Ik we are meant to pray when times are tough but it feels like i feel really lonely and i need that physical care to fill it? i didnt really grow up being loved and now its catching up to me and i feel like I need someone romantically (in a halal way) to fill this void but ik Allah should be enough so now idk man

Terminated from my dream job because i stood up for the weak. Allah took my father away months later. He was my best friend, my biggest supporter when no one else was. Later in the months the love of my life left me.

Been searching for a job for more than a year now, preferably a different industry to seek rediscovery, but not one person is willing to open their doors. I spend days and nights thinking about the “what could’ve beens” and my father whom i’ve failed.

What is ironic is that i’ve had long bouts of being spiritually grounded. I was optimistic that with tawakkul, Allah provides. I practiced tahajjud and was at the mosque for most of my fardh prayers. Like and arrow that never misses, they said. During the times where it is said that prayers are answered like the laylatul qadr period or the day of arafah, i made so much du’a.

Not one du’a and i mean not a single one was ever answered. In fact my life spiralled into deeper turmoil. I suppose we as humans can be hopeful for so long.

People would often come and ask “have you tried making such and such du’a?” But frankly, i think all you need is just sincerity. It’s almost the same in social media too where content creators would prefer if the du’a is the done in some manner as if it changes anything.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m still a firm believer of Islam. Just not hopeful about my life anymore.

First of all, I'm not a Muslim. My experience is limited, I've gone to mosques during Ramadan, lived with a married Muslim couple while renting a room in their house and befriended a lady. Her family disapproved of her becoming friends with a man outside her faith, so we kept the relationship to ourselves. We later parted ways.

Fast forward to today, I went to a public library with a small art gallery next to it and met four women dressed with full length robes (sorry I don't know the terminology) and hijabs, showing their faces. Two of them were posing for photos that a third lady was taking. I looked in their direction and the photographer caught my glance. I continued to mind my own business, walked around the exhibits and later did approach the group. I offered to take photos of the ladies with their phone, they were all smiles, I think that was their personality, not really happy to see me. Then one of them offered to take my photo with my phone, but I politely declined as I am not comfortable in photography sessions, usually have difficulty relaxing and smiling. I left the gallery and resumed studies at the library.

This experience reminded me I'm closing myself off too much from strangers and I think I would like to open my mind to developing friendships with Muslim men and women alike. Any tips?

Edit: Title should be friends with a Muslim person or with Muslim people.

salam brothers and sisters

As a straight Muslim man I've always been fascinated by women's clothing

I've heard before that it is haram to wear women's clothing, but after doing my research I came across two solution

the first is that it is haram

and the second js that it is permissible as long as it's not used to deceive others and only for your own enjoyment

I wish to receive the input of my fellow Muslims before deciding on whether or not I should actually on my urges

Salaam everyone I would like to have other opinions on this matter. Essentially I like this girl and we don’t really talk to each other anymore but every night I would pray for her to be my naseeb however I’d also pray that we do speak because otherwise I feel as if we are drifting apart.

Now when I do pray I’d always ask that if she is not written for me please remove her from my life and replace her with someone who is right for me but then somehow we would end up messaging that night but on days where I don’t pray for it we don’t.

It may sound like delusions and I’m overthinking it but is this a sign from Allah that I shouldn’t stop praying, I feel as if I am still missing out something hence why I’ve been stuck in this cycle for so long.

And for everyone that’s wondering why I don’t ask for marriage we are both only 20 and none of us are ready.

Do you think I am over reacting or am I missing something?

We recently bought a new house and there are alot of leftover belongings from the previous owner that the agents said are ours and we could keep. Some of which are, from what I've heard, a very valuable old collection of assorted alcohol bottles.

Am I allowed to sell these since or give it to non-muslim friends? Or do I have to dispose of them or throw it away

In a lot places I see a lot of hate towards Tablighi Jamat saying that it is inefficient and it is just a Time to just leave your families and relax with your friends in the name of Allah Which rather is a problem of character Or I'm not sure what kind of Jamats to you guys went on.

The truth is when you are out in Tabligh, that this is not a direct source to bring people to Islam but instead is an opportunity to discipline yourself and strengthen your Iman by learning under people who have spent their lives learning about Islam. I am a student btw and I have been going to Tabligh for years and enjoyed every second of it. The way I did it for years is that I we spent hours reading books and listening to speeches and spending time going door to door inviting people to these talks which then could people towards tabligh. The reason we bring people towards Jamat is to give them the opportunity to learn about Islam and an extensive manner and basically be trained in order to educate someone about Islam and bring people towards it.

In short you're basically not going out to teach people about Islam but you are going out to learn how to teach people about Islam properly because you can't really explain someone about it if you don't really know anything about it. Also the thing about it being just a chance to chill with you freinds is that it is a chance to stregnthen brotherhood and be among good people trying to increase their deen. Also the reason people go for a long time is simply to increase your Iman and being around scholars and teachers helps. Also some people dont trust the Fazail e Amal which make no sense becuase is its easily verifyable with the Hadith but we use many other books. Let me know anything and I will try to debunk it.

When I see guys who are 2 meters tall and see them with girls who are beautiful and completely my type, I become sad, and girls like that who are beautiful do not even want to look at me. Try to put yourself in my situation, where I dream of having exactly the kind of wife I would want. What if you were not Muslim? How would you deal with this despair, knowing that after death you would believe it is the end and that you would never be able to have the kind of wife you dreamed of?

Do not try to be positive. Try to be realistic and truly put yourself in this situation. Is lowering your standards the only way to answer a question like this? How would you feel if you were in a situation where you were one of the people who do not get what they truly want, even though they are not responsible for things like their height, appearance, and so on?

In my personal experience, faith based only on temporary emotional comfort did not last. I am not making a religious ruling; I am asking how other Muslims understand and deal with this struggle. So how can someone resolve this struggle sincerely within their own mind?

I do not want to hear shallow answers. Answer honestly, from the heart, and help me and other people overcome this forever.

One thing I've been thinking about recently is the difference between giving someone a conclusion and helping them build the framework to understand that conclusion.

It's like if someone asks about flowers, you can either hand them a bouquet, or invite them into a flower shop.

A bouquet is beautiful, but it's already arranged according to someone else's choices. A flower shop lets someone see the different flowers, understand them, and choose what speaks to them. Our role is to provide the basket and guidance to help them carry what they find.

I think this applies a lot to any kind of pedagogy, but especially to dawah. Sometimes when someone asks a question, our instinct is to immediately give our own answer. But perhaps the first step should be understanding where they are coming from: What assumptions are they starting with? What are they actually struggling with? What question are they really asking?

Then instead of simply handing them a conclusion, we can help them explore the framework that leads to that conclusion.

For example, if someone asks about Allah's justice, instead of only saying "Allah is Just", we can first understand what they mean by justice, then explain the Islamic framework of justice and allow them to see how the pieces connect for themselves.

Obviously this doesn't mean changing Islam to fit everyone's preferences. But there is a difference between forcing someone to accept an answer and helping them understand why that answer makes sense. A person who discovers the reasoning behind something will usually have a deeper connection to it than someone who was simply handed the final conclusion.

"Invite to the way of your Lord with wisdom and good instruction..." (16:125)

Perhaps part of wisdom in dawah is not only knowing what to say, but understanding the person in front of us so we can guide them toward the truth in a way they can genuinely engage with.

And sometimes the best way to share a flower is not to hand someone a bouquet, but to invite them into the garden. ^_^

Assalamu alaikom,

I am a male, suffering from a rare disease called post-finasteride syndrome. It happened when I started a drug called finasteride october last year to combat hair loss. I was told that the side effects were very rare and mild, and if they occured they would go away. They didn’t and they persist to this day, 8 months post quitting (in varying severity, some days are easier than the others.). There are symptoms like anhedonia, s*xual dysfunction, depression, panic attacks and suicidal ideation. This situation has consumed my entire life and it is really difficult to see a path forward with such constant suffering.

I’m wondering how much Allah will punish me for not being able to practice my religion to the fullest. I pray, but because of the anhedonia I can barely feel the beautiful feeling praying once gave me. I make dua but to be honest I am really tired and nihilistic at this point. I really feel bad about myself because I always wanted to be the ideal man, who took his religion and life seriously and now I feel like a complete wreck.

My only lightpoint is the fact that there is a doctor out there experimentally treating patients who, according to him and many researchers has figured out the whole mechanism of why the disease occurs and potential treatment areas. People have anecdotally reported feeling a lot better after the treatment.

I am enrolled at his doctors office (its in the US and im from the Netherlands so I see the doctor via telehealth). Truth to be told, I am really scared of the future and of the treatment and really struggle. This has financially burdened me a lot (Im a uni student fresh on my first job, ive only been working for 8 months).

What advice would you guys give me? I am really lost for words on this situation and have trouble staying positive. I would appreciate if you made dua for me, and another brother I have met who is in a similar situation.

Assalamu alaaikum.

Brothers and sisters I'm saying this from a tight situation

First year university student.

The consequences of my actions have left me in a position where I fear what I will do to myself and what will happen to me. I lied to my parents multiple times to hide my failing grades this semester, I'm being held back a semester and I was genuinely devastated, despite lying to my parents about not failing my semester they have shown me hostility and one of them threatened to force me into a marriage, expecting me to have a perfect academic path. I genuinely can't handle their reprimands and I've been coping with haram action which I hate myself for, not only have I dug myself a deep hole in my Dunya but also in my akhira.

Because of my failing grades I'll be held back a semester and won't get my degree until a year later, and I genuinely won't be able to mentally take my parents behavior or reaction for it, I won't feel safe with them. In order to not let that happen I'm gonna need some sort of miracle from Allah that allows me to access my semester without being held back. I already email my university asking them to find a solution for my situation, I don't know what else to do.

I'm asking that you help me make dua to allah to help me access my semester without being held back a semester and that my dua gets accepted in a way that I will cry from gratefulness from him and happiness.

I just want to be shown mercy, even if all I did was sin.

I want relief

Jazakumu allah khairan

Does the Quran, in its conception of prophetic doctrine, clearly state that earlier Israelite prophets believed in things such as a clearly defined heaven, hell and a day of judgment?

Assalamu Alaikum wa rahmatu Allahi wa barakatuh

Mods, please leave my post up, I really need an answer to this post specifically.

I was on my phone and I thought to myself it's okay I'll be able to pray on time and before I knew it, time flew and it was maghrib time and I didn't pray asr. I wanted to take a break because I didn't get to have some time for myself, and astaghfirullah I thought I'll delay the prayer (I know this is a sin on its own, astaghfirullah), and now I've missed it, which is a major sin. I'm severely ashamed and I don't know how to make it up to Allah SWT. I prayed asr immediately after realising, and kept asking for forgiveness, but considering this is a major sin, I'm scared that Allah SWT may not have forgiven me.

How can I repent from this? How do I ask Allah for forgiveness?? What do I do?

Please, any advice will be appreciated. Jazakum Allahu khairan

Please I don’t want everyone here to just tell me what i am saying is haram.
I did sins. Big ones. Like really I can’t even accept myself how would Allah accept me??
I did multiple times, i bought a vehicle with riba and interest based loan. Only less than a month and the vehicle is a total loss and i ended up in the trauma center with fractured bones and i am still recovering now

Even while i am recovering now. I keep doing zina. Can you believe it? I play music like 24/7 at home. But i do try my best to control myself. I am ADHD and i just can’t control my impulses or focus too much in prayer i forget what sura i am citing while praying because i lost my attention and no it’s not shaytan it’s just me all the time

Recently i started to forget my prayers. And i am convinced Allah makes me forget because he doesn’t want to meet me,
I even after i do the zina i just don’t know how to talk to him and ask for forgiveness, i still don’t know how to ask anymore. What can i say this time? Fake things again so i can cope and do sins again? I am so ashamed to a level i feel like it’s hard to talk with him again because he knows that i am a liar

Someone help me please. I am not ready to meet him in the afterlife. I am not ready at all. Please don’t tell me “just stop sins and ask for forgiveness and be real this time” i can do this but i know i am too weak to control ADHD impulses

I'm not muslim and I don't want to debate about religion, but I just want to make sure I understand the muslim perspective well. Is it that Abraham according to you was literally muslim or just that he was a jew worshipping the one true God that he called Yahweh which is actually Allah and that Islam is now the only valid form of religion because judaism has been corrupted?

Do muslim believe that islam and judaism was once the same religion or would that be heretical?

I dont know what to do wwhere tto start its scary feeling

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

السلام عليكم و رحمة الله و بركاته

Beforehand i present myself, im an argentinian convert to islam since 13 years ago.

the main intention behind this post is to remind us.

to remind about the dangers of our lisaan

Riyad as-Salihin 1514

Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported:

I heard the Prophet (ﷺ) saying, "A person utters a word thoughtlessly (i.e., without thinking about its being good or not) and, as a result of this, he will fall down into the fire of Hell deeper than the distance between the east and the west."

these weeks I've been seeing such display of lowerness between nations but specially against my own people.

Me, a muslim, had been called a racist, a zionist, a liar by people they don't even know me, and what saddens me the most by muslim themselves.

we must remind brothers and sisters, that when we speak about one nation we're speaking about every single one of them and we'll be held accountable in the day of qyamah.

as a Muslim from Argentina i want to remind us to keep closer to islam, and dont let the fitnah of shaytaan misguide us.

and remember, just as me, there are hundred of thousands of argentinians who accepted islam and millions who might embrace it, In sha Allah.

don't let a sport match burden the dakwah efforts all around the world, today is Argentina in the future it might be another nation.

we're muslims, we must lead by the example, we must live by the sunnah.

Riyad as-Salihin 1511

Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported:

The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "He who believes in Allah and the Last Day must either speak good or remain silent."

https://islamqa.info/en/answers/9410/types-of-speech-to-refrain-from

Hello !

I’m a woman originally from a Muslim country, living in France.

My parents forbid me from dating (which, up to that point, is fairly normal in my family).

Everyone in my family got married through someone introducing them to their future spouse - arranged marriages, if you can call them that.

My question is this: is it normal that my family has never introduced me to a man for marriage?

Considering that I’m reasonably attractive, intelligent, and kind.

I genuinely don’t understand how I’m supposed to get married, start a family, and so on if I don’t even know any eligible men.

Especially since most of the women in my family got married when they were younger than I am now.

Thank you for reading me.

This explosive reaction of a U.S. politician to come and defend Israel (??) after Malaysia's Prime Minister Anwar Ibrahim said that "Malaysia will not compromise and will deport any Israeli nationals found entering the country, as it has a clear policy of not recognising Israel".

Source: https://www.bernama.com/en/news.php?id=2581085

I am proud of my country ❤️🇲🇾

My mother has been very sick lately...

Please mention her and every sick person you know in your prayers..

Alhamduli Allah

So, that's it, everyone! I got my first Quran! I'm really happy, and I feel like I'm a little bit closer to God now that I have it in my home (obviously, not because of the physical object, but because of His words). It's all in Arabic and I don't understand a thing, but I'm sure God will enlighten me and I'll learn to read it. 😊🙌❤

Hello,

I am writing because I am starting to feel desperate regarding the mercy of Allah.
Long story short, my sister is very suicidal. After 2 s** attempts last year, she spent the year being better and improving before starting a new nightmare this summer and committing 3 attempts in only 48 h. My parents directly took her to the hospital again, and two weeks later, some hours after she quit the hospital and said she was better, she attempted again. I know one shouldn't make duaa blindly, so we're doing everything but nothing is working: no doctor seems to know how to help her, no medicine, etc. All of this is costing a lot of money, and worse than this, I am seeing my family's mental health getting destroyed as well. My mum also just underwent surgery for cancerous cells; my brother is suffering from bullying, weight, eating disorders and obesity; and my father has his own companies that have been eating his health since I was very young and is a big smoker and can't stop smoking. I am also not in a good situation financially even though my father paid for very expensive studies. Nothing seems to work out, everything is getting worse, and every time I put my trust in Allah, everything seems to be getting worse. I pray, I make duaa, I cry, and I speak to Him honestly but it's becoming harder to have hope, and I can see my body also starting to endure the consequences of all this stress. Wallah I can't live like this anymore. I feel guilty for wanting to be happy, to have a family, to travel, to have money. Why would Allah, AL-Latif, The most Merciful, The Waduud, The Chafi, not help us and put us in a better situation. My mum is such a strong believer and the sweetest and nicest soul, and they do not deserve this. It is a weight I can't and don't want to bear anymore.

I need your miracle stories if anybody could relate in any way, and of course your duas. May Allah grant you everything you wish for. I hope this is not too long, but I don't have anything that makes me feel good or gives me hope about how unfair and bitter life is, and I loose even more hope when I see all the horrors happening in the world. I am looking forward to reading you.

I tried multiple apps like deenbuddy and more but they require money to use ,so do you guys know any apps that are free to use and are like deen buddy.

Dear all i am in dire need of all your prayers im gonna sit for a very competitive medical exam soon and i need all your sincere duas i dont know if asking for prayers is shirk or not but jazakallah khair.