Under customary law we are being taught about indigenous values/beliefs (imma just call it VB for short) and their impacts on the legal / courts.

The lecturer who’s teaching us is lovely and they’re obviously qualified to teach us, but they aren’t indigenous (but they have indigenous children) and because they aren’t indigenous to my country there’s many aspects of the VB that they don’t fully understand, as well as them accidentally mispronouncing the words. This is a big deal because even the slight mispronouncing of a word can change the sentences meaning. Because I’m indigenous i understand what they’re trying to say, but sometimes I have to reexplain to my peers what they meant.

Me and my fellow indigenous peers noticed this and are concerned that there’s 400 students being misinformed, and for some students that’s their first exposure to indigenous language and VB, and since we all want to be lawyers, judges, etc, it’s harmful if people are getting a not so accurate account for our VB. There’s also a ton of non indigenous students trying to correct indigenous students on our VB, which yk is beyond the lecturers control, but something in the recipe has gone wrong, and as a collective, us indigenous students and our lecturer need to find out what the root cause is so it can be corrected.

Me and a few indigenous peers are planning on talking to our lecturer about this, but we don’t want to make them feel ashamed. For a non indigenous person they’re doing amazing but that’s mostly because I’m indigenous and can understand what they’re trying to say, but there are certain things you can only properly explain if you’ve grown up in it, and it can be harmful when it’s 500 students being miseducated

Long story short, my husband and I have had a very rocky relationship from day 1 basically. Just a couple years ago he asked me for a paternity test for our kids because i didn't tell him i gave away free formula when we had like no money cause he quit his 6 figure job to start his own business and brought home nothing (i was making 55k at the time and we had a 2 year old and a new born and had way too may bills and daycare to pay for so my salary definitely wasn't cutting it) and if I lied to him about giving away formula then what else could i lie to him about?

Fast forward to now, my mom told me today that they're cutting me (and my brother but that's a totally different situation - he never calls them or visits and is an ass to them basically, whereas I help them out, visit and call often, etc) out of their will because I haven't divorced my husband yet and because we decided to send my daughter to an advanced academy which is through the public school system but you have to test to get in, they don't let just anyone go to these schools for school (which is free from kindergarten through 12th grade) instead of a Catholic school (where we live the public school system is a joke so you're almost forced to go to a Catholic school if you want a good education). They do help me out with my kids a lot so that's why I don't know if I should let it go that they're cutting me out of anything when they pass (which I'm not waiting for or hoping for) or if I should pull back and basically tell them I don't need their help anymore if they're just gonna cut me out for not listening to their opinions and doing what they want me to do, not what I fell or think is best for myself and my children.

i’m going through a very long and hard “phase”. it sends to me its not just a phase and its just how my life is now. i haven’t left my house once in almost 2 years because i had to repeat a year in school because of too many absences. ive always hated school, i just dont have the brain for it, ive always been a failure when it came to school. as you can see, even most of my commas are placed wrong…
there was only one subject that i somewhat enjoyed from 8th grade, english, because i just enjoyed the english movies and videogames. ive never ever had an actual good beat friend with whom i could tell anything and just be my support. i consider myself unattractive from the experiences i had so far, im poor class, never got to enjoy a new toy that just cane out. i lack academic intelligence, im naive when it comes to interracting with people, especially ones i just met, im very lonely and the feeling can get very heavy sometimes. i did meet a girl on discord with whom i became, id say, pretty close…but we are very much not alike and i still cant just get over this whole situation with her. now shes very distant and it really crushes me, i attach very strong to people, especially her, since we would talk all day every day. she helped me get through 9 months of these crushing 2 yeas of pause. long story short, we re just not compatible and we have different expectations in uhm…things. we were doing very romantic things almost since we met, tho we re not a couple, she lives in the usa and i live in romania. still, i can’t get past of how she just shows much less interest in talking to me, she was not like this at all, we woukd talk literally every day and night and now she says she “forgot” to reply to me because she went scrolling…shucks, really ouch. this makes me cry pretty frequently and the cherry on top is that she knows about my situation and how i havent left home, i do NOT want to go through all of this with someone else and tell them everything about me from 0, even tho i know we will never be together. im not diagnosed but from what ive experience it seems i have severe social anxiety, i cant even take a pizza order or talk on the phone to anyone except my family. i was thinking of taking those pills that make you not feel anything or something like that? im wondering if i should just commit or continue living through this hell. if anyone still reads, please help me, give me an advice that will help me or anything helpful, please

19F. I’m at home from college for summer break right now, taking part time classes.

My dad never had the money for sports extracurriculars so he’s forced my brother and I into them regardless of what we say. I don’t enjoy it and it eats up so much time out of my day. I have to skip my own personal gym time 3 times per week just to make time for tennis practice with a random guy my dad hired. I’ve expressed my anger about this multiple times with my dad, but he pays my college tuition currently and that is an opportunity I don’t want to lose. I go to a top university with high tuition.

This instructor is weird. He was fine the first few times but over the last few weeks he’s made multiple comments saying my leggings look better on me than my sweatpants, and that I should start wearing shorts because it’s so hot outside (I don’t like wearing shorts). He also pressures me in for a hug after every session and pushes my chest up against him. It is not too bad but I am a passive person and I’m nervous being alone with this guy several times a week.

My dad thinks I’m lying since I’ve complained so much over the last few years about the random sports I’ve been put in. I don’t know what to do without risking my tuition.

Earlier this year I (33f) was asked to model for a social media campaign for a charity cause that I strongly believe in. I was happy to help out.

The photos were nude silhouettes, using artistic angles and my face concealed. I had never modeled for anything like this so it was a new experience - the photographer had two assistants, and the lighting and make up (and body oil!) were all very professionally done.

It was an extremely liberating and empowering experience being the focus of an artistic exercise like that. I posed on a pedestal elevated above the photographer and his assistants, and while I was a bit modest about being naked at first, I felt like I leaned into it and experienced a feminine power and energy I hadn’t felt before.

I was asked to pose again for a second campaign and I am looking forward to experiencing it again. My husband is very supportive and asked whether he’d be able to attend the shoot. I love his support but I have mixed feelings about him being there! I just wonder if it would change the dynamic and energy knowing he’s in the room, wondering what he is thinking.

I’m leaning against having him there, but would it be odd to ask him not to go?

first of all I am not mentioning the fic nor the setting

I was reading a fic on ao3 and the setting of the fic seemed.. familiar and I commented asking about it and they told me to dm them and I dm'd them and we started talking and turns out I think they worked there and I cough lied cough and told them I worked too so we started talking and turns out that um they may have been a coworker one year and uh I never said that to them. im not sure but if anyone wants more details please comment omg I am freaking out

Hi!!

So my [22F] friend invited me and another of our friends to sleep at her house over the weekend. I happily agreed, but then I found out there’s a disco night I’ve been wanting to attend for a long time at the same time.

As we’ll be hanging out at 6PM (and the event starts at 11PM) I invited them to come with me and see what they thought about it! But they think it’s a better idea to stay home cause it’s really not their scene.

We’re going to be together all day Sunday, so I’m thinking maybe I could hang out with them from 6PM to 12AM, go to to the disco, and come back the next morning for breakfast and the rest of our plans.

But would you think that’s rude if I leave the sleepover early and go to the disco? I don’t want her to feel sidelined. is it a better idea to skip it out entirely?

I know this is silly, but thanks for hearing me out!!

I currently work full time for a retail company, I’ve been there for 5 months now it’s an okay company nothing amazing but it pays fine. My only issue with it is that one they are a dying company and they require us to get membership from people. It’s to the point there they will write you up if you can’t meet a goal but the membership is bullshit, and we don’t get anything for pushing it. Other then than the jobs fine……. With that being said I got an interview at a new retail company but upon the interview I was told that the position I’m applying for (assistant manager) only pays minimum wage and the I have to earn the rest on commissions supposedly I get a percentage of the store and about 4% commission on the sales I make too which the person interviewed told me I could make up too $1,200 during there busy season. One thing I noticed was that they always have up too 5-6 people working at a time and I’m not sure if I’m comfortable fighting for customers to make up the rest of my paycheck since minimum wage is 16.50……well they called me back 3 times and left 2 voicemails and sent me an email about the position and if I’m still interested…..I guess im hesitant on taking it because of the idea that I will be stressed having to be extremely pushy to make my personal sales goal if not I’ll get paid less, as to where at my current position I get about 20 an hour and that’s a guarantee. But I still deal with memberships and the possibility of the company not being around for long. I just need help on deciding what to do, should I stay at my current employer and keep looking or should I go with this new one that pays minimum wage for an assistant manager position and have to worry about commissions.

Also forgot to say with the company I interviewed with has weekly pay. there slow season is a big majority of the year the busy season where I’d see paycheck like 1,200 would be during Christmas or tax season. So I assume I’d make like 500 a week during the slow time or less

i 23f have been dating my 23m bf for 3 months now. We had a 2 month talking stage before we officially became a couple. I asked him the very first time we met if he’s ever cheated on a partner before, he said no. i asked multiple times in the talking stage and he always answered no.

After almost 3 weeks after becoming official, we opened up about some stuff about our past. he admitted his past wasnt the best and told me that he cheated on his ex when he was 18/19 (so his ex before his recent ex). apparently him and his ex were nearing the end of their 2 yr relationship and were constantly arguing and fighting, then he started flirting with a girl at work in person/texting. he told me he put an end to his flirting with that girl and told his gf at the time because he knew he fucked up. he told me he didnt want to tell me at the start of us talking because he didnt want me to see him differently and that he was scared how i would react. he said be hated who he was back then, he deeply regrets his actions, has been to therapy, matured and has fully taken the blame for everything as he should. obviously i was so heartbroken when i found out because it just ruined the perfect image i had in my head of him.

its been 2 months now since i found out and he has shown himself to be the thoughtful, caring and most perfect boyfriend, he loves me with all his heart and does not have wandering eges and i genuinely see a whole future together. And ive observed how hes nothing like his past immature person he was describing. the thing is, even 2 months post finding out and constant reassurance, i cant stop worrying about the possibility of him cheating on me because of his past. im such an anxious girl, thats why i wanted to make sure i wouldnt date someone with an unloyal past so that i wouldnt have to put myself through dealing with someone whos demonstrated that behaviour . i bring it up everyday and it becomes our the main topic of argument. he tells me that hes changed and he’s not the same person anymore and that he feels so shamefull of what he’s done in the past, and i believe that, but i genuinely am the biggest overthinker and its hard for me to not think about what hes was capable of doing.

Can someone please give me an honest and thoughtful outsider opinion on this dilemna of mine ? I think in the future i can move past this,but right now, I genuinely need some reassurance from a new perspective or just something for me to consider. Thanks guys

I don’t know how to say this but there is just soo much to say.
So the thing is that my father who is retired now is a person is really misogynistic person towards my mother and has never respected her. He has always disrespected her in front of people, never listened to her opinions with a clear mind and always seems to be angry all the time. He has serious anger issues.

Since he retired 3 years ago there has been constant big fights happening between them about the same family issue.

My father’s younger brother(my uncle) has never really cared about him and all the sacrifices he has made just for the benefit of both the families, especially his wife who just treats him like a servant.
But my father just doesn’t seem to understand this behaviour towards him and is just too lost for his brotherly love even thought it’s not mutual.

We have even tried to explain it to him but he just ignores us and whenever we bring this topic up he gets really angry and starts abusing us.
I have even seen his chats where he has said that he will leave us just because he cares about him more than his own wife and children.

And now today my father and my mother are in our hometown and me and my brother are in a different state. He has kicked my mother out of the house out of anger just when she brought up that same topic. He took her phone too.

Please help me on how to deal with a father who just doesn’t doesn’t care about his family and is ready to leave just to have a good relationship his brother. I am really stressed as I have seen this happening for too long now.

I have even thought about why they don’t take divorce when they have never been compatible and are completely opposite of each other.

I’m just…at a loss. My life has been slowly going downhill for the past 3 years. Every time I think things are getting better, they just get worse. I’m in my 30s, I’m a woman, and I feel like I’m miles behind where my friends are. I’ve been dealing with health issues and mental health issues that I’ve only just gotten diagnosed. So now that my life is a disaster, I’m finally able to analyze how tf I got here. But I can’t figure out how to get out! My credit is shit, I’m in severe debt, I’m facing eviction, my relationship with my partner is horrendous. I’ve tried breaking up with him twice in the past 2 weeks and I’m too chicken shit to actually kick him out (well we’ll be kicked out soon anyway if I can’t fight the eviction). I lost a job 2 years ago (physical health impacted my work and I didn’t get the help I needed because my mental health kept me in denial). That threw me into a severe depression, worse than when I was working. Now I just lost my last job 3 weeks ago, and that job was AWFUL!! My bosses discriminated against me, lied about me, constantly spoke down to me in public and spoke badly about me to my employees, manipulated me to get things done just to throw me under the bus when they didn’t work out, I mean it was a job from hell. So going from getting fired, severe depression, and then straight into a job from Hell (that literally had me experience psychotic episodes, I wish I was kidding). Just…what do I do? How do I get out of this? How do I turn my life around? How do I get rid of this man in my house? Please help.

I'm a 23 year old female. I have been single till 19 and got a bf, that relationship ended after one and half years. I decided to be single until I am 30yrs old (cuz I'm traumatized af), but a guy showed up out of nowhere and we started talking, Duhh I'm pretty sure I was rude to him from the beginning, and tried my best to scare him away with all the shits I'm into thinking he'll think I'm crazy and shit. But that dude proposed to me in the 3rd week? Said he likes me? I was like wtf? Can someone catch feelings this quick? On the 4th week he said he's in love with me!

Um... At some point i didn't want him to give up. So I gave him a point quest, like impress me and I'll give u points according to that. Bro was so invested in getting those points. Hardworker fr.

Days passed, I got obsessed with that guy, I was hooked—I couldn't even go one day without talking to him. Also kinda liked him that time.

One day something happened in a game we played together and I got jealous and one thing led to another, I ended up blurring out to him that I like him. We started dating. But the very next day i forgot we were dating and he had to remind me that we are dating now (how embarrassing 😭).

I never told him how i really felt, but he was always there and never got bored or annoyed by that fact. Day by day my obsession is getting out of control and I'm afraid i might end up scaring him real this time.

He suffered more than anyone I've known and i don't want to hurt him bcuz of my crazy obsession.

What should I do? Cuz the kind of obsession I have is unhealthy...

For context, I was with this guy for a couple months before he left, saying he wasn’t ready for a relationship. He came back six weeks later saying he wanted to try again. Like clockwork he left me again after two months. He wasted 6 months of my time. Today I got a text saying , “Hey I just want you to know (His friend) told me the other night that (The ex) was talking about wanting you back again. I didn’t tell you cause I thought it was just fucked but that’s none of my business and just not my choice” he hasn’t reached out yet but my birthday is next week so I wouldn’t be surprised if he did on my birthday. He’s a good person who did some bad things. I know I can’t give him another chance, but the sliver of hope in me wants to. Can I be his friend? How do I let him down and tell him that what he did to me was wrong? Why does he think he can walk into my life whenever he wants?

Hi im 21m, my sister is 25f and her boyfriend is 27m. They’ve been together 3 years, and up until recently everyone thought he was this chill, great guymy sister absolutely adores him. But things changed after I came out last year.

He started acting really weird and inappropriate. He’s made comments saying I’m cute and hot i thought he was joking, and last week he straight up said he “chose the wrong sibling” out of nowhere, then hugged me. I hugged back at first because I was totally caught off guard and didn’t know what else to do, but he tried to hold onto me way longer than was okay. I managed to push him away. Right after that he told me not to say anything to my sister and to just forget the whole thing ever happened he said just don't tell her ok please don't.

I know I should tell her the truth, but I’m terrified. He’s a much bigger guy than me and I’m worried how he’ll react or if he’ll get angry with me. I also hate the thought of hurting my sister or ruining what she thinks they have, but keeping this secret feels wrong too and I feel really uncomfortable whenever he’s around now. I don’t know if he’s bi or what his deal is, but none of this was okay.

Does anyone have advice on how to handle this safely? How do I tell her safely.

So me (F) and my boyfriend let’s say Stomach (M obviously) have been dating for a year and I have been best-friends with my friend for about two we’ll say her name is Belly (F.) I’ve always thought of Belly as an option, but it’s always been like “oh she’s my friend above partner.” She’s cool with my boyfriend and jokes “you should dump him for me” all the time. I’ve thought of polyamory, but shes lesbian and wouldn’t date a man. And idk if she’d want to date me either

Why I thought of this was because she got a girlfriend months ago and her girlfriend cheated on her, all I thought was “I could be a better partner” and I’ve been thinking about it over and over since.

Belly is really cool and so is Stomach, to clarify I would never break up with Stomach for anyone I truly love him. Idk what to do should I just ignore the feeling?

He said his mom is looking for someone to help pass out food at grandma's surprise birthday party. And she asked him if he had any friends who would want to. So he asked me. We met last month. I'm 22(turning 23 in 3 months), he's 19 (turning 20 in 2 weeks).

Me and him are really building a bond. He said he's hesitant about a relationship (in general) because of trust issues. But obviously, he's getting more comfortable with me.

I do really like him and want him. I love when we talk about our take on life, family, love. He usually brings these topics up.

Two nights ago at the movies… he was telling me how deep his wedding vows are going to be (IN GENERAL) lol. He's really pulling me in (i'm not sure if it's on purpose or what lol).

I can't believe he asked me. I'm going to meet his mom, grandma, Granddad, sisters, whole family. Like OMG.

Should i do it???

I don’t know how to word this to be honest, but I think I just don’t feel it anymore. I don’t really care if he texts or calls me. I don’t really feel like I need to talk to him anymore. Sure, it’s nice to have someone to talk to, but I’m just over it. I guess I don’t know if this is normal since this is my first relationship, and we’ve been together for a couple of years and friends for longer, but I feel like we’re growing apart, and I don’t know if I want to fix that. I’m okay if he just fades away and grows as a person because he is honestly a great guy, but I don’t know. He hasn’t done anything wrong. I’m just being weird, and I have a tendency to be impulsive, and I would hate to be like, “Okay, I don’t want to be together anymore,” and a couple of weeks later, I regret it horribly, yk? And then things will be awkward since we’re going to college together soon, which in itself is a thing because I am incredibly anxious to the point where I’m overwhelmed by everything and second-guessing if I should even go to college, and every time I bring this up to him, it’s like he gets annoyed or just over me bringing it up, which I will say I have been bringing it up a lot, but in my defense, this is the biggest change I’ve ever been through, and it’s just so much to wrap my head around, and I don’t even think I’m ready. I’m just so scared that if I don’t go, I will never go. But back to the main thing, I feel like I’ve gotten so comfortable with him in my life that it’ll be such a big thing for him not to be there. I guess I’m emotionally attached or something, but it’s so weird because a couple of weeks ago, I was so obsessed with being texted back and that he was with friends and wouldn’t be giving me attention(he’d be out for hours upon hours with as little as a text saying, “Hey, I love you. I’m going to be out for a little longer…etc.) but now I don’t care. I guess it’s just so weird to think about. Like, I don’t feel anything when he kisses me. It honestly feels like a chore when he hugs me. It feels nice, but I don’t care about the emotional side of things, and I don’t know if that makes me a terrible person for just not feeling anything anymore. And I’m just looking for guidance here. I get it if my feelings make me a terrible person. I feel terrible right now, and idk, I’d rather get outside opinions from people who have probably been in way more relationships than I rather than staying and possibly leading him on.

so i’ve been smoking for about 2-3 years consistently everyday pretty much. I’m getting drug tested around august 15-16. if i stop smoking today or tomorrow do we think i could be clean by then? i have to pee in front of my mom so it’s no use to use fake pee, is there something i can drink to make it pass?