I (17f) have been struggling with a porn addiction since I was 12 years old, and I am currently 17, turning 18 this year.

It began when my friends introduced me to hentai. Over time, I gradually became more curious and started watching real porn. Initially, I stuck to simple, vanilla content with a man and a woman, which felt satisfying.

However, that soon stopped being enough, and I progressed to rougher videos involving tying and gagging attractive women. For a period, that was what aroused me most. Eventually, things escalated further to rape porn, where I began imagining myself in those situations.

This has changed how I behave in everyday life—I find myself craving more physical attention from others. At the same time, I have been spending significantly more time at home because I have developed body dysmorphia, constantly comparing myself to the stunning women I see in those videos. I often end up watching porn for hours at a time.

I am really worried about how this is affecting me and would appreciate any advice.

(I am just writing this post again cause my previous account got deleted, my previous username was Ok-Variation9569)

I've been addicted to porn since I was probably about 12/13 years old and I'm 32 now, so a long time! I got married just over a month ago and we've started trying for a baby. My wife is beautiful but I find I'm not desperate for sex (we have been together for 11 years anyway but still) and I think my addiction to porn is ruining my libido.

I'll masturbate usually once a day/every two days, my Reddit was my go to porn source as it's banned in the UK. I've unfollowed all the porn pages I followed. Even now, waking up I thought 'I could have a quick hit' but I'm trying to be strong.

Day 4 now, can hopefully keep this going, if anyone has any advice let me know 😇

how did you cope? what do I do if he keeps lying about not watching it, but I know for a fact that he even has certain women highlighted to watch

You have to realize you have a problem, then accept it.

is the best thing you can do,yeah ik the first days are pure hell,especially when you haven't gone a small number of days in a long time,

like me for the past months,the biggest struggle was around 7 days period,now after I got through the first week, I didn't even feel like the second week had passed.

YOU CAN DO IT,Seriously, you are not alone in this battle, you are capable of doing it from all points of view.

I would like to quit and today is my day one. Ive been on porn since 13 and ive tried to quit in the past but never worked. Now im trying to stay active here so i have someone to be disappointed if i fail and if your thinking of quitting join me tell me your story and i hope all of us reading who want to quit take the time to Join.

So basically what the title suggest somehow I made this far after such a long time want to keep it going but now getting the urge to see some rn trying my best to distract myself from it

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Seems lika its not that hard i can control my urges things are getting better

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I have been addicted to porn for 10 years. Mostly the masturbation, but it has Led into open addiction. I need help ASAP. Please dm me on here for ways to help. I am desperate

I have been gooning for 2 years , I always make a bit of progress and fk it up , I tried everything but I just can't stop , I have been doing it 3 or 2 times a day, can't belive I became like this , I tried deleting apps and shut but never works , always finding a way to do it , imma use reddit to talk about things I can't say to people I know , and to get some help if someone know 🥀

3 days in (not my first time around) but I've already hit the first bargaining stage. "What if I just watch once a day" "who am I actually doing this for, I'm allowed to have pleasure" "what if i limit it to 10 mins no more" "just today it's just one day"

But I can't give in. Giving into a bargain is like tripping while doing parkour on a skyscraper. You don't just scrape your knee and get back up you plummet right back down.

Honestly this is always the worst part of this all. The strong desire with the bargaining.

On top of all that, my casual relationship thing with this girl just ended so that's great lol.

Boredom, desire, and bargaining the 3 Bs.

But I got this.

I have been jerking off since like the age of 12. It’s just weird because I’ve done it for so long I feel like I can’t stop. I am 4 days in to not watching porn. I owe it to my partner to be better for her. I am just wondering what are some tips that helped getting you to stop watching. Or to lessen the need to watch.

Can someone give me advice on how to quit? I’ve been addicted to it since I was 7, I feel horrible. I’m in a relationship too, I want to improve for him so badly, he knows I’m addicted and doesn’t mind it, finding it cute in a way. He was once an addict too before me, so he gives me advice and such on how to prevent it and what helps him, but it doesn’t work. I struggle so bad, it’s just become a habit now, it’s always been part of my life to just watch it, even not to masturbate, just to watch. I def have slowed down ever since I got with him, but it hasn’t stopped. Any advice?

Hi. Sorry in advance if this post is not that clear, English is not my mother language.

I'm 23 and I'm a porn addict, or at least I think so. I quit porn like 6 or 5 months ago. I really can't remember exactly when was the last time I watched porn. I want to share my experience because, to be completely honest, I want to feel like someone is listening, and, hopefully, it can help someone in a way.

My first contact with porn was when I was 8, but I started watching actively and doing PMO since I was 12. I can't remember exactly what the frequency was, but the last 5 years or so, I would watch every day. Some days I would even watch 3 times a day, and would PMO every time. I tried to quit when I started to watch this often, but nothing worked. I even promised my girlfriend to quit, but that lasted something like a week.

I discovered I had a serious problem because I couldn't get a climax with my girlfriend, I just could get a climax jerking off myself. That was 3 years ago, and continued until the end of my relationship.

This year I started to make some changes in my life. I received a lot of help from a friend, so I started to hit the gym. I can't explain exactly how, if it was the gym, the fact that I was doing physical activity, or whatever, but I'm sure it helped.

And I started to do something to quit porn: stop just one day.

I would watch one day, then stop one day, then watch another day. Then I would stop for two days. Then three. Then four. Then I would watch just weekends. Once or twice I would watch when I wasn't supposed to, but I wouldn't care, I would just continue as if I didn't watch. And one weekend where I had permission to watch I just... Idk, I felt like I could wait until the next weekend, and the next weekend I wouldn't feel like I needed it. And here I am, 5 or 6 months clean.

There are days, like today, when it is extremely hard to not watch. There are days where I see a direct link, or a photo in social media which triggers me real hard. I thought it'd be easier with time, but it is not like that. I think we all know how easy it is to watch porn. It takes seconds. And sometimes it is really, really hard to not.

Sometimes I try to negotiate with myself: maybe with the control I have developed I can watch without making it a problem. But I know myself, and that's not the way I work.

So, well, that's what I wanted to say. This way worked for me until now, and I hope it can help someone. For the people who have quit: do you feel the same as me?

Hey all, I'm 22M, trying to quit my porn addiction for the umpteenth time.

This is the first time I will use Reddit as a support mechanism. Let's see if it works.

I have tried beating my porn addiction for a year, and every single attempt has failed. I am disgusted with myself every time I am done. But I can't stop. It's every day. It has gotten so bad to the point where I sexualize things that aren't sexual, like TV shows or movies. I was first exposed to porn when I was 8. I've likely had this addiction for a while. I know I should throw away everything in my house that is capable of connecting to the internet, but I know I can't do that. I NEED help.

My boyfriend, 20M, has struggled with porn addiction since he was 13. We've been dating for 10 months. When we first started dating, it was never a thought until I he mentioned that he has a thing for Asian women. I questioned why he would tell me that and later left it at that.

Months after I that I went to check his phone because it was being blown up while we were sleeping and found tons of pictures and videos of other women including asians but what seems to be self made stuff that he got directly from other women. It struck something in me, and I immediately got sick and threw up and was up all night thinking about it. I looked further, and there was so much of it... it makes me anxious sharing this because everyone has told me that I'm wrong for not liking porn especially while in a relationship and planning for the future. He knew I didn't like porn. It hurt because he would lie and say that he didn't do anything, mention that he has other fetishes, he forgot about them, etc. all the excuses in the book.

So recently, I walked into him watching it before he left for work. I left for my morning walk and then told him and explained the ultimatum to him. He either has to get his shit together, or I'm leaving him and that it is all up to him. I told him that I was done voicing how I felt over and over and not being heard and that he is gonna have to make the change without my help since he wouldn't listen before. I didn't sugar coat it because I don't want him to think that I'm gonna let this just go by and that his actions don't have consequences.

I made it clear to him that I'm not insecure but that I believe that if you're gonna have a relationship, you shouldn't watch porn or have nude photos/videos of other women. To me, that's just common sense. I also made it clear that I'm gonna tolerate a cycle like this, and if it doesn't change, I'm leaving him. I don't really feel comfortable sleeping with him after this, so I also made the choice to sleep on the couch.

Thank you to those for taking the time to read this and maybe share feedback. Any feedback is welcome, I'm open to hearing others' thoughts, opinions, or advice. I would like advice on how to face this, though, because I don't really know where to go on from now. I'm rambling. But any advice is welcome! Thank you :)

I've had this addiction for about 6 years making mutiole accounts to stay hidden , and after stoping a month ago i still feel guilty for ehat i beat my meat too, i'm i gonna be seen as weird if someone found out my addiction.

I’m 15 and like I watch been watching porn 3 times a day at least. Like im shooting blanks. It just got worse for some reason idk. And I feel so like tired too maybe that’s cuz of the porn as well.
It went from porn to hentai and then these ai chats that are like porn too. And now it’s like all 3 right now.

Since I started my recovery journey last year I started keeping a journal to write out what that little voice in my head, the addiction itself, does say to me. The reason for this is to occupy myself with writing/typing, and also laying out those thoughts and reading them back allows me to process the thoughts, see how the addicted part of my mind tries to trick me, and ultimately take power away from that voice. Here is an example of one I wrote a few days ago.

"You have been doing so well, you are in a better place mentally and happier in general. Probably you can begin to enjoy porn responsibly. You can have a healthy relationship with it. Besides, you're not even the person you used to be. You've done the work. You understand your triggers now, you're not going to just spiral like before. One time isn't going to undo eighteen months of progress. You're stronger than that now, right?

It's not even about the porn anyway. It's about proving to yourself that you're in control. That YOU decide, not some rule you set for yourself over a year ago in a completely different headspace. Rules can change. You're allowed to update them.

And honestly, everyone else seems to manage it fine. Maybe you were never actually 'addicted,' maybe you just had a rough patch. Normal people watch porn sometimes. Why does it have to be all or nothing for you?

Just this once, to test it. To see how it feels now. If it's bad, you'll know. You'll stop. You always find your way back anyway."

Of course at first it can sound very convincing, it doesn't sound like a threat, it sounds reasonable. It uses my own progress against me, "you've done the work" as a reason to undo it. That's the part that scares me most, it's not stupid, it's clever.

Writing it out instead of just hearing it took the power away. Once it's on paper it stops sounding like truth and starts sounding like a sales pitch.

Anyone else do something like this?

For context, I (F19) have been dating my bf (M23) for about 6 months. A while ago, my bf admitted to me that he had some issues with porn, he said he was addicted to it but was desperately trying to get better (he didn’t go into too much detail, I honestly regret not having asked any questions bc I have no idea how to approach the subject now). I had noticed some signs before he said anything, for example, he never finishes when we have sex, he always has to use his hand to get there and asks me to “pose” por him. This is something that really bothers me and I just don’t know how to talk about it with him without making him feel bad or ashamed about it.

Since I don’t really know anything other that what he told me (which wasn’t much), I always find myself looking for signs or something that might help me understand where his head is with the whole porn thing now that we’re dating. Because of that, I recently did something that I know isn’t right.

He has his email account logged on my pc, so I decided to look through his email just to see if I find anything, like a subscription to some website or something. So here’s what I found: an email from an escort service informing that his subscription would change prices. The email was from August of last year, we weren’t even together but still, I felt so nauseous reading that… there were some other emails from that same website from previous months, but nothing past August, so I don’t know if he’s still subscribed to it.

I looked into it and it turned out to be a website where you can basically watch porn or hire escorts, I have no idea if he only watched the videos or if he had actually hired one of the girls. I really don’t know what to do. I considered trying to log into the account by clicking “forgot password” and getting an access code sent to his email, but I’m afraid he’ll see the notification even if I delete the email.

When we talk about past partners, I’m really open about it, especially because I don’t really have much to talk about, he’s the second guy I’ve slept with but he refuses to tell me how many partners he’s had, I just know that I’m his first serious gf.

I’m honestly going crazy here, this isn’t something I can talk to my mom or my friends about it, what should I do?

I’ve been addicted for many years and I’ve been very convicted lately on stopping. I’m married, we want to have kids down the line (about a year or so), I am having trouble with my urges. I’ve found if I have a lot to do or commitments that run into 2 days consecutively, I don’t give in. I need some tips and tricks that I’m not doing. I have been on a bible reading kick lately and it seems to work, but those urges are strong. Idk if there are support groups or things people do that generally make it harder to give in, but I’m open to almost any ideas

I've (F26) been with my boyfriend (M24) for a bit over 5 months. He's my first boyfriend, and I was very inexperienced before him, so I struggle to know what's normal in a healthy relationship.

Early on, I noticed he rarely complimented me. He called me "pretty" for the first time about 6 weeks in. But about 3 months into dating, we were watching a movie and he turned to me with this excited, boyish look and said "isn't she [the lead actress] too pretty for him?" I had never seen him look at me that way. And he complimented her so easily. He also had this habit of saying "woah!" when a sexualized conventionally attractive woman appears on screen (ads, social media), and he stares intently and goes still with this vacant look on his face. He's never looked at me like that

One night, we playfully shared what we watch in porn. He hesitantly looked up specific videos by title and specific actresses by name. During it he said "this feels weird... like I'm being unfaithful." I started feeling uneasy because those women look nothing like me (I'm chubby, he seems to prefer skinny, conventionally attractive white women). This fed into an earlier worry. He asked if I'd go to the gym a couple times early on, even though I was upfront about my body type on my dating profile.

Since that movie night, I've been asking him indirectly and directly if he's even attracted to me. I always get a "yes" which felt hollow to me. Especially because he never says something like “of course I desire you! I love x y and x about you.” I asked why he says "woah!" to women on screens but not to me. He didn't answer. I asked if I'm the Madonna to him (referencing the Madonna/whore complex, look it up if unfamiliar). I said I "want to be the whore too" and he said "you don't really dress like that though" later saying "show some arm, belly, short skirts." That hurt because I wear short skirts all the time. I guess it just doesn't register as sexy to him

I asked him why he messaged me on the dating app we met, as a fun reminiscing question. Yet he said "because I thought you were cute, like many others, and because you were reasonably in my league." When I asked if that was just settling, he groaned and said "no," tired of me asking if he's settling for me

I told him I feel like Burger King, good, affordable, accessible, while other women are Michelin star restaurants. He said "but I love Burger King! Great deals. That sounds exhausting eating at Michelin star restaurants everyday"

Recently, I wore a maid outfit/lingerie for his birthday. He said it was "awesome" instead of sexy or hot. And during sex I felt like I was giving him a task to do. I cried after and we had the same conversation again. I told him I see how he lights up for women on screens but never for me. I told him that I’m not even asking him to stop looking at other women, I just want to be looked at that way too. And he didn’t really say anything. I asked if he strongly sexually desires me. He said "I do desire you" (not what I asked, i specifically said "strongly"). I told him to just admit it. He said "I don't think I can give you what you want" and "if I do say it, will you even be able to accept it?" Thats the most I could get out of him

There was one weekend when he was introducing me where he was suddenly a lot more forward than usual. He kissed me in dressing rooms and said my underwear turned him on. And sex felt more passionate. It was the clearest stretch of unprompted desire in 5 months. But around that same time we also stopped using condoms, and he's told me before that sex with condoms "feels like nothing" to him. When we first started having sex, I also asked him why he doesn't cum (he uses his hand later to finish) and he said its because he "masturbated too much he lost feeling in his dick." So I don't know how much of that weekend, and the more recent forwardness, is him actually wanting me versus sex just feeling better physically

My therapist suggested he might have a porn addiction. But honestly I just don't think he's that attracted to me. I think his type is conventionally attractive women, and I'm not that. I think he's with me because he thinks he can't get his type. I asked him, during a tense conversation once if he has a porn addiction and he said “probably” with an uncomfortable laugh. So I just dropped it because I didn’t know what else to say or if he was lying.

The problem is we get along so well. We laugh a lot, I feel safe with him, I'm completely myself around him. But I don't feel like a girlfriend. I feel like this weird in-between thing. Not just a friend exactly, but not desired like a girlfriend. I really like who he is as a person and I've grown to love him, thats why I'm still with him. I KNOWWW this is still early on in our relationship but everything else about us is so good I dont want to be hasty about this. I only talk about the bad in this post but he is genuinely very sweet to me. He writes me poems and remembers the little things I say and treats me with respect and he even makes me laugh when I’m crying, somehow. But anyways

What do you all think? Is this porn addiction, or am I just not his type?

TL;DR: Boyfriend rarely compliments me, gets visibly excited by conventionally attractive women on screens, rarely cums during sex, deflects every direct question about desire, said I'm "reasonably in his league", but we have great emotional chemistry. I don't know if his behavior is due to porn addiction or if he's just not that attracted to me

My longterm boyfriend and I have been having some sex issues the last 1.5 years, way less frequent, maybe once a month and when we do it he doesnt finish.

He's not a big talker so he always just said hes shy and in his head. I thought it was because he was cheating, not attracted to me or a number of other reasons.

Well, I read his journal (I know its bad) and he wrote about his daily porn use and masterbating multiple times every day. He wrote that he wants to fix it and is attracted to me but that he cant stay hard due to being used to his hand.

My question is, do I tell him I know? How do I helo him? How do I get the attention I so badly want from him?

Edit to add: I've tried to talk openly about our sex issues and he says he wants to fix it but gets angry if i try to dig in deeper about the issue (I now think its because hes ashamed). Also we are in couples therapy but he will not talk about sex there either

Also please give advice if you ever delt with a partner that struggled and how you overcame it or how you yourself stopped watching porn