Hey guys! 18Male finally met with my 18F girlfriend and we had the best 3 days ever! It's worth it guys! Went roller skating and sat by the lake for hours just enjoying each others companies

I don’t normally post here but decided hey why not!! I 21F and my boyfriend 23M finally met after a year of being long distance 🩷. OH! And he got me a promise ring 🥹!!

I've (25f) been at his (26m) place for a few days and I told him "if we played roblox and you died in a game, I would spend robux to rev you" and he said "what about snapchat streak" and I said no. Then he told me that he's spent money on it multiple times!!! I thought the streak was reviving on its own because he sends the streak within a certain time frame, but I guess he's just been spending a dollar every single time?!!? And when I asked him why, he said "I know you would be sad if it died" and oml I am so lucky :') maybe mundane and silly to a lot of people, but I've never had anyone be so kind and understanding to me and I wanted to share how sweet this is.

Realized I had updated on the discord but never provided an update here. My husband and I finally closed the distance for good at the beginning of this month. We were long distance from February 2020 until July 2026 - 6 years and 10 trips!

We met through a mutual online friend while playing Dead by Daylight and quickly grew fond of each other. The pandemic restrictions kept us from meeting until nearly 2 years into our relationship. It's wild to look back and realize everything we went through to be together, and I imagine it'll continue to be a hell of a tale to tell friends, family, maybe children someday.

We married in June 2024 knowing that we'd apply for me to move to Sweden once my husband secured a permanent employment contract and suitable apartment. We were able to apply for my residence permit last December and received our approval in March of this year following my interview at the Swedish Embassy in Washington, DC. It took a few months to sell my house and line up all of the logistics, but I moved here earlier this month with my 3 cats.

I am so looking forward to seeing how our life is now that we can build it together in-person! And I want to thank the folks in the discord server who were always wonderful company, especially when I was going through the heartaches of airport goodbyes. I hope everyone here is able to see the distance end. Happy to answer any questions on the process too! ❤️

I'm so frustrated right now! We've been counting down our next visit for 3 months already, we finally got to the day of my travel and we could both barely sleep the night before (y'all know how it is). I'm meant to have an 8 hour flight, a short layover, and then another 9 hour flight. I should have been in his arms 5 hours ago. Should have. Instead I'm sitting in a hotel in Abu Dhabi because my first flight arrived late 🙃 I have to stay for a whole 24 hours until the next flight. Without my bag with clean clothes, sigh. AAAAAAAAHHHHHHHH.

When I arrived at the hotel last night near midnight the outside temperature was 46 degrees because of the humidity, and now it's 48 🫠🫠 I couldn't get my glasses to unsteam hahaha. I'm hiding in the hotel room until the airline comes to get us (I feel very fortunate that they provided a hotel).

Our visit together is only a week and we already lost a day. I'm so sad. Can I sulk and cry at you all for a moment and say IT'S UNFAIR 😖

First post here.. I just wanted to share that after 3 years my partner and I are ending the distance! We became a couple in highschool and lasted a year before he moved to a different country.

I got the opportunity to study in the same country and we’ll celebrate our 4th anniversary right after long-distance is over. It’s been 3 difficult years far away, but there was not a single doubt we wouldn’t make it :) I couldn’t have asked for a better person to teach me how valuable long-distance relationships are.

Hello guys I need some advice

Me and my girlfriend are long distance and sometimes we have intimate moments late in the evening when we are both in bed. she told me loves to take the lead because she loves pleasuring me with saying dirty stuff and sending explicit images or videos. Today she told me she wants me to take the lead because theres quite some moments where she stops pleasuring herself and doesnt finish after I would finish. What are some things i can do or say to help or talk her through it so can she can actually feel really satisfied?
I hope someone here can take this post serious and can help me with some solutions
thanks in advance <3

i have a LDR as my only relationship ever and sometimes i wonder how a regular one would feel like.
obviously besides the obvious thing that is seeing each other.

so if anyone had both tell me your pros and cons about both lol

Hi everyone! I’m looking for some advice from people who have been in a “short”-distance relationship.
For some context, we’ve been together for 10 months and are really happy together. We live about a two-hour drive apart (I’m in London and he’s near Birmingham), and we both have our own cars, so travelling isn’t too difficult. Reading this sub has made me realise we’re actually pretty lucky compared to a lot of couples, but we still have our own challenges and I’d love to hear how other people have navigated them.

Quick context:
❤️ We’ve been together for 10 months.
🚗 We live about a two-hour drive apart (I’m in London, he’s near Birmingham).
🚙 We both have cars, so travelling is relatively easy.
📅 We usually see each other every other weekend, from Thursday evening to Sunday night.
😊 Overall, we’re really happy together. I’m mostly looking for advice from people who’ve been in a similar “short-distance” relationship and how you navigated things like scheduling, closing the distance, and mismatched sex drives.

Scheduling
How often did you see each other?
At the moment, we usually see each other every other weekend, from Thursday evening until Sunday night.
Part of me would love to see each other more often, but it’s difficult balancing everything else. I have quite a big friendship group, and because most of my friends live about an hour away, weekends are usually when we catch up. I don’t really see them during the week, so I sometimes feel like I’m choosing between spending time with my boyfriend and maintaining my friendships.
Moving in together
I tend to move quite quickly in relationships. My ex and I moved in together after about six months, so I know my sense of timing might not be the most objective!
I’m definitely keen to close the distance eventually, but it’s complicated. I currently rent in London and genuinely love living here, whereas my boyfriend owns his home in a smaller town near Birmingham. Financially, moving into his place would make the most sense because I don’t have a deposit saved (thanks, London rent 😅), but it would also mean leaving a city and lifestyle that I really enjoy.
How did you know it was the right time to close the distance? Did one person end up making the bigger compromise, and how did you decide whose location made the most sense?
Sex
This one is a little more personal, but I’m curious whether anyone else has experienced this.
I’d say my sex drive is higher than my boyfriend’s. We both have ADHD, and I think that contributes to me having a bit of a scarcity mindset around sex. Because I know we won’t see each other again for another two weeks, I find myself wanting sex almost all the time when we’re together because it feels like I need to make the most of the time we have.
We usually have sex two or three times over the four days we’re together, which I know is objectively a healthy amount, but emotionally I still find myself wishing it were more because of the gap between seeing each other.
Has anyone else struggled with that feeling? If so, did it get easier over time?
I’d love to hear how other couples have navigated any of these things. Thanks in advance!

Im interested how you all do little gestures for each other?

My boyfriend for example is a landscaper and sends me daily photos of flowers he comes across. I send him my favorite quotes from my current history papers I work on.

Does this sound like enough? I’ve never done long distance before and I really want this to work!

Thank you all for answers ❤️

i (23f) and my bf (25m) have been dating for 3 years now. my bf recently moved to tokyo for a summer internship so our time zones have been completely off and catching each other for a proper conversation has become really difficult. we already talked about it and decided that we should text more, even though we both agreed that our relationship has always felt much better through facetime.

at first, i genuinely thought he was handling the distance really well. he started becoming more consistent with his messages, sending me good morning texts when he woke up, checking in around my lunch break, and sending me good night messages before he slept. i knew he was busy with his internship, so i appreciated that he was still trying to maintain some kind of routine between us.

the problem started when i noticed something weird. whenever i replied to his messages, he would sometimes take hours to respond, or sometimes he just wouldnt respond at all. at first i brushed it off because of the time difference and his workload, but after a while it started feeling strange. like how could someone remember to send me a perfectly timed good morning message every day but somehow not see my reply afterwards?

i eventually asked him about it, and thats when i found out he had been using acciowork to help manage the messages. apparently because of our time difference, he set up a system to remind him when to send certain messages and even prepared some automated texts so he wouldnt forget to check in with me.

i honestly dont know how i feel about it.

part of me understands his intention. he didnt do this because he doesnt care about me. if anything, he was trying to make sure that even when he was busy, i still felt remembered. i know people use calendars and reminders for important things all the time, so maybe this is just another version of that.

but at the same time, i cant help feeling a little hurt. the messages i thought were him naturally thinking of me were actually something he had planned and automated. and the fact that he could send the message but not continue the conversation afterwards makes me question whether he was genuinely trying to connect with me or just checking off a relationship task.

i dont want to be unfair to him because i know long distance is hard and he was trying to make things work. but i also dont want to pretend that it doesnt bother me.

I’m currently in 10th grade (15 years old), and she’s also 15. We met in 7th grade in Germany and became really close. We talked all the time, and we recently found out that we both had crushes on each other back then, but neither of us ever confessed because we were both too shy. At the end of 8th grade I moved from Germany to Thailand, so we completely lost contact throughout 9th grade. About a month ago we reconnected and started talking again. While catching up, she admitted she’d liked me since 7th grade, and I told her I’d felt the same the whole time. We’ve been talking consistently ever since, and I’m thinking about asking her to be my girlfriend before school starts. I’ve tried talking to new people but I feel no one hits the same as her. However, the obvious challenge is that I’m living in Thailand and she’s in Germany, so it would be a long-distance relationship. I would be able to visit but not often at all. Has anyone here been in a long-distance relationship at 15–16? Is it realistically worth trying if both people genuinely like each other, or is the distance at this age usually too much? I’m looking for honest opinions, not just encouragement.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months. We first met and fell in love in-person, but soon afterwards I had to move away and we started an LDR. He's my first real boyfriend and I adore him. He's always been very sweet and taken good care of me within his means; from the beginning I never doubted that he only had eyes for me.

We spent this Valentine's Day on FaceTime having meals, watching TV and falling asleep together. At midnight, he sent me the demo for a song he had written about me and it was the loveliest thing anyone's ever done for me. He's also been cheated on in the past, and made it clear from the outset that it messed him up big-time and that cheating was a dealbreaker.

On Feb 15th, he went to a dance party and got fairly drunk, but got home safely. We'd already exchanged "I love you"s by that time, but our relationship has still progressed a lot in the past 5 months (I've visited him twice and we've become more intimate). We've had small ups and downs but nothing much, and I could really see myself having a happy future with him.

Today, relatively unprompted, he told me about something that happened on the 15th. He was drunk on the dance floor and a girl was making eyes + dancing in front of him. In a burst of flirtatious confidence spurred on my the alcohol, he pulled her toward him, but in a split-second he realized it was wrong and didn't want to make it awkward by moving away. So he danced with her while avoiding looking at her for the next 2 mins, until her friends came over and he saw an opportunity to get away. Apparently he's regretted it every day since then—he says it was the biggest mistake he's ever made—even though I've never caught a hint of regret or secrecy. I guess I wasn't as good at reading people as I'd thought. He was genuinely remorseful and afraid when he told me, it wasn't an offhanded comment or anything.

I spent about an hour thinking out loud in front of him and trying to make sense of it, but I don't know what to do. He says he loves me from the bottom of his heart and that it'll never happen again, though he acknowledges he's broken my trust. He says if I leave him, he'll accept it and call himself an idiot for the rest of his life. How would you guys interpret this? Is it a split-second of cheating with 2 minutes of poor decision-making, or is it 2 minutes of cheating? I'm head over heels for this guy and I could see myself moving past this, but any third-party opinions would be much appreciated.

Thanks in advance, from a brokenhearted girl writing this at 5am.

I met my partner in person and they’re the sweetest most kindest person i’ve ever met. But i’m so embarrassed to be next to them. I physically am not attracted in the slightest bit them and I feel so bad. We had been online friends for a while and I fell for them because they had always made me laugh but finally seeing them in person is eating me alive. Before anyone ask we had FaceTime before but they were always in a dark room only zoomed into their face. They’re really sweet and I feel incredibly conflicted. I fell for them because they’ve always been so kind towards me but I want to be a little physically attracted towards them. If anyone can give me advice on how I can go about this it’s greatly appreciated.

Give me your views... Me and my girl have been dating for over a year.. and after 6 months of relationship we had to shift to long distance. Now I haven't met with her after that... Now for over a month I've started feeling that we are getting too distant. Give me your views on what might be the reason behind that...

Let me tell you she's a working woman and says she's too busy with the work mostly.

Small background Im in the us and my boyfriend is in Iraq I have low spectrum autism and I struggle with picking up on certain cues and struggle with being emotional. My boyfriend is going through a difficult time with lots of hard work and he's being stretched so thin by everything around him and i don't know how to help him, it breaks my heart to see him so upset and I wish I could be there for him in the way he needs and deserves. I need advice on how to properly comfort him and how to make him feel listened to. He's studying constantly and I can see it destroying him and Id do anything in the world to aid him in it, our time difference plus his bedtime limits the amount of time we have left to spend anyway (averaging around 1hr - 30 minutes) im sorry if this is formatted wrong or anything

So my soon to be ex bf, compared me to 5 other girls in our relationship. I have also noticed he is crazy defensive about this one girl Anna. And also he recently admitted to creating a fake made up scenario about having sex with a female friend lyn (I am changing the names for privacy) which was one of the girls he made me feel insecure about. He knew what he was doing and even lied to his therapist and put an act of “misunderstood loyal bf” in front of his friends and family.

There’s multiple things I noticed he failed to do, especially in the last 3 months we were fighting. He was asked to make a compliment book (ye i m really pathetic to beg for compliments) what not. He hasn’t done it. He was asked to send pics, he didn’t. His excuse was he needs to call gregor to talk about how to fix us. Odd, he knows what needs to be done and he is asking a very (I have no nice way to say this) dumb friend who says stuff life “I think you are adopting your perspective. Sometimes we believe what others say and that may not be true” despite their being chat proofs but ok. He has friends who support him and also call out his bad behaviour. And then he has enablers and really messed up people like gregor. So why will he ask him for advice? Well guess what, I just found out he was playing zombie games with him :)) ye there is no way on earth I m taking him back.

Cut to present, after he cried a river to his sister. As if all of these fights aren’t happening cause he can’t stop lying and gaslighting, she decided to send him to a psychiatrist ward for a week. Before going he decided he will take accountability and distance himself from the 2 girls he has been comparing me to. The message he showed me he will send is “I compared you to my gf and so I must block you” , the one he sent was “I compared you to my gf and she is insecure and so I must block you” ……

I have no words left. I have understood he has always been trying to change the narrative of this looking a toxic relationship when in reality this lovely bf of almost 9 months has never even planned a single date or complimented or even given flowers or anything that sort of. While he leached so many cards, gifts, care of sending him to doctor, interview prep. What not. You name it.

But I seriously don’t know how to wrap my head around, how a sane person will add the word “insecure” about his gf to the girls he has been comparing me to.

Hi guys i hope all of yall are good, me and my gf started dating a month ago, we are happy and enjoying every moment, but we both need advices on how to maintain the relationship and to keep it fun and enjoyable on the long run despite the distance, also hoe to handle the fact that we might not meet for over a year coming and not move in together for atleast 4 years maybe 5.

I can’t believe 4 years ago today marks the first time my boyfriend texted me! I wasn’t doing well in the dating scene (too scared to do online apps), so my best friend introduced me to her nerdy cousin that lived in California.

I gave my friend permission to share my phone number to her cousin. But didn’t hear from him for almost 2 weeks 😭 then randomly while I was at work he sent me a text and I’m so happy he was brave and texted me! He did tell me that he strategically texted me while I was working bc he didn’t expect a response till after I finished work. He was so nervous!

We hit it off instantly bc we both really love the video games Undertale and Pokemon Go (he was trying to quit but went full blast back into the game bc of me lol!).

We closed the distance earlier this year and it’s been so nice and we appreciate that we are next to each other now. I’m excited for the future and home we will build together 💕

For context, I have been with my boyfriend for four years now. Last year he said that he was considering a year abroad for uni. He has been unfaithful in the past, Last year i caught him texting other girls whilst he was on a family holiday etc.

I was going to end things and just move on as i knew i wouldn’t be able to trust him if he was still considering a year abroad. We stayed together and he said that our relationship is more important and he wasn’t doing it anymore.

He continued to reassure me and promised for one full year he was not doing it. At the start of June he broke the news he had a place abroad to study. He hid it from me for 2 months and i was the last person to find out. He gave me under 2 months notice ! before he’s supposed to be leaving.

I just don’t know what to do as i know it won’t work but he says it will. He does nothing to reassure me etc and i just can’t spend a full year miserable.

I’m in grad school (Midwest) and about a year ago I met one of my grad school close friend’s brother while visiting her out in California during an internship. A year later (present time) he came to the Midwest a couple times and we hung out and expressed interest in one another. I recently visited him and it was lovely. He expressed that he wanted us to be a “thing”. Is long distance worth it?

I (F23) and my bf (M23) have been dating for about 6 months, and this is my first relationship (hence the begging for advice). We were 2-hours apart for the first 3 months (saw each other every weekend, sometimes throughout the week) and have been on the different continents for the past 3 months. We’re gonna go back to 2 hours soon for about 4 months before indefinitely doing different continents.

Our 2 hour relationship has worked absolutely perfectly. We were freshly in love, dedicated, committed but LDR has felt different. I know he still utterly loves me, but he isn’t obsessed with me anymore. It’s like the honeymoon phase is over and he “just” loves me. I feel like I’m constantly begging him to be more affectionate or more romantic. It’s taking a toll on me and I’m sure it’s adding pressure on him. I feel like I’ve had a lot more dramatic outburst than ever before in my life and I can’t recognize myself anymore sometimes

On the other continent, my social life isn’t as developed as in the country we live in together, so he’s really the only social activity I have. I feel like I’m very dependent on our relationship and constant contact but he has a well round out social life and I am just a nice addition to it. I feel like my entire day feels like a Check list (“Oh I only have to go grocery shopping, and do this and that and THEN I talk to Ben again).

Is this normal? Am I going Insane? What should I do?

LDR couples with crazy busy schedules and work deadlines: How do you plan creative, low-effort date nights that don't involve cooking or staring at a movie screen?

I’m 17M and my girlfriend is 18F. We’ve been dating long-distance for a couple of months.

I struggle with trust in general, not only with her. Even when someone hasn’t done anything wrong, my mind sometimes creates worst-case scenarios. I’m trying to work on it because I know it affects my relationship.

Sometimes my overthinking gets so strong that I feel like breaking up, not because I don’t love her, but because I feel like leaving would protect me from getting hurt.

My situation also makes it harder. If my relationship or chats became known by the wrong people, I could get into serious trouble. Some of my cousins know about her, and I worry that someone could try to cause problems or use our relationship against me.

Recently, there was an Instagram situation. Where my cousin texted her which she didn’t tell me until i noticed that he was following her. And she also stalked my best friend. She told me she wasn’t allowed to make an account using her own email, so an online long-distance friend created one for her. During an argument, she gave me the password, but I never logged in. The next day she said she couldn’t access the account anymore because that friend changed the password. She said the friend blocked her long ago, so she couldn’t contact her to reset it, and she made a new account.

I don’t know if I should trust her explanation or if my anxiety is making me suspicious of something normal.
Overall, she has been good to me and tries in the relationship. I don’t want to accuse her, but I also don’t know how to stop my mind from creating scenarios.
How do you know the difference between real red flags and trust issues?

How do you learn to trust someone in a long-distance relationship?

How do you stop needing proof that someone won’t hurt you?