Has anyone been able to save a relationship after porn addiction? My partner has been lying for 3 years but things escalated when it spiralled into online cheating. He hid it until I found out. I had no idea, there were no signs. Our relationship was great in every other aspect, no issues with sex life or anything.

He has started therapy, downloaded the blockers and deleted all social media. He is insistent that he’s dedicated to rebuilding the relationship. But I don’t know if I can get that trust back.

Is it possible to save the relationship? Do success stories exist?

I've had this addiction for about 6 years making mutiole accounts to stay hidden , and after stoping a month ago i still feel guilty for ehat i beat my meat too, i'm i gonna be seen as weird if someone found out my addiction.

I’m 15 and like I watch been watching porn 3 times a day at least. Like im shooting blanks. It just got worse for some reason idk. And I feel so like tired too maybe that’s cuz of the porn as well.
It went from porn to hentai and then these ai chats that are like porn too. And now it’s like all 3 right now.

I have been jerking off since like the age of 12. It’s just weird because I’ve done it for so long I feel like I can’t stop. I am 4 days in to not watching porn. I owe it to my partner to be better for her. I am just wondering what are some tips that helped getting you to stop watching. Or to lessen the need to watch.

Hi, hypersexual male here who needs some advice. I've been masturbating since i was introduced to porn at the age of 11. I've always assumed it was just my hormones acting up but now at the age of 33, I've realized its why it ruined my two previous relationships, all i could think about was sex and although i did really love them and did the best i could as a boyfriend, i still kept masturbating every single day. It made me less intimate and whenever we had sex i could not even finish, i had to masturbate after to even do that.

Does anyone else have any advice on how to stop? I have been single for the last 13 years and have been afraid to even try to get into another relationship since i know i haven't changed. I've tried reaching out to therapists and psychiatrists on my porn addiction before, but nothing has worked.

I'm going around joining subreddits to try gather any advice to help me quit. It's ruining my life. What can I do??

(Sorry about my english)6 years ago i was just a kid obsessed with pokemon naruto mario etc...i would love all sorts sorts of nerdy culture because thats who i was as a person..porn killed that person a long time ago.countless and countless videos of porn just fucking my brain up from a young age and suddenly the excitement just changes into entrapment,and before you know it ive ventured into destructive kinks which is basically the cause of all my paranoia and low self esteem,every day i have to think about how much of a disgusting degenerate i am and having to be constantly reminded that i cant fucking change,lust has filled me with genuine rage withing myself because of my actions,lust has removed my ability to see myself as an actual human like i cant emphasise enough how much i just want to crack my head open sometimes,now some of you guys might not my addiction is that bad but for someone like me it really is,all ive wanted to do be someone that comforts people but instead i potentially hurt people instead..but most of this is useless anyway.i know most of you guys probably already have the addiction but i just want to make things clear.uncontrolled lust can lead down a very very dark path..while luckily i was still able to stop myself from going that far down but some other havent and are probably facing a much worse crisis than me.i feel like ive created a gap so far apart from the person i want to be that theres no use trying to even get on that path.

P.s i might aswell say it my lust addiction has turned into some sort of online exhibitionitism,yes im one of those degenerates that goon on ometv.

Since I started my recovery journey last year I started keeping a journal to write out what that little voice in my head, the addiction itself, does say to me. The reason for this is to occupy myself with writing/typing, and also laying out those thoughts and reading them back allows me to process the thoughts, see how the addicted part of my mind tries to trick me, and ultimately take power away from that voice. Here is an example of one I wrote a few days ago.

"You have been doing so well, you are in a better place mentally and happier in general. Probably you can begin to enjoy porn responsibly. You can have a healthy relationship with it. Besides, you're not even the person you used to be. You've done the work. You understand your triggers now, you're not going to just spiral like before. One time isn't going to undo eighteen months of progress. You're stronger than that now, right?

It's not even about the porn anyway. It's about proving to yourself that you're in control. That YOU decide, not some rule you set for yourself over a year ago in a completely different headspace. Rules can change. You're allowed to update them.

And honestly, everyone else seems to manage it fine. Maybe you were never actually 'addicted,' maybe you just had a rough patch. Normal people watch porn sometimes. Why does it have to be all or nothing for you?

Just this once, to test it. To see how it feels now. If it's bad, you'll know. You'll stop. You always find your way back anyway."

Of course at first it can sound very convincing, it doesn't sound like a threat, it sounds reasonable. It uses my own progress against me, "you've done the work" as a reason to undo it. That's the part that scares me most, it's not stupid, it's clever.

Writing it out instead of just hearing it took the power away. Once it's on paper it stops sounding like truth and starts sounding like a sales pitch.

Anyone else do something like this?

I have been gooning for 2 years , I always make a bit of progress and fk it up , I tried everything but I just can't stop , I have been doing it 3 or 2 times a day, can't belive I became like this , I tried deleting apps and shut but never works , always finding a way to do it , imma use reddit to talk about things I can't say to people I know , and to get some help if someone know 🥀

Hey all, I'm 22M, trying to quit my porn addiction for the umpteenth time.

This is the first time I will use Reddit as a support mechanism. Let's see if it works.

I'm a 27 yo male and for as long as I remember I've been jerking off at least once or twice a day, what's worse is that I used to jerk off more than that every single day. I'm ashamed, I feel awful, broken, stupid, failure, a moron that has had masturbation addiction since I was very young.

How fucked truly am I? I still get morning wood which is a good sign but I can't keep an erection for long unless I'm in certain position and that's mostly laying in bed. I lose erection if I stand up quick. I feel ashamed and broken.

If I tried to reducing masturbation to once a week, will this fix my manhood back to somewhat normal? I feel like I've destroyed my penis beyond any recovery chances. I'm seeing a doctor soon to see if things can be fixed.

I've been addicted to porn since I was probably about 12/13 years old and I'm 32 now, so a long time! I got married just over a month ago and we've started trying for a baby. My wife is beautiful but I find I'm not desperate for sex (we have been together for 11 years anyway but still) and I think my addiction to porn is ruining my libido.

I'll masturbate usually once a day/every two days, my Reddit was my go to porn source as it's banned in the UK. I've unfollowed all the porn pages I followed. Even now, waking up I thought 'I could have a quick hit' but I'm trying to be strong.

Day 4 now, can hopefully keep this going, if anyone has any advice let me know 😇

After telling me he had been sober / abstinent from his addiction since we first met. I just found out he has indeed been binge watching, as well as watching womens content we have previously had issues with IRL.

I guess this is a vent. But also a way to encourage husbands/Wives/partners on this sub Reddit to continue their journey in recovery. I’m wishing the best for you all!

This addiction is real. Much like drugs. It can affect a home. Everyone taking the oath to recovery I’m so proud of! God speed.

How it feels after quitting masterbation?and most importantly how to quit it? I'm doing 7 days no fab challenge today is first day .my #day 1 no fab

Hi. Sorry in advance if this post is not that clear, English is not my mother language.

I'm 23 and I'm a porn addict, or at least I think so. I quit porn like 6 or 5 months ago. I really can't remember exactly when was the last time I watched porn. I want to share my experience because, to be completely honest, I want to feel like someone is listening, and, hopefully, it can help someone in a way.

My first contact with porn was when I was 8, but I started watching actively and doing PMO since I was 12. I can't remember exactly what the frequency was, but the last 5 years or so, I would watch every day. Some days I would even watch 3 times a day, and would PMO every time. I tried to quit when I started to watch this often, but nothing worked. I even promised my girlfriend to quit, but that lasted something like a week.

I discovered I had a serious problem because I couldn't get a climax with my girlfriend, I just could get a climax jerking off myself. That was 3 years ago, and continued until the end of my relationship.

This year I started to make some changes in my life. I received a lot of help from a friend, so I started to hit the gym. I can't explain exactly how, if it was the gym, the fact that I was doing physical activity, or whatever, but I'm sure it helped.

And I started to do something to quit porn: stop just one day.

I would watch one day, then stop one day, then watch another day. Then I would stop for two days. Then three. Then four. Then I would watch just weekends. Once or twice I would watch when I wasn't supposed to, but I wouldn't care, I would just continue as if I didn't watch. And one weekend where I had permission to watch I just... Idk, I felt like I could wait until the next weekend, and the next weekend I wouldn't feel like I needed it. And here I am, 5 or 6 months clean.

There are days, like today, when it is extremely hard to not watch. There are days where I see a direct link, or a photo in social media which triggers me real hard. I thought it'd be easier with time, but it is not like that. I think we all know how easy it is to watch porn. It takes seconds. And sometimes it is really, really hard to not.

Sometimes I try to negotiate with myself: maybe with the control I have developed I can watch without making it a problem. But I know myself, and that's not the way I work.

So, well, that's what I wanted to say. This way worked for me until now, and I hope it can help someone. For the people who have quit: do you feel the same as me?

I am a 17 male, I have been talking to this girl from my math class and I’ve been freaky towards her and I know it’s making her uncomfortable, I have been watching porn ever since I was 8 and can’t stop it, it’s hurts my mental health every time I jerk off and I don’t know how to get over this horrible addiction, can someone please help me I really love this girl. Thanks (idk if you guys are but if you comment pls don’t delete it I need your help)

I have tried beating my porn addiction for a year, and every single attempt has failed. I am disgusted with myself every time I am done. But I can't stop. It's every day. It has gotten so bad to the point where I sexualize things that aren't sexual, like TV shows or movies. I was first exposed to porn when I was 8. I've likely had this addiction for a while. I know I should throw away everything in my house that is capable of connecting to the internet, but I know I can't do that. I NEED help.

Hi folks,

I entered a relationship with the most beautiful and special woman I have ever met in my entire life about 2 years ago. Over the course of that relationship, I've come to the realization that I am deeply afflicted by porn addiction and it has really started to damage the relationship I have with my girlfriend in ways I could have never imagined.

I've found myself lying to her and even gaslighting her about my continued porn use, because I'm ashamed of myself and I am unable to be honest that I don't have my addiction under control as much as I thought I did, or really much at all at this point. I'd never have considered myself a liar or that kind of awful person before my struggles with porn addiction, but here I am, and I know it needs to stop. I know I need help.

There have been multiple times that I've found myself unable to properly be intimate with her, and I have reason to believe that a lot of it ties back to that porn addiction. It feels like I'm unable to orgasm unless I have basically a death grip going on, which I know for sure is not something normal. I have also spent a majority of my life single, and as ashamed as I am to admit it, I became accustomed to masturbating to cartoon porn, porn games, and hentai over the course of those years. I think that part of the reason I'm unable to perform has been due to a mixture of that porn addiction and spending so much time looking at things that are not real women.

Beyond just sexual things, I've found it's warped my perception of what a real relationship and what real intimacy is like. As incredibly fucked up as it is, I even still find myself thinking about cartoon women and anime women even though I have the most beautiful girl in the world sitting right next to me in bed. I find myself thinking about porn even though she's right there with me. It's truly twisted my mind in ways I didn't realize, nor could I ever comprehend. I've even had to ask myself at times if I prefer cartoons over real women due to years of this addiction, even though I know how insane that is to even question.

I am really hoping someone else here has dealt with anything like this before, and that it all ties back to the porn addiction. That quitting porn will fix this twisted thing in my brain that makes me think about fictional characters, become emotionally invested in them, and makes me fantasize about interacting with them (dates, conversations, etc.). I don't want to be thinking about anything other than my girlfriend when we're together. It's so awful to do to her, and it makes me feel like a monster. It makes me feel like I'm cheating on her due to this obsession with porn and random characters, to be thinking about those things when we're together. It's completely ridiculous, completely shameful, and completely wrong.

Since this realization, I've been trying to quit porn for several months now. Initially I tried quitting porn and just masturbating here and there, but I've found I always end up failing myself and relapsing back to full blown porn addiction. It has been SO MUCH HARDER to quit than I ever thought it would be. It's been so disheartening, so frustrating, so depressing. After the last few failed attempts at quitting, I've been trying nofap and it seems to be taking for now, but I am terrified that I am just going to fail again. I'm also not sure if cold turkey is the best way to ease into this, or if there's something else I should be doing on this journey to quit my negative behaviors and prevent another relapse.

I'm coming here to ask if anyone's dealt with anything even remotely similar to my experiences, and what you would recommend if you were in my shoes? Is cold turkey the way to go? Are there any things you found that helped you stay nofap? Are there any pitfalls I should be mindful of? Things I should avoid? How much can I expect things to change after months of nofap? Will it fix my issues with intimacy and being properly attracted to real women, or is that an issue I probably need to talk to a therapist about? What can I do to just feel normal and feel attracted to normal things again? And sorry for all of the questions, I'm just really struggling with all of this right now. It's ruining my life and it's causing me to hurt my girlfriend in ways I will never be able to forgive myself for.

Thank you for any input and any suggestions you all have, I really do not want to fail again. I want to change and I want to be a better man than I have been to my girlfriend. I am terrified that I will lose her due to my addiction, if I am unable to stay on my nofap journey. It's already damaging our relationship, and I really want to try and fix what damage I've already caused however I can.

3 days in (not my first time around) but I've already hit the first bargaining stage. "What if I just watch once a day" "who am I actually doing this for, I'm allowed to have pleasure" "what if i limit it to 10 mins no more" "just today it's just one day"

But I can't give in. Giving into a bargain is like tripping while doing parkour on a skyscraper. You don't just scrape your knee and get back up you plummet right back down.

Honestly this is always the worst part of this all. The strong desire with the bargaining.

On top of all that, my casual relationship thing with this girl just ended so that's great lol.

Boredom, desire, and bargaining the 3 Bs.

But I got this.

my boyfriend and i have been together for 10 months, and porn has been a consistent problem. no matter what kind of affection or effort i show, he always feels a need to “test wether he can still jack off or not”. i constantly feel less than, and he always says it’s a personal problem that has nothing to do with me. but i have a very hard time believing this, because no matter what i do or change, it’s consistently an issue. i’ve told him it will never be acceptable for me, so if he wants to keep consistently with this habit, we shouldn’t be together & to please just leave me. from what i have seen, he kept consistently without it for months, and one day felt the need to see if he’s still addicted. i just wanted to know if i can handle this and if it would change with my boundaries. i will never be okay with him watching it while we are together, and it’s coming to a point where i feel hopeless and disgusted. i want this to work, but i feel like im being disrespected. he will also turn around the blame on me for bringing up him watching in the past, saying im making a problem by bringing it up. i can’t tell if im being gaslighted or manipulated, or if im sensitive because of my preference of not being okay with this habit. i want to understand and i want to be understood, but i don’t know if they coincide. i want honest and open opinions, i have no judgement of people with this lifestyle, but i can’t be in a relationship with someone who can’t part from this addiction.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. He has never given me any reason to mistrust him and has only ever treated me well our entire relationship.

A few weeks ago, I picked up his phone to check the time and saw some Instagram notifications from an account I didn’t recognise. Confused, I clicked into the notifications. I found a fake account which he had been using to dm literally thousands of girls, asking for nude pictures over the past few months. From the looks of it, he messaged anyone and everyone, as long as they were female. The sheer volume of messages is not right. It seems compulsive. Some of them responded and sent them and he sent some back. Some of them spoke for a few weeks. He sent them pictures of his face, and gave them real details of his life. Comparing the time stamps on the messages, he would message me and then them within minutes of each other.

I confronted him about it and he immediately denied it at first. Later when we spoke, he admitted that he has been addicted to porn for our entire relationship on and off. He recently started watching it again and it quickly spiralled into him messaging girls. He swears it had nothing to do with me, that he simply couldn’t control it. I’m struggling to see how he could do something like that if he truly loved me like he said he does.

He said he had set a cut off, and if it happened again he was going to tell me, but I really struggle to believe this. He didn’t meet up with anyone in person, but he was purposely targeting people who were visiting his city, which makes me think it would have gotten to that point soon if I hadn’t have found the account…

He has reached out to a therapist and swears that he is committed to taking the steps to get better, he still wants a future with us. I just don’t know how I will ever trust him again, there were zero signs and I found the account by a fluke… is it possible to come back from this?

Is this something he will continue to suffer with for the rest of his life or is it possible to recover? Please help me…

I am on my 23rd day without porn, and as the time went on I started to notice that anytime I have a super strong desire to relapse, I immediately go and grab a cigarette and smoke it. And before trying to quit, I usually smoked like 6-8 cigarettes a day, now it is something like 15-16. I know that smoking 6-8 is also very bad for your health, but I am concerned now that I smoke double of that it can make me just addicted more to nicotine and I will permanently be smoking like a pack a day which I really do not want to do.

Is there anyone who had a situation like that? Did you stop smoking more after a month or few?

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