r/R4R40Plus Jan 26 '25

You asked. The mods hear you - New account age and karma requirements

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We've added a few rules to the sub. Now, your account needs to be at least 5 days old and have 50 karma to post.

In addition, we're working on a verification system, so those of you who want to be verified posters, can have that flair attached to your post.

Hopefully, this will help curb the bots and scammers.


r/R4R40Plus Dec 01 '20

Please stop downvoting [M4F] Posts

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Hey All;

Friendly Neighborhood MOD here. In the interest of being polite and respectful, can we please stop downvoting every single [M4F] post? I'll hop on here to moderate posts and see all the men seeking women posts downvoted to hell. You're not creating a clear space for your [M4F] post increasing your chances to make it to the top. Let's just try to be kind to one another. If you're not interested, just move on

Let's try to remember, other people's success is not your failure.


r/R4R40Plus 1h ago

54 [F4M] #Single #Chicago #NW Burbs Zero expectations, this is reddit after all 🤷‍♀️

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Been so bored lately so figured I'd give this a shot again. Looking for...

Great conversations with smart, funny, confident SWM with the hopes of it leading to more eventually. (please be able to have real conversations) You should be single and between 40 and 50. (Yes, I happen to prefer younger) and within CST would be ideal.

About me, 190lb 5'8 sassy, tattooed, freckled redhead. Not thin, but curvy ( fluffy, smooshy (these things happen when you lose 75lbs) So if that's not your thing, move right along.

I love to travel, cook, spend time with family and friends. Or just chilling at home. Doing some random DIY lately. Enjoy drives to explore new areas. Love all music (It makes me happy.) Definitely a sports girl, football being #1, then baseball.

Please no new accounts, I will not respond. Tell me your favorite movie so I know you've read the whole ad.


r/R4R40Plus 1h ago

M4F 40 [M4F] #Oklahoma looking for a kinky BBW

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Hello friends!

I’m on here looking to find a BBW who is interested in exploring their kinks.

Together let’s discuss the things that turn us on or off. The things we’d like to try and the things we can only tell strangers we find here on line.

I work from home, so I have a lot of free time on my hands. Spoiler for one of my big kinks… I like to edge all day.

If this sounds fun you know what to do… drop me a line! Let’s see how naughty… or nice we are.


r/R4R40Plus 2h ago

M4F 75 [M4F] #Las Vegas - Seeking friendship, relationship or travel

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I am an older retired man living in Las Vegas seeking a woman for friendship, relationship or travel. I am open to a wide range in age so please don't be shy.

I grew up in New York, lived in south Florida, Los Angeles and for many years in the San Francisco Bay Area before retiring in Las Vegas.

I am in good physical condition 5'9" 140 pounds.

Photos available upon request and will answer any reasonable questions.

Live in Las Vegas, not too far away or visit on occasion. I would prefer someone local but Las Vegas is a travel destination so if you are visiting it could be a good place to start.


r/R4R40Plus 8h ago

M4R 42 [M4R] #EastCoast - Looking for new friends to get to know!

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Looking to make some new friends!
I’m 42, married, and a dad of two. Between work and family, it can be tough finding people with the same interests, so I figured I’d put myself out there.
My biggest hobby is gaming—video games, board games, TCGs and puzzles. I’m also a D&D Dungeon Master, currently writing my own fantasy novel, and I’m always up for talking world-building, characters, or anything fantasy.
Outside of that, I’m a huge fan of Star Wars, Lord of the Rings, Marvel, DC, WWE, and just about anything that brings back that awesome ’80s/‘90s nostalgia. If you miss Blockbuster Video, Toys “R” Us, or Saturday morning cartoons, we’ll get along just fine.
I’m hoping to meet people around my age (give or take) who enjoy similar things. I’m in the US so I prefer talking to someone in those time zones. Bonus points if you’re also a parent, a gamer, or just someone who enjoys good conversations about nerdy stuff.
One thing to mention up front: I don’t drink or use 420—just not my thing.
If any of this sounds like you, send me a message! Always happy to meet fellow parent geeks, gamers, and nostalgic souls.


r/R4R40Plus 7h ago

M4F 37 [m4r] Dundee Scotland.

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Yo, I’m a single dad of 2 one of my kids has grown up other still young, I’m a typical guy love sport especially football and Liverpool Fc. Enjoy the odd outdoor walk, playing ps5 and watching occasional tv seasons.

Looking for a nice girl to communicate with and grow a connection.
Be good just to get back into that side of things again

I’m quite thin but very tall 6ft 4!

If any of you beautiful ladies would like to chat more send is a msg and can see if we a have a connection.

NO I WILL NOT BUY YOUR ONLY FANS!!!
Anyone who gets in contact and asks will be deleted.

(Use telegram,Reddit and x) have no other socials

Look forward to hearing from you

D x


r/R4R40Plus 6h ago

39 [M4F] Canada/anywhere horror loving chef wants to chat with you

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Hey there folks, i hope its a wonderful Wednesday! Im simply looking for a fun and engaging person to chat with during my day today. A few things about me:

• avid reader

• pet parent

• nerdy

• loves to yap

• horror enjoyer

• will swap pics of cool places and myself and pet if you're willing to do the same.

Come say more then (hey, hi, sup) hello and lets see where it goes?


r/R4R40Plus 14h ago

F4M 33 F4M anywhere/online

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I’m from GMT+7:30 so if you feel like it’s too far to talk to, that’s totally understandable.
I’m looking for making friends as well as a long term/serious connection. Preferable between 35-45.
I have some hobbies that I can tell u. I do like doing a road trips so if you don’t mind the driving, I’m totally down to be in your passenger seat.
I’m also very into detective series, crime solving, animation movies and some funny romantics too.
Horror and Thriller totally a NO.
Not really a vdo game kind of girl but more a broad, strategy one-one kind of game. Prefer sth for the brain and fun playing together or with group.
Musics: most of all except hardcore rock or any loud musics. Prefer indie, soft pop, dance pop, any pop, soul, alternative. Had to tell u Avicci is my favorite. Besides I know Kygo and a few other too.
Totally a dance girl to Reggaeton, Latina, Afro or just dance generally.
Well, I do prefer someone ranging between Europe, Aussie, and US because I do love to received affections and intimacy from the prospected partners.


r/R4R40Plus 4h ago

F4R 49[F4R] Feeling a bit bored and could use some company Friendship

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Working from home is nice and all and sure has its perks but it can be a bit isolating sometimes with no coworkers around to banter with. I'm sure I'm not the only one feeling that way so it'd be nice to link up with some people to maybe get some longterm chats going. Topic wise I'm not particularly picky so anything from casual to private is game with me as long I don't have to feel like I'm carrying the conversation.

I mean I'm by now means prude and could probably easily outweird you but even I have to draw a line somewhere. And since a lot of people ask for pics immediately, I have one of what I look like on my profile if you really need to know to ahve a conversation.Other than that, shoot me your age, location and something interesting and we can get the conversation going, I don't bite:)


r/R4R40Plus 10h ago

45M [M4F] Canada/USA looking to chat bonus points if your left leaning and Canadian, age, race, body size don't matter

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New Brunswicker looking for the elusive Canadian women that likes to talk and not into ghosting, is that you? Also open around the world just keep in mind I'm on the Atlantic time zone

A little about me

A chef

Working on getting back in shape

Music junkie

I love listening to comical podcasts

I watch more cooking shows then I care to admit

On Pinterest more than I care to admit

No kids

1 dog 2 cats


r/R4R40Plus 23h ago

M4F 37[M4F] sweden/ online. Tall single dad.

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To get the elephant in the room out first yes I'm really 6'9(not the internet kind).

No, I won't answer the obvious height related follow up in this post. Some things are better discovered than declared.

Former nurse turned construction guy, so I know how to take care of people and build things that last. I'm calm under pressure, steady in my decisions and comfortable when it feels right. I don't need to be loud to be confident. I just show up, handle what needs handling and make sure people i care about are taken care of.

I'm a nerd at heart. I'll talk music theory, random documentaries or why that one movie deserves an Oscar. I play guitar (well enough), used to play basketball so I know a thing or two about the importance of team play, but nowadays I channel most of that competitive energy into trying to be the best possible dad. Being a single dad gave me patience, depth and zero interest for chaos.

I flirt slowly. intentionally. I like the kind of chemistry that builds. Standing a little closer than necessary, brushing your hand just long enough to make a point, eye contact that says more than words. Protective, not possessive. Direct, not arrogant. Confident enough that I don't need to oversell anything.

I'm looking for someone over 30 who knows what she wants and isn't afraid of strong energy, emotionally or otherwise. Affectionate, self-aware,playful. Someone who appreciates a man that can make her feel safe at one minute and slightly distracted the next.

If you miss being desired with intention come say hi.

Let's see if we measure up in more ways than one.


r/R4R40Plus 17h ago

F4R 42 [F4R] #EastCoast. Looking for the Kind of Conversation That Accidentally Lasts Three Hours.

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East Coast girl who briefly traded Pennsylvania for Texas while finishing my master’s before making my way back home.

By day I work in child welfare and my nights and weekend are spent moonlighting as a boot and denim expert.

Outside of work, you’ll usually find me wandering thrift stores looking for treasures, tending my flower garden, trying a new craft brewery, mixing a good cocktail, decorating my house, planning my next road trip, or getting lost in a book.

I’m happiest with people who are respectful, emotionally intelligent, and communicative. If you enjoy conversations that take unexpected twists and turns, we’ll probably get along just fine. I can be a little sassy, and I appreciate someone who can dish it right back—with a good sense of humor.

Looking strictly for friendship. Bonus points if you’re around 40, educated (PhD earns extra nerd points 😄), emotionally intelligent, funny, and capable of carrying a conversation without it feeling like an interview.

Tell me: What’s the subreddit you visit most often?


r/R4R40Plus 1d ago

M4F 44 [M4F] #Tennessee - Travel Loving Homebody Looking for a Long-Term Relationship

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The Quick Summary: Kind, witty, quiet, travel loving homebody looking for a long-term relationship.  Looking for someone who is physically affectionate, good at communication, and slow to anger. I'm in West Tennessee. I'm liberal, and not religious.

My interests are crossword puzzles, teaching, exercise / nutrition, reading, baking, studying Spanish, gaming, coloring apps, travel and the usual music / movie / tv shows.

·      I’m 5’7’’, average build, salt and pepper beard, brown hair.

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Longer Version: My last relationship and the connections I have made since then have taught me good lessons about what I want and what I can offer in a relationship. Those experiences have also helped me to be more upfront about things. Here are a few things I think someone would want to know before messaging me:

  • I have a form of depression called Dysthymia. It's not debilitating in any way.  I take care of myself, use medication, and go to therapy. Happy to talk about it right at the beginning.
  • I love my space and alone time and want a partner who enjoys theirs too. Wanting to live together with your partner (at some point) is not a deal breaker, but I’m drawn to the “living apart together” type of relationship where we talk often, share everyday moments as well as big ones, have sleepovers, and find time for adventures and trips together, but keep our own living spaces.
    • Because of that, I’m open to distance but not so much that a plane ride is the easiest way to see each other. Up to five hours away or so.
  • What is most important to me is comfort with someone. I highly value reaching a point with someone where we both feel comfortable just sharing the same space, talking when we feel like it, but not feeling awkward about silences either. I love good conversation with my partner, but I’m not a yapper.

More About Me:

  • Work as a teacher. Financially stable, and more frugal than spender, but enjoy spending money on a good experience or trip.
  • Quick witted, good sense of humor, intelligent enough to teach elementary school students. Extremely patient and supportive.
  • Personality is a good mix of joking, sarcasm, teasing, playing, flirting, and being positive mixed with seriousness and a little pessimism from time to time.
  • Almost everyone I have met says I can be hard to read, which is true. I'm not the most emotionally or physically expressive person (meaning hard to read my face). However, I am great at telling and showing people how I care about them.
  • Exercise and eating healthy are important to me (but so is balancing that with baking desserts)
  • Not the soulmate, hopeless romantic, fall in love in a week type. Just looking for someone that matches up well with me and who wants to slowly build something meaningful.
  • Average sex drive (meaning I'm happy with a few times a week). Open to new things, but not into anything extreme.

What I hope to find:

·      34 – 50 years old, open to any race / background / ethnicity

·      Child-Free or having kids that are older / grown

·      Not religious, with left leaning politics

·      Good at saying how you feel or if you are upset

·      Physically affectionate

·      Slow to anger

·      Drug and STD free (occasionally enjoying a drink or a gummy is no problem)

·      Dark sense of humor

·      Enjoys teasing and playfully roasting their partner sometimes


r/R4R40Plus 10h ago

M4F 48 [M4F] #NYC. Looking for a woman in a dead bedroom situation like me.

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I'm a white 48 year old guy, stable and fun loving, but currently stuck in a dead bedroom situation. I'm looking for a kind, adventurous woman who misses that spark as much as I do.
I have a high libido and I'm looking for a partner who is enthusiastic about intimacy and wants to make it a fun, regular part of life again. If you're warm hearted, enjoy a good laugh, and are looking for a consistent physical and emotional connection, I'd love to hear from you.
Tell me your best dad joke so I know you read my post.
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r/R4R40Plus 19h ago

M4F 35 [M4F] #NewYork

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35 year old single straight hispanic. 6’2. Fit, professional, educated, honest, safe, trustworthy, respectful and clean. I don’t drink or smoke.

I like fit or thin women only. Single or taken. Good hygiene is important. Must have a really strong bed 🛏️. I value quality over quantity. Good vibes only.

I live in Westchester, NY and prefer someone local, but willing to drive. Privacy guaranteed and can be very discreet if needed, as in, I can disguise myself as a plumber or sneak in through the back door.


r/R4R40Plus 20h ago

M4F 31 [M4F] #Pennsylvania - Looking for my non-religious, childfree soulmate.

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Hi there!

Do you love deep conversations that wander from philosophy to fandoms to what makes people tick? Do you light up at the thought of being both playful and purposeful in your relationship? 

Then read on.

Before I get into the fun stuff, a few dealbreakers:

🚭 Smoking: I can’t stand the smell.

👶 Kids: I do not want them, and I had a vasectomy to ensure I won't have them.

🐾 Pets: I have a pitbull mix named Tony who I’m trying to help be less afraid of people.

🏋️ Fitness: I hit the gym 3–5 times a week. I’d like a partner who’s also active and values taking care of herself.

🚗 Distance: I don’t currently drive (though I’m working on it), so being reasonably local is ideal.

🔫 Guns: I’m a responsible gun owner, and that’s not changing.

My name's Chris. I’m currently unemployed, but I'm working on getting a game studio off the ground. I own my condo, cook most nights, (try to) lift regularly, fence on weekends, and spend a frankly ridiculous amount of time walking Tony (7+ miles a day, easy).

I’m looking for a long-term relationship. I want to find my one-and-done. Someone I can build blanket forts with, blast classical music in the kitchen with, and overall just live a great childfree life with.

So what does a long-term relationship look like to me? Like vines on a trellis - that is to say: growth, together, with one partner acting as the rock, but still growing in turn together. I’m happiest around someone who’s driven to improve herself, whether that’s physically, mentally or emotionally. I’m always chasing my next goal and I want to help you chase yours too.

If you’re the kind of woman who loves to cook (or perch on the counter in something cute while I do), enjoys exploring museums and aquariums, and finds comfort in old-fashioned affection blended with modern equality, we’ll probably get along wonderfully.

If this sounds like the kind of life and love you’ve been craving, send me a message. Tell me your favorite first date idea or the last museum you visited.

P.S. I'm kinky, as well, and would want to inject kink into the relationship we end up developing.


r/R4R40Plus 20h ago

42 Vancouver. [f4m] looking for new connections

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r/R4R40Plus 20h ago

M4F 41 [M4F] #Huntingtonbeach - Seeking younger woman for dom/sub relationship in Southern California.

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I am looking for a relationship/arrangement where both man and woman have established roles and boundaries. We both share the same mindset and are in tune with each other.

Respect is number 1 and will always be the cornerstone of our relationship. I believe everyone should be treated with dignity whether they are a stranger in public or a loved one. I am very assertive and do not need to raise my voice or get excited to get my point across. I do not believe in verbal abuse of any kind and is something I will never subject you too. I am very aware of the physical imbalance between the sexes, and I understand that it is my duty to always make sure you feel safe, loved, and protected while in my presence.

Once respect is established, trust begins. The level of trust will be to the point that anytime we are out together as a couple your mind will be completely clear and your entire focus will be on enjoying yourself, being pretty, and just being a girl. This will be your reality because you will be of the understanding that no matter what happens your man can handle the situation. And that gives you comfort.

What I am looking for ultimately is a woman who fantasizes about the idea idea of fully surrendering herself to a man and will submit fully within the confines of the relationship. In other words, you recognize that I am the one who leads us and I know what is best for us.

When it comes to intimacy, this is not an ad seeking BDSM. Dom/Sub is a mindset. I am very dominant and believe in mutual pleasure and am not into coercion. I am very giving, and will always make sure you are taken care of and will make sure you feel fully reassured when we are laying in each other's arms after the fact.

About me:

I am 41 years old (no kids). I'm 5'10 162 lbs. I workout a couple times per week and am in good shape physically. I am white with dark brown hair that has a touch of gray and hazel eyes.

I have a lot of life experience and would love to share that wisdom as a mentor with a new friend/lover. I will teach you how the world works and help guide you when you need it.

I love a clingy woman who craves my attention, approval, and validation.

I am STD free.


r/R4R40Plus 20h ago

M4F 37 [M4F] #Seattle - Looking for a regular thing with a married woman near Seattle.

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Are you looking to experience that spark again? To be appreciated like the beautiful sexy person you are? Do you want some release while he's at work? I'd love to help out. I want to start an ongoing thing with a married or taken woman. Let me give you the satisfaction you are missing.

About me: I'm average height with a bit of a dad bod, very well endowed (over 7 long and 6 around), I can tie knots in two cherry stems at the same time with my tongue, I'm a switch that leans heavily into pleasure dom, and my favorite thing is to satisfy others. I'm into women of all ages, body types, and relationship statuses (it's all about the person to me).

My primary goal is to make sure you are satisfied. I'm up for almost anything you might have in mind, but I can definitely take control if you you would prefer. Have something you have always wanted to try? Let's do it. Have some friends that want to join in sometime? The more the merrier. I'm very kinky and up for almost anything.


r/R4R40Plus 1d ago

49 [M4W] Looking for Someone to Laugh Through Life With

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r/R4R40Plus 22h ago

F4M 50 [F4M] Orlando—Serving up laughter and warmth!

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Hey, everyone! I’m aware of what can happen to my inbox, but I refuse to use dating apps. This is an alternate account for obvious reasons, but I’ve been on Reddit for years. (⬅️not a flex? 🤭)

I’m recently single, and I’ll happily share that story privately if we hit it off.

I’m in the Orlando area, and I’d love to meet someone nearby (within about an hour of Orlando) to spend time with. Ultimately, I’d love to find my person. I don’t want us to feel pressured, but I do want to date intentionally to build something together.

I hope to meet someone who’s experienced a long-term relationship before, whether that was marriage or not. I share custody of one terrific kiddo, so single dads to the front!

I’m open to someone between 38 and 55. I don’t want an age gap to become anyone’s fantasy—I just care about finding someone who’s emotionally and relationally compatible with me.

I’m fortunate to have a career I genuinely love, and I’d enjoy meeting someone who feels fulfilled by theirs as well.

I have love and compassion for all people, and I want someone who shares in that.

I’m ridiculous, affectionate, curious, and I laugh a lot. I’m a romantic, too, and physical affection is definitely one of my love languages.

It’s important to me to feel like a team, and be able to handle the inevitable bumps along the way. Curiosity, accountability, and repair matter deeply to me, and I’d love to meet someone who values those things too.

Despite all of that sounding a little “Ms. Serious Pants,” I’m actually pretty irreverent in real life. 😄 I just know what brings me peace these days, and I’m not interested in wasting either of our time.

Let’s grab coffee—or an adult beverage—and laugh a little!

DM me! Please tell me a little about yourself and include your age and location. 🙂

✅ Please be within about an hour of Orlando.
✅ Please be willing to exchange photos early. 😉