It's literally happening to me right now as we speak (I'm an extrovert 14 year old btw)

Just looking for some strategies you use in conversation when you’re looking to get to know someone. I do well in environments I’m comfortable with but when things are very neutral or unfamiliar, I’m not the greatest.

I see some social butterflies somehow make things work and I say to myself “it seems so simple but why can’t I be like that?” I don’t think it’s an energy thing, maybe it’s a perspective some extroverts have that I’m lacking?

Tbh all problems starts from socializing or from people.

I think we don't need to get that close to people, do we?

We can just do our work in peace.

Getting a girlfriend - puts too much stress and anxiety and puts a lot of pressure.

Being with family - they don't even understand us and keep on degrading our mental health.

Friends - well even if you don't have trust issues you will eventually get betrayed and starts having it because people just can't think from multiple povs like they only care about their feelings.

Single and anti social life is so peaceful just you embracing life to it's fullest.

This is my view but extroverted people like me just wants to be alone because everytime we have tried something we just goes back to square one.

And not talking about all the mental health issues these people put on us.

Life is not that complicated but we make it because of socializing.

Imagine no need to socialize, no need for family to pressure you about their dignity, no need to have any relationship with anyone just you experiencing different things and we might get a great partner later on with our good mental health and enjoy the life!

Again this is just my pov, i am posting this because i wanted to talk about it.

I want to hear about your views also.

I always felt like i was too much.people always told me to shut up.people dont text me if i dont text them first.i always wanted to hang out but no one wanted.i felt empty.i had terriable time with introverts i always thought its about me and my personality and something is wrong with me.i am the problem but this sub showed me that i am just an extrovert i am not overreacting and there are people like me i am feeling relieved i never knew ...

i feel like adopting an introvert only caused harm.

They always dissappoint me i always try to balance things out for my introvert and help them just because i know social things are difficult to them but they never really care for that favour.IN MY OPINION they seem selfish to me(no shade🥶) they are getting my hopes up everytime and always cancels plans comfortably ect.

I always admire how that they do not need other people.And they do not care.But i always care my mood depends on other people.I tried to change but i cant.Needing people makes me feel vulnerable.

Does anyone feels the same?

I am a textbook extrovert i am always surroundered by introverts unfortunately and there is no one i can hang out with i am not enjoying anything by myself i am so needy and clingy people are recommending me hobbies to do at home put i am not enjoying it.Dance is my hobby and the only thing i enjoy doing it but i spreaded my ankle so i cant do it either i feel like my high energy doesnt match with anyone i end up getting dissappointed with people i just love people a lot and never get the same energy back i dislike introverts but i keep attracting them. i just want summer to end

I'm an introvert, and I really don't enjoy big crowds, loud music, or packed events. Homecoming is coming up this fall, and my boyfriend asked me to go with him. I told him that while I appreciate him asking, those kinds of events make me uncomfortable and aren't something I enjoy. Did I do the right thing? (Any alternatives, tips, advice) we both don't have cars yet btw.

Hi , I'm 30M , half introvert not shy.... half extrovert idk how

My coworkers said I'm extrovert , no one believes I have a social anxiety, cuz I'm funny as per them , I start a conversation with strangers easily with no judgement just listen and search about something funny , meaningful, makes me relax like someone talking with a therapist even if he just bored ..

But I think I still have a social anxiety cuz I'm not talk with people too much , I prefer to be alone and that's not good always .

I'm interested in movies especially mystery ones with plot twist ending, I go to the gym I hate it , I will increase my arm and chest and I will quit it 😂

I like sports , I tried boxing in the past it's so fun especially training, idk why I don't play online games like my brother and sisters, it helps a lot if u don't addiction of course .

I CAN go out by myself, and I have, but I never really enjoyed it as I wasn't sharing the experience with anyone.

I've watched a film alone and gone to exhibitions alone, and I didn't feel much, as I wasn't with anyone. I had no one to talk about these experiences with.

Does anyone else ot understand the point of going out by yourself?

I've noticed people here seem friendly, but everyone also seems to stick to their own circle. Is that just my impression, or do others feel the same?

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I've almost completed 1.5 months as an unpaid intern after my graduation, and I honestly didn't expect an environment to affect my personality this much.

Outside of work, I'm a completely different person. I'm extroverted, I love talking to people, sharing my opinions, creating content, uploading reels, and I'm usually very confident.

At work, though, I feel like a different version of myself.

There are five of us on the team. Everyone is polite, and we eat together or play games during breaks. But somehow, I still feel like I don't really fit in.

I also come from a very different background. My teammates are from more privileged backgrounds, their interests are different, and they mostly communicate in English. Sometimes when I share something or try to join the conversation, the reaction feels different, and I end up feeling awkward or out of place. Maybe they don't intend it that way, but that's how it feels to me.

We also have very different personalities. They enjoy teasing each other a lot, and while it may just be their way of joking, I'm not used to that kind of environment. It makes me hesitate before speaking because I start wondering if what I say will be laughed at or judged.

The biggest change is in me.

Outside the office, I'm the same confident person who creates content, uploads reels, speaks openly, and enjoys meeting new people. But the moment I enter the office, I become quiet, overthink every sentence, and keep my opinions to myself.

I'm not writing this to blame anyone. I'm genuinely trying to understand whether this is just an adjustment phase or if the people around us can really change our personality over time.

Has anyone else gone through something similar? If you did, how did you regain your confidence?

I always hear introverts wishing to be more extroverted or being an extrovert but i don’t think i ever heard and extrovert say they wanna be an introvert. Im curious on how many extroverts here wants to be an introvert or wanted to be one before..

I am at highschool and recently I have discovered something that makes me uncomfortable and makes me think to change the highschool.

I have a class colleague which is a loser in its true form. He doesn't talk to anyone, doesn't know what McDonalds and KFC are, not he can pronounce them (his excuse is that in his hometown there aren't such things; sure buddy), doesn't have enough money to go swimming pool or to eat in city, he tells the professors when someone copies in examns, is introverted, is bullied (no tears for him), etc. He is socially isolated by the class.

Last year, we wanted to go to McDonalds. He asked if he can go, and we, from mercy, agreed to him. I had a fear of who will pay for his meal, but I hoped he had money that day. We arrived, we commanded our meals, but shortly after he, out of nowhere, just got up and left. No word, no excuses for his behaviour, no nothing.

This year he was the only one who didn't have any classmate to be of school's service, so his colleague for that day was someone from another class. Before a classmate told him that he will be left out if he doesn't chose a classmate for that day, and he agresivelly said "perfect". A month after, his colleague came to our class, and our loser just stared at him with malice, so he left. He never returned.

Sometime ago, I asked him if someone arrived. He responded, but with his gesture he also transmitted something along the lines of "don't talk to me". Like what? He is the loser, I am not, and he should be gratefull someone gave him attention in any form.

In some day, he was bullied again, some classmate stole his thing and run away to school halls, the loser didn't catch him (then he ask we why we think he is a loser; ok?), and he randomly harmed a classmate who was on his table. His action was nearly lethal for the colleague. Then he began to cry (I didn't knew he was a crocodile when crying).

This would be the end of the story if the teacher that has shown up didn't take his position and scolded us. Sure madam, we weren't the one to harm him though.

Then, our class went to a spectacle in city, together with a teacher. The class boss asked him how he feels there, he answered in a toxic tone, the boss told him he just asked, and he replied even more toxic that "and I responded". After that I looked at him few times, and he was visible not well.

It followed sometime after with the boss asking him something, and he, the loser, told him peevishly and toxicly "you shut up". He wasn't someone who bullied him, so I don't know why he was agressive towards him. And even ifthe boss bullied him before, again he is the loser, so he deserves this.

Still sometime ago, some classmate also asked him something, but he just stared at her with malice, until the other person just left. I mean, what the heck? I kinda understand doing it to a boy, but to a girl?

Then the real fire power began and what I didn't knew until recently. When the class teacher doesn't come to teach the lesson, the loser just takes his things and spends the rest of the hour alone, somewhere in the scholl. Some colleagues, 2 boys and 1 girl, went to buy something and they found him. Then he agresivelly told them to left him alone, because "they make him only problems" (distorting reality much, buddy?, you deserve to be bullied), and he went away from there. He didn't made it far in the slightest, since the girl approached him, but then he suddenly grabbed her by the hands, they spun around, and he let her go. He didn't punched her or harmed her though.

Then they talked and he told them that since he moved in the city, those here just made him problems, not only we, the classmates. I don't remember what else they talked about. They tried to calm him down, he was physically calmed down, but on the inside, their efforts were futile, as he made it clear he still viewed them as enemies. They went to the class, an I saw her being affected, but back then I wasn't interested why.

What should I do in this situation? To risk another year of him to explode at random moments? And to explode his fustrations on potentially me?

I don't want the to change the class or the scholl. I like it here and the collective. He needs to change the class (or the city even), but he hasn't done it in 2 years; why will he do it now?

I told this situation to an adult. While he agreed he can be problematic, he also said we have our fault in this. Like we didn't integrated him, we bullied him, and no wonder our efforts to solve the problem is from now on futile; since it is too litlle and too late, when we already have shown our true nature. Like what we were supposed to do with a loser who doesn't know what McDonalds and KFC are, doesn't talk to anyone and he doesn't have money to go anywhere?

I am also sick of it being our and my fault. What fault do we have? What fault do we have that he is suffering, but when someone tries to help him, he is toxic, soon to be violent? Why should I be the one who changes the highschool, instead of him changing the city? Why should we change for a loser that he is?

I am (26M) have been single for the past 2 years and I was introverted when I was in a relationship but now things have changed so much that i became totally opposite of what I was.litrelly man I can have deep talk with anyone now.

It has been exactly a year since I’ve joined the dating apps and boy can I say it has been quite the ride.

Hot take: A lot of people who claim to be introverts are actually just socially awkward or have poor communication skills. The true introverts I’ve met are super interesting.

As an extrovert, I have been meeting so many introverts who are actually just socially awkward or have poor communication skills. That is not introversion. I think the more I date the more I realize I need to be with either an ambivert or an extrovert. I am so sorry but I am so tired going on dates with introvert people who think I will be the one leading the conversation and we’ll be a perfect balance. I genuinely do not believe in opposite attracts. What bothers me is introverts who pose as extroverts or yappers over text and the second I meet them in person I feel like I am talking to a brick wall. Listen I know some people take time to warm up but at least the few interesting introverts I’ve met can actually have nourishing and interesting conversations. I also have this problem where I can yap to anyone so most times they think the date is going great. Meanwhile I am just a natural yapper or I can’t sit through awkward silence or boring conversation so I just take over and lead the conversation. I am struggling to meet a guy at my energy level. :( I don’t know what the point of this post was. I just had to rant
about it.

I’m the biggest extrovert and I love interacting with people and the world around me but it’s so hard to make friends that stick. Nobody is genuinely friendly anymore, it’s all temporary in the moment not to build lasting friendships. I love giving compliments and spreading joy to strangers.

I feel like I’m outgrowing all my friends because somehow I ended up friends with all introverts and they never like to go anywhere or do anything and it’s making me miserable because I feel like their fears are holding me back.

I’m trying to learn to have fun by myself but the past two years I’ve just been isolated from friends and family and I actually had a mental breakdown in January over it. I don’t really know what to do because I always imagined my 20s being way more social and interactive and full of memory making. But it’s hard to make fun memories when everyone is socially stunted and fears going outside. COVID took the beginning of my 20s and now social isolation is taking the rest.

I’m just starting to feel the weight of everyone else’s misery starting to beat down on me and tear at my usual optimism. I’m always known for being the fun funny friend and I feel like nobody takes me serious when I say I’m mentally unwell.. or nobody cares enough to see if I’m serious or not (despite me never joking about mental illness 🫠)

It just sucks when people don’t know you as well as you think they should or hoped they should. I don’t think anybody around me understands me. Even my whole family is full on introverts that don’t like to go outside. I feel trapped like I can’t escape because I’m just being shackled down by others’ fear.

Not looking for advice in particular because I feel it is a societal issue, I’m just an extrovert venting about how socially stunted Gen Z is.

can’t tell if this is an extrovert thing but i NEED socialising to feel happy im content by myself for maybe like max 1 day and then ill start feeling sad again.

I love going out, making conversations with strangers, clubs, parties, drinking, social gatherings, and posting myself on social media. but 400 days ago, I decided to go cold turkey on everything, and it was not good, i felt like im going crazy, i feel lost, the only hopes I had is I was growing or maybe going crazy hahahahahaha idk

Istg such a good feeling

I'm an extrovert but I'm also very socially awkward. I went to a workshop today and I totally embarrassed myself in some ways. I was visibly nervous and the organisers could see it and even offered me water. How do you recover from situations where you said something inappropriate or made a fool of yourself?

I thought this was a cute video showing the power of just saying hi. In case anyone's feeling isolated or like your social skills aren't appreciated. Story about a lonely 4 year old with no nearby friends or family who changed his neighborhood.

I was playing on a new MC server and was hoping to have a fresh start there. I then made a friend on the server and they felt like a genuinely funny and kind person, almost like I knew them irl. But then a couple months later, and they started to play less and less, and at this point I got a little worried. Thankfully, I calmed myself, and laid it down as a normal thing. But I eventually quit for like a few weeks to do other things, and I came back to a notice from them saying that they quit and I checked my discord and, sure enough I couldn’t text him anymore.

Now, every time I log on that server I get more depressed and miss them even more. They were the only person on the server that didn’t seem like a copy and paste. Please tell me how to cope with such a lonely event like this.