.

My husband and I are both 28, and have been married for 4 years. He has a very stable job as an attorney making $85k per year (he works for the Gov).

I have an extremely unstable but higher income job making $115k that I started last year. My career is not friendly to pregnant or working moms and because of that I’ve delayed even discussing starting a family.

For the first few years of our marriage, this was necessary, because we were pretty reckless and immature financially. Bought 2 cars, furnished a house, went on a ridiculous number of vacations, going to bars, etc.

We live in a very low COL area now and have been hyper focused on paying down debts this year. By the end of the year we will have $0 consumer debt (just paying off my car now) and we have $30k in a HYSA for emergencies. We don’t own a home yet but pay very low rent.

Now to the family planning part….. we’ve always discussed waiting until our mid 30’s and building up our finances as much as possible until then. After spending this year focused more on saving and seriously minimizing materialistic distractions, I’ve realized we will have the ability to get our monthly expenses below my husband’s salary in the next 6-9 months. My salary can be used entirely for savings and investments, and I don’t even need a job for us to get by. I am now weighing the opportunity cost of saving and investing my income for the next few years, or starting our family early and just accepting the savings potential will be less.

In this situation, knowing we want to start a family in the next 5 or so years, is it worth waiting until we buy a house and build up the savings even more, or would you just go ahead and start?

I (F 30) have worked part time at my job for about 3 years now. My husband and I have been going thru infertility for 5 years and need to sell our house in order to have a chance at having a baby. We are going to move into a small bungalow at my MILs house next month after closing on our house sale.

I’m really struggling with whether or not to stay at my current job. It’s the only job I’ve held for this long and I’m pretty good at it, but I don’t necessarily enjoy it… my “boss” of my dept is great but super anal retentive and has control issues so I’m worried about her response if I were to quit. I’m the main employee in my dept and have the most responsibility and she’s made it clear over the years that she never wants me to leave. I currently live 12 mins from work but next month when we move out, it would be a 2 hour round trip commute. And I only make 16 an hour so I feel like it isn’t even worth it. I was originally thinking maybe I’d just do it, but there’s so many factors that play into it and now I’m unsure….

I had a spinal fusion a year and a half ago so partially Im worried about my back and how it would handle the commute. I also have frequent panic attacks and that makes me anxious knowing I’d be that far from home.. I just turned 30 and am painfully aware of the time constraints to have a baby. Our cat just got run over 2 weeks ago and we had to put him down. Over the weekend, my car crapped out so I’ve been borrowing a truck from my MIL..

I just feel a mental overload and I know im being dramatic but I’m anxious about if I should stay and commute or find another job entirely and if I were to quit, how I would explain it to my boss….. is it worth it to stay at my current job? help a girl out pls

I see so much emphasis on prioritising sleep but some nights I can literally not get more than 5 hours no matter how hard I try. Especially around my cycle. Whats your average?

I am a newly unemployed teacher, thanks to a cross-country move for my partner’s job. My partner and I both have a myriad of mental health issues that we are both working on.

The transition to our new area has been hard. We live near a park and a library, and I feel like I can’t go anywhere without my ovaries absolutely screaming at me.

He’s not ready, and he is fine with waiting. We are both 30. I KNOW I’m not ready. But my heart shatters every time I see a child anyways. I’m working on getting a new counselor, and potentially adjusting my meds. I know that will help.

But until then, how do I survive this?

We’re about 14 months out from TTC now, and I’m going crazy. I’m grasping for things to help me feel in control of the situation at all, I’ve slowly started switching out our toxic household products, fragrances, whatnot.

Talk supplements, lifestyle changes, dad-specific things, etc.

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That might sound dumb so let me try and explain. I’ve always wanted children, and for a long time now it’s been important to me to start trying for them when I’m 30 (for several reasons), and at 29 my husband and I are planning to start trying next year. however, if age wasn’t a concern in terms of fertility and other reasons for me, then I would prefer to wait another 3-5 years.

Its an odd feeling because I do feel ready now, we have the house, the plan, the decent jobs and I dream of the babies I’ll have, but I’m also scared and wish I had more time; I wasted a lot of my 20s when I should have been treating my body more kindly and just doing better, prioritizing experiences with my husband, etc. we’ve even been together for almost 12 years, but i still sometimes wish we had more time… not reasonable I don’t think.

Does anyone else feel similarly?

I have been taking Nature made’s prenatal vitamins. I just realized that it also may be the reason I am having the worst cystic acne I have ever had in my life. I’m breaking out so bad on neck with big painful cystic acne that i’ve never had before. I haven’t really changed my skin care. After doing some research, it seems like Vit B12 & biotin can cause this and there’s a lot of it in prenatals. My husband and I are not actively trying to conceive right now, but hope to start trying at the end of year/beginning of next year so my OBGYN told me to start a prenatal.

After doing some research it seems like my best options are either Olly gummies (no biotin and 3.5mcg of B12) or Up&Up (target brand) prenatal tablets (no biotin but has 8mcg of B12). I know that up&up has 8mcg of B12, but I do like that it’s inexpensive. Any thoughts on which one I should go with? Also should i drop my current pre natal vitamin to see if my skin improves?

My husband (31M) and I (26F) are thinking about trying for a baby, but the closer we get to it actually happening, I kind of start to freak myself out. Sometimes I feel really excited at the idea of kids, but when I think about it more practically, it scares me. Kids are a lot of freaking work and sacrifice. I just want to hear what everyone’s reasons for wanting kids are. Thank you!

I have been taking Nature made’s prenatal vitamins since May. I just realized that it also may be the reason I am having the worst cystic acne I have ever had in my life. I’m breaking out so bad on neck with big painful cystic acne that i’ve never had before. I haven’t really changed my skin care. After doing some research, it seems like Vit B12 & biotin can cause this and there’s a lot of it in prenatals. My husband and I are not actively trying to conceive right now, but hope to start trying at the end of year/beginning of next year so my OBGYN told me to start a prenatal vitamin.

After doing some research it seems like my best options are either Olly gummies (no biotin and 3.5mcg of B12) or Up&Up (target brand) prenatal tablets (no biotin but has 8mcg of B12). I know that up&up has 8mcg of B12, but I do like that it’s inexpensive. I am not deficient in Vitamin B. Any thoughts on which one I should go with? Also should i drop my current pre natal vitamin to see if my skin improves?