Hi everyone. I’m hoping you’ll hear me out.
I’m currently working in university admissions in Mississippi, but I’m hoping to relocate somewhere in the Pacific Northwest after I secure a job.
I grew up in northern Arizona, and I don’t think I realized how much where I lived affected me until I moved away. I miss mountains, forests, skiing, hiking, cooler weather, and feeling connected to nature more than I can put into words. Living in Mississippi has honestly been one of the hardest chapters of my life. I know a location can’t solve all of your problems, but I’ve realized that where I live has a huge impact on my quality of life.
For whatever reason, I’ve always felt incredibly drawn to the Pacific Northwest—especially the Oregon Coast. I know visiting somewhere isn’t the same as living there, and I know I need to secure a job before making a move. Unfortunately, like a lot of people early in their careers, I won’t have the money to take multiple scouting trips. I’ll likely have enough saved to relocate once I have a job offer, and that’s about it. So I’m trying to learn as much as I can from people who actually live there.
The problem is that everyone I talk to has a completely different opinion. I have family friends who moved to the PNW years ago and built lives they absolutely love. Then I have other friends who are genuinely shocked that I’d even consider moving there because of homelessness, drugs, and crime.
Part of why those conversations are difficult for me is because one of my closest friends was murdered and sexually assaulted on her college campus by a man who was experiencing homelessness. I’ve also experienced sexual assault myself. Because of that, personal safety is something I take very seriously.
I want to be clear, though: I don’t believe homelessness makes someone dangerous, and I know what happened to my friend was a horrific tragedy—not a reflection of people experiencing homelessness as a whole. But it does shape how I think about safety, and I don’t think it’s honest to pretend otherwise.
I’m also struggling to separate today’s reality from yesterday’s headlines. A lot of what I find online is from several years ago, and it’s hard to tell what’s still true, what’s improved, and what has simply been amplified online.
I know the Pacific Northwest isn’t one place. Bellingham isn’t Portland. Eugene isn’t Spokane. I understand every community has its own culture, strengths, and challenges. That’s actually why I’m asking here—I don’t have my heart set on one city, and I’m hoping to learn about places I may not even know to consider.
I’m honestly very open. Washington and Oregon are my primary focus. I’d probably prefer a smaller city or suburb over living downtown, don’t mind commuting, and would love to be within a reasonable drive of a major airport. Access to nature, a stable career, and a community where I can picture building a long-term life matter most to me.
So I guess my question is this:
If someone you genuinely cared about was considering building a life somewhere in the Pacific Northwest, what would you want them to know? What has changed over the last few years? What do people online get right, and what do they get completely wrong? And if you think there’s a city or town that deserves more attention than it gets, I’d genuinely love to hear why.
Thank you for taking the time to read this. I really appreciate any perspective you’re willing to share.