I’m a gross girl. Pretty much the same but my body has a weird homeostasis because of it.

I take a body shower every couple days and wipe down in between because why shower if I’m not visibly really dirty and I can just refresh the important places a little bit. Then my strong and pleasant perfume my friends and family love stays in my hair and clothes and with some deodorant every day sometimes multiple times a day, I smell amazing always. I wash my hair every 5-7 days sometimes longer because my dry shampoo is plain baby powder and my hair is curly so a refresh here and there carries me several days. And my hair stays perfect without getting greas. I never wash my face regularly and sometimes just clean using a makeup wipe and call it a day. I only wash my face in the shower and no skincare besides thick moisturizing sunscreen cream. And my skin is almost flawless besides the occasional hormonal breakout around my chin with a few tiny zits. Normally people compliment me on how amazing my skin is and i just say “good genes”. In the shower I don’t scrub my body unless its a special occasion so I take unscented soap and only wash my pits, flora and my crack (and yes you have to actually get in there and wash it like seriously y’all) and then the water runs down the rest of me. Sometimes I might use scented body wash to feel special.

I wash my sheets maybe once a month and I wash my towels maybe once a month sometimes I get lazy and wash a couple that I need to use that day and the rest stay in the towel basket forever. I try and wash my pillow case with every new hair wash. But even when I don’t get around to it, my face never breaks out and my hair might get greasy early but I easily fix it.

I attribute 80% this to my crippling executive dysfunction and 20% to culture and being raised by parents of depressed europe country side who grew up poor and didn’t shower all the time to preserve water gallons.

Roast if you want. I probably won’t change. Not until I have a damn good reason because my body is happy and healthy just how I have it doing occasional maintenance

My wife admitted a while ago that she occasionally wears my boxer briefs around the house because she says theyre more comfortable than a lot of her sleep shorts. At first I thought it was funny... until I realized half the time I couldn't find a clean pair because they were somehow ending up in her drawer. Lol

Now when I buy new underwear, i almost feel like i have to buy extra because i know a few pairs are eventually going to become "hers."

anyone else's spouse quietly claim part of their wardrobe like this?

i’m not sure if this is the right sub for this, but my cleaner comes to my house once a week and she’s a smoker.

i’ve never actually seen her smoking, but whenever she cleans the living room, she closes the hallway door and then i can smell cigarette smoke. she opens the windows, which are huge, so the air circulates and the smell doesn’t really linger.

i don’t mind it that much, but it does bother me a little, especially because she does it secretly.

i don’t smoke cigarettes, but i do smoke weed, and as the owner of the house, i choose to use a carbon filter that doesn’t leave any smell. so i feel weird about her deciding on her own to smoke inside, you know?

i feel like she should ask me whether it’s okay or not. other people who have worked in my house always went outside to smoke on the patio.

How often do you clean or disinfect your phone? And what do you usually use to clean it?

Tired? Shower. Bored? Shower. Overwhelmed? Shower. Just got home? Shower. Going out? Shower. Relieved? Shower. Stressed? Shower. Waking up? Shower. Going to bed? Shower. Back from work/school? Shower. Sad? Shower. Sick? Shower. Then rest.

I love a shower. Its my favourite thing to do for self care. I hope i get to design my perfect shower one day. One with curved dark stone walls, dim lights, eucalyptus branches, and no one to share it with.

My wife never cleans the toilet or her long hair all over the bathroom, every time I use the toilet, I clean and sanitize it. I use it after her and I got poop stains all over the bowl ! Drives me crazy, I want my own bathroom

My husband was neglected as a kid. I mean like his parents didn't even brush his teeth or teach him how to properly bathe and he was bullied most of his childhood and early teens. We've been together since high school and me and my parents taught him a lot. We've been living together for year and a half now. He follows the basics of hygiene but I don't think that's enough. I'm trying to explain to him that little habits matter more than deep cleaning and he calls me a clean freak.
For example: when he finishes showering, he never wipes down the shower doors from soap residue, which leads to either me going in after him or the reside builds up until it's deep clean day (which we have every Saturday). And little things like this too: he never cleans his PC table after eating there, leaves used cups and plates all over the house. Don't even get me started on sitting on our clean sheets with his work clothes on...... His logic is that 'it all gets cleaned on Saturday anyway'.

I love him and this is not me slandering him. He had a hard childhood and I get that, he has improved a lot since we first met but still says that I'm too much of a clean freak. Am I though? I always thought daily cleaning habits that take less than 10 seconds are normal. He doesn't think so.

My question is: how do I help him grow into these habits?

I still feel like I’m figuring out my skin sometimes. I always assumed oily skin was just something you deal with, but lately I’ve been trying to understand what actually helps instead of randomly changing things every few weeks.

For people with oily skin, what does your routine look like? Are there any habits or changes that made a noticeable difference for you? Also curious if your skin changed as you got older because mine definitely doesn’t seem to behave the same way it did years ago.

I’ve been having this issue for a while, and I can’t figure out what I’m doing wrong. My clothes smell completely normal when they come out of the washer, and they still smell fresh after drying. I usually let everything dry fully, fold it, and put it away the same day.

But after sitting in my closet for maybe three or four days, some shirts start getting this weird stale, musty smell. It’s not exactly mildew, and it’s not body odor either. It just smells like clothes that have been stored somewhere damp for months, even though they were recently washed.

The closet itself doesn’t feel wet, and I haven’t noticed any visible mold on the walls or shelves. I leave the door open pretty often, especially during the day, and the room doesn’t have the same smell. I’ve also cleaned the closet, wiped down the shelves, washed everything again, and stopped packing clothes tightly together. That helped a little, but didn’t completely fix it.

The strangest part is that it seems worse with certain cotton shirts and hoodies, while jeans and synthetic workout clothes usually stay fine. I’ve tried changing detergent, using less detergent, adding vinegar to the wash, and running an extra rinse cycle because I thought maybe soap residue was trapping smells. Nothing has made a big difference.

Could this be caused by humidity even if the closet doesn’t feel damp? I’m wondering if I need a small dehumidifier, moisture absorbers, or better airflow inside the closet. I also don’t know whether I should be washing the clothes again every time they develop the smell, or if airing them out is enough.

Has anyone dealt with this and found the actual cause? I’m tired of putting on a clean shirt and immediately wondering why it smells like it spent a year in someone’s basement. 😭

I often think about how much I needed support when I went through puberty. I had my first period at 9 years old. My mother knew but she was very uncomfortable with it. She never had any talks with me about it or any part of womanhood. So I got bullied alot. I smelled gross, I often was in the nurses office at school. Teachers knew what I was dealing with but they also seemed very uncomfortable. I wish I had spoken up more, held adults around me accountable but it felt very shameful. I often bled through my pants and had to makeshift my sock into a pad. I often wore sweaters and big jackets to hide the stench of my underarms. My legs were so so hairy and my hair was always greasy and smelly. This affected me so much. Other girls were so clean and kept and pretty and loved. It made me an outcast when I was grouped with other girls. When I finally learned to take care of myself I was already in highschool with a job. Already a young woman and yet still having had so much to learn about self care. Now, I’m married, expecting my 2nd baby, a girl. I think so much about how much I will teach her. My husband often teaches me still, about flossing and mouthwash and skincare. I am so lucky to have him in my life. He makes sure I have my nails done and my body waxed and my hair kept. I am so blessed now.

hear me out, like barely any pressure and running your toothbrush over your gums. idk lol i feel like brushing my teeth and not touching my gums is weird.

this is more towards manual brushers but i’m curious about how everyone goes about gum care anyway.

I'm going to spare the details, including genders, because I asked a question about hygiene before and people jumped to conclusions and were attacking me for what they assumed was MY poor hygiene. No one gave me any helpful answers and the comments were riddled with rude unhelpful comments. I am not going into details, so please don't assume ANYTHING.

I know youre all going to wonder why I'm dating someone with less than par hygiene, but please don't. My partner is lovely in every way. They do rhe dishes, keep a clean house, even borrowed me their only car for a month when mine broke down. Sexual relationship is good and we have fantastic communication. We never argue, we only discuss and reason topics with each other without raising our voices. I am very happy in this relationship other than the hygiene.

I have hinted many times about hygiene areas that I would like to see improvement on, and even modeled these behaviours to my partner, but often they don't continue unless I constantly remind. I don't like feeling like I'm parenting an adult.

My partner is reasonable but easily ashamed. Is there a nice way to bring this up without hurting feelings too much? Any terms or sentences I should avoid? Any help here is greatly appreciated, thanks.

Hi! I’m a girl with a very hairy upper lip and it’s super embarrassing. I can’t shave or dermaplane it due to me being prone to acne and breakouts, was there any other way anyone could recommend? I’m open to waxing it, I just don’t know how to do it. TYSM🫶🏼

So, my two kitchen bins attract fly during summer, and we end up with larva and bad odors.

We change the bags often, but we have 4 cats, and in summer, we dump their food when they don't eat so they don't sick from it. I know it can come from there.

What can I do to stop it ? Something you put in your bins ? A cleaning hack ?

I try to wash when I can, but rinse for sure. What but you?

Edit 6: mental health trigger warning, bad hygiene

My girlfriend (21) doesn’t wash her hands after she pees. I didn’t notice for about a year. She says none of her friends do. She says nobody at university, her sports team or on a night out wash their hands. She says her friends at work go with her and walk out together, and that she’s sure it’s the same in the men’s room just because I wash people wash beside me

Edit she says she doesn’t touch anything except toilet paper and her phone. And that the water makes her hands dry. And that she thinks guys don’t after actually touching themselves so what’s the point anyway. I admitted a lot of guys don’t wash at urinals. Edit 2: I told her she can make her own decisions but guys at urinals often only touch skin, often not even a door, whereas girls touch stalls infrastructure (eg doors, flusher, fecal matter). apparently I’m sexist for this distinction. I think folk should wash, always!

Edit 3 I wash my hands. To my male brain using an actual toilet stall (sh*tter) for a pee even at home is way dirtier than using a urinal! All the stuff you have to touch… We got into this debate cos she says she doesn’t touch anything while guys do… Do you wash??

Edit 4 she says given available statistics women in the comments are simply lying🤣. And women not washing at home or men with pp hands can’t tell her what to do.

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///health authorities advise you to wash to reduce spread of disease and illness. Washing when you have an opportunity to is a great idea. You can save lives through effective handwashing for 20s //////

I’m super big on hygiene and always wanting to smell fresh, but I feel like standard scents fade after an hour or two. On top of that, my skin is pretty sensitive, so I have to be careful with heavily fragranced products or anything harsh.

What are your go to habits, gentler routines, or layering tricks for long lasting freshness that won't irritate sensitive skin? Would love to hear what works for you!

Was just talking with my brother about this but as I’m getting older I’m noticing more and more some of my hygiene quirks.. wondering if anyone else can relate? I definitely believe I must have a sensory thing with my hands, I am constantly washing them. Anytime I touch something I think is dirty I have to wash them. Anytime I get like Cheeto dust or crumbs on them I have to wash them. Same goes with my outside clothes. If I’ve been out during the day sitting in public spaces I do not want to sit on my couch or bed in those same clothes. I also will come inside and wash my feet specifically if I’ve been walking around in sandals. If my feet feel clean I feel better

I wouldn’t consider my house to be like a super duper clean space there’s definitely mess and it could be cleaner but I just have some weird habits and I’m not sure where they came from.

I’m so obsessed with having spotless teeth that I sometimes catch myself flossing three or four times a day, especially right after eating anything remotely fibrous. The problem is, my gums end up raw, inflamed, and bleeding because I’m sawing into them with thread all day long. My dentist told me that over-flossing can actually cause receded gums and invite more irritation than just leaving your mouth alone between morning and night routines. Has anyone else had to intentionally back off on oral care because their habits crossed the line into physical irritation?

For months, I thought my sweat was getting worse because no matter what deodorant or body wash I used, I’d start smelling a faint, sour odor within 20 minutes of putting on a clean shirt. It was my gym clothes and polyester shirts.

I had been using liquid fabric softener, which was basically coating the synthetic fibers and locking trapped sweat bacteria inside the fabric. As soon as my body heat warmed up the shirt, the smell would reactivate.

I've been experiencing a rubbery taste n smell in my mouth occasionally. I do have symptom free days . And the symptoms appear out of nowhere during the day. I've been occasionally using a plastic water bottle which I admit has not been washed for months. In addition I've been pouring water into the remaining water in the bottle. I've noticed the use of bottle coinciding with the occurrence of smell. Could the rubbery taste be from this . The bottle or water itself didn't smell while using it. The empty bottle does smell like an unwashed old bottle.

I’m at my wits end, I can’t get rid of the smell in my underarms. Things I’ve tried:

Deodorant: useless

Roll ons: sometimes work, other times utterly useless for no reason

Glycolic acid: works great but I’ve to use it every single day and afterwards shower, if I don’t they start smelling again. The continuous use has started burning my underarms and putting any sort of moisturiser or oil makes it stinky again.

I’m just so completely exhausted at this point.

P.S I shower every day, sometimes twice a day. I shave as well.

Any advice atp would be greatly appreciated.

Idk how it came up in convo but we were talking about going to the bathroom in public and she said she covered the toilet before going. I asked what she meant. She said she put toilet paper on the seat. I said you don't put your bare ass on the seat? She got disgusted. I never covered it I just sit on the seat. Now if there is pee or pubes on it Iwipe it off first obviously, but other than that I just sit down. Is it bad?

I'm sorry if this doesn't belong here, but I feel like I can trust this community and would like to hear what your habits are in this regard. Cheers!

Edit: Asking mainly because I grew up in Italy where the norm is to use bicarbonate along with water, e.g., letting strawberries soak in water and bicarbonate, then washing them well. I learnt that it's not really useful nor common elsewhere, but it's always weird to me to only use water.