My wife admitted a while ago that she occasionally wears my boxer briefs around the house because she says theyre more comfortable than a lot of her sleep shorts. At first I thought it was funny... until I realized half the time I couldn't find a clean pair because they were somehow ending up in her drawer. Lol

Now when I buy new underwear, i almost feel like i have to buy extra because i know a few pairs are eventually going to become "hers."

anyone else's spouse quietly claim part of their wardrobe like this?

I was talking with some friends today, and somehow we ended up arguing about reusable water bottles. I refill mine all day, but I only wash it every few days because it's "just water."

They all looked at me like I was disgusting and said they wash theirs every day.

Now I'm wondering if I've been doing this wrong the whole time. How often do you actually wash your water bottle, and is every day really necessary?

I know, I know. I used to be one of you. I thought using half a roll of premium quilted paper meant I was clean. I was wrong. It is LEGITIMATELY insane that in a modern society, we think rubbing dry paper on our skin is enough.

Think about it. If you got any other kind of biological waste on your arm or your face, would you just wipe it with a dry napkin and call it a day? No. You would use water and soap. But for the messiest part of the day, we just smear it around and hope for the best.

The first time I used the spray, it was like a religious experience. I felt actually, truly clean for the first time in my adult life. I could of saved so much money on wet wipes and fancy paper years ago if I just listened to the hype.

Now when I go to work and have to use the office bathroom, I feel like a barbarian. I sit there knowing that no matter how much paper I use, I am still not "clean" by my new standards. Its ruining my life because I hate using any bathroom that isn't mine.

Why is this not the standard everywhere? Why are we still acting like it is 1850? If you are still a "dry wiper" only, you are just lying to yourself about your hygiene. It is just a fact.

My girlfriend (21) doesn’t wash her hands after she pees. I didn’t notice for about a year. She says none of her friends do. She says nobody at university, her sports team or on a night out wash their hands. She says her friends at work go with her and walk out together, and that she’s sure it’s the same in the men’s room just because I wash people wash beside me

Edit she says she doesn’t touch anything except toilet paper and her phone. And that the water makes her hands dry. And that she thinks guys don’t after actually touching themselves so what’s the point anyway. I admitted a lot of guys don’t wash at urinals. Edit 2: I told her she can make her own decisions but guys at urinals often only touch skin, often not even a door, whereas girls touch stalls infrastructure (eg doors, flusher, fecal matter). apparently I’m sexist for this distinction. I think folk should wash, always!

Edit 3 I wash my hands. To my male brain using an actual toilet stall (sh*tter) for a pee even at home is way dirtier than using a urinal! All the stuff you have to touch… We got into this debate cos she says she doesn’t touch anything while guys do… Do you wash??

Edit 4 she says given available statistics women in the comments are simply lying. And women not washing at home or men with pp hands can’t tell her what to do.

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Ok maybe I'm the weird one. I never considered not washing my bras after every wear until I heard that it's a common practice. I just hate the feeling of getting out of the shower and putting on a piece of clothing that I've already worn without washing it first. I wash (almost) everything -- jeans, bras, everything else -- after each use. The only things I don't necessarily wash after every wear are things that need to be dry cleaned.

Anyone else??

I’m at my wits end, I can’t get rid of the smell in my underarms. Things I’ve tried:

Deodorant: useless

Roll ons: sometimes work, other times utterly useless for no reason

Glycolic acid: works great but I’ve to use it every single day and afterwards shower, if I don’t they start smelling again. The continuous use has started burning my underarms and putting any sort of moisturiser or oil makes it stinky again.

I’m just so completely exhausted at this point.

P.S I shower every day, sometimes twice a day. I shave as well.

Any advice atp would be greatly appreciated.

For months, I thought my sweat was getting worse because no matter what deodorant or body wash I used, I’d start smelling a faint, sour odor within 20 minutes of putting on a clean shirt. It was my gym clothes and polyester shirts.

I had been using liquid fabric softener, which was basically coating the synthetic fibers and locking trapped sweat bacteria inside the fabric. As soon as my body heat warmed up the shirt, the smell would reactivate.

I try to wash when I can, but rinse for sure. What but you?

Idk how it came up in convo but we were talking about going to the bathroom in public and she said she covered the toilet before going. I asked what she meant. She said she put toilet paper on the seat. I said you don't put your bare ass on the seat? She got disgusted. I never covered it I just sit on the seat. Now if there is pee or pubes on it Iwipe it off first obviously, but other than that I just sit down. Is it bad?

I’m not sure if I can even classify it as dandruff at this point, but I’ve had white flakiness dropping from my scalp for multiple years, and no matter what I do I can’t get it to stop.

I have extremely hard water, the kind where it turns my shower orange if I don’t clean it often enough, so I think that may be the root cause since if I shower at any other house, the problem seems to start going away. I recently bought myself a filtered shower head to try to help control the minerals but I have to change the filter so often that I’ve already run out and I don’t feel like buying replacements every couple weeks.

I have tried using prescribed shampoos for reducing psoriasis, dandruff, etc., but it only helps for a couple hours until my scalp goes back to snowing all over everything. I swear, I have tried everything, but nothing is helping get rid of it in the slightest.

The flakes are all over my bed unless I wash my bedding every couple days, my dresser was literally COVERED in white specks at one point before I noticed it and wiped it off, how does it even get there?? I’m just so tired of this condition.

Oh and not to mention if I wear a black shirt anywhere, I have to wipe my shoulders off every now and then to make sure people don’t notice the specks all over them.

The only way I’ve found that I can reduce the amount of flakiness is if I wash and vigorously scrub my hair every single day. If i skip a shower, the flakiness builds up significantly and becomes very itchy, even if I haven’t used the scrubbing method the day before.

Please, if anybody can give me some advice, it would be appreciated. I’m so incredibly insecure about this and I can’t stand it anymore. My scalp was even itching while typing this out, causing specks to fall onto my shirt.

Hey yall. Keeping my under carriage as clean as possible is a high priority to me. If at all possible, I avoid pooping unless I am at home and able to shower afterwards. Sometimes there's no getting around having to use a public/workplace bathroom, and wet wipes are a thing, but it just bothers the hell out of me to have to do that.

before you ask how I know— I left for several weeks and when i came back the hand soap in our bathroom was at the exact same level.

Also, I started noticing because he would use the toilet in our shared bathroom and exit the bathroom immediately after flushing the toilet. And lastly, when I head into the bathroom to use it after him does, the sink is always dry.

When he first moved in and I wasn’t around for a day or two I noticed our hand soap broke and I asked how he’d been able to use it and he said he washes his hands with water…? I stressed how important it is to ALWAYS use soap because not washing your hands leads to spreading disease/bacteria/it’s just gross. We share the same kitchen like pls 😭

I knew he was lying even then because he simply just doesn’t rinse/wash his hands at all. I’m simply disgusted by this and find it extremely inconsiderate living with others, how do I confront this 28 year old man (I’m 24) about washing hands after using the bathroom?

We have other roommates but they don’t share the bathroom

No matter how many times I shake it…there is ALWAYS at least a few drops. I tried doing it several minutes - still leaked. So, I started grabbing toilet paper and sort of cupping it around the end. Then, just putting it back in pants with toilet paper. Am I the only one this happens to? Is anyone else doing the same thing? Is anyone else solving the problem differently? Thank you!

I use a disposable razor. I usually use the same razor for at least a week before deciding it’s time to use a new one. Is this the way to do it? Are we supposed to be using a new razor every day?

I used to think confidence came from big changes, but honestly it was the small hygiene habits that made the biggest difference. Things like sticking to a better skincare routine, improving my oral care, wearing clean clothes, and smelling fresh made me feel a lot more comfortable around other people. Nothing dramatic, just consistent habits that added up over time. What small hygiene change made the biggest difference for you?

Apparently this is best practice to avoid irritation, which is partly why I only shave my armpits when i'm planning to wear sleeveless tops and do it in a day I'll stay home. But I'm sure some people shave their armpits daily, so how does that work?

Also by the next day there is a bit of stubble so if you follow this rule you'll really never be able to go out with perfectly hairless smooth armpits unless you're okay with stinking or genuinely don't need deodorant.

I'm sorry if this doesn't belong here, but I feel like I can trust this community and would like to hear what your habits are in this regard. Cheers!

Edit: Asking mainly because I grew up in Italy where the norm is to use bicarbonate along with water, e.g., letting strawberries soak in water and bicarbonate, then washing them well. I learnt that it's not really useful nor common elsewhere, but it's always weird to me to only use water.

I could really use some advice because I’m honestly struggling with keeping my first apartment under control.

I moved out about 8 months ago and had the opportunity to move into my grandparents’ old apartment. I renovated part of it, but not all of it. It’s much bigger than I actually need, so there are several rooms I don’t even use or haven’t renovated yet.

One of the biggest problems is that those unused rooms are still full of my grandparents’ belongings. The family members who now own the apartment rent it to me for very little, but understandably they aren’t ready to part with a lot of those things because of the sentimental value. So I can’t really empty those rooms or reorganize them.

That means they’re packed with furniture, boxes, and keepsakes, making them difficult to clean. You can’t just quickly vacuum because you have to move around so much stuff.

On top of that, I’ve started using one of those rooms as a “temporary” storage room for my own things because I honestly don’t know where to put them. Things like my crochet supplies, hobby materials, and other everyday items just don’t fit into the smaller rooms that I actually live in. So now that room is becoming another source of stress instead of helping.

To be fair, my childhood bedroom was always pretty messy too, so I’ve never really built good cleaning habits or routines. I genuinely don’t know how often people are supposed to do certain things. How often should I clean the toilet? The bathtub? Mop the floors? Dust? Vacuum? And what about the rooms I barely use? Should I still air them out regularly? Vacuum them? How often?
When I first moved in, I somehow managed to vacuum every day and mop every two weeks, but I just can’t keep up with that anymore.

It doesn’t help that the apartment is in a very old building (built sometime in the 1700s), so it’s incredibly dusty. I also have these little beetles that seem to come from the building itself. I vacuum them up almost every day, but they keep coming back.

Another thing that makes it feel impossible is that the house itself is huge. My apartment is on the first floor, but there are several more floors above me, and even the shared entrance and hallway seem to get dirty all the time. I feel like there are spiders everywhere, dust constantly builds up again, and because it’s such an old building it never really feels “done.” I don’t even know what’s normal anymore or what I can realistically ignore.
The apartment is just… a lot. Every time I look around, I don’t know where to start, and then I end up doing almost nothing because I feel so overwhelmed.

Has anyone been in a similar situation and maybe has a realistic plan for how to get things under control?

I’m looking for advice on two things:
How would you tackle the current chaos step by step? How do you sort through everything, decide what to keep, donate, or throw away without getting overwhelmed? How would you organize things when storage is limited and some rooms aren’t really available because they’re still full of someone else’s belongings?

Once everything is under control, what does a realistic cleaning routine actually look like for one person with a full-time job?

I’ve tried a few cleaning apps, but they all seem to expect you to wipe down the kitchen every day, vacuum every day, clean the bathroom constantly… and I just can’t keep up with that. Honestly, I don’t even think it’s necessary when you live alone.

Social media also makes me feel like everyone deep-cleans their home every day, and I know that can’t be reality for most people.
I’m not looking for a picture-perfect home. I just want a simple, realistic system that I can actually stick to. Something that tells me what really needs to be done daily, weekly, monthly, or just occasionally, without making cleaning feel like a second full-time job.

I’d also really appreciate any advice on how to get from where I am now to that point. If you have a step-by-step approach for decluttering and organizing before even worrying about cleaning, I’d love to hear it.

My goal isn’t a perfect home. I just want to get to the point where someone could text me saying, “Hey, can I come over?” and I wouldn’t immediately panic because I’d feel like I need to spend a week cleaning before anyone sees my apartment.

If you have a system, checklist, routine, mindset, or any tips that helped you when you were overwhelmed, I’d really appreciate hearing about it.

I started wiping my phone screen down with rubbing alcohol every single night after a random late-night scroll rabbit hole, and now it feels weirdly gross to touch it if I skip a day.

What is a weird, unconventional hygiene or hygiene trick you started doing on a total whim that ended up being an absolute game-changer for you?

I'm curious to see what everyone's daily hygiene routine looks like. What do you do every morning and before bed? Do you have any must have products, habits, or tips that help you stay fresh and healthy? Whether your routine is simple or detailed, I'd love to hear what works for you and maybe pick up a few ideas.

Anyone else here aware of the direction to only do deodorant at night so it can properly soak in with its antiperspirant properties? Apparently you don’t sweat at night for the most part so it has enough time to sink into your pores and such to block the sweat as it begins. Putting it on in the morning before you intend to start your day both ruins the effectives by washing it away with sweat and causes the crusties on your white and black shirts. If anything, just do it after a nights shower and before you lay down to prevent the icky stains.

Things like “certain dry extra strength are also not an every day thing and continue to work for 48-72 hours even with daily showers.

These products also function on a “build up” basis, meaning it take a few days to get the actual full effects of the product. Daily use is what typically leads to the rashes and burning skin feeling (this is why I even looked any of this up). It did indeed take about 2 weeks to begin working, but I didn’t even register the whole waiting process because I was just mad I had to use up a whole other deodorant stick that didn’t work or waste the money. One day I just kinda stopped excessively sweating and chocked it up to universe RNG bullshit.

I wasn’t aware until like 20 minutes ago and I’m almost 30 lmao. The more you know i guess. Hopefully this gives a little light at the end of the tunnel for those who are experiencing intense sweating anywhere and don’t have the funds for a dermatologist, forcing them to do all otc. I’m sure this is all on the back of the bottle too, but I didn’t read anything except “extra strength” lmao. This applies to pretty much all antiperspirants I believe. Even the spray on ones.

Or even lavender.

I recently found out that one of my friends washes literally every new clothing item before wearing it, including coats, jeans, hoodies and even things she only plans to wear over another shirt. I always washed underwear, socks, pajamas and anything that touches a lot of skin, but I never really thought about washing a new jacket or sweater unless it smelled strange. She looked genuinely horrified when I said I sometimes wear a new shirt straight from the store. Her reasoning was that dozens of people may have tried it on, it has been handled during shipping, and there could be leftover dye or chemicals from manufacturing. I know that makes sense, but washing every single thing also feels a little excessive to me, especially when the care label says delicate or dry clean only. Now I keep thinking about all the clothes I have worn directly after buying them and wondering if I have been gross my whole life without realizing it.

The confusing part is that everyone I ask seems to have a completely different rule. My sister washes everything except coats. My coworker only washes underwear and gym clothes. Another friend said she never washes new clothes first because they lose their “new” shape after one wash, which I kind of understand. I bought a pair of dark jeans last week and wore them for a few hours before noticing blue dye on my hands and the edge of my white phone case. That was probably a clear sign I should have washed them, but I still dont know whether that means all new clothes need washing or just dark fabrics. I also wonder about clothes ordered online, because those are usually sealed in plastic but probably passed through just as many warehouses and hands. At this point I have a new sweater sitting on a chair because I can’t decide whether to wear it tomorrow or wash it first and risk shrinking it. Is there an actual hygiene reason to wash everything new, or is this mostly personal preference? I feel like I missed a basic adult rule that everyone else quietly learned years ago.

Title. I do sweat a lot from my armpits and I'm grateful for that since I'm quite active and I regulate my body temp well. The issue is that it isn't quite great in every scenario where I'm NOT active. I'm a student so I don't have extensive experience with all these antiperspirant products so I thought I'd ask. Would appreciate any suggestions. Thanks in advance!