I felt whimsical today and wanted to draw a beautiful fat fairy, and I’m really happy with how she turned out! :•)

Have you ever been fat shamed by a health professional? I remember seeing an ENT and he had to mention that I was zaftig. Saw a physician for therapy and he was asking about past surgeries. I mentioned my knee replacements. He said that is what happens when the chassis is bigger than the wheels. I was in the hospital once and a nurse looked at me with a scowl and asked if I had diabetes. I said no. (She could have looked at my recent metabolic panel to confirm it). She then ordered a diabetes test. I didn’t have it. I don’t mind when my PCP mentions my weight in regard to my health problems if she is respectful (she is). These folks weren’t seeing me for a weight related problem so I feel they should have STFU. Has this happened to you?

I’m looking for some recommendations for bath towels. I know it might sound kind of ridiculous, but I am so tired of having bath towels that are not big enough to wrap around my body! Does anyone have any recommendations for bath towels that I would be able to wrap around myself as a plus size woman and if so could you also link it?

Hi 23F here and it feels like dating is the most difficult thing in the world.

I’ve never really been under a size 16 as a teen/adult. I fluctuated around a size 18 until covid hit and gained a ton more weight putting me at a 24/26. Then I was on ozempic for a year and dropped down to a 20ish now back up to a 24 and slowly working to get back down to a more comfortable size (for health reasons).

All that context is to say I dated a bit as a teen and then took a break for years and years and really only finally got the confidence to go out with guys again once I started losing weight. Now that it’s all come back, I’m trying to focus on loving myself no matter what because the right person won’t care either. I’ve never had a boyfriend which also ads a layer of complexity because I have no idea what I’m doing when it comes to relationships.

That said, I went WAY out of my comfort zone last weekend and went out with 2 separate guys, one from Tinder and the other an old coworker that has been wanting to take me out for a while. The old coworker eventually said he didn’t feel any chemistry after a few days (even though I felt there was but whatever not going to argue with him over that). The other guy I went on a second date with last night and he just told me he enjoyed spending time together but he realized he wasn’t over his ex.

I know neither one of them said anything about the way I look but it’s so hard when my brain keeps telling me that’s the reason and they’re both making up other excuses to protect my feelings. Every time this happens it makes me want to give up because it’s the same story over and over again.

I’m also coming out of a hook up/friends with benefits situation that also feels like the same story - wasn’t over his ex but still wanted to hook up with me. Things ended a while ago but I’d be lying if I said there wasn’t a part of me that didn’t wish things had gone differently.

It just feels so hard to want to keep trying when it’s always a different variation of the same story.

The ex coworker I went out with told me I should take a break from dating, but my whole life has been a break from dating so that just annoyed me. Pretty much all of the guys that are attracted to me I am not attracted to, which really sucks. I just don’t understand why it’s so hard to find someone who wants me.

If you got this far thanks for reading my rant :)

Heyy soo please only answer if you are or were plus size. I am in my early 20’s and god knows how hard i have been trying to lose weight. I have lost a couple of kgs but the outer body and dimensions still look the same. I have had 4 crushes, all of whom rejcted me because they saw me as a friend or simply didn’t like me. But now that i am actively trying to fix my health the anxiety of losing my early 20’s to my health is too high.

I saw this really really beautiful guy and the gym and one at an event, i just wanted to be friends and talk but simply couldn’t get the confidence to get up and talk to him. I don’t necessarily want something romantic but just like, 0 courage to even talk. Plus he is always surrounded by a bunch of guys in the gym, how and what do i even say when he always has so many people or his younger brother around him.

I don’t want him to think i am sticking and talking for no reason. How do you even make friends mannnn aaaa

For context- i live in india

Have any of yall attended or heard of xlence plus?

I’ve always been curious about it. I would love to attend more things geared towards us but i just want to hear first hand about it

I’m starting a new job soon, and I need some workwear recommendations

The dress code is much more business casual/chic than what I’m used to, and I’m finding it really difficult to build a wardrobe. Jeans and T-shirts aren’t allowed, so I need outfits that are office-appropriate. I’ll be working with children, so I also need clothes that are comfortable and easy to move in. I don’t want anything low-cut, but I still have to be chic.

As someone who shops exclusively in the plus-size section, I find it hard to find stylish work clothes. Being in Canada doesn’t help either, since many of the brands people recommend either don’t ship here or become very expensive once you factor in shipping and duties.

I have a few tops from BloomChic, but they all have a pretty similar cut, and I’m worried my outfits will start to look repetitive.

I also love the look of wide-leg pants on Pinterest, but I never feel confident enough to buy them. I always end up going back to skinny pants because I fear the wide leg pants accentuate my size (Even if on pinterest I don’t think that, on me it is hard)

Do you have any recommendations for stores, specific pieces, or outfit? I love wearing dresses in the summer, but once September rolls around, it’ll be too cold, so I’m mostly looking for tops, blouses, cardigans, pants, or other office-friendly.

When did they stop selling plus sized clothes? I used to get all my pants there but I went to their website yesterday and they don't have plus size clothing anymore. Super disappointing.

As a plus size person (around 270 lbs) I’d like to get some suggestions on what kinds of excursions to do. I unfortunately can’t walk very well at the moment due to recovering from a back injury but hopefully much better by the time I get there in a few weeks. Long distance hiking or walks (over ~1/2 mi) will be out though.

I’m thinking specifically of things like kayak tours or snorkeling as I love both. I know some kayaks have weight limits so I’m concerned about that. Mostly just wondering what my fellow plus size folks do/did for fun activities in St John. Any recommendations welcome!

Anyone had knee pain that went away eventually?

My knee started hurting recently and knee problems run in my family. Im worried my knee cup is already starting to give out but i really dont want to freak out about that yet. So does anyone get like shooting pain in knees that lasts a few days then goes away?