Problem/Goal:
I feel guilty because I realized that I don’t love my boyfriend of 2 years anymore

Context:
It’s 4 AM, and I’m sitting in my balcony writing this while my boyfriend is all comfortable in the bed with his full blast volume.

After an argument a while ago (I opened up about my feelings & he hated it), I decided that I will sleep it off nalang. He knows how sensitive I am sa noise pero still, he ended up watching tiktoks on full volume & when I asked him to turn it down, ang sabi lang niya sakin takpan ko raw ears ko. Hindi pa siya contented dun, he kept on shaking his legs which made the bed move nang sobra.

I don’t know if I’m overreacting, but something snapped in me & I realized that this is not the kind of man that I want to spend my life with. Alam na niyang masama ‘yong loob ko & the least he can do is to let me sleep peacefully kasi he refuses to take accountability, pero ayun ganon ginawa niya.

Aside from that, I feel offended na ako pa ‘yong mag aadjust sa place na ako mismo nagbabayad. Nakakabastos masabihan nang takpan ko nalang tenga ko when he purposely used his phone on full volume. I hate him so much. Kung galit lang nararamdaman ko, I would argue & argue with him pero ngayon wala na ‘kong maramdaman.

Am I just being petty over this or valid naman nararamdaman ko?

Previous Attempts:

Problem/Goal: Would you allow your bf/sister to share an apartment?

Context:
Magkalapit lang ang edad namin ng bf ko, sister, at ako. Sobrang ok din ang vibe naming tatlo. Nagkataon na medyo magkalapit ang workplace ni sister at bf kaya napagisipan namin mag 2-bedroom apartment nalang sila para makatipid. Ako naman, malayo ang workplace ko sa kanila kaya hindi ako makakasama. What are your thoughts on this? Please know na wala naman any reason for me para pag-isipan ng masama.

Previous attempts: none but slightly giving hints that it’s kinda off to share an apartment without me.

problem/goal: my daughter is eligible to represent either the Philippines or the US in an international competition, and we’re wondering which choice would give her the best opportunities.

context: my daughter has the option to represent either the Philippines or the US in an international competition since she was born in the US but is also eligible to represent the Philippines. she has been competing since she was a child and has spent years developing her skills in this field.

she currently attends high school in the Philippines, but our family also has strong ties to the US through our businesses, investments, and other connections. her training and competition expenses have always been privately funded by me rather than through any government or national program.

we’re trying to decide which would be the better choice. the US offers extensive training, experienced coaches, covers the expenses, and has a well established support system for its participants. it also offers the opportunity to build a strong network with other high achieving students, mentors, and professionals that could benefit her academically and professionally in the future. from what i know, the Philippines doesn’t provide anywhere near the same level of support.

another factor is that both my daughter and i want her to study abroad for university, which is why she’s taking the IB curriculum. i’m wondering if representing one country over the other would make any meaningful difference for future opportunities.

is there any reason to choose the Philippines over the US? are there any benefits or opportunities i’m overlooking, or is the US the clear choice?

edit: thanks for the input! just to clarify though, this is an academic competition, so brand deals or popularity aren’t really part of the equation. we’re mainly looking at the quality of training, support system, network, and long-term opportunities.

edited this because it looks like people couldn’t see my comments.

also, just to add more context: my daughter is a US citizen, which is why she’s eligible to represent the US. they reached out to us and have been encouraging her to represent the US. they offered online training, lessons, and support, including guidance from experienced coaches, personalized resources, and a structured support system to help her continue improving. they’ll also help with competition expenses and provide opportunities that could benefit her beyond the competition itself.

Problem/Goal: Is it still possible to find a genuine, long-term relationship these days? I'm curious to hear both men's and women's perspectives.

It seems like modern dating is becoming more focused on hookups and situationships. One thing I've also wondered is whether it matters if a woman has never been in a relationship because she chose to wait until she was emotionally ready for commitment.

I've tried talking to people and keeping an open mind, but I haven't found anyone looking for the same kind of genuine connection. Does relationship experience matter, or do character and intentions matter more?

Problem/Goal: my boyfriend has an older sister that needs him lagi and madalas nadedelay siya sa date/nagcacancel last minute because his sister needs him.

Context: Hi! my boyfriend M20 has an older sister F25 na madalas need siya. I feel guilty for feeling this way kasi transparent naman yung boyfriend ko sa pinagdadaanan niya and naiintindihan ko naman, pero lately parang nahihirapan ako kasi hindi name-meet yung needs ko and I know na sobrang toxic na parang nagseselos ako sa family niya. Ayoko naman ng ganon:( I feel bad kasi ako yung dapat nakakaintindi sa kanya and I know most of his struggles. Ayoko ng conflict with his family huhu pls hindi na para papiliin siya, but I can’t help but to feel tampo after ng nangyari kagabi. My boyfriend and his siblings have daddy issues and due to the lack of presence ng father nila, boyfriend ko yung madalas na parang “kuya” sa family nila kahit na 2nd to the eldest siya. Hindi naman sila naghihirap, they’re well off and decent naman socioeconomic background.

Throughout our 2 years relationship, it was very apparent to me kung paano niya alagaan yung ate and other siblings niya and I admire him for that. I noticed lang din na dependent yung ate niya sa kanya kahit sa mga simpleng pag hiwa ng mangga, pag luto, ganon. There are times in the past na nacacancel yung date namin because his ate is on her period tapos yung boyfriend ko sa need mag stay sa bahay lang nila kasi incase may kailangan daw yung ate niya (cute naman actually), minsan naman magpapasama yung ate niya sa mall… may times naman na hindi kami makapag call kahit 9pm pa lang bc nakikitulog yung ate niya sa room niya. okay lang naman yun pero sobrang tampo ako last night:(( 2nd anniversary namin and then we went to white plains kasi may resto kami na matagal na naming gusto i-try, and ofc sinundo ako ng boyfriend ko sa bahay with his car, fast forward, dumating na yung order namin pero habang we’re enjoying our dinner date, tumawag yung ate niya na kailangan daw siya (hindi niya sinabi agad kung anong nangyari) pero he needs to go na raw, very urgent. he seems on a rush (he paid for our dinner) ako naman, nagtatampo na ako nun and mas nanaig pagiging avoidant ko kaya sabi ko umalis na siya. ang ending, i was left there waiting for our orders na pina-takeout and had to book grab pauwi hashaha dito ako medyo na disrespect. layo ng white plains from where i live and di ko alam ano sasabihin ko sa parents ko na ganon nangyari. sabi ko na lang na I had a great time:)

Previous attempts: wala, nahihiya ako. it involves his family. i don’t want to overstep naman, di pa naman kami married.

Problem/Goal: I honestly don’t know how to start over.

Context: He was my first boyfriend and I feel like my 5 years was stolen. Cheating is always the deal breaker but I forgave him the first time he cheated. I coudn’t exactly tell how I came to that but I guess I was considering the investment of time, energy, and everything in the relationship. The second time he cheated, of course, I can’t let that slide anymore. But I’m a having a hard time— a really hard time figuring out what to do, how to date, where to go, and whatsoever.

Hay.

Problem/Goal:

I felt disrepected and unwanted by my literal fiance during our pamamanhikan, and I don't know what's the right thing to do.

Context:

Hi guys I posted this sa r/Offmychestph earlier this week and I'm reposting it here kasi sa Saturday na kami magusap, and idk but this still consumes my mind kaya ipost ko rin dito asking for advice.

Basically me (M, 31) and fiance (F, 30) did our pamamanhikan recently.

Nung dumating yung part that we are talking about our story she said that she doesn't need a man in her life to be complete but that I'm a nice bonus, room got awkward real quick and I didn't know how to react and just kept silent.

Sabi nya rin na siya yung tipong di raw kinikilig sa relationship namin, pero she appreciates my consistency.

Alam kong kinilig naman sya sa romantic efforts pero ayaw nya talaga sabihin sa ibang tao even sa pamamanhikan namin, which I could understand but whats even the point of saying na di siya kinikilig sa pamamanhikan namin??

Its very belittling, and it hurts, kasi I think ang dami ko namang efforts na ginawa na i thought was romantic.

Some examples on the top of my head:

I literally wrote her a poem as a surprise replying to a sad poem she wrote for herself na pinakita nya sakin,

I searched for her favourite book that she mentioned na namiss nya basahin kasi nawala ung copy nya, I got her a rare hardcover one after a week of scrounging fb groups.

Nung workmates pa kami she would always find some surprise snacks from me sa table nya with some notes.

Brought her flowers all the time, surprises, etc

Commuting for 2hrs pag nagkikita kami, para convenient sa kanya location, one way palang yan.

Even made an elaborate proposal that i spent weeks to plan.

I thought she appreciated them, for her just to tell everybody na never sya kinilig sa relationship namin in front of our families, Napahiya ako.

Pero pinaka masaklap, never nya sinabi na mahal nya ako during that whole event not even once.

She did tell na she thinks I'll be a great father which i appreciated pero ang dating sakin during that moment parang I'm a good enough person but she doesn't love me that much and just settled for me.

After all the sacrifices and efforts ganto yung mga sinabi nya on the day that we are supposedly proclaiming our love for one another.

Previous attempts:

This is not a one-off thing, this has been a problem of our relationship even at the beginning and I talked to her countless of times about this, she has the tendency to prioritise looking "strong" in front of other people even at my expense.

I'm tired na rin kasi sya yung tipong when I share my hurts with her she would either shutdown or take offense and deflect it back to me, na bakit ang conditional daw ng love ko or why am I doubting her love.

Which for me is a crazy thing to say sa partner mo just asking for basic affection and respect, and being vulnerable to share his hurts.

I will talk about this with her this Saturday para in person, pero i just can't keep this to myself kasi sobrang sakit and lungkot lang and di ko alam kung OA lang ba ako, so asking for some advice here.

Problem/Goal: I really want to take a break from my current life for a while, work on myself privately, and eventually come back as a completely different version of myself.

Context: Oftentimes I fantasize about disappearing for like 5 yrs. Tipong i-deactivate lahat ng socmed accounts ko, no one really knows what I'm doing, no constant updates, no expectations, no explaining myself. Just completely removing myself from everyone's radar and spending those years rebuilding my life from scratch.

Not necessarily physically disappearing or moving somewhere far away—I can't afford that anyway. Basta staying where I am but becoming completely invisible online and socially while I work on myself in private.

Then one day, babalik na lang ako completely reinvented. Different mindset. Different appearance. Different skills. Financially independent. More confident. Healthier. Maybe with a completely different life from the one everyone remembers.

I know real life doesn't work like a movie, and I can't literally vanish without consequences. But I genuinely feel this strong desire to retreat from everyone and everything for yrs so I can focus entirely on becoming someone I'm actually proud of.

The problem is, I don't even know how to do this realistically. How do you "disappear" from your old life without actually destroying your relationships, responsibilities, and future? Is it possible to take a few years to completely rebuild yourself while still technically being present in the world?

Would you tell your close friends and family that you're taking a break, or just quietly disappear online?

Has anyone else ever felt this way or actually done something similar?

Tips naman, oh. 🙏

TL;DR: I want to deactivate my social media, disappear from everyone's radar for around 5 years, quietly rebuild myself while staying where I am, and eventually come back completely reinvented. Has anyone actually done something similar? Could you share some tips?

Problem/Goal: Valid ba yung feelings ko or OA lang ako ?

Context; I (F 27) have a partner (M 24), yes mas matanda ako ng 3 years sa kanya. I am a type of a girl na gustong gumala just to relieve the stress from my work and to reward myself nadin, hindi yong night life ha, yung tipong rides lang, or simpleng kain lang sa labas or punta sa mga chill na place kasama partner ko, no need na maging sosyal yung place or what, kahit simple lang and kasama ko sha okay na sa akin. While my partner is a kind of non-chalant person plus subrang mahiyain, kung hindi mo kakausapin hindi yan iimik, non-chalant talaga ma pa social media or personal man, kahit nga may mga hindi pagkakaunawaan kami minsan di yan nag sasalita, iniisip ko nalang na baka ayaw nya lang may masabing masasakit.

We are both working in two different industries, office work ako and operations naman sa kanya which required most of his energy, like physical work talaga.

We are a living together for almost a year now, and those past few months nasasali na sa usapan namin yung mamanhikan and kasal. Like siya mismo yung nag bring up sa usapan namin. Like example, nanganak yung baboy nila sa province, kweninto nya sa akin na may 12 na piglets daw and he mentioned na hihingi sha sa kapatid nya ng dalawang piglet (bunso kasi sha) kasi mamanhikan daw sha, so sabi ko "huyy sure, dami naman if dalawa" tas naka smile ako, kasi medyu kinilig hahah pero tawa lang yung sagot nya.

other example, napag usapan namin yung kasal, bigla nya sabi na, patayu muna tayu ng bahay before kasal para may na pundar na tayu, so sabi ko okay cge mag ipon muna tayu.

I do appreciate and love him, he is so maalaga, very provider yung mindset and actions nya, walang other girl sa picture kasi pag meron malalaman ko yun and ma fefeel ko yun and i know love nya ko, pero minsan feeling ako na para bang nagdadalawang isip sya or baka ako lang to ?

One time kasi umuwi kami sa amin, nag uusap kami ng parents ko kasi yung bunso kong kapatid (F 25), ikakasal sa 2027, kaso na buntis kaya mapapaaga ang kasal, so while nag uusap kami, natanong ng mama ko ang partner ko ng "kayu kaylan nyu naman balak magpakasal" hindi sumagot parnter ko, naka smile lang, sa isip ko baka nabigla sa tanong, pero sa part ko is parang awkward kasi as a partner ehh, yung nasasali na sa usapan ninyung dalawa pero pag tinanong ka nag ibang tao wala kang masagot. Kaya para ma bawasan yung awkward na nafe-feel ko, ako sumagot na "gawa daw muna kami bahay bago e kasal, and nag iipon pa kami"

Tapos isang araw, magkatawag sila ng kuya niya, and napag usapan yung mga piglets sabi nya "sabi ni (pangalan ko) bili daw ako ng baboy, kasi mamanhikan na daw ako" tas tumawa sila, ako naman na nakikinig is parang na inis. parang ang dating kasi is ako yung dispirada,, kaya sinuway ko sha, sabi nya joke lang naman yun,, tapos di ko sha pinansin that time kasi ikaw yung nag open up non pero iba yung sinabi mo sa ibang tao, lol

Hindi naman sa pinipresure ko sya, alam ko naman status ng buhay namin ngayon, pero ano namang mawawala dba kung sasagot sya if may mag tanong, kahit hindi specific basta nabigyan man lng ng justice yung sa part ko, kahit simple "nagiipon pa kami" or kahit simpling "puhon" lang,goods na ako, di yung hindi iimik, tas parang ako pa yung dispirada.

Yan yung iniisip ko lately eh, kung sure ba sha or nagdadalawang isip, esama na natin yung mga times na nagtatampo ako sa kanya kasi naglalambing ako sa kanya na gala naman tayu, chill naman tayu or kain tayu sa ganito, pero sagut nya palagi is "pag meron na tayong pera" "pag meron na extra"

kahit may pera naman, at hindi naman mamahalin yung gusto ko, at yung maka pag chill lang naman kahit saglit kasi na buburn out ako sa routine namin araw2 na, bahay-trabaho-bahay, ano namang masama if mag chill kahit minsan sa ibang lugar yung may makikita akong bago sa mata ko di yung bahay and office lang, gets nyu point ko ? huhuhu alam ko naman na part talaga ng adulting yung kailangan natin kumayud para sa mga future plans pero wala pang pause kahit saglit?

Previous Attempts;
Now, nag open up ako sa kanya about it kasi na fufustrate ako kakaisip, pero wala akong makuhang sagot, baka ayaw nya lng may masabing masama or baka nag cocontemplate pa sha, huhuhu di ko alam, wala kaming mga matitinding away kasi okay naman talaga kami, ito lang kasing na fefeel ko ehh, ito yung dala2 ko, ako lang ba to ? mali ba ako ? mali ba yung iniisip ko or na feel ko ? ako ba yung mali?? hooooo sikip ng dib2 ko kakaisip.

Problem/Goal: I've been watching Miss Q&A lately, and sa recent episode nila, may question na sobrang tumatak sa'kin. "Anong mas mahirap? Ang lumayo sa taong mahal mo o ang manatili sa taong hindi mo mahal?" I don't know why, but it hit me so hard. Feeling ko kasi I'm somehow living both sides of that question.

Context: I have an ex. We've been officially broken up for 7 months now, pero until now we still talk on and off. Sometimes we still see each other too. And honestly, every time we do, it feels like nothing changed. He still takes care of me. He cooks for me, makes sure I'm okay, makes sure I'm full before I leave. Every time I'm at his place, I still feel like a Disney princess. That's what makes everything so confusing, kasi kahit hiwalay na kami, the treatment never really changed. The reason why we broke up was because of trust. Hindi rin naman kasi naging maganda yung start ng relationship namin, so habang tumatagal, mas lalo siyang nawalan ng trust sa'kin. Everything became an argument. Laging may doubts, laging may explanations na kailangan kong gawin. Eventually, he lost his trust in me, and I lost hope that things would ever get better. Napagod na lang talaga ako, so I was the one who ended it.
But even after the breakup, we never really let each other go completely. Parang every time we try to move on, somehow we always find our way back into each other's lives. A few months ago, medyo matagal din kaming walang contact. During that time, I remembered this guy who had been asking me out for months. Lagi ko lang siyang sinasabihan ng "I'll let you know when I'm free," tapos sobrang tagal na nun. One day I randomly messaged him and asked if the invitation was still open.
We ended up going out.
And... he's so different.
He's the type of person who always checks if I'm okay. He makes sure I've eaten, asks how work went, and sometimes even sends me money for food or transpo, not because I ask, but because he genuinely wants to help. He has a stable career, he's doing well in life, and I can honestly say his intentions feel genuine. One time I was having a really bad day, and he surprised me with a handwritten letter and a Labubu. 😭 I know it's just a gift, but it's the effort that got me. Who even writes letters these days? It made me realize that maybe there are still people who love intentionally.

Previous Attempts: And that's where my confusion starts. I feel like I'm still being haunted by my past. I don't even know if I still love my ex, or if I'm just attached to the comfort, the memories, and the version of life I got so used to.
At the same time, I don't want to waste the chance to be loved by someone who's willing to love me wholeheartedly. Someone who doesn't make me feel like I constantly have to prove myself.
I'm scared that maybe I'm not fully healed yet. Na baka dala-dala ko pa rin yung trauma from my previous relationship, and eventually I'll end up hurting someone who has done nothing but treat me well.
So now I'm wondering...
How do you know if you're still in love with your ex, or if you're just attached to what you used to have?
And how do you know if you're finally ready to let someone new love you without bringing all your past wounds into the relationship?
I don't know. Ang hirap lang talaga.

Problem/Goal: Nataasan nya ako ng boses over the phone. I didn’t know na trigger niya yung sinabi ko. Anong sunod kong gagawin?

Context: I (27F), may kausap na (30M) for 4 months. Okay naman. Consistent. Everyday kami may “Good morning”, Good night, Videocall, Call. Pinoy siya sa Australia nag-wowork. Sa 2nd month namin na nag-uusap, umuwi na rin siya sa Pinas to meet me. Okay rin yung naging date.
Last Tuesday, na-open niya na nangungutang yung pinsan niya sakanya and he declined. Nabanggit ko lang na “Alam ko madami ka pera.. pero it’s just that hindi lang talaga naka-laan for other’s emrgency.” Hindi ko panatatapos yung pagsasalita ko, sinabi ko palang na “Alam ko madami ka pera..” tumaas na boses nya at sinabing “HINDI! HINDI! HINDI!” Magsasalita pa ulit ako pero cinucut na nya ako na “HINDI! HINDI! HINDI! AKALA NYO KASI MADAMI AKO PERA PERO HINDI!”

Naalala ko na may time rin na hiningan siya ng mom nya ng pera para sa bahay, nakapagbigay na sya ng around 1M pero di pa tapos yung bahay. Super frustrated nya rin to the point na dalawang araw siyang hindi tumawag sakin kasi low morale sya. Napag-tagpi ko lang na trigger niya yung topic na pera. Wala naman ako intensyon ma-offend sya.
Actually, nag-agree nga ako sakanya na hindi nga dapat niya pinahiram pinsan nya. Sinabi ko nalang na “Hindi mo naman ako kailangan sigawan.” And sinabi niya sakin na para daw kasing mas alam ko pa ang pera nya. :((
He said sorry bago matapos call, nag-goodnight rin sya that night.

Previous attempts: It took me 1 day to respond since nagpahinga rin utak ko. Ang reply ko is “Hi, hindi ako naka-message kahapon kasi nagpahinga ako. I needed to process yesterday. Goodnight”
and yet di na sya nagreply kahit na may stories and random reposts sya na hindi naman tungkol sa nagyari.

It feels na nagmove-on na agad siya or avoidant sya.

4 months with a lot of good memories and conversations, first time mag-away, nataasan ng boses and matatapos naba sa ganito? Should I reach out pa ulit kahit na ako na yung huling nag-message?

Help your girl out. I really want to fix this.☹(

Problem/Goal: I have p*rn addiction and I want it treat it without going to a specialist.

For those na na overcome niyo ang porn addiction, how did you do it?

I have been consumming p*rn since I was in college and have been using it to self-relieve once or twice a week before. Now there are times na hoh*rny ako kahit na kakatapos ko lang (especially now na nagwoworkout ako)to the point na daily ko na syang ginagawa. Trinay ko labanan ang urge before pero andun pa rin. And nagworsen pa sya. No partner so wala akong mapagbalingan.

Whats your story and how did you overcome it?

Problem/Goal: Matatanggal sa trabaho

Context: Cashier po ako sa isang supermarket, nakatanggap po ako ng expired na sodexo ang nakalagay sa sodexo revalidation after Dec 2022 worth 2k. May policy po yung company namin na kung ma short ka ng 1k sa isang buwan automatic babaan ka ng memo for termination. pwede ko ba ito ilapit sa DOLE? inaantay ko nalang na babaan ako ng memo from accounting. under po ako ng agency at during orientation naman sinabi po nila ganun daw po yung policy ni company pero wala po akong pinirmahan na contract.

Problem/Goal: So I got in this top university back in 2024 and I'm an incoming junior now. Both me and my friend wanted to get in but I was the only one who passed the entrance exam. It's been a long time since the results came but she's still bitter about not being accepted. Every time that I'm with her, she always brings up my uni. She posts about it everywhere, like on TikTok, IG, Facebook, in her public and dump accounts. The posts are often about being upset that she did not get in, the uni being her totga, and sometimes just posts romanticizing it. She even told me once that she doesn't want me talking about my uni around her because it upsets her (which is so hard because 3 of my friends study in the same uni, and I'm the only one going to a different one, what else am I supposed to talk about to update them about my life?). I'm trying my best to understand her, but I'm honestly getting so tired of it now. The romanticization kind of...offends me? Everyday, I'm fighting for my life in this uni and I'm honestly struggling so hard. I feel like she doesn't understand how hard it actually is to be here, and how hard it is to get here. When we were seniors in highschool during the entrance exam period, we were both very busy with requirements and we both weren't able to study for the exam. But the thing is, I can say that I have a strong foundation because I've been a top student since forever, and I don't wanna sound rude but she wasn't really in the same level growing up. I can't help but to sometimes think, why didn't she study if she wanted to get in this bad? I understand that it's her dream and I have no right to dim her lights and stop her from dreaming about it, but I have to stop seeing her posts or I will literally go insane. I figured that I would just mute her accounts so I would stop seeing her posts. There's no mute option for reposts on TikTok so I had no choice but to unfollow her and just hope that she wouldn't notice that I unfollowed her. But today I just received a notification of her following me, which means she probably unfollowed me, which may likely be because she noticed I unfollowed her? Looks like she already found out and is probably now wondering why I unfollowed her. I don't really know what to do now. Someone please tell me if I'm wrong for feeling this way, and what should I do next?

Problem/Goal:

Less bass

Context:

Pinarepair ko kasi Sony WF-1000xm5 ko since di nagana after charging so nung pinagawa ko, sumindi naman pero less bass is it normal? Ewan ko alam ko pag sony talaga maganda sound I have Sony WH-1000xm5 mas malinaw tunog ng headphone ko. Unlike dati na parehas silang maganda ang quality ng sound

Previous attempt:

I've tried applying my presets. (kaso wala less bass talaga kahit nakatodo na. Dont know what to do🥹

Problem/Goal: Im a 24f. I have a job but im not satisfied with my salary 25k wfh (creative/videogame industry). Im grateful but its obv not enough in Manila. Im an artist and have freelanced before but its inconsistent (I did earn double/triple my salary). My love life is non existent, 2 exes, 1 recent. I have no friends. I literally talk to no one except my parents and coworkers. Everyday all I do is work then hobbies, it feels incredibly lonely. I have very few opportunities to meet new people. Im scared I'll be a single tita pero atleast sana rich tita lol.

I know im still young and im doing my best to improve myself but im scared I'll be a failure by my own standards. My mom is a breadwinner and she already has a heart disease. If we lose her, im afraid what would happen as my dad is basically retired and entirely relies on my mom. Is this a standard experience as an adult? How did you guys overcome feeling like this. I feel like if namatay ako tomorrow, I wouldnt even strongly about it, I'll just feel bad for my parents and my dog. Para bang walang meaning yung ginagawa ko.

Edit: Please stop trying to DM me. And for that person asking me to do nsfw work. Im not that desperate for money. Fk off.

Problem/goal: Hi im 29F and my bf 30M has 2 identities. He changed his name nung naging adult na siya at nagstart mag work at hindi niya sinabi sakin yung totoong name niya nung pagkabata.

Context: So i found out lang kasi nakalink yung number sa viber at old name pa niya ang andun and then i searched for the name at lumitaw nga yung mukha niya. Reason for this is because he was a bad teenager/kid before. Like pangit daw image niya sa mga tao, kupal, playboy ganon. Although nakwento niya sakin yung mga kalokohan niya before and wala naman kaso yun sakin kasi yung present ang importante.. pero hindi niya namention na iba ang name niya. And now i am starting to overthink na baka may iba talaga siyang life sa old name niya at side quest niya lang yung new name. 😭 pero yung mga accounts naman niya sa recent puro new name na ang gamit although i saw na he is still using his old fb kasi may likes pa siya ng mga post ng friends niya doon like 3 months ago. Wala naman akong nakitang girl na umaaligid nung naging kami na. Pero something doesn’t sit right with me. Also he didnt add me sa old account niya even after i found out. Ang reason niya di na daw niya yun inoopen.

No other signs na nagccheat siya since lagi kami magkasama like 4 times a week and naka video call pag hindi magkasama. No signs of being cold din and napaka ayos naman trato niya sakin. Although less than a year palang naman kami. Should i just trust him and see how this goes or what. Possible ba magbago ang isang red flag before? Im sorry kung ang gulo ko magkwento sana naintindihan niyo. Kasing gulong gulo din ako.

Previous attempts: nung nalaman ko nga about sa old identity, cinonfront ko siya at naging honest naman siya na wala daw siya plano sabhin sakin anytime soon at sanay na siya sa new name. Alam daw yun ng fam at friends niya. If malalaman ko na lang daw pag nakita ko ibang ID which is nakakagago diba. Pero sige pinalagpas ko na lang din since maayos nga talaga siya sakin as a bf. Before nun wala akong overthinking na naramdaman pero simula nun parang lagi ko na siyang stinastalk at yung old account nga niya kung may something. I dont wanna do this pero parang may gut feel ako. 😭