im 16 years old and on holiday with my family
around three weeks ago there was a older man and i don’t have boys attracted to me so i liked the attention i was getting and i did something with him i have no contact with him at all it was just a mistake i made
around a week or two after the holiday i feel so sick like nothing i can explain i feel so sick and throw up constantly and i have really bad cramping not like i have experienced before since i don’t get bad periods so i took a pregnancy test and it came up positive i can NOT tell my family it’s not even a option and i can’t tell my friends but idk what to do i feel dramatic but im constantly sick and i feel disgusting and i go dizzy and lightheaded when i move is this just anxiety about it???

Sounds spicy but it’s not bad. Probably going to laugh when y’all read this.
I adore my boyfriend. Honestly he’s turned into my best friend and I’m so proud of him and how hard he works. I’m a mom who got a divorce and lost everything and I’d do it again to keep my son and two dogs. I went from a stay at home mom to working until 11pm at night. And I really spend every penny for my son. My boyfriend makes good money and loves to spoil me. I have to be careful when we go places because if I say I like something HE WILL buy it. He even loves buying things for my son. And there’s a big guilt there because I can’t spend money on him like that and had to put money back just to buy him one gift he is so proud of.
Well with the job he does he’s gone a lot. Which sucks but makes every second with him sweeter. I’m a dreamer and he makes it happen and we’ve kinda learn to do each other’s hobbies so we can do them together. He’s supported me through everything and he will never understand how much I appreciate him.
So like I said I have two dogs. One that works and another that is retired. We live in the middle of nowhere so no leashes and they run free and they get a workout in. Which makes them really chill dogs. They have issues like one likes to find the trash and the other eats poop but besides that those are my babies. I also used to be a dog trainer nothing to fancy but I got lucky enough to work with big breeds a lot which made me really study dog behavior.
He has the cutest dog that has some issues that would probably annoy someone that didn’t know the behavior but I just correct it in the proper way. My dogs also correct him when he’s being a little extra. Nothing crazy just a gentle dog correction.
Well.. he’s a chewer and there’s something about night time that makes him want to chew BAD! While I’m gone they all go in kennels but when I’m home I let them run around the house, I sit outside and watch them play to really get the energy out. Well my boyfriend is out of town working his butt off so I got his dog and I LOVE THIS DOG! I never want him to think he’s a problem because he’s got some behavioral issues but genuinely the sweetest dog. But we had a problem…
When I take a shower all 3 dogs pile in the bathroom and lay on the floor. My AirPod died and I accidentally left it on the couch not thinking. Well Mr. Chew found it and chewed it to pieces while I was in the shower. Honestly my fault for leaving it out. But I’m missing the other one.. why? Remember when I said I had a son?? Yeah he hid the other. So now I have no AirPods…
I don’t want to tell him because I know he’ll do two things I don’t want him to do.
1. Buy me another pair
2. Think his dog is too much.

When honestly it was my fault and I don’t want him spending that kind of money on me over something that was my fault. And I freakin adore this dog to death.
I’m not good at keeping secrets from him and I know he’ll notice them not in my ears when we FaceTime.. HELPME WHAT DO I DO

Probably thought this was a cheating or something juicy but really a dog ate my AirPod

I had to lie because I didn't have one. Please don't suggest family, they were subjecting me to DV and relatives were aware and enablers. I am far from home, so friends aren't something I have and are close to.

Anyway, I had to do a form where a next of kin is mandatory. I had no way out. And so I lied. I used my personal number but changed some digits, and made up a name. Seems like it satisfied the form but what do I do? Is there other options or do I have to keep lying? Will they verify the contact and catch me out?

So I wear super low cut or no show socks pretty much everyday. My girlfriend told me it’s a feminine look and that I should be going sockless instead.

I finally started doing it and was told by a few people it was better, does anyone else go sockless in their shoes too? And are no show socks a bad look for guys?

AIO: Is my mom overstepping boundaries with her opinions about my new relationship?

Disclaimer: posting on behalf of a friend.

Please help my girl out!

I (20 F) am dating my boyfriend (21 M). This is my first relationship, and we've been together for about 6 months and knew each other for about 8 months before dating. He and I are a good match and I'm very happy. He has helped me through some difficult parts of my life, and I'm very grateful to have him.

My mom, however, is skeptical about how seriously things are progressing. We are official and have agreed not to see anyone else even over this summer break where we are doing internships in different parts of the country. My mom (and my dad too) are both in agreement that I should "live a little" and not get so serious too quickly. I understand why lots of dating experience can be beneficial, but why spoil something if it is going so well?

My mom has gone so far as to ask about our intimate life, which to me is egregious considering that I'm her adult daughter (like ew, why would you want to know these details? disgusting). She also does not want to meet him but won't admit it, and seems to have made up her mind about him before ever even speaking to him. I'm in therapy now (not because of this, I have anxiety disorder and have occasionally struggled with ideation, OCD symptoms, etc etc). When I was talking about him to her once, she asked "do you really find him all that attractive? to each their own, I guess". Beyond this, she's generally been overbearing and nosey about my relationship to the point where I never bring him up anymore. I have a few theories about why she's doing this:

1. She wants to exercise a degree of control over my personal life. My mom has exhibited controlling behavior in the past and has done harmful things like convince me that my personality is both platonically and romantically undesirable, and compare my personality to that of estranged, narcissistic family members. This could just be another way she is trying to hurt me, but I'm not sure why.

2. She's jealous. My boyfriend is very physically affectionate and is super supportive of me. My dad to my mom? Not so much. He's not great at expressing affection, and that's been a point of contention in their relationship for years (as a kid scared of my parents divorcing, I would be terrified for holidays or anniversaries because my mom would always make a fuss over the fact that my dad didn't put enough thought into gifts, even when he did, or how he doesn't hug or kiss her anymore). My therapist brought this up as a possibility, but I don't agree with this because I haven't let on how affectionate my boyfriend is with me.

3. My mom is worried I'll get hurt. My mom has witnessed many failed friendships of mine over the years, usually assuming it is my fault they ended even if I've shown her solid evidence that the other person turned on me or hurt me majorly. I'm not doubtful this is a reason no matter what, but still, seems a little odd that she wouldn't just be happy for me, though historically, her happiness for me always comes with fine print.

Any input would be helpful, this situation has caused me quite a lot of stress.

I have a family member who has a basement suite in their home. Neighbours on either side and behind them have young kids, who play outside and ton and will even play on my family members property. My family member is aging, and the current tenant does help with yard work but has taken over their garage. The other day I was there caring for my family member and went into the garage (which has been completely taken over by the tenant). There’s a fridge in there and when I opened it, it was FULL and I mean FULL of juice boxes, different types of candy and snacks. When confronted about it, the tenant says they are for the NEIGHBOUR KIDS WHEN THEY COME THROUGH THE YARD.

Personally, I feel it’s giving white van, no windows, am I overthinking this. What’s your thoughts, and what should I do next?

I completely lost my head for my colleague and we keep flirting on the shift for some time now.

Problem is she has a boyfriend for a few months now, who works almost next door.

Any suggestions?

Me and my Boyfriend met at 17 and 18. We have been together ever since I’m now 21 and he is 22. In the beginning of our relationship, My friend had a cousin and he had my number and we would text sometimes but I never met up with him he would playful flirt but we never called we never met up and it was only for like 3 weeks. My boyfriend found out since that guy kept requesting me on instagram and he basically told him we texted but I denied it and said it was nothing because truly it was nothing. He took it upon himself to take another girl out on a date and make out with her and he claims that was all it ever was. That happened 3 years ago and I found out about it 4 years later now because he met up with her again and his excuse this time was because he felt insecure because the day of his baptism I was upset with him because for weeks I had felt him being different so I was scared that he was cheating so I lashed out because he hugged the girl from his baptism class and I said oh since you couldn’t say no to her hug then I won’t say no when a guy asks me to have sex with me ( I know I sound insane I promise I’m not) I have a bad attachment towards him I love him so much I helped him get a better job I helped him with groceries and the day he cheated on me I had payed for the date we had earlier that day and we had just went to church and the day before I had helped him with his apartment deposit. I can say a million good and bad things we both did for each other but I truly improved his life but I risked a lot for him with my own family. He tells me he only met up with her those two times he was always with him he dedicated so much time to me a lot a lot of patience. It’s all confusing I truly love him so much I don’t know what to do anymore.

It's my first nd last post at reddit pls answer quickly it's humble request.

My sister nd her kids given me their pet to take care while they r out of county nd Our pet dog died while I was taking care of her.Got snake bite in backyard while I was out when came back, he was no more alive in already feeling so guilty nd hurt too nd don't know how to face or even tell my sis nd her kids about this now. they asking me to have facetime with our pet . I'm makin excuses becoz we all were really emotionally attached with her pls lemme know what to do now ,I need to hide it until they come back or need to tell them now becoz i not wanna ruin their vocations too .i know how kids gona react nd cry oh God even now my years falling at screen while typing this reminded me the way kids were hugging nd saying bye to our stefy.pls lemme know what way nd how to tell them so can try to hurt them less at least

I never used reddit but all my other social sites they r in list so it's the only place they can't see this.

I'm taking full blame on me already nd regretting a lot feeling so bad as individual how causal nd careless i was.so yu can feel free to curse nd blame me too but plsss for now lemme know what to do in this moment.im all alone at home with other two pets they were locked inside but stefy was in backyard becoz she was fighting with other pets nd was happy in backyard but now I'm feeling like making excuses for leaving her alone in backyard oh god .sorry I'm new at reddit not know how nd what else to say just pls tell me what I need to do next

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I’m a 28-year-old teacher aide (1:1) at an elementary school, and I’m dealing with a situation outside of work that I’m not sure how to handle.

I have a gym acquaintance who is around 30. A few months ago, he gave me a lecture saying I shouldn’t be talking to women at the gym and that I shouldn’t “mess where I eat.” He made it sound like he was giving me advice about keeping things professional and not being flirty with women I see regularly.

Fast forward to last week: I saw him talking to a female friend of mine at the gym, and honestly, it looked like he was interested in her. I got annoyed because I felt like he was being hypocritical. The next day, I told my female friend that I thought he liked her and that I thought he was being a hypocrite because of what he told me months earlier.

I honestly assumed she would keep it between us since we’ve been friends for about a year and we have the same cultural background. I guess I was wrong, because today she told him what I said.

He texted me angry, saying I was talking behind his back. I’m not denying that I said it. He told me I need to apologize to him in front of her, and if I don’t, he will report me to my school and “make sure I don’t work there again.”

The confusing part is that he doesn’t work in education at all — he’s a data analyst. This was completely outside of work and unrelated to my job.

I realize it probably wasn’t the best move to talk about him behind his back, and I’m willing to apologize, but I want to do it on my own terms. I don’t feel like he gets to demand when and how I apologize.

My questions:

1. What could he realistically even report to my school?

2. Could my job actually be affected by something like this if it happened outside of work?

3. Are both of us just being childish about this situation?

I’m trying to handle it like an adult, but I also don’t want to feel pressured or threatened.

TLDR: should I stop at my bf’s house to sneak in and give him a surprise sleepy BJ?
He works first shift and I’m finishing up second shift right now. (10:30p)
He had a nap today and it’ll only rob him of ~12-15min of sleep.
I will not be providing a “heads” up

The urinalysis will be sent off to Quest labs. Wondering if I'll pass. The THC line is there but so faint it makes me nervous. Anyone had experience with a faint line on this particular test and the sample sent to Quest?

I'm a man in my 20s and live alone in a major city in Ohio working as a software engineer.

Right now I make about $105k/year. The job is pretty comfortable. I have good benefits, a short commute (about 10-15 minutes), decent PTO, and overall good work-life balance. The downside is that there's not much room to move up. Promotions are pretty rare, and I could realistically be making around the same salary for quite a while.

I recently got an offer for $135k/year at another company. On paper, the pay increase is nice, but there are trade-offs. The commute would be about an 30 minutes each way, the benefits aren't as good (higher health insurance costs, less PTO, and a smaller 401(k) match), and I'd probably be working a little harder.

The biggest advantage is that the new company seems to have much better career growth. There are clear promotion paths, people seem to move up internally, and it feels like a place where I could eventually earn significantly more than I would if I stayed where I am.

Financially, I don't need the extra money right now, but I also don't want to pass up an opportunity that could help my career long-term. What do I do?

Let my mom cut my hair thinking it was gonna be okay but its so bad and school is in a month im definitely gonna get bullied again oh my god so like what do i do now 😭🙏

Failed my drug test for thc but here me out, I stopped everything over 80 days, I’m overweight so I knew it would take longer to leave my system but gosh still pissed hot. The thing is they did a confirmatory test and dropped the cut off to 15 ng/ml. I was at 26 ng/ml (7/11/2026) I’m devastated because that’s below the initial 50 ng/ml cut off. I worked so hard to stay clean and to get into the program. I did drug tests at home but I guess them dropping the cut off really messed me up. I am so disappointed in myself. I still have been registered for classes and was able to pick clinical preferences. Of course I reached out about this but have not heard back other than general emails about the program. This was also my second attempt because my first one came out as dilute and they made me retest months later. I did the certo method and drank a bottle or two of water before my test the first time but I was still over 40 days clean. Anyways I just wanted to rant. I’m never touching anything ever again. This is so embarrassing and I can’t believe this may delay me from my goals. In a perfect world they will allow me to retest again because my levels are so low but I doubt it (still hope so but I’m in Texas and it seems strict af) 😭😭😭😭

I'm 18. I did something bad against my mom's rules and I've been keeping it a secret for 6 months. It's eating me up inside and I don't think I can take it anymore. I feel like if I don't tell her I'll explode.

WHAT I DID IS DOWN BELOW 😅

But I have four more weeks until I go to college. I don't know if i should just wait and tell her once I'm at college, if I should never tell her, or if I shoild just tell her now. Idk if this feeling is going to pass or if it will just stay with me. It's the worst anxiety I've ever felt. Or if I could disguise it as something else like, oh I'm just scared to moce away to college.

I'm also afraid if I tell her, she would stop helping me entirely, and I need her help getting places because I don't drive. I'm afraid she would cut contact or something. Idk.

We had a really bad fight last year and it's made me really scared. I just can't keep it in anymore, I feel like I'm going to have a panic attack every minute of the day.

WHAT I DID It's nothing bad I don't think. My friend said she agrees with me. I had a burner phone against her back because google wasn't allowed on my phone. I used the burner phone for senior pictures.

I just feel so guilty every time I literally do anything with her. She's done a lot for me, and I just feel so so guilty and awful.

Please help me. 🙏

When me and him first met... he told me he was hesitant about a relationship because of trust issues. But overtime... we are getting closer and he's slowly letting me in. We met last month. Im 22... (23 in 3 months). He's 19... (20 in 2 weeks).

Ive been waiting for a guy like him to find me. I have been single for years. And the guys I did talk to you were not compatible with me (spiritually and morally). But he is.

He likes to talk about our views on marriage, family, morals, and just life. (Last night he told me how deep his wedding vows would be).

We met at the movies last night. I can feel an energy shift in our interactions. And it's a good one. I can feel the tension between us. And it's kinda romantic. He said i'm the only person he be around, and vice versa.

He keeps bringing up the fact that I felt so familiar to him from day one... despite us not knowing eachother.

Should I be patient and continue to pursue this?

So, my youngest smallest nephew who i am the most protective over was caught watching Filthina Pig videos last week while on Bendy so his phone was taken away. We were horrified when we saw what Filthina Pig actually gets up to. Then next week he puts on this stupid war criminal halloween costume and he's allegedly been flanking his grades against because hes been on Bendy every time he goes to school. Either that or he's watching Filthina Pig bideos in the class room or filthina pig edits of the oddyssey.

Last week I posted about my boyfriend not wanting to stay at a hotel my family and I were planning to stay at next month for an upcoming trip for my cousins marine corp graduation.

I spoke to him about it (as many of you suggested) and he simply said he doesn’t want my dad wasting money on a hotel when it’s a two hour drive from our home area. Even if my dad said it was alright, my boyfriend says he’d rather just wake up earlier and drive down to my cousins marine corp graduation that day rather than pack a bag and have my family spend money on an extra room for he and I. He said I’m more than free to go there with my family as planned but I’m glad we cleared the air.

If I’m being honest, I’m still somewhat sad that he isn’t staying with us as the whole family had planned to spend the evening at dinner and exploring the local area so I thought this was a good opportunity to make some memories.

Don’t think there’s anything I should do at this point. But thank you all for your input.

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Hey everyone, I need an honest, outside perspective on my relationship dynamic because I’ve been trapped in a loop of guilt and self-doubt for weeks, and I don't know what to think anymore.

The Background:

I (M) have been preparing for the NEET medical entrance exam, which is a high-stakes, life-changing exam for me. Over the past year, my relationship has been extremely high-conflict, filled with long fights, emotional distance, and intense arguments.

The Major Crisis:

A while ago, my family went through a terrifying emergency—my father was taken into police custody, and our family home/security was in immediate danger. During this time, I was in a state of absolute terror, panic, and survival mode, on top of managing my intense exam prep.

Instead of getting support or peace during this crisis:

The Silent Treatment & Fights: My girlfriend barely spoke to me properly for 30 days (naraazthi) leading up to the exam.

Pressure to stay calm: She expected me to remain completely passive and calm about my family's crisis and didn't acknowledge the horror of what my family was going through.

10 Days of Fights Before NEET: Just a few days before my NEET exam, when I desperately needed peace to revise, we fought for 10 days straight over minor, trivial issues. She wouldn't give me the space or quiet I needed to focus. I used send her crying vedios of me saying that please understand me but she didn't , she used to fight even I said im having panic attacks

Where I Snapped:

Over this entire year of constant conflict, I snapped twice:

Moment 1: In a state of total emotional burnout and panic while dealing with my dad's arrest and exam stress, I vented heavily using regional slang from my home state (Madhya Pradesh). I used the word "saala" to vent about the terrible situation "tumne saala dimag kharab kr diya hai ") meaning ( damnn it , you have ruined my mind )Where I'm from, this is everyday casual slang used to vent frustration, but she took it as direct verbal abuse towards her.i said it when she was like tumko chor ke chali jaungi yeh woh and started to fight in the middle of the crisis where my father was about to get arrested

Moment 2: Right before the exam, after 10 days of non-stop fighting when I was desperately trying to study for my future, I finally reached my limit and set a hard boundary by saying "nhi baat krni bc"meaning ( fuck I don't want to talk to you)to make the argument stop so I could open my books.

The Current Problem:

Because of these two moments, she labels me as "verbally abusive."from my end I just vent out to the situation not to her . After all this incident she said you are cunt . ch\*\*\* e ho ,you are asshole g\*\*\*ndu ho yeh ho woh ho 😭most of the time I cuss related to me that my mind is fucked up and all. She thinks I'm saying to her

I live in Bangladesh.My age is 22 yrs old.My dreams are too big.My family status is middle class.My Uncle who lives in UK runs our family.I'm the only son of my family.Since childhood I'm always good a learning.That's why everybody has high hopes towards me.My education status is : Doing bachelor in Business studies 2nd year.

Skills I've gained :

Graphic Design (3 years ) also earned some money by being a social media post designer + some side projects = all the work was given by my Uncle from UK.

Video editing (1.5 years) also earned money doing work for news page which belong to my uncle.

By combining these skills and works I used to earn 15k BDT.

Note that,Since childhood every expenses was covered by my uncle.He even paid courses,travel fees, tuition fees,even bought me a PC for video editing work.He is a hero for me.

Now I want to go to Europe for better life.And My uncle is suggesting me to go to Malta via work permit visa (Line waiter).The salary is 1,200 euro Monthly.Altough since childhood I wanted to settle in London.But in recent time the visa ratio is low .What should I do? Just confused.He also isn't forcing me.He said ,if I don't wanna go then it's okay ,I can work for him for 15 k BDT salary.But in my country there are less opportunity. He is literally spending 19 lakh BDT for that Malta visa.

What should i do?

You can ask follow-up questions for better understanding of my situation.

This is a very very VERY short overview, if anything is confusing, ask but I need help and answers.

(We are both in the Navy, for context)

--Dating started July 25

-I left VA in Nov, tried long distance and was doing great.

-Her deployment started Apr 1st

-Her availability or demeanor FLIPPED 180 Soni did what I could to balance it. Reduced texts, showed understanding, etc

- Allegations and rumors got brought to my attention of her unfaithfulness

- I called to inquire and the ship's wifi went out while she started to reply "Look, I'm all the way over here and-" call dropped

- Immediately received a text saying (shortened ofc) "I'm not the woman you need right now, I appreciate you"

-Ghosted, blocked, and deleted on everything.

-2 months later, I see her as a suggestion on Instagram, 3 days later, same for FB.

- I make my profile public on purpose to open the door if she wants. SHE's viewed my story 3 days in a row now and TODAY she viewed it on her Main and Her Spare throw away page.

My opinions:

1) She's waving her hands like hey notice me, I'm allowing myself to be open and I want to reconnect but I don't know how.

2) She's testing the water to see if I'm mad or miss her (I'm not and I do, not like OMG but like...I miss you man vibe) but I don't wanna reach and then her be like a skittish cat and run again.

3) because She doesn't know HOW to reach out cause of shame or guilt, will her pride win over her and I'll miss my window if she wants ME to reach out and I lose the opportunity to rekindle a friendship if not fix what got lost.

I've thought about something as simple as leaving a like on a post or a short message with "Hey *****, I seen you kinda opened the door for communication alil and I was just checking to see how the deployment's going. Hope you're doing well" and leave the ball in her court." Or go the funny route cause that's who I am "So I see your creepin and just wanted you to know, you can say hi and not be a stranger if you want" or continue to leave it where it lies

The title is the way it is cause I already know the majority replies and answers "She left, your better off" "She showed her true colors" "Respect yourself and don't"

It's my curiosity that's having me inquiry.