I went to a shopping mall wearing a VERY feminine outfit. Lavender floral dress with puffy sleeves (I LOVE those sleeves), feminine hat, glasses, heeled boots, the works really. Even though I live in an area that is considered quite queer-friendly, I expected to get looks. I’m not on HRT, but other than barely visible chin hair and no more mustache hair than a cis woman would have, and I think I pass pretty well. I surprisingly didn’t get any strange looks, though. Anyone who paid any mind to me smiled, other than a few people. A store I’m at a decent amount of time every few months has a really nice employee who complimented my lavender-covered outfit. The topping on the cake, though: a guy who runs one of those hair stands in the hall of the shopping mall said “excuse me, ma’am“ and asked me if I wanted my hair done. ”Ma’am”! He called me ma’am!!! I felt so good.

Edit: So many of you have congratulated me and been so nice! Thank all of you!

so for clarity, I'm an Australian, in my country there is this group called "the lesbian action group" or some shit like that. they have been for years now trying to receive an exemption from an anti-discrimination act so they can exclude trans women, and it's like, the worst part is, they're not even like 'oh trans women are men'
they're just like "oh we just want a space for Afab lesbians" its like...guh? huh? wuh? but we're women too? I'd honestly just rather them be openly transphobic lol. they bring up points like 'oh some of our founders we're trans' yeah whats your point? that doesn't reflect at all on what you're doing lol.

The video of the trans girl in Florida being tased and arrested because she had a mental health crisis and she demanded her pronouns to be respected has me feeling really bad, mostly because it is being used just for entertainment and to demean an entire group of people, and because she could have easily been me. I am autistic and prone to meltdowns when dealing with stressful situations, and honestly I don't know why people use this to make fun of us. Why do people think we deserve no dignity or respect? Why do we only exist to be used as transphobic comedy punchlines? Why don't people want to have a bit of empathy and compassion with us? I really want to cry because of this. I really feel bad for her.

I really hate society. I just want to live in a virtual world or with androids that don't judge us...

https://www.erininthemorning.com/p/landmark-official-dutch-review-recommends

The Health Council of the Netherlands has universally endorsed gender-affirming care for trans youth and called for the expansion of access to said care, deeming reducing waiting times "morally urgent". The Council also summarily dismissed as thoroughly irrelevant the heavily manipulated Cass Review.

2nd gp refusing HRT for me IM POST OP, I havent got the money to diy i ran out of HRT 3 weeks ago they have been refusing me for over 2 months now and I move to a new gp they refuse me again.

I know osteoporosis is a risk but the GIC wont prescribe it to me and wont help me get my gp to prescribe me, the GPs wont prescribe me do they just want me to die

Until my egg cracked, I identified as a hetero cis male. When it cracked, I identified as a trans-female lesbian. 7 months into HRT, and I'm starting to notice men. Not simply in appreciating someone's look. It's going to be a fun wrinkle to explore, for sure.

So obviously as the title says ppl used to say "My bad dude i thought you where a girl" or some other version or that at times and now they dont. At some point it stopped and even tho I have been medicly transitioning for about a year and some change with varying methods. I dont pass yet nor do I try to present particularly feminine in public. But now I just get "dude" or a very clear absence or a gendered paired with a slight shocked/surprised face.

To be clear on how I present publicly I cant wear sports bras anymore as they dont do the job of hiding my boba and I wear a binder everyday at im out or at work. No makeup.

Went to a panda the other day I usally frequent but this was the first time i went during the lunch rush. Thought I boy moded hard enough. But as soon as I walk in all I felt was stares. Right before I order the server finishes saying "no problem sir" to the guy in front of me, then when it's my turn he gets a surprised look on his faces and says with a startled tone "huh, how can I help you?" If i walked in front of a man's vision it was a 50% chance he would stare at me so hard I would see their heads turn out of my peripheral vision. It was a full house since there was construction happening on the major road in front of the building. Not a great time.

Then today I pick up culvers because I'm feeling down and wanted some ice-cream and when the guy come up to my car to give me my food he was super chill said "here you go man." As I grab my food and say thank you he looks down at my legs and I see head physically jerk back for a sec.

Im both scenarios Im wearing skinny jeans that have some give(not skin tight). The only pair I own. At panda I had on a t-shirt that used looks a bit big on me now (binder underneath). At culvers I had the trusted black throwover hoodie.

I miss being missgendered correctly. Now I just shock ppl. I would like to skip this part or go back, this shit sucks. Im just curious if this is a normal part of the journey and just looking for a place to rant about this i guess as I cant get my mind of it because it keeps happening.

I would post a Pic of my fit but im to new in this sub to do that I guess as this is my first post here.

To begin, I am a 15 year old transgender girl. Because of this, I’ve become like an anomaly of sorts to the guys at my school. To them, I’m not a girl nor a guy. It seems like I’m simply a body to them.

I don’t wear super revealing clothes at school. Almost every day I wear a pair of high waisted jeans and a shirt tied around my waist so I don’t look like a rectangle. Even though my clothes aren’t that risqué, guys treat me like I’m some kind of like toy to call names or attempt to use. I’ve heard guys talk about my body while behind me in the hallways, yelling stuff about my butt when I stand up to ask to go to the restroom, and because I have to use the male restroom I’ve literally had guys try to get me to get in the stalls with them. I’m so sick of being seen as this whore by guys, something to use and not take seriously (mind you Im a virgin). I’m only a freshman transitioning into a sophomore in high school and yet I have more stories of me being over sexualized than I have fingers and toes. Not only am I treated as a sexual anomaly, I’m treated as a social anomaly, especially when I need to use the restroom. I’ve been recorded, screamed at, and called to the principals office for using the male restroom even though Florida law requires me to do so.

What’s even worse is that I’m Catholic (please don’t try to discuss theology with me about transgenderism, I don’t really want to hear it). I want to be seen as the sweet Catholic girl who prays the rosary at lunch, but I’m not. I literally can’t display myself in any manner but a transgender f-word toy because people see me in only that way.

I didn’t really expect to be posting this, but a recent event literally made me sob my eyes out and I wanted to get my story out there. My friend was at a yesterday and there was this guy there. Everyone was talking and eventually I was brought up. He called me the “prettiest t-slur around” and that he would “crack me if given the chance.” My stomach was in a knot when she told me about that. I literally had nothing to do with this hangout and my name was still brought up and perverted. I just wanna be seen as a normal girl.

So I have my "trans reddit" account and my "everything else" account, where this one is only in queer spaces (mostly trans and lesbian spaces). I see soooo many pics of trans women on this account from things like trans timelines, trans passing, trans positive, etc, and felt like a lot of the features I was seeing in myself were clocky because they were familiar in these spaces.

Recently I subbed to r/makeupaddiction, which seems to be a sub that mostly cis women post on. And as it's been mixed up in my feed, I've realized that I've been incorrectly "clocking" cis women from that sub thinking it was a trans sub, only to realize "no wait this is a cis woman". It's made me realize that a lot of us pass a lot better than we think we do, and a lot of the clocky features we see are just normal human variance. Like I've always ***known*** that, but I think it took that sub being mixed in with trans subs for my emotions to actually accept it as true.

Anyway just food for thought, if y'all are mostly looking at trans women you should sub to some less trans leaning subs as well. Might help with your brainworms, like it has mine.

I’m only a few months on hormones but when I jump up and down I can feel my boobs move independently to my chest and it feels weird but good!

Had my first injection yesterday morning after waiting years. I’ve wanted to transition since I was like 12 and 6 years later I finally can. Nothing crazy or sad here just wanna share. I’ll post updates or something here I suppose. :)

Hello,

what was your most underated/surpising purchase/appointemnt that helped you through your transition?

Im not talking abour DIY HRT or Laser Hair Removal, im talking about very niche things that most people dont have on their radar

For me it is using AI to deal with my depression and general information about transitioning until I got the first appointments with my therapist

Imm sooooo excited for the responses!!

Hey girls, hey everyone.

I'm kinda lost right now, so sorry for venting here again.

Basically, I've been about two weeks clean from any sissy/trans/feminization porn or anything like that. I stopped because I wanted to figure out if I'm actually MTF (a trans woman), or if all of this was just something that porn put into my head.

The problem is... I can't stop thinking about it.

I keep thinking about being a woman. Sometimes I think about everyday life as a woman, and yeah, I also think about sex as a woman. And I'm just like, "What the fuck do I do?"

I saw a post here talking about "Do I want to be her, or do I want her?" and that hit me pretty hard. I've been asking myself that for a long time, and honestly, a lot of the time it feels like I want to be her.

It's really confusing, and these thoughts just won't leave my head.

A little over a week ago I tried wearing some women's clothes. Nothing super feminine, mostly neutral stuff since I have a pretty masculine body. I'm 23. I also shaved all my body hair from the neck down, and... I actually liked it. To be fair, I've done that before, so it wasn't completely new, but it still felt good.

I'm just scared of making a huge decision in my life if all of this is actually just because of porn. I want to know who the real me is, and right now I honestly don't know.

If anyone has been through something similar, I'd really appreciate hearing your story. There are so many trans girls here, and maybe some of you have felt this way before.

Thanks for reading. ❤️

So I’ve been told to create a “baddie playlist” to listen to while I’m out to increase my mood and confidence.

However, I don’t actually listen to a lot of music, so I have like 6 songs lol

I try searching for trans playlists but most of them are based around the negative emotions (I swear to god if I see “teen idle” one more time on a trans playlist)

So yeah, looking for song and playlist recommendations :3

So I got out of the shower and put my towel on like usual and went to get my work clothes out of the dryer and I noticed when I was walking my thighs... were rubbing against each other??? I had to pause for a second, I stopped and started walking again and omg I wasn't imagining it... they've never done that before! ;; I was squealing so loud! I've noticed my physical changes have been sorta increasing lately; I just passed 4 months on HRT this past Sunday and I'm for sure getting breasts now and my medium sized work jacket is getting comically big on me, my hands barely come out of my sleeves. I used to struggle to lift the 45 pound weights in the gym but now I straight up almost drop them when I try to take them off the bar. I'm so dainty and I love itttttt! ;; I hope this is all a sign that my estrogen levels are getting up there and overtaking the testosterone in my body because I'm soooo ready!

Hi, just simple as the title. I’m 19 and have been in the process of transitioning for the past 4-5 months since my egg was broken. Being fem presenting has made my life inordinately better. In my head though I still refer to myself as a guy, using he/him & keep thinking “I wish I could be a woman”. It just really hurts because every time I realize I’m doing it, it’s like a kick in the teeth reminder. How do you finally stop thinking of yourself/referring to yourself as a man?

Had a stranger at the store this morning say "Excuse me lady." It's the first time something like this has happened to me since I started HRT(7/21/2025). It really caught me off guard since I was wearing work boots, jeans and my work shirt. I'm still not out at work so I figured I would come here to share this. Such a wonderful and simple moment.

I just tried shaving with those epilators that remove the hair by the root, and BY GOD THEY HURT SO MUCH 😭😭😭

I managed to do maybe a few inches of my thigh before deciding it was too much pain, and then switched to a regular electric razor blade that left the little black stubbles, which sucks but didn’t hurt.

And even if I somehow managed to use the one that rips out the roots, hair would still come back, just slower, but it would still come back!!!

Is laser really the only way to permanently get rid of it?

Growing up transfem it took me decades to settle into my butch identity.

I thought if I didn't feel like a cis man then all masculinity had to be off the table and I felt so disconnected from my fellow transfeminine community because the "femme" in the interchangeably used "transfemme" never felt like me.

It took meeting other butches both transfem, transmasc, cis or nonbinary, agender or something beyond these labels for me to GET IT.

I was never a man, just a baby butch seeking something beyond societally normative manhood.

I'm 6 years on estrogen and I like to say that its not feminizing: every inch of "passing" I earn I trade in for more gender euphoria by being bigger, more butch and more masculine.
And no, I don't "pass" for a cis woman but that was never the goal.

I want to be big and broad and hairy. I want to be masculine and rough and tumble. And soft and weak at once. I want to be shaped like ancient Venus effigies but rugged at the same time.

Cis female butches are mistaken for men all the time, its part of the experience and it truly doesn't matter what your assigned gender at birth was.

With other butches I've found community, comfort and belonging and now I don't feel so divorced from my transfeminine roots because I understand who I am.

This isn't intended to be evangelical, I love my transfemme sisters and I love every single one of you that finds comfort and belonging in feminity but some of us transfems were never meant for that.

Before I started transitioning, cis women were much more willing to understand my perspective and we could come to an agreement where everyone is satisfied at least most of the time. Sometimes it was a me issue, sometimes them, sometimes neither - someone got jealous and tried setting us up.

Now that I’ve been transitioning for awhile, few cis women are willing to have hard conversations, and most of them who are blatantly lie and show contempt for me. I’ve been calm and gentle my whole life but I’m not feeling like that’s helping me, especially during a dangerous time in my life. Most of my trusted women family members started using triggers against me anytime I bring something up no matter who or what it is. Of course this is not all women but I am not running into healthy cis women friendships now that I’ve been transitioning. Other trans people have been healthy with me.

After a few test strips, I’ve learned that I won’t get walked over at all if I’m a mean girl. But I don’t want to be a bitch. I want to have the relationships I’ve had pre-transition where we can actually see each other as human.

So, if you managed to stop getting walked over while maintained a kind and loving demeanor, how did you do it?

Besides the dysphoria of being off hormones for over a month now because Planned Parenthood has been insistent on screwing with me, the emotional instability is fucking miserable. I've reverted so rapidly to that angry, sad kid that I was before HRT and my temper is just so uncontrollable (and I can tell it's really starting to wear on my partner) and I just don't know what to do.

I'm fighting for my life to get back on hormones but I feel like my mind is falling apart at the seams and I'm trying so hard to keep it from lashing out at my loved ones but it feels so impossible :( I fucking hate being trans and I'm so sick of doctors gatekeeping my right to live.

TBH, I haven't taken the big step of transitioning in my life because I'm not in a position to do that right now. Instead, I just try to look as androgynous as I can.

Last week, I took a big step for myself and got bangs for the first time, and I absolutely love them. They make my face look much more feminine than I ever expected.

The problem started at my job. I work part-time as a waitress at a bar. My job is pretty simple: I take customers' orders and bring them their drinks. During my shift, one man kept staring at me and asking me random questions between rounds. I tried to ignore him, but at one point during the night, he stood right in front of me while I was trying to take another customer's order and asked me if I was a boy or a girl.

I felt really uncomfortable, so I just told him to let me do my job, but he kept insisting. He was drunk, but that situation still made me feel awful. In the end, I told him I was a "boy," and he finally stopped.

For the rest of my shift, everything felt weird after that, and I couldn't stop thinking about the interaction. To be honest, I was scared of what could have happened if I had told him I was a woman. The whole situation felt really unsettling. I don't understand why some people feel the need to know a stranger's gender in the first place, but at least nothing else happened. Maybe it was just a drunk guy being stupid, and I'm glad it didn't go any further.