r/rescuedogs • u/_mintytea_ • 7h ago
Advice First time dog owner struggling with anxiety about caring for my dog
Hello, 3 days ago I adopted my very first dog. She’s 3 years old and has her issues and things to work on but she is a wonderful dog, more wonderful than I imagined. It’s just me here to take care of her. I expected dog ownership to be challenging and a lot of work but what I wasn’t prepared for was the overwhelming anxiety I have about caring for my new pup. Every night I’m waking up with intense anxiety attacks, I’m always sick to my stomach, I can’t eat and I keep crying on and off, getting very little sleep. I have heard of puppy blues but never knew it could be this bad. Has anyone else gone through this? How long did it last?
She has some issues with isolation and separation, and isn’t crate trained yet. In a few days I have to go back to my regular work schedule where she will be alone twice each day for 4 hours, but she won’t be crate trained by then. If I put her in a puppy safe room instead with her open crate, she panics because the door is shut / I’m not there. I’m so scared that I will put her in one of those places and it’s going to hurt her or traumatize her. I don’t know which option is the lesser of evils!
I’ve considered leaving her with a pet sitter, but I did a quick search for sitters and there were only men willing to take her breed/size, and she is fearful of men.
Please help, what would you do?