I never had a full time job. Many of my close friends do and ALL of them fell silent and have no time to text, maybe once in two weeks, we're drifting away like never before. Adults in my life say shit like "welcome to real life" and that's it. I may start a full time soon and I'm afraid my life is over. Does anyone know how to not lose your life to a full time job? Still find time for yourself, friends, hobbies?

Please don't say what the adults in my life say. I know it already. I'm looking for legit advice that helped you

Wtf im 26 and i haven’t been to the doctor in forever. wanted to be good to myself and go since 2 yrs in paying for it but its the most annoying thing to find a doctor. Im literally amused but in a frustrated way. Why is it soo hard and who would’ve thought i needed a family doctor first and then find a different one for other shit 😐

So me and my partner are both in our early 2. 0s and we’ve been together for almost 3 years and I want to spicy stuff up for him and not just do your basic stuff. He gets off of work late today so I was thinking me cooking dinner and a sexy outfit but like I’m still looking stuff to “do” for him but I still need help what is something I could do 😭🙏🏻

I am engaged so I was never entertaining any of these co workers. I had 4 guys ask me out my first month working and it made me put couple picture at my desk. Though now they still keep coming to my desk asking about fiancé trying to start conversation. They are above me so I don’t want to be impolite and I am perfectly fine talking about work. Though they try to get personal which if they didn’t ask me out or ask about my fiancé I wouldn’t mind either. I have 2 older men who sit next to me I talk about life with sometimes.

FYI: I am in tech and there’s only one woman one other woman in my area but we don’t work together. So I just have to deal with guys very often. I also don’t dress super cute in my opinion. I ware a regular black shirt and loss pants no makeup. So I am not trying to standout.

i'm 19 still living with my parents. I have no friends, no job, and basically no future besides laying in bed playing video games sometimes. My mom has her own responsibilities paying bills and raising my younger siblings. Nowadays, she expects me to get a car and start driving again. But I can't. I'm too terrified to touch a steering wheel again. I'm also so so lonely. I know my mom needs help over here, but I'm just not motivated to. I just want to continue laying in bed all day every day.

What's worse is, I feel like the only person even trying. I'm tired of stagnation. But if everyone else is allowed to be stagnant, then so can I.

My mom is kind of upset she tried taking my video games and won't pay my phone bill or whatever but i don't really care. i'm just gonna keep doing what i always do: sleep.

I'm a 24 year old guy, I have never been in a relationship. I have convinced myself that it's never happening for me and I think that my belief manifests itself, eventhough I don't want it to be true. I know it's bad to think like that, but I can't help myself.

The worst of all is I feel like I'm a very quality person and like I have so much to offer. I'm likeable, thoughtful, caring, smart, funny, a great listener and so much more. I'm not without flaws, but I have a bunch of positives going for me. I make friends really easily. I've had girl friends that I'm comfortable enough to talk with about that sort of stuff say I just immediately give off friend vibes which is also something I'm looking to change.

There have been so many failed attempts, dates, everything in my life that have never amounted to anything that I've started to believe that it just isn't in the cards for me. And having a family and being a dad is something I really want some day.

It's occupying my mind so much and I can't shake feeling stressed and sad about it, my friends tell me it's surely going to happen, but I've managed to convince myself it won't over the years. I feel pathetic and, frankly, disgusted by the way I wallow in my own misery.

I desperately want and need to figure out how to change my mindset, how to get out of the vicious cycle that's sabotaging me and blocking me from ever finding someone.

Basically, I have a job rn and idk what to buy in my first paycheck

Do you end up drinking in certain situations socially even though you really don't feel like it? How do you deal with it?

- When Someone Criticize me Or Give Feedback I Feel Attacked

- That time I felt That... Everyone Is Better Than Me

- I Am Too Much Harsh On Myself at that Time when I criticized

-I Think I Am Too Much Sensitive

idc if im 19. this is stressful and tiring. I'm going to keep laying in bed letting the days past, there's no point trying when nothing you do matters. Nothing you say to anybody matters. Every day is the same and i have nowhere to go or a way to go anywhere.

Usually l cut female so called friends as they dont respect my boundries. l try watching them evaluating them if l sense anything wrong l cut them off without explanation,they are blocked and even some of them get mad try to curse me but thats the truth l prefer blocking them without any explanation its easier that way .

All I want to know is who this person is. I want this person to leave me alone. I can’t take this anymore. They won’t admit to who they are and they won’t stop. Stop this harassment now.

i decided if she wont take me anywhere i'll just stay home forever tbh i don't mind it but she's pushing me to drive a lot but i think i would have a heart attack if i ever touch the steering wheel again

I grew up watching my mom eat almost nothing but bread and butter, while my dad made the dough for his own pies. For a long time, when it came to cooking, I had this idea of "all or nothing".

I left my parents place when I was 18, lived alone for a year and ate terribly (slices of bread with guacamole and homemade crepes made half of my meals).

After this I've lived with flatmates and my diet improved, though I ate a lot of pasta. I hate doing grocery shopping on my own, and I put off cooking until I’m too hungry to do it so I usually end up settling for something easy. I like to cook with other people or even chat while I do it, so having flatmates helped on those points.

I've been back at my dad's place for the last couple of years, and he cooks for the both of use almost everyday. I'm only interested in making desserts, which I find fun, but I fail to cook regular meals on a daily basis. I might try a salty recipe once in a while and that's it.

Whenever my dad leaves, my diet consists of pasta, gnocchi with spinach, food that only needs reheating (ravioli, pizza) and rice with various frozen vegetables. Sometimes I will eat oatmeals with chocolate chips if I'm too lazy for anything else.

I've tried to plan several recipes ahead and felt overwhelmed by the quantity of ingredients I needed. I've tried going to the store and buy unusual food to get out of my habits, but I always fall back on the same things.

I'm going to have my own place soon and I don't want this to continue, but I don't know where to start.

My husband came home pretty late last night after drinks with some friends and completely overslept this morning.

I was supposed to use his Audi today, so I grabbed his keys and found this printed sheet sitting on the passenger seat.

At first I thought it was something from work, but after reading it, it looks like it's some kind of relationship or intimacy guide with conversation scripts and breathing exercises.

The thing is... over the past few months I've noticed he hasn't really been interested in sex as much as he used to be. I kept telling myself it was probably stress from work, but now I'm wondering if he's been quietly struggling with something and never wanted to tell me.

Part of me wants to pretend I never saw it because if I'm right, I don't want to embarrass him. The other part of me feels like I should bring it up because I don't want him feeling like he has to deal with whatever this is alone.

Has anyone ever been in this situation from either side?

How would you even start that conversation without making your partner feel ashamed or exposed?

This is a really heavy post for me but I feel like I need to just ask for some advice or comfort. My sister (25F) has no friends and I really mean that. And it has gotten to the point where she has stopped trying and has even cried to me about it and it just breaks my heart to see her like that. For context , we both were in the same university but in different majors and during her bachelor's she was not able to connect with anyone. So she would sit alone, spend her break alone. Covid helped , as we moved back home but it's still a super bad experience to go through and that experience really left a mark on her. Then she took a year gap and a job and it was a super new company so there were not many employees. After that she moved abroad for her masters, for the first week or two she tried a lot. She went to hangouts but no success. I do wanna say that she is not super extroverted, she doesn't t really like to include herself or initiate things out of fear of it rejection. But she did try , and ofcourse when you feel a natural connection with someone , it naturally goes somewhere but that didn't happen. So she spent her one alone without any friends and moved back after a year as she could do her thesis remotely. She started a job while doing her thesis and she hasn't been able to make friends either. She cried to me , about how she's lonely and looking at her old pictures wanna make her cry and that she doesn't like herself anymore. She even got feedback from her HR that people on the same floor as her don't know who she is.

I get that there's a pattern here and one could argue , my sister needs to work on her social skills etc. but idk why she hasn't been able to make friends when everyone has friends. Even she wonders why. She even told me that because of this she just ruminates and thinks what kind of a life even is this?

She also told me how on her birthday ,no one in the office knew and on your birthday , you can collect money but she didn't want to do that as it would highlight that it was her birthday that she was spending alone.

She can't do much in office in terms of socializing because there r separate teams an she's not super social , maybe that is something she could work on but it's really a nature thing. There r many introverted people with friends and she's not the type of person who'd just go and sit in a group and start talking.

I feel sad for her because her 20s are essentially going to waste. She just turned 26. At this age you're meeting your friends in cafes , celebrating birthdays , attending friends weddings while she hasn't had such experiences in 6 years. My heart truly breaks for her.

I shouldn't have done this but I was on her laptop and I just looked through her chat gpt. And reading some stuff made me cry , for example she had written that if she prays ( we r Muslims) for friends on her birthday , could it happen. Stuff like should she go to a movie night to her office, even though she literally knows no one and I know she didn't go to any movie night , so thinking about that makes me even more sad. She also wrote " I wish I was good looking" " is it wrong to feel special".

There's so much I wanna say and maybe I can elaborate in the replies because this post is getting long. But what do I do. I want her to have friends , enough to feel somewhat content as I know life is never perfect. I don't want her to look back and feel depressed about her 20s.

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I apologize in advance for my venting. I’m a 30-year-old male currently renting a room from this retired Navy veteran and his wife. It has taken such a toll on my mental health that I’ve had some very dark thoughts.

Initially, I posted on Nextdoor that I was looking for a room to rent but absolutely did not want to be around children because they wreak havoc on my central nervous system—no joke. When I was about to move in, the wife and daughter were still living here, but according to my landlord (whom we’ll call the Navy veteran), they were set to move to the Philippines within a month. For some reason, they ended up staying, and it’s been a year now.

Unfortunately, I didn’t have the resources to move again, so I sucked it up because I had no other option. As I anticipated, the child is a complete demon, and the parents have no control over her. I’ve endured many sleepless nights because the kid stays up making noise well past three in the morning, and every time I brought it up to the Navy veteran, he would apologize. Then, the very next night, it would happen again.

On top of that, the Navy veteran has homosexual tendencies, and it turns out the “wife thing” was just an arrangement for a green card. They had the child together through artificial insemination, yet they sleep in the same bed every night, so I never suspected this twist.
He has been constantly flirting with me since he came clean about the whole situation, saying things like, “I don’t understand why you’re single. I would date you in a heartbeat,” while prancing around the house in very revealing briefs and bikinis. I swear, I wish I were making this shit up.

The worst of it came when he felt it was okay to grab one of my nipples while I was out back using the pool he had given me access to.
I am happy to say that I am finally moving at the end of this month, now that I have a car and have saved enough money for a down payment elsewhere. I wish it hadn’t taken me this long, but hopefully my next living situation will be better and safer.

Late 30's female, within "median" retirement savings for age, no debt, close to buying a decent pre-owned SUV. I have a full-time job I like, but don't make a ton of money. I moved back in with my mom during / after my divorce and I'm embarrassed and worried that I will be judged for it.

I was married to what I thought was a good man. However, he returned to some bad habits he had that he led me to believe he had turned from -- including vaping, smoking, drinking -- one time way too much, frequently verbally abusive / temper out bursts, paranoia, and eventually cheating on me with another woman.

When I was married, my then husband and I were going to save money and buy a house together after we had paid off all our debt. We paid off the debt and didn't get to the point of saving for a house. We didn't have much money, so I didn't leave the divorce with too much.

I am hesitant to go out and meet new friends or new men because I'm worried about what people will think. I do not have my own apartment or house. At the same time, with how expensive everything is I have a difficult time justifying spending so much of my paycheck for just the basics-- just to say "yes, I'm independent." It will take me quite a while to save up for a place of my own. I wish I had the money now to buy a decent condo / house so I wouldn't feel the need to feel unworthy when talking to others.

As a man looking for a serious relationship or an adult looking for new friends -- what would you think of a person in my situation?

Would you rather take a job tht pays 12.25 housekeeping at a nursing home but is full time, or keep you job at Publix tht pays 16.10, with a raise. Every year but it’s part time, and they aren’t offering full at the moment…. I worked one day at the nursing home and thought Is it worth it ? Pls help