我想我们并不算真正的恋爱关系——我们只是约会。我们在Tinder上认识的，拜托不要评判我。
在一起度过一个晚上后，我回到了自己的城市。从那以后我们每天都在聊天。
那时，他正在申请DTV签证。我通过请我朋友的公司签字盖章一些申请文件，并提供他们的营业执照来帮助他。
他签证批准后的第二天，他飞回了泰国。那天晚上我和朋友请他吃晚饭。
晚饭后，我们回到他的酒店。他说他真的很累，想要休息一下。我洗完澡后，抱着他也睡着了。
第二天早上，我注意到他似乎有点发烧。我必须去上班，所以吻他告别就离开了。
当我在晚上7点左右下班后，我回到他的酒店看望他。他还是感觉不太好，并告诉我他想一个人睡。我问我能否留在那里抱着他十分钟再走。最后，我留下来大约半个小时，然后回家了。
之后是星期天、星期一、星期二，现在是星期三。我们仍然没有见面。自昨天以来，他没有回复我的任何信息。
我开始感到焦虑和有点受伤。我在想这是否只是文化差异。他是美国人，而我是中国人。这是我第一次与外国人约会，所以我真的不知道我这样感到不安是否合理。
无论如何，我真心希望他能尽快好起来。
我是在过度反应，还是这会让大多数人感到受伤？与美国人约会是正常的吗，还是更多与他个人有关？

Final update: I’ve decided to move on. He left my city without telling me. I don’t think he likes me or cares about me, and that’s all the answer I need. Thank you, everyone, for your replies and kindness. I’m going to let myself be sad for a little while, and then I’ll move forward.

we are currently one city apart, she is busy with her family and we cant meet, i have work at 1 pm, i wake up early around 8-9 am, but she rarely is awake at that time, and usually wakes up at 3-5 pm. we planned on her waking up around the time im up to talk because i do miss her alot. but she ends up sleeping usually. or barely talks to me for 10 minutes around that. am i allowed to be upset? i confronted and she genuinely said she'll. and even for her i end up staying up late, cuz she sleeps late.

My girlfriend and I are in a long-distance relationship. We barely get to call because she has no privacy that much at home which means we only get to spend time together on call about once or twice a week.

Today, we called for an hour and watched a movie together. After that, she told me she was going to play games with her online friends because they invited her and she said she'd call me later.

That was around 4 PM.

It's now 10 PM, and she's been playing with them the entire time.

Before anyone says I'm trying to stop her from having friends — I'm not. She can absolutely have friends, play games, and have a life outside of me. That's never been the issue. The issue is that I feel like every time she gets the chance to hang out with her friends while also having the chance to spend time with me, I end up being the one who gets pushed aside.

This isn't just about today either. It's happened enough times that I've started resenting it.

She'll tell me she'll call later, and I believe her. Then hours pass, and she's still with her friends. If she wanted to spend the whole night with them, I'd honestly rather she just tell me that instead of making me wait for a call that never happens.

What hurts is that we already get so little time together because we're long distance. We don't have the luxury of seeing each other tomorrow or grabbing dinner next week. Our calls are basically our relationship. It makes me feel like our time together is the easiest thing for her to sacrifice.

I've talked to her about this before. It's not just this one incident. It's the repeated broken promises, poor communication, and feeling like I become less important whenever her friends are available.

At this point, I don't even know if I'm overreacting or if this is genuinely disrespectful.

My girlfriend and I are in a long-distance relationship. I live in Israel and she lives in Florida, so there is usually a 7-hour time difference between us.

Right now I work a regular 9 to 5 job, but she has not been working, so we have been able to spend a lot of time together. We regularly stay on calls for hours, watch movies and TV shows, play video games, hang out while doing our own things, and sometimes fall asleep together on call.

She is starting a new research job soon. Her offer says 30 hours per week, but she does not know the exact daily schedule yet. It could potentially be five 6-hour days, but we are worried that it might still follow normal daytime working hours.

The problem is that when I finish work at around 5 p.m. in Israel, it is around 10 a.m. for her. If she works until 3, 4, or 5 p.m., that would be around 10 p.m., 11 p.m., or midnight for me.

I know people often suggest voice messages, texting throughout the day, or short scheduled check-ins. I completely understand why those work for some couples, but I want to be honest that they do not meet my emotional needs very well. What makes me feel connected is having long periods of real-time presence together. It does not always need to be an intense conversation. I just value being able to exist together, watch something, game, talk casually, or leave the call running.

She plans to move to Israel in about a year, so this situation has an endpoint. Still, a year feels like a long time to lose most of the way we currently connect, and I am scared that only having short interactions would slowly damage the relationship.

We are considering asking whether she can work an early schedule, such as 7 a.m. to 1 p.m. or 8 a.m. to 2 p.m. That could potentially give us 3 to 4 hours together during my evening. We are also thinking about longer weekend calls, occasional early mornings for me, and keeping calls running while we do separate activities.

Has anyone here successfully managed a similar time difference while both partners were working?

I would especially appreciate advice from people who also need a lot of synchronous time rather than primarily texting or sending voice messages.

What schedule or routine worked for you? How much real-time contact were you realistically able to maintain without sacrificing sleep, work performance, or personal responsibilities?

TL;DR: My girlfriend and I have a 7-hour time difference. I work 9 to 5, and she is starting a 30-hour-per-week job soon. Long calls, gaming, watching shows, and simply hanging out together are a major part of how we maintain closeness. We are worried that her new schedule will leave us with almost no meaningful overlap for the next year. Looking for practical scheduling ideas from couples who need substantial real-time interaction.

She's extremely talented and is in one of the best medical colleges in the country. I'm a compsci guy, also in a great college. We have feelings for each other, we've known each other for more than a year and have been in a relationship for a little over three months now. It is a serious relationship and we do plan on marriage if all goes well. But I've heard and seen so much content about how doctors only want to marry doctors, how it's literally impossible for anyone else to understand a doctor's life, but I want to differ, I want to understand her life and her career in full.

Now I would go ask this to her directly, but due to several complications in our relationship (her parents found out so we have to lay low for a while, plus she has exams going on) we can't talk for much, and in the limited time that we get, I don't want to pull such a serious conversation. I want to understand as much as I can from others' POV before talking to her.

I understand that her career is important to her, and I don't intend to make her compromise on it for our relationship's sake. But I do know that it's important to have a clear understanding about it, how hectic it can get, how bad it can be, etc. So, any and all advice would be greatly appreciated :)

My girlfriend (22F) and I (21M) have been together for almost 3 years. We recently became long distance because I moved from the Philippines to Los Angeles to pursue my career, and I’ll probably be here for quite a while.

It’s my first time being in a long-distance relationship. So far, it’s only been about 3 weeks, and honestly we call almost every day, text throughout the day, and I feel really secure in our relationship. I’m not worried about loyalty or commitment at all.

What I am worried about is making sure she still feels loved despite the distance. And that our connection wont drift apart.

She’s been my biggest supporter since the beginning, even before I moved here. One of my biggest motivations for working hard is that I hope one day we can finally build a life together, wherever that ends up being. I just don’t know how long we’ll have to be apart, and I don’t want us to slowly drift into a routine where we’re just… existing on calls.

I REALLY really miss her esp her scent and touch. I dont show it often but i genuinely feel sad that she’s not here by my side especially when I sleep.

I’m also a very physically affectionate person, and that’s honestly been the hardest part for me. I miss hugging her, holding her hand, and just having her around. Sometimes I wonder if I should get one of those giant plushies that pats you just to have something to hug when I miss her…

For couples who’ve made long distance work for years:

-What made your partner feel genuinely loved from far away?
-How did you keep the relationship feeling exciting instead of repetitive?
-Did you have little traditions that helped you stay emotionally connected?
-How did you cope with missing physical touch?

I’d love to hear your experiences🙏

My boyfriend will be visiting my country for the first time , what can I get for him as a gift ?

My boyfriend and I met on a video game last year and have been in a long-distance relationship since. We’ve met up a few times in person and are supposed to see each other next month. He’s currently away on a spontaneous trip visiting family with no set return date. I want him to enjoy himself, but his absence has made me realize how dependent I’ve become on him.
I don’t think my attachment is toxic—in an LDR, relying on daily calls and check-ins is normal, and without them, the distance feels massive. But the real issue is that I have literally no one else.
Before him, I had so many friends. I played games, socialized online, and had a solid group. When we started dating, I voluntarily cut off my male friends to respect the relationship. Shortly after, my boyfriend made it clear he was uncomfortable with my female friends and the social games I played. He openly disliked my friends, so to keep the peace and prioritize him, I cut them off too. Now, he’s my only social outlet.
The problem is, he’s stopped putting in effort. The sweet things he used to do are gone. He doesn't compliment me, doesn't show affection unless we're in person, and gets annoyed if I try to talk through things. Our conversations are dry. He doesn't even keep me updated anymore—I found out he was leaving for his current trip just an hour before his train, and when I ask when he's returning, he just says "idk."
I feel so lonely. I fill my days with tasks, but as soon as I'm home, the void hits me. I never felt this way when I was single because I was surrounded by friends.
I'm at a loss. Do I end things and focus on rebuilding my friendships and my own life, or is this something I should try to fix and hope the spark comes back?

The guy I’m talking to, it’s been 5 weeks but he has only ever complimented me once. And even when I show him baby pictures he doesn’t even say awe or anything. When I said people often mistake me for one ethnicity. He searched up women of that ethnicity and circled a girl who looked nothing like me and was obviously less better looking than me, and said she looked like me. I asked my friends and they said she looked nothing like me. In his words:

She looks like an older version of you

If you were this ethnicity

It looks like me too if I was a \*this ethnicity\* woman

It doesn't but it was the closest one out of all the pictures there

Meanwhile my friends said:

Not at all

Not even a little, he must be joking

Ew, no.

Ew, that’s in such bad taste.

And it’s weird because I always go out of my way to compliment him. His nose, his eyes, everything. I’ve worked hard on a portrait I made of him. I’m always calling him cute.

When I opened up about how I struggle with the way I look, even though I've managed to get back up after scrutiny, the only thing he said was 'people were just scared of you' and then brushed it off. He didn’t give me reassurance once.

This is a convo we had on text:

Me, I’m just worried because I’m not that pretty and you might like other girls who are

Him, They don't like me

Me, so if they liked you you would?

Him, I liked a girl for years and she never even looked at me what do you want me to say

Me, If she suddenly liked you would you 😞😞😞😞

Him, no I haven’t seen her in years

Me, this is making me mad

Him, I've never met anyone with your personality it sounds so corny but it goes much further than looks (doesn’t reassure me on the way I look again)

I've just been ignoring him for a bit more over a day now.

Long post. We broke up, but I still want to try again. I feel like a serious misunderstanding made things worse, and I want to explain the situation.

I have posted here before about my relationship. My girlfriend and I were together for almost a year, and recently we went through a very difficult time.

Eventually, she told me that she didn’t love me anymore and that she wasn’t attracted to me the same way. We talked about everything, and we decided to stay as friends because I still love her and I didn’t want to completely lose her from my life.

However, after we became friends, something happened that made things even worse.

She saw my TikTok reposts and became upset because she felt like there were too many girls in my reposts. She told me that she felt like I was pretending to love her, and eventually she blocked me.

Since she blocked my main account, I am currently trying to contact her through a secondary account because I just want the chance to properly explain myself

I understand why some reposts could have looked bad from her perspective, especially because we already had problems before this. But I feel like there was a serious misunderstanding that I never got the chance to properly explain.

One of the reposts was a girl who went to the same middle school as me. We knew each other, but I never had feelings for her. Her boyfriend is someone I used to work out with, and he is actually a well-known student fitness creator in Korea. They were both TikTok creators, and many people from my school knew them as a couple.

I reposted her video because I wanted to support someone I knew, not because I was attracted to her or because I wanted her attention.

The worst part was when I tried to explain this to my girlfriend. I wanted to say two separate things:

“She is not a Sydney Sweeney.”
and
“She is my friend.”

But I was typing too quickly and accidentally combined the two sentences, which resulted in me saying:

“She is my Sydney Sweeney.”

I completely understand why that looked terrible, especially because she already disliked Sydney Sweeney. But I swear that was not what I meant. I would never intentionally say something like that to hurt her, especially when I was trying to save our relationship.

I also want to clarify another repost, Olivia Rodrigo. I reposted her because I like her music. It was not because of her appearance or because I was attracted to her. She is simply an artist I enjoy, and even my mom and younger sister like her music.

I know our breakup was not only because of reposts. We had other problems, and I understand that relationships are complicated. I am not trying to say that one misunderstanding is the only reason everything happened.

But it hurts knowing that someone I loved so much might believe that my love was fake or that I didn’t respect her, because that is not true.

I still love her, and I still want to try to fix things if there is any chance. I know I cannot force her feelings, and I respect her choice. But I don’t want to give up while there is still a misunderstanding that I never got the chance to explain.

I just want her to know the truth about what I meant.

I've (25f) been at his (26m) place for a few days and I told him "if we played roblox and you died in a game, I would spend robux to rev you" and he said "what about snapchat streak" and I said no. Then he told me that he's spent money on it multiple times!!! I thought the streak was reviving on its own because he sends the streak within a certain time frame, but I guess he's just been spending a dollar every single time?!!? And when I asked him why, he said "I know you would be sad if it died" and oml I am so lucky :') maybe mundane and silly to a lot of people, but I've never had anyone be so kind and understanding to me and I wanted to share how sweet this is.

Hi guys, I’m new here…I’ve never really been one for Reddit unless it was looking for solutions to troubleshoot a gaming issue, but I feel like I’m kind of stuck as none of my friends have been in this situation, or even close to similar so I thought I’d ask you guys for your advice seeing as most of you are currently making long distance work or have managed to close the gap (congratulations I hope you’re all super happy and content❤️)

I (26F) joined a Discord server about a year ago. For the first 6–7 months, I barely interacted one-on-one with this guy (31M) on the server. However, a few months ago, we started talking directly. It began as just a friendship, but quickly spiraled into something deeper.

He is incredible - funny, smart, and deeply sensitive. On the outside, he looks like a tough "badass" (tall guy, rides a motorbike, listens to Metallica/rock/country), but soft on the inside, he plants flowers in his garden, reads poetry, and eats honeysuckle when he goes on runs.

We talk every day. The connection feels very real and intense, but there's a big catch: he has explicitly told me he doesn't want a long-distance relationship. He’s tried LDR in the past, it went badly, and he doesn't think the distance between us would work (I live in England, and he lives in Virginia, USA) Yet, despite saying this "isn't serious," our daily communication feels like it’s more than just casual and a pass time.

Recently, a situation came up with another girl in the server. I got jealous over an interaction, and I intentionally let my jealousy show. Which he said bothered him a little bit because I shouldn’t be or feel the need to be jealous. When we talked about it, he reassured me that they had only exchanged a few friendly messages and nothing was going on. He reminded me that he's always promised to tell me if he ever started talking to someone else. He also pointed out that he trusts me completely when I talk to other guys in the server who he think all flirt with me, and asked if I trust him.
I do trust him, and I told him that I do…I don't think he's lying to me at all. But he reiterated during that conversation that we aren’t serious, two factors as to why he felt I had no reason to be jealous, even though he said a month ago it made him slightly jealous when people would flirt with me, which left me feeling really confused given how close we are and how much we talk.

I'm at a crossroads and could really use some honest advice:

1. Is there any realistic way to pursue this or encourage him to reconsider long distance?

2. Or am I setting myself up for heartbreak, and should I just call it quits/pull back before I get deeper in?

Part of me thinks the longer we’re talking the more likely he will be to reconsider, but another part of me thinks it could be a lost cause and it will never be anymore than ‘fun & flirty’…thank you guys xx

I can’t believe 4 years ago today marks the first time my boyfriend texted me! I wasn’t doing well in the dating scene (too scared to do online apps), so my best friend introduced me to her nerdy cousin that lived in California.

I gave my friend permission to share my phone number to her cousin. But didn’t hear from him for almost 2 weeks 😭 then randomly while I was at work he sent me a text and I’m so happy he was brave and texted me! He did tell me that he strategically texted me while I was working bc he didn’t expect a response till after I finished work. He was so nervous!

We hit it off instantly bc we both really love the video games Undertale and Pokemon Go (he was trying to quit but went full blast back into the game bc of me lol!).

We closed the distance earlier this year and it’s been so nice and we appreciate that we are next to each other now. I’m excited for the future and home we will build together 💕

I met my partner in person and they’re the sweetest most kindest person i’ve ever met. But i’m so embarrassed to be next to them. I physically am not attracted in the slightest bit them and I feel so bad. We had been online friends for a while and I fell for them because they had always made me laugh but finally seeing them in person is eating me alive. Before anyone ask we had FaceTime before but they were always in a dark room only zoomed into their face. They’re really sweet and I feel incredibly conflicted. I fell for them because they’ve always been so kind towards me but I want to be a little physically attracted towards them. If anyone can give me advice on how I can go about this it’s greatly appreciated.

For context, I have been with my boyfriend for four years now. Last year he said that he was considering a year abroad for uni. He has been unfaithful in the past, Last year i caught him texting other girls whilst he was on a family holiday etc.

I was going to end things and just move on as i knew i wouldn’t be able to trust him if he was still considering a year abroad. We stayed together and he said that our relationship is more important and he wasn’t doing it anymore.

He continued to reassure me and promised for one full year he was not doing it. At the start of June he broke the news he had a place abroad to study. He hid it from me for 2 months and i was the last person to find out. He gave me under 2 months notice ! before he’s supposed to be leaving.

I just don’t know what to do as i know it won’t work but he says it will. He does nothing to reassure me etc and i just can’t spend a full year miserable.

I'm so frustrated right now! We've been counting down our next visit for 3 months already, we finally got to the day of my travel and we could both barely sleep the night before (y'all know how it is). I'm meant to have an 8 hour flight, a short layover, and then another 9 hour flight. I should have been in his arms 5 hours ago. Should have. Instead I'm sitting in a hotel in Abu Dhabi because my first flight arrived late 🙃 I have to stay for a whole 24 hours until the next flight. Without my bag with clean clothes, sigh. AAAAAAAAHHHHHHHH.

When I arrived at the hotel last night near midnight the outside temperature was 46 degrees because of the humidity, and now it's 48 🫠🫠 I couldn't get my glasses to unsteam hahaha. I'm hiding in the hotel room until the airline comes to get us (I feel very fortunate that they provided a hotel).

Our visit together is only a week and we already lost a day. I'm so sad. Can I sulk and cry at you all for a moment and say IT'S UNFAIR 😖

I’m currently in 10th grade (15 years old), and she’s also 15. We met in 7th grade in Germany and became really close. We talked all the time, and we recently found out that we both had crushes on each other back then, but neither of us ever confessed because we were both too shy. At the end of 8th grade I moved from Germany to Thailand, so we completely lost contact throughout 9th grade. About a month ago we reconnected and started talking again. While catching up, she admitted she’d liked me since 7th grade, and I told her I’d felt the same the whole time. We’ve been talking consistently ever since, and I’m thinking about asking her to be my girlfriend before school starts. I’ve tried talking to new people but I feel no one hits the same as her. However, the obvious challenge is that I’m living in Thailand and she’s in Germany, so it would be a long-distance relationship. I would be able to visit but not often at all. Has anyone here been in a long-distance relationship at 15–16? Is it realistically worth trying if both people genuinely like each other, or is the distance at this age usually too much? I’m looking for honest opinions, not just encouragement.

Met a guy on Hinge. We’ve been talking and I plan on going to a trip to NY in August. He’s from Canada and he just had a trip to NY; so he doesn’t have the funds at the moment to go back and see me in August.

It’s great online, we text, video chat occasionally etc., But for me, I’d rather see this guy ASAP in person so we can vibe it out rather than waste months of talking and then we meet and it’s off 😬 It’s not that Im head over heels for this guy, it’s more-so trying to see if this is even worth pursuing in the long run.

What would ya’ll do?

I don’t normally post here but decided hey why not!! I 21F and my boyfriend 23M finally met after a year of being long distance 🩷. OH! And he got me a promise ring 🥹!!

Realized I had updated on the discord but never provided an update here. My husband and I finally closed the distance for good at the beginning of this month. We were long distance from February 2020 until July 2026 - 6 years and 10 trips!

We met through a mutual online friend while playing Dead by Daylight and quickly grew fond of each other. The pandemic restrictions kept us from meeting until nearly 2 years into our relationship. It's wild to look back and realize everything we went through to be together, and I imagine it'll continue to be a hell of a tale to tell friends, family, maybe children someday.

We married in June 2024 knowing that we'd apply for me to move to Sweden once my husband secured a permanent employment contract and suitable apartment. We were able to apply for my residence permit last December and received our approval in March of this year following my interview at the Swedish Embassy in Washington, DC. It took a few months to sell my house and line up all of the logistics, but I moved here earlier this month with my 3 cats.

I am so looking forward to seeing how our life is now that we can build it together in-person! And I want to thank the folks in the discord server who were always wonderful company, especially when I was going through the heartaches of airport goodbyes. I hope everyone here is able to see the distance end. Happy to answer any questions on the process too! ❤️