let me give you a brief background to my family’s dynamic:

my dad is a really religious man (ifykyk), my mom is a practicing muslim and they are all very strict. throughout my life, i’ve always had to wear skirts that are long enough to touch my feet basically.

my dad thinks its weird for even men to wear pants (even though HE WEARS THEM) and has some really strong beliefs that a woman should not wear pants because it shows the gap between her legs. and my mom? well, thing is I know that what she cares about is my dad’s opinion and what other people would think if they seen me wearing them out. truth be told, i don’t think she even cares that i want to wear pants, its about how people would see me.

i know this because my mom allowed me to wear literal leggings out before to a workout session as long as no one we know sees me.

Im so frustrated writing this but I don’t know what to do other than just disappoint them, buy my own pair of pants and wear them out. My mom keeps promising she’ll eventually let me which I know is a lie because she keeps saying next time, next time.

I’m entering college and I’m so sick of dressing in long skirts unless its for going out. I only plan on wearing baggy pants so I don’t even see the damn problem. I’m already suicidal and this is the one thing I’ve wanted throughout all of HS to make me feel like I fit in with other girls my age and to make me feel like myself.

Hijab has already taken a lot from me, so has forced rules, and it makes me so mad sometimes. I want to just be a disobedient daughter and just wear them and start dressing how I want, but I’ve always been the golden child but I really feel like I can’t keep living like this anymore. It’s never been about pants.

Hey, does anybody know Sina Port, the one that has those mentorship programs for making money as a woman? So anyways I attended her free seminar today and it was 30 minutes of actual useful information and 1h30 of sales pitching.

Honestly, I kind of trusted her because she's a Muslim revert, she gave me a call yesterday about the masterclass today and all that. However, everything sounded so fishy, because she charges these atrocious prices for her programs (we're talking thousands) and they explain how when she "has a baby in her arms, lived in Malaysia with her parents in a 8sq bedroom with no space for a desk, working from her broken laptop on her bed", she then "also invested in a mentor". I asked how did she afford a mentor when she couldn't afford a laptop or housing, I get this response and before I even got the chance to reply, the host just removed me from the meeting.

To clarify, the person who replied to me is most likely from the team. I started feeling suspicious when I read reviews of Sina Port here and there was this one lady who said a member of staff suggested to her to "get a loan" when she couldn't afford the initial 2k for her mentorship. I wanted to express my repulsion here about this entire business model and possible scam.

My sister is 32 and has been wearing the hijab for a little over a year. I’m a lot younger than her and started wearing it years ago. We’re four sisters in total, and I never had a hijabi sister to talk about my struggles as a hijabi with until she became a hijabi too. I felt less alone in my decision when she put it on. However, today she decided to take it off because she couldn’t handle the heat in it and found it to be physically restricting. She loved to be active and work out and felt that the hijab held her back because it kept slipping, damaged her hair, was very warm on her head etc. It’s her choice and ofc i dont judge her or hate on her for it at all. Thanfkully in my family we have the freedom to choose and she chose to take it off. Her doing that made me start to think about how im going to stand out in family pictures, in social settings, how I’m the only hijabi sister with no one to understand my struggle as a modern day hijabi. It might sound kind of selfish idk. I tried to find solutions for all the reasons she took her hijab off but she told me she tried all kinds of fabric, materials, and styles, and nothing satisfied her. She wants to find a loose hijabi that wont slip nor will it sit too tight and damage your hair.

Im typing here cause i kind of wanted to vent about it and just get any advice on how to stop thinking about how I’m going to stand out as the only hijabi daughter? How can I subtly encourage her to put it back on inshallah?

I’m struggling to actually settle in a routine and I was wondering what things everyone does that make their day centre around Islam/Allah? Besides salah of course. I had a phase where I was doing tafsir everyday, but recently I’ve felt like i just don’t have time to actually sit down for an hour and do that, but I also don’t want to lose whatever sense of Iman that has been built.

I’m looking for more knowledge-seeking things rather than adhkar, sunnah prayers etc bc those currently don’t feel good difficult :)

Assalamu alaaikum.

Brothers and sisters I'm saying this from a tight situation

First year university student.

The consequences of my actions have left me in a position where I fear what I will do to myself and what will happen to me. I lied to my parents multiple times to hide my failing grades this semester, I'm being held back a semester and I was genuinely devastated, despite lying to my parents about not failing my semester they have shown me hostility and one of them threatened to force me into a marriage, expecting me to have a perfect academic path. I genuinely can't handle their reprimands and I've been coping with haram action which I hate myself for, not only have I dug myself a deep hole in my Dunya but also in my akhira.

Because of my failing grades I'll be held back a semester and won't get my degree until a year later, and I genuinely won't be able to mentally take my parents behavior or reaction for it, I won't feel safe with them. In order to not let that happen I'm gonna need some sort of miracle from Allah that allows me to access my semester without being held back. I already email my university asking them to find a solution for my situation, I don't know what else to do.

I'm asking that you help me make dua to allah to help me access my semester without being held back a semester and that my dua gets accepted in a way that I will cry from gratefulness from him and happiness.

I just want to be shown mercy, even if all I did was sin.

I want relief

Jazakumu allah khairan

What i mean is for example; you might look at yourself in the mirror and think that you’re pretty, but then you think/know that other people around you won’t find you beautiful or attractive. Wonder if that’s just me.

Assalamu alaikum sisters! I recently started going to the gym regularly, and I wanted to ask for recommendations for cheap workout hijabs. I currently wear a cotton undercap with a jersey hijab (the hijab slips back on my hair without the cap). I don't have issues with it while working out, but I don't wash my hair every time i exercise, so having the undercap stuck to my sweaty forehead/scalp is not it lol. What are some affordable, non-slip, no-undercap breathable hijabs i can try? (preferably slip-on)

Thank you all!

25F, I've been wearing it for the last 3 years now. I'm honestly so grateful that Allah put it in my heart to wear it, but I feel so ugly. Like really ugly. My hair is my favourite feature so to cover that up it's been really hard.

I try to put a bow or cute clip on my hijab to feel better, but with the rise of hijabi influencers online taking their hijabs off, it's starting to take a toll on me. I don't have a great home life so I don't have anyone that I can talk to about this 😅 astaghfirullah, I never want to take the hijab off, but when I see these influencers online they look so happy.

And even with hijabi influencers, they just look perfect. I know we shouldn't compare, but no matter how I look at myself in the hijab, I feel so ugly and disgusting. I can't look at myself in the mirror for too long anymore 🙁

Am I the only one struggling with this? I feel so alone.

Salaams!! Any tips for taming the baby hairs that insist on popping out from under my cap throughout the day? Perhaps suggestions for caps that stay in place better? Mindful of traction hair loss so I don’t want to put too much pressure on my hair follicles but also get so annoying having to adjust constantly.

Obviously, like everything else, Islam is intersected by patriarchy, and most interpretations of the Quran have been made by men. But I believe in God; I'm simply looking for a community that embraces my faith and is loving toward me

Going on holiday soon and I need help on deciding which hijab I should wear. I’m wearing brown
sandals possibly either a brown or white bag

1. ⁠Green
   2.Sage green
   3.White
   4.Off white
   5.Multicolour

In the 6th picture the skirt is in the middle

Please ignore the fact that my clothes are super creased thank you ☺️

Salam sisters!

Can you wonderful girls please reccomend a hijab for this gorgeous dress! I need it really soon so any advice would be appreciated! The dress has been customised to have sleeves attatched, same material as the dress.
Jazak allahu kher girlies ☺️

I’m based in Canada and I’ve been looking for oversized long sleeve tshirts for a while. I found these tops from baytul lybas in the uk and they’re literally PERFECT 😭 perfect length and actually loose and so cute, but to ship it to canada would cost so much. Anyone know if there are any canadian-based modest brands that have these kinds of shirts?

uk girlies are so blessed with the amount of hijabi stores and modest brands they have

Hello,

I have been wearing hijab for a little over a year now, I'm 35 years old. I'm going to preface this by saying I know hijab is fard and I don't deny this ever. I acknowledge that not wearing hijab is a sin (even when I wasn't wearing it I knew that was a sin but I still tried to be the best version of myself as a Muslim). I fought for years before wearing it and the years leading up to my decision, I would cry every single night praying that Allah would help me take the step and be strong enough to wear it and one year ago I did it...I decided to wear it. What I didn't realize was just how difficult this decision would make my life...I live in the states (Florida) and what I didn't realize was just how difficult and how much people treat you differently wearing it vs not wearing the hijab. It's been a struggle and the difference between the treatment I receive is alarming but it's there and I can feel it when I go out in public. I think if I had been wearing hijab all my life I may not have noticed the difference in how people treat you in public. I'm really struggling right now and battling between taking it off or deciding to keep it on. Recently, my son got turned away from a school that he should easily have been accepted into (it's a preschool). He's gifted, he's 4 years old and already starting to read and do simple maths. On the phone they told me that they had a spot for him and he would be ready to start in the fall. My husband and my son met with the director went on a tour together (I wasn't present) and they gave him the impression that he would be ready to start. A few days later I went in with my son to see his classroom and sign papers. After this visit, they emailed us and they told us that they would not be taking my son because he is "not a good fit". The only thing that came to my mind and why they would change there minds so quickly was that they saw me wearing the hijab. I don't know if I'm overreacting but I can't help but wonder if choosing to wear hijab has caused more harm than good. I know I should be stronger and I know I'm wearing it for the sake of Allah and that's all that matters. But please I need some advice or any tips that have helped you girls stay firm and confident while wearing your hijab?

I just started a new job which involves occasional and unpredictable work in the OR (L&D). Dress code doesn’t allow long sleeve undershirts, which is what I’ve always worn on other units. So those who work in OR, what do you wear to meet scrub regulations?

Ideally looking for the TAJ Elite Flex - Rubber (formerly called the TAJ Eman Rubber). Thin hair, larger head size.

I prefer to buy items secondhand when possible to reduce waste and get things at more affordable prices :)

so if you have one sitting around and would be open to selling it and shipping to me in Canada, please message me!

Hi,

Ill inshAllah be getting married next month. My vision is to do a turban hijab style under my veil to help cover my hair.

Does anyone know what material hijab I should buy to ensure the hijab stays on all day? I dont want a casual looking material but rather something that will compliment my south asian bridal outfit.

Appreciate the help!

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Selam sisters.

I've been seriously thinking about wearing the hijab, but I want to make sure I'm completely ready before I take that step.

I wanted to ask those of you who wear hijab how did you know you were ready? Was there a specific moment, or did you just decide to put your trust in Allah and go for it?

I'm from Bosnia, where wearing the hijab isn't very common. Most Muslim women here don't wear it, and no one in my family does either. That makes it feel a bit more challenging, and honestly, I'm nervous about how my family and the people around me will react.

I'd really appreciate hearing your experiences or any advice you have.

Hey yall for context Im 15 and I transferred to a school where hijab is mandatory for the uniform

And either way I’ll have to wear it bc of my parents

Im really having a hard time accepting it.

And I really need help knowing what colors and What styles would suit me

I heard that hijabis also go through an awkward phase
And i literally recently got out of my bad hair phase

I’d love some advice

I want to wear this dress to an evening event. Any suggestions what I can pair it with? Color, material and style

Hi everyone,
I was born Muslim but I was not really raised with much religious knowledge. I would like to learn more about our Prophet, the prophets, stories and everything related to my faith but I honestly don’t know where to start.
I would appreciate any advice, book recommendations, videos, or resources that could help someone who is starting from the basics and wants to build a deeper understanding.
Thank you in advance.

My friend is getting married alhadullilah and I'm getting her a series of gifts leading up to the big day.

One of the gifts will be a prayer mat that she can use in her new home with her husband. However, I'd like to include something else that is islamic as well.

I don't want to give a quran, hijabs or abayas, jewlery with scripture, artwork, or tasbihs. If anyone has suggestions outside of these, please help <33333

As Muslims, we believe that Islam is the truth. This means that everyone all over the world should follow the rules, as intended by Allah.

We all came from Adam and Hawa and then we adapted to the regions of the Earth on which we were "placed" by Allah, our Creator.
People on the African continent have big, voluminous hair to protect their hair from the sun, the same for Aboriginals or people on islands with curls and some Arabs. European and many Asian countries have straight hair to retain the heat.

I do not understand why would Allah give hair so big to women and with a certain purpose because of the environment, all this to hide it with a cloth. Wouldn’t this defeat the purpose of what hair is supposed to do for all humans all over the world?