r/Adulting • u/Vast-List-6897 • 8h ago
r/Adulting • u/GalentheMighty89 • 5h ago
How social groups be feeling
Anyone got any advice on making and meeting new friends? I always feel like I struggle with easing into new groups and actually becoming a part of them. Instead of just kinda existing lol.
r/Adulting • u/dourceo • 9h ago
I’m pissed about not being born into generational wealth
I know this isn’t realistic for most people, but I do still fantasize about it pretty often. Imagine waking up everyday not having to worry about where your next meal is coming from or if you will have enough money to cover the cost of rent when it’s due. Imagine never having to penny pinch. Imagine not needing to live alongside roommates just to get by.
I hate working hours of my life away for essentially pennies and never feeling well rested because I spend most of my waking life at a job I hate. I hate that everyone in my family has spent their lives chasing relationships that never lasted instead of using that time to create generational wealth.
I literally don’t want to participate in this anymore. It’s like no matter how hard I work or how high up the latter I climb, nothing is ever enough.
And don’t tell me to get a second job. I simply refuse to do that. I’m allowed to be annoyed by the system that’s been working against us.
r/Adulting • u/OneOpinionIn8Billion • 6h ago
What’s something you thought would matter a lot as an adult… but barely matters to you now?
r/Adulting • u/Practical-Pin2552 • 13h ago
I started to walk my dog more, and I am very proud.
My wife died three years ago. I was feeling lonely. I never realised that she was the one who had been taking care of the whole house.
I struggled for a while but then I started taking care of my responsibilities again. I got a puppy he was the only thing holding me together. But he makes a big mess, peeing everywhere and destroying everything, (not to mention eating every pair of my slippers)
Last month, I promised myself that I would take him for a walk every day. And I have kept this promise. Today marks 30 days without an excuse. I am happy and proud. I just wanted to share this.
r/Adulting • u/South_Researcher_456 • 5h ago
Turns out I really have to work under pressure 🤧
r/Adulting • u/Lanky_Relation1171 • 20h ago
When you stop texting first and realize you're no one's priority
Just a backup plan for everybody. I wouldn’t wish this pain on my worst enemy
r/Adulting • u/Which-Professor2022 • 3h ago
Got a diagnosis and I'm trying to do funeral planning without spending a fortune
Got some hard news from my doctor and I'm trying to be practical. Part of that is funeral planning, getting things sorted so my family isn't blindsided or overcharged when the time comes. Hallandale.
I want it affordable. Cremation, something simple, nothing that leaves my family in debt. But doing this while also processing the diagnosis is a lot, and I don't know if I should be talking to a funeral home now or just documenting my wishes.
Anyone did funeral planning after a diagnosis, how did you approach it? What kept it affordable? And did you regret prepaying, or was leaving clear instructions enough? I want this handled and off my mind.
r/Adulting • u/Sweaty-Noise696 • 3h ago
How do you get yourself to do small chores after work?
During the day, I’ll plan to start the laundry or clean up a little after work. When I get home, I usually shower first, but once I’m clean and in comfortable clothes, I feel completely done for the day. Sometimes even showering seems to use up the little energy I had left.
Then I sit down and check my phone for a few minutes, and suddenly much more time has passed than I expected.
I’m not trying to have a super productive evening. I just want to get one small chore done before I fully settle in. Do you do chores before showering, or is there another routine that helps you get started?
r/Adulting • u/321ECRAB123 • 7h ago
I feel like ill be living at home forever
Im a 23 year old who graduated with a bad degree and who is stuck in a minimum wage gas station right now. I feel like im falling behind in life even though ive tried hard to better my life for the past year. I did get a new job in sales that paid a little more for a month but it was a terrible place to work that set me up to fail so i went back to the gas station.
I know there is that proverb to not compare yourself with other but like at some point you kinda have to right? Like an able bodied, grown adult should have using the toilet and tieing their shoes down. I feel like me not being financially independant or on my way to it are like that, a hurdle i should have crossed by now and each year i dont the more of a loser i become. If it were not for my parents id be homeless and probablly dead now in all honesty. I do help them when they need it and mow the grass for them weekly but like they could literally ruin my life and condem me to death via homelessness if they wanted and there is nothing i id be able to do.
Idk what im looking for but i just feel really helpless and stuck in life. I literally dont think about my distant future at all since i cant imagine one for myself. Every day i keep applying and applying to jobs as my hope get less and less.
r/Adulting • u/CoronaKitty2020 • 4h ago
I wish I had friends to talk to.
That will be wishful thinking
r/Adulting • u/QualityInevitable709 • 6h ago
Hesitant to Meet New Men
Late 30's female, within "median" retirement savings for age, no debt, close to buying a decent pre-owned SUV. I have a full-time job I like, but don't make a ton of money. I moved back in with my mom during / after my divorce and I'm embarrassed and worried that I will be judged for it.
I was married to what I thought was a good man. However, he returned to some bad habits he had that he led me to believe he had turned from -- including vaping, smoking, drinking -- one time way too much, frequently verbally abusive / temper out bursts, paranoia, and eventually cheating on me with another woman.
When I was married, my then husband and I were going to save money and buy a house together after we had paid off all our debt. We paid off the debt and didn't get to the point of saving for a house. We didn't have much money, so I didn't leave the divorce with too much.
I am hesitant to go out and meet new friends or new men because I'm worried about what people will think. I do not have my own apartment or house. At the same time, with how expensive everything is I have a difficult time justifying spending so much of my paycheck for just the basics-- just to say "yes, I'm independent." It will take me quite a while to save up for a place of my own. I wish I had the money now to buy a decent condo / house so I wouldn't feel the need to feel unworthy when talking to others.
As a man looking for a serious relationship or an adult looking for new friends -- what would you think of a person in my situation?
r/Adulting • u/OneOpinionIn8Billion • 15h ago