I’ve been training consistently for about two years now, so I’m definitely not a beginner.
Something I’ve noticed is that men seem to feel very comfortable critiquing women at the gym, even when nobody has asked for advice. I know a lot of them probably mean well, but it often feels like the assumption is that I don’t know what I’m doing.
Sometimes I wonder if it’s because seeing women lift heavy or train seriously doesn’t fit some people’s expectations.
It also makes me wonder: how often does this happen to men? Do random people regularly come up and correct their form or tell them they’re using the wrong attachment?
The other day my friend and I were doing an exercise when a guy came over and told us we should be using a wider bar. Fair enough, we thanked him and gave it a go.
The very next day, while using that exact attachment, another guy came over, questioned whether we were targeting the right muscles, and then suggested we switch to a smaller bar instead. He finished by saying that it’s really subjective and everyone’s body is different.
That’s exactly my point.
If it’s subjective and different things work for different people, why assume I need correcting in the first place? It gets exhausting feeling like I can’t just do my workout without someone evaluating what I’m doing.
Has anyone else experienced this, especially other women? Or do men get approached and critiqued this often too?