My wife admitted a while ago that she occasionally wears my boxer briefs around the house because she says theyre more comfortable than a lot of her sleep shorts. At first I thought it was funny... until I realized half the time I couldn't find a clean pair because they were somehow ending up in her drawer. Lol

Now when I buy new underwear, i almost feel like i have to buy extra because i know a few pairs are eventually going to become "hers."

anyone else's spouse quietly claim part of their wardrobe like this?

Ok maybe I'm the weird one. I never considered not washing my bras after every wear until I heard that it's a common practice. I just hate the feeling of getting out of the shower and putting on a piece of clothing that I've already worn without washing it first. I wash (almost) everything -- jeans, bras, everything else -- after each use. The only things I don't necessarily wash after every wear are things that need to be dry cleaned.

Anyone else??

I was talking with some friends today, and somehow we ended up arguing about reusable water bottles. I refill mine all day, but I only wash it every few days because it's "just water."

They all looked at me like I was disgusting and said they wash theirs every day.

Now I'm wondering if I've been doing this wrong the whole time. How often do you actually wash your water bottle, and is every day really necessary?

before you ask how I know— I left for several weeks and when i came back the hand soap in our bathroom was at the exact same level.

Also, I started noticing because he would use the toilet in our shared bathroom and exit the bathroom immediately after flushing the toilet. And lastly, when I head into the bathroom to use it after him does, the sink is always dry.

When he first moved in and I wasn’t around for a day or two I noticed our hand soap broke and I asked how he’d been able to use it and he said he washes his hands with water…? I stressed how important it is to ALWAYS use soap because not washing your hands leads to spreading disease/bacteria/it’s just gross. We share the same kitchen like pls 😭

I knew he was lying even then because he simply just doesn’t rinse/wash his hands at all. I’m simply disgusted by this and find it extremely inconsiderate living with others, how do I confront this 28 year old man (I’m 24) about washing hands after using the bathroom?

We have other roommates but they don’t share the bathroom

i’m not sure if this is the right sub for this, but my cleaner comes to my house once a week and she’s a smoker.

i’ve never actually seen her smoking, but whenever she cleans the living room, she closes the hallway door and then i can smell cigarette smoke. she opens the windows, which are huge, so the air circulates and the smell doesn’t really linger.

i don’t mind it that much, but it does bother me a little, especially because she does it secretly.

i don’t smoke cigarettes, but i do smoke weed, and as the owner of the house, i choose to use a carbon filter that doesn’t leave any smell. so i feel weird about her deciding on her own to smoke inside, you know?

i feel like she should ask me whether it’s okay or not. other people who have worked in my house always went outside to smoke on the patio.

Tired? Shower. Bored? Shower. Overwhelmed? Shower. Just got home? Shower. Going out? Shower. Relieved? Shower. Stressed? Shower. Waking up? Shower. Going to bed? Shower. Back from work/school? Shower. Sad? Shower. Sick? Shower. Then rest.

I love a shower. Its my favourite thing to do for self care. I hope i get to design my perfect shower one day. One with curved dark stone walls, dim lights, eucalyptus branches, and no one to share it with.

I’m at my wits end, I can’t get rid of the smell in my underarms. Things I’ve tried:

Deodorant: useless

Roll ons: sometimes work, other times utterly useless for no reason

Glycolic acid: works great but I’ve to use it every single day and afterwards shower, if I don’t they start smelling again. The continuous use has started burning my underarms and putting any sort of moisturiser or oil makes it stinky again.

I’m just so completely exhausted at this point.

P.S I shower every day, sometimes twice a day. I shave as well.

Any advice atp would be greatly appreciated.

I recently found out that one of my friends washes literally every new clothing item before wearing it, including coats, jeans, hoodies and even things she only plans to wear over another shirt. I always washed underwear, socks, pajamas and anything that touches a lot of skin, but I never really thought about washing a new jacket or sweater unless it smelled strange. She looked genuinely horrified when I said I sometimes wear a new shirt straight from the store. Her reasoning was that dozens of people may have tried it on, it has been handled during shipping, and there could be leftover dye or chemicals from manufacturing. I know that makes sense, but washing every single thing also feels a little excessive to me, especially when the care label says delicate or dry clean only. Now I keep thinking about all the clothes I have worn directly after buying them and wondering if I have been gross my whole life without realizing it.

The confusing part is that everyone I ask seems to have a completely different rule. My sister washes everything except coats. My coworker only washes underwear and gym clothes. Another friend said she never washes new clothes first because they lose their “new” shape after one wash, which I kind of understand. I bought a pair of dark jeans last week and wore them for a few hours before noticing blue dye on my hands and the edge of my white phone case. That was probably a clear sign I should have washed them, but I still dont know whether that means all new clothes need washing or just dark fabrics. I also wonder about clothes ordered online, because those are usually sealed in plastic but probably passed through just as many warehouses and hands. At this point I have a new sweater sitting on a chair because I can’t decide whether to wear it tomorrow or wash it first and risk shrinking it. Is there an actual hygiene reason to wash everything new, or is this mostly personal preference? I feel like I missed a basic adult rule that everyone else quietly learned years ago.

Hey yall. Keeping my under carriage as clean as possible is a high priority to me. If at all possible, I avoid pooping unless I am at home and able to shower afterwards. Sometimes there's no getting around having to use a public/workplace bathroom, and wet wipes are a thing, but it just bothers the hell out of me to have to do that.

I started wiping my phone screen down with rubbing alcohol every single night after a random late-night scroll rabbit hole, and now it feels weirdly gross to touch it if I skip a day.

What is a weird, unconventional hygiene or hygiene trick you started doing on a total whim that ended up being an absolute game-changer for you?

I'm going to spare the details, including genders, because I asked a question about hygiene before and people jumped to conclusions and were attacking me for what they assumed was MY poor hygiene. No one gave me any helpful answers and the comments were riddled with rude unhelpful comments. I am not going into details, so please don't assume ANYTHING.

I know youre all going to wonder why I'm dating someone with less than par hygiene, but please don't. My partner is lovely in every way. They do rhe dishes, keep a clean house, even borrowed me their only car for a month when mine broke down. Sexual relationship is good and we have fantastic communication. We never argue, we only discuss and reason topics with each other without raising our voices. I am very happy in this relationship other than the hygiene.

I have hinted many times about hygiene areas that I would like to see improvement on, and even modeled these behaviours to my partner, but often they don't continue unless I constantly remind. I don't like feeling like I'm parenting an adult.

My partner is reasonable but easily ashamed. Is there a nice way to bring this up without hurting feelings too much? Any terms or sentences I should avoid? Any help here is greatly appreciated, thanks.

My wife never cleans the toilet or her long hair all over the bathroom, every time I use the toilet, I clean and sanitize it. I use it after her and I got poop stains all over the bowl ! Drives me crazy, I want my own bathroom

Idk how it came up in convo but we were talking about going to the bathroom in public and she said she covered the toilet before going. I asked what she meant. She said she put toilet paper on the seat. I said you don't put your bare ass on the seat? She got disgusted. I never covered it I just sit on the seat. Now if there is pee or pubes on it Iwipe it off first obviously, but other than that I just sit down. Is it bad?

I often think about how much I needed support when I went through puberty. I had my first period at 9 years old. My mother knew but she was very uncomfortable with it. She never had any talks with me about it or any part of womanhood. So I got bullied alot. I smelled gross, I often was in the nurses office at school. Teachers knew what I was dealing with but they also seemed very uncomfortable. I wish I had spoken up more, held adults around me accountable but it felt very shameful. I often bled through my pants and had to makeshift my sock into a pad. I often wore sweaters and big jackets to hide the stench of my underarms. My legs were so so hairy and my hair was always greasy and smelly. This affected me so much. Other girls were so clean and kept and pretty and loved. It made me an outcast when I was grouped with other girls. When I finally learned to take care of myself I was already in highschool with a job. Already a young woman and yet still having had so much to learn about self care. Now, I’m married, expecting my 2nd baby, a girl. I think so much about how much I will teach her. My husband often teaches me still, about flossing and mouthwash and skincare. I am so lucky to have him in my life. He makes sure I have my nails done and my body waxed and my hair kept. I am so blessed now.

I try to wash when I can, but rinse for sure. What but you?

I used to think confidence came from big changes, but honestly it was the small hygiene habits that made the biggest difference. Things like sticking to a better skincare routine, improving my oral care, wearing clean clothes, and smelling fresh made me feel a lot more comfortable around other people. Nothing dramatic, just consistent habits that added up over time. What small hygiene change made the biggest difference for you?

I'm curious to see what everyone's daily hygiene routine looks like. What do you do every morning and before bed? Do you have any must have products, habits, or tips that help you stay fresh and healthy? Whether your routine is simple or detailed, I'd love to hear what works for you and maybe pick up a few ideas.

Everyone has different shower or bathing schedules. Do you do it daily, regularly or something else? What if you feel lazy about it or you come home from someplace and you didn’t was yourself? How long is the longest you went?

Hi! I’m a girl with a very hairy upper lip and it’s super embarrassing. I can’t shave or dermaplane it due to me being prone to acne and breakouts, was there any other way anyone could recommend? I’m open to waxing it, I just don’t know how to do it. TYSM🫶🏼

I use a disposable razor. I usually use the same razor for at least a week before deciding it’s time to use a new one. Is this the way to do it? Are we supposed to be using a new razor every day?

I’m so obsessed with having spotless teeth that I sometimes catch myself flossing three or four times a day, especially right after eating anything remotely fibrous. The problem is, my gums end up raw, inflamed, and bleeding because I’m sawing into them with thread all day long. My dentist told me that over-flossing can actually cause receded gums and invite more irritation than just leaving your mouth alone between morning and night routines. Has anyone else had to intentionally back off on oral care because their habits crossed the line into physical irritation?

I have been noticing small, soft tonsil stones for about six months now. They are usually very easy to remove, and I check my tonsils every other day. However, they keep coming back.

I am worried about my breath and whether it is normal for tonsil stones to return so frequently. I usually have good oral hygiene, I brush, floss twice a day, and use a Waterpik. However, I am currently on vacation and don't have my Waterpik with me. I also scrape my tongue once a week. Is there a way to reduce or stop my tonsil stones?

Crazy title but basically although I make sure to soap and wash my feet multiple times in the shower and make sure there clean it always gets a scent after awhile regardless(not a good one obviously)

Any tips on what else I can do? It isn’t overwhelming or anything but when Im sitting with my legs crossed and my foot on my thigh the scent is noticeable,I think it could also be from the fact I wear the same shoes? Idk this is annoying the shit out of me esp when I try to be as cleanly as possible😭😭

(I also never walk on bare ground anymore,not since I was a child at least and I always wear a pair of sandals or slippers)

I'm sorry if this doesn't belong here, but I feel like I can trust this community and would like to hear what your habits are in this regard. Cheers!

Edit: Asking mainly because I grew up in Italy where the norm is to use bicarbonate along with water, e.g., letting strawberries soak in water and bicarbonate, then washing them well. I learnt that it's not really useful nor common elsewhere, but it's always weird to me to only use water.