r/R4R40Plus Jan 26 '25

You asked. The mods hear you - New account age and karma requirements

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We've added a few rules to the sub. Now, your account needs to be at least 5 days old and have 50 karma to post.

In addition, we're working on a verification system, so those of you who want to be verified posters, can have that flair attached to your post.

Hopefully, this will help curb the bots and scammers.


r/R4R40Plus Dec 01 '20

Please stop downvoting [M4F] Posts

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Hey All;

Friendly Neighborhood MOD here. In the interest of being polite and respectful, can we please stop downvoting every single [M4F] post? I'll hop on here to moderate posts and see all the men seeking women posts downvoted to hell. You're not creating a clear space for your [M4F] post increasing your chances to make it to the top. Let's just try to be kind to one another. If you're not interested, just move on

Let's try to remember, other people's success is not your failure.


r/R4R40Plus 7h ago

M4F 36 [M4F] #Online, EST -looking for that friendly fun connection with an a older woman. A golden retriever boy for that bi woman trope/mommy energy.

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I'm looking for connection, conversation, and intimacy. Someone to chat with throughout the day, talk about how things are going, have long conversations, and really get to know each other. Since I'm recently divorced, I'm not looking to get jump into something super serious but won't write it off, but I do miss having a close connection with someone.

Some things I tend to like in a woman is someone smart, sweet, caring, empathetic, open-minded, and curious. Someone who likes exploring new things and having deeper conversations. I tend to connect well with women who enjoy reading romance/smut, have a high libido, and are comfortable talking openly about a variety of topics.

If I have to pick a "type" I would say more of the goth, emo, witchy vibe that kind that if you wear makeup it is the darker styles/colors. Also with tattoos or at least enjoys them, and maybe a nose ring lol. I also find I usually mesh best with bi women, and also I am such a huge sucker for a woman who likes to wear thongs. I don't know exactly why, but that's been my experience.

I'd love to meet someone who enjoys science, space, and learning about interesting things. I'm not religious, and I'm curious about learning about witch stuff.

It would be great if you're someone who likes texting often, sharing pictures, and staying connected throughout the day.

About me, I like to chill, play on my phone, cook, relax and just unwind, have some whiskey, to color naughty colorbook style pics on my phone, listen to smut, am a switch, (naughty Pic in profile, not a D Pic), I enjoy games and want to play more, and honestly I would love to have someone who likes to push me and can be a pain in my ass but in a way that is enjoyable (take that as you will lol).

But, being a good single dad takes time and energy, so I'd like someone who understands the realities of parenting and what it means to be a good father first. So some nights will be harder as will some weekends. But I do have the good snacks too. Lol

If any of this sounds like you, I'd love to chat.


r/R4R40Plus 8m ago

F4R 45/F/US, Would you like to chat while we watch something on Netflix together? :)

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Hi, I hope you're having a great week! 45/F/US, would love to chat (typing) with a great person over 30 while we watch a movie or show on Netflix at the same time! :)

Here are some things I'm interested in watching:

Little Brother
Pretty Woman
Trainwreck: Woodstock '99
Mall Cop 2
Ladies First
An episode of Seinfeld
An episode of Portlandia

If you're interested, please let me know your age, gender, where you're from, whether you're single, and which of these things you're interested in watching in your intro!

If you're a guy, I only feel comfy chatting if you're single. Looking forward to hearing from you! :)


r/R4R40Plus 14m ago

M4F 34 [M4F] # Los Angeles, California - You Might Be My Favorite Bad Decision

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"Hello There!" — General Kenobi

Are you here for attention, to pass the time, a distraction from life, or are you actually hoping to find your person?For me, I'm probably somewhere around 4 out of 5.

I'm naturally curious and ask a lot of questions, so if you enjoy talking about your interests, passions, random thoughts, or facts, I'm all ears.

I love conversations that flow naturally—easy, fun, and a little flirty. If that's your kind of vibe, we're already off to a good start.

While I can be a little reserved, once I'm comfortable I can talk for hours about life, random nonsense, weird hypotheticals, or whatever deep topic decides to show up at 2 AM. I've always imagined talking to someone late at night in a dark room, with nothing but the sound of our voices and laughter. We can go as far as the most unhinged stuff. Give me your best dark humor!

I'm an adventurer at heart. I love late-night drives, music blasting, the empty streets, city lights , and finding a lookout spot overlooking everything. Plus some urban exploring.

I go to the gym about 5x a week (3x weights, 2x cardio & core). I recently started hiking more; if you know any good hiking spots in the LA area, I'd love recommendations. I also walk my dog twice a day. Its his walks so I let the little guy lead the way while he checks his daily sniffmail.

I've been getting leaner and stronger. Ive seen the subtle improvements/changes. I didnt do this sooner but i started taking more before/ after pic. One thing ive realized that besides being healthy, fit, and strong, other reasons I work out is to see what my genes are capable.

Am I a nerd for being into video games, anime, manga, and light novels? I enjoy reading a good book. One niche hiche hobby I have is collecting specific trinkets and I have a metal detector. I havent found treasure yet but who knows its might be you. Im looking into magnetic fishing too :)

So that's me—chill, curious, sarcastic, and a sucker for banter. Come say Hi! Best case, we exchange a few messages and share a laugh. Worst case, we try to figure out what to have for breakfast.

PS: I get the feeling something is still missing, but at the risk of making this longer than it should be or "long-winded," I propose a challenge: How about you tell me what's something I should have added or expect to find but didnt. Let's see if you actually read this.

Oh...I remember now.

Character Build:

Height: ?'??

Ethnicity: ???-?????

Body Type : ???? - ????????

Hair Type: ????

Bonus:

Music-wise, I've had these on repeat lately:

•Djo — End Of Beginning

•Sombr — Back to Being Friends

•Vicente Fernández — Estos Celos

•C.C.R - Fortunate Son

•The Stranglers — Golden Brown (Slow + Reverb)

•Jaden ft. Kid Cudi — On My Own

•Lola Young — Messy

•Clean Bandit - Rather Be

•Gigi Perez - Sailor Song

•Future - Mask Off

•Dj Shadow - Six Days

•Ice Cube - You Know How We Do (best song to cruise)

•Leave Her Johnny - AC4 Black Flag Sea Shantie

•Rolling Stones - Paint It Black ( great workout song)

2nd Bonus

•Favorite color: Phthalo Green

•Favorite reptile: Jackson's Chameleon

•Favorite marine animal: Mantis Shrimp

•Favorite Beetle: Japanese Rhinoceros Beetle

Voicenote

https://voca.ro/14kF75iPyR4Z

https://voca.ro/1m5Ubi5CbuoR

Btw if you didnt know - Bungee Gum possesses the properties of both rubber and gum.


r/R4R40Plus 58m ago

M4F 37 [M4F] #Seattle - Looking for a regular thing with a married woman near Seattle.

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Are you looking to experience that spark again? To be appreciated like the beautiful sexy person you are? Do you want some release while he's at work? I'd love to help out. I want to start an ongoing thing with a married or taken woman. Let me give you the satisfaction you are missing.

About me: I'm average height with a bit of a dad bod, very well endowed (over 7 long and 6 around), I can tie knots in two cherry stems at the same time with my tongue, I'm a switch that leans heavily into pleasure dom, and my favorite thing is to satisfy others. I'm into women of all ages, body types, and relationship statuses (it's all about the person to me).

My primary goal is to make sure you are satisfied. I'm up for almost anything you might have in mind, but I can definitely take control if you you would prefer. Have something you have always wanted to try? Let's do it. Have some friends that want to join in sometime? The more the merrier. I'm very kinky and up for almost anything.


r/R4R40Plus 1h ago

F4M 47 [F4M] #Michigan #USA I don't care how you get here, just get here if you can

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Hi there! I am 47, white, no kids, divorced, currently living in Michigan. I am 5'6, 170lbs, dyed brown shoulder length hair (originally blonde), green eyes. I get compliments on my eyes and smile mostly.

I have a lot of interests and hobbies: Bowling, the beach, camping, hiking, fishing, reading, museums, casinos, documentaries, history, travel, golf, disc golf, foodie, breweries, parks, card games, board games, not into playing video games but love watching others play and cheering them on!, pool, darts, music, concerts and festivals and watching sports (mostly NFL and college football) but also like watching baseball and basketball in person.

I'm looking with intention. I want to talk with someone with intention of moving off this app, to texting, calling, videos, and if it turns into more, with the expectation of me relocating. I'm looking for someone willing to put in that effort.

I apologize for my bluntness. I like to be open and honest.

I thought maybe I could just get my red flags and dealbreakers for some out of the way.

I have debilitating anxiety sometimes and I have a tendency to over think. Like, beat it to death then beat it some more type over thinking.

I am a social drinker and smoker. Sometimes for my anxiety and insomnia, I will smoke weed or take gummies.

I am not a size 2. While I am on a weight loss journey and have lost 55lbs since March, with still about 20 more, I will never be rail thin. Its just not how I'm built I also don't think I'm hideous either. Every lid has a pot, right?

Speaking of smiles: About 6 months after my divorce, I went downtown to have dinner and drinks with some friends. As I was walking back to my car alone (I know! I will never do this again!) I was assaulted by 3 guys. They beat me so bad I had broken ribs, broken clavicle, broken facial bones, broken jaw, fractured eye socket and burst ear drum. Other things too, that i don't want to go into. I have no visible scars from the assault, but many mental ones. I'm also, 4 years later, reminded daily of what happened because due to my burst ear drum, I lost most of my hearing in my right ear and they also couldn't save my top teeth (my bottom are fine) so I'm now forced to wear an upper denture. You can't tell by looking at or talking to me.

I wanted to give you my biggest red flags so you can make a more informed decision on whether to respond or not. I really hope they don't scare you away but wanted to be honest.

You: white, single, between the ages of 35 and 60. I'm an actual real person looking for real things and responses will not be given on one word dms or people that don't put in effort. Be emotionally available. I won't talk to a wall. Be serious. No games. Please don't waste my time. I like consistent chats and I like to be pursued. A man that is comfortable with himself to let his intentions be known.

I am very much looking forward to making a connection!


r/R4R40Plus 2h ago

M4F 41 [M4F] #Huntingtonbeach - Seeking younger woman for dom/sub relationship in Southern California.

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I am looking for a relationship/arrangement where both man and woman have established roles and boundaries. We both share the same mindset and are in tune with each other.

Respect is number 1 and will always be the cornerstone of our relationship. I believe everyone should be treated with dignity whether they are a stranger in public or a loved one. I am very assertive and do not need to raise my voice or get excited to get my point across. I do not believe in verbal abuse of any kind and is something I will never subject you too. I am very aware of the physical imbalance between the sexes, and I understand that it is my duty to always make sure you feel safe, loved, and protected while in my presence.

Once respect is established, trust begins. The level of trust will be to the point that anytime we are out together as a couple your mind will be completely clear and your entire focus will be on enjoying yourself, being pretty, and just being a girl. This will be your reality because you will be of the understanding that no matter what happens your man can handle the situation. And that gives you comfort.

What I am looking for ultimately is a woman who fantasizes about the idea idea of fully surrendering herself to a man and will submit fully within the confines of the relationship. In other words, you recognize that I am the one who leads us and I know what is best for us.

When it comes to intimacy, this is not an ad seeking BDSM. Dom/Sub is a mindset. I am very dominant and believe in mutual pleasure and am not into coercion. I am very giving, and will always make sure you are taken care of and will make sure you feel fully reassured when we are laying in each other's arms after the fact.

About me:

I am 41 years old (no kids). I'm 5'10 162 lbs. I workout a couple times per week and am in good shape physically. I am white with dark brown hair that has a touch of gray and hazel eyes.

I have a lot of life experience and would love to share that wisdom as a mentor with a new friend/lover. I will teach you how the world works and help guide you when you need it.

I love a clingy woman who craves my attention, approval, and validation.

I am STD free.


r/R4R40Plus 6h ago

50 [M4F] #London Attractive Professional Male

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50 [M4F] #London Attractive Professional Male

M4F

Attractive, cultured, easy going professional male looking to meet new people HMU, have a good day


r/R4R40Plus 6h ago

TF4M 41 [TF4M] #Cleveland Ohio A Wild Trans Girl Appears in Alaska

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​Read to the end or I won't respond!

Hot take: You Can Be A True Fan Without Knowing Every Single Detail About The Person.

Traveling to alaska for nerd stuff

Being 41 years old, its hard to think there is anyone out there for me. I am a very niche want. I often make the joke that I could win the lottery 4 time in my lifetime before finding the man ill spend my life with. Odds of 1 and 7 septiliton, arn't those fun odds.

**So here it is:**

I am a 41 year old transwoman panromatic with demisexual flair.

I am neurospicy which can be challenging and have memory issues with semi-face blindness.

I am looking for my last person to start and finish my life with. THE ONLY DUMB QUESTIONS IS THE ONE NOT ASKED. I promise that any question you ask me with the intention of not trying to offend me won't offend me.

I am a nerd/geek. Comics, D&D, Larping, writing, art, magic the gathering and more

​LARPING is a huge part of my life, I would love to be able to share it with someone the rest of my life.

**Deal breakers:** smoking, vaping, smoking weed (For health reasons, I absolutely cannot be around someone who smokes and vapes, and someone who smokes weed alot), excessive drinking and missing a required video chat within two weeks to prove you are who you say you are.

**Yellow flags** are not wanting pictures of us, distance (i prefer within 10 hours DRIVE!), and aversion to anything social media.

I am not a bad person, big girl, adorable and a great personality. If you get to know me, I'm a Goddess

If you want to message me go ahead but you MUST answer the following questions IN YOUR FIRST MESSAGE before I will respond:

* Where did you find me? AKA what subreddit

* Age, Location and Pronouns

* What was your worst hotel/travel experience?

Hope we chat later.


r/R4R40Plus 7h ago

M4F 35 [M4F] #NewYork

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35 year old single straight hispanic. 6’2. Fit, professional, educated, honest, safe, trustworthy, respectful and clean. I don’t drink or smoke.

I like fit or thin women only. Single or taken. Good hygiene is important. Must have a really strong bed 🛏️. I value quality over quantity. Good vibes only.

I live in Westchester, NY and prefer someone local, but willing to drive. Privacy guaranteed and can be very discreet if needed, as in, I can disguise myself as a plumber or sneak in through the back door.


r/R4R40Plus 7h ago

M4F 32[M4F] Europe, Poland #online. We're about to spend entire year in a cabin in the woods as rommates. What snacks are we taking there?

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Also I'm bringing my tv, bluray, and movie collection. About me: simple guy from Europe. Into movies. Very into movies. Give your best recommendations! I also love being outdoors. Hiking and cycling is my thing. Willing to share some photos from my hikes.

I'm actually at work now but it's not going to be a busy shift so I'll be more than happy if You message me.

If you've read this far, I owe you a cookie. :)


r/R4R40Plus 7h ago

M4F 68 [M4F] #Chicago - daydream believer

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I want to connect with a good woman to talk about love, life and anything else that suits us.

Successful professional with a complicated family life I’m happy to explain. Otherwise, easy-going, fun-loving, always looking for laughter. No judging, no expectations.

Lots of interests, worldly, wise and maybe even charming.

Tall, dad’s bod, blue eyes. Happy to exchange pics.

Let’s enjoy each other’s company.


r/R4R40Plus 7h ago

39[M4M] Corona #Queens #NYC Time to save the world, but where in the world is all the time?

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Looking for someone local, would prefer not to do long distances. A reasonable one, maybe. Dirty South born and raised, just moved to Queens, NYC.

I like guys who are adventurous and risk takers. I’m a big kid. My weekends include 90s cartoons and cereal. I don’t mind going out but I’m not much of a party person anymore. I like trees 💨 I would hope my co-pilot would to. But no biggie if not.

I do enjoy star gazing, music jam sessions, freestyle rapping sessions, road trips, traveling, Janet Jackson and anything X-Men or Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles related.

I have pics so let’s not play the pic game! You can send me one and answer these 3 questions.

  1. What’s the last horror movie that genuinely creeped you out?

  2. What’s the last horror movie that walked out of or turned off because it was stupid?

  3. What’s the last horror movie you watched twice because it was just that good?


r/R4R40Plus 9h ago

M4F 40 [M4F] #Oklahoma looking for a kinky BBW

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Hello friends!

I’m on here looking to find a BBW who is interested in exploring their kinks.

Together let’s discuss the things that turn us on or off. The things we’d like to try and the things we can only tell strangers we find here on line.

I work from home, so I have a lot of free time on my hands. Spoiler for one of my big kinks… I like to edge all day.

If this sounds fun you know what to do… drop me a line! Let’s see how naughty… or nice we are.


r/R4R40Plus 10h ago

M4F 75 [M4F] #Las Vegas - Seeking friendship, relationship or travel

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I am an older retired man living in Las Vegas seeking a woman for friendship, relationship or travel. I am open to a wide range in age so please don't be shy.

I grew up in New York, lived in south Florida, Los Angeles and for many years in the San Francisco Bay Area before retiring in Las Vegas.

I am in good physical condition 5'9" 140 pounds.

Photos available upon request and will answer any reasonable questions.

Live in Las Vegas, not too far away or visit on occasion. I would prefer someone local but Las Vegas is a travel destination so if you are visiting it could be a good place to start.


r/R4R40Plus 15h ago

M4F 37 [m4r] Dundee Scotland.

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Yo, I’m a single dad of 2 one of my kids has grown up other still young, I’m a typical guy love sport especially football and Liverpool Fc. Enjoy the odd outdoor walk, playing ps5 and watching occasional tv seasons.

Looking for a nice girl to communicate with and grow a connection.
Be good just to get back into that side of things again

I’m quite thin but very tall 6ft 4!

If any of you beautiful ladies would like to chat more send is a msg and can see if we a have a connection.

NO I WILL NOT BUY YOUR ONLY FANS!!!
Anyone who gets in contact and asks will be deleted.

(Use telegram,Reddit and x) have no other socials

Look forward to hearing from you

D x


r/R4R40Plus 17h ago

M4R 42 [M4R] #EastCoast - Looking for new friends to get to know!

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Looking to make some new friends!
I’m 42, married, and a dad of two. Between work and family, it can be tough finding people with the same interests, so I figured I’d put myself out there.
My biggest hobby is gaming—video games, board games, TCGs and puzzles. I’m also a D&D Dungeon Master, currently writing my own fantasy novel, and I’m always up for talking world-building, characters, or anything fantasy.
Outside of that, I’m a huge fan of Star Wars, Lord of the Rings, Marvel, DC, WWE, and just about anything that brings back that awesome ’80s/‘90s nostalgia. If you miss Blockbuster Video, Toys “R” Us, or Saturday morning cartoons, we’ll get along just fine.
I’m hoping to meet people around my age (give or take) who enjoy similar things. I’m in the US so I prefer talking to someone in those time zones. Bonus points if you’re also a parent, a gamer, or just someone who enjoys good conversations about nerdy stuff.
One thing to mention up front: I don’t drink or use 420—just not my thing.
If any of this sounds like you, send me a message! Always happy to meet fellow parent geeks, gamers, and nostalgic souls.


r/R4R40Plus 22h ago

F4M 33 F4M anywhere/online

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I’m from GMT+7:30 so if you feel like it’s too far to talk to, that’s totally understandable.
I’m looking for making friends as well as a long term/serious connection. Preferable between 35-45.
I have some hobbies that I can tell u. I do like doing a road trips so if you don’t mind the driving, I’m totally down to be in your passenger seat.
I’m also very into detective series, crime solving, animation movies and some funny romantics too.
Horror and Thriller totally a NO.
Not really a vdo game kind of girl but more a broad, strategy one-one kind of game. Prefer sth for the brain and fun playing together or with group.
Musics: most of all except hardcore rock or any loud musics. Prefer indie, soft pop, dance pop, any pop, soul, alternative. Had to tell u Avicci is my favorite. Besides I know Kygo and a few other too.
Totally a dance girl to Reggaeton, Latina, Afro or just dance generally.
Well, I do prefer someone ranging between Europe, Aussie, and US because I do love to received affections and intimacy from the prospected partners.


r/R4R40Plus 14h ago

39 [M4F] Canada/anywhere horror loving chef wants to chat with you

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Hey there folks, i hope its a wonderful Wednesday! Im simply looking for a fun and engaging person to chat with during my day today. A few things about me:

• avid reader

• pet parent

• nerdy

• loves to yap

• horror enjoyer

• will swap pics of cool places and myself and pet if you're willing to do the same.

Come say more then (hey, hi, sup) hello and lets see where it goes?


r/R4R40Plus 18h ago

45M [M4F] Canada/USA looking to chat bonus points if your left leaning and Canadian, age, race, body size don't matter

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New Brunswicker looking for the elusive Canadian women that likes to talk and not into ghosting, is that you? Also open around the world just keep in mind I'm on the Atlantic time zone

A little about me

A chef

Working on getting back in shape

Music junkie

I love listening to comical podcasts

I watch more cooking shows then I care to admit

On Pinterest more than I care to admit

No kids

1 dog 2 cats


r/R4R40Plus 7h ago

M4F 48 [M4F] #NYC. Looking for a woman in a dead bedroom situation like me.

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I'm a 48 year old guy, stable and fun loving, but currently stuck in a dead bedroom situation. I'm looking for a kind, adventurous woman who misses that spark as much as I do.
I have a high libido and I'm looking for a partner who is enthusiastic about intimacy and wants to make it a fun, regular part of life again. If you're warm hearted, enjoy a good laugh, and are looking for a consistent physical and emotional connection, I'd love to hear from you.
Tell me your best dad joke so I know you read my post.
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