50M, grew up in NOVA, went to HS in area. We all ended up at a few VA colleges back in the mid-90s when it wasnt as hard to get into these schools, and those 4-6 years spent there were a blast - the stories couldn't be written by hollywood for the crazy things that happened. they were good years.
mostly everyone stayed in touch.
20s were spent in NOVA Clarendon bars, trips to Eastern Shore beaches and clubs downtown.
30s were spent at marriages, trips out of town for the weekend, and the sidelines of early years of kids' events.
40s were spent with much, much more kids events, catching up with divorced friends and living vicariously through their dating stories (apps to date??).
Now, turning another decade. My friends have largely been successful in conventional terms. Nice homes. Vacations. The occasional toy like boat, or country club membership, etc. What kills me though is it seems the only thing these guys want to talk about is money. A constant barrage of one-upsmanship on killings in the market, investments, bonuses, purchases.
I never would think to tell a friend how much I made. I always thought it was personal - for you, your spouse, maybe your parents to know. But they throw around real dollar amounts like its no big deal. I am happy with my career and would place myself somewhere in the middle of their income brackets, but when it turns to this talk, I just start nodding, walk away or try to start another convo.
We used to talk more about sports; sometimes politics but that got too dangerous. We used to reminisce a lot more about HS, college, music...just fun stuff that made us all laugh with and at each other. Now its just money non-stop.
Is this a NOVA thing? An age thing? Or just a money thing? It really makes me sad to think this is how it could be as we move forward.