I’m 19 years old and looking to move out from my family home.

I have about 2,700 saved since November last year and was just wondering how much more I would need to save and just some basic advice how to deal with moving out alone.

I live in Herefordshire, England.
I am currently employed and work part time (4-5 days a week) and get paid every 2 weeks.

Thankyou.

Is it normal that property managers or listing agents make you pay even before seeing the house?
Someone told me that I had to pay, get approved to secure the place and I haven't seen it yet...
I feel taken advantage of.

Is this normal practice or is it a new form of scam?

I need to move out of my city i feel so deeply its holding me back from my full potential

Hey guys, I'm moving from IN to NJ with very few items like 6 boxes and 2 suitcases. I'm trying to figure out what would be the cheapest way to get it all moved. Any suggestions?

The thing is that I just got offered a job in Germany. Starting next month. It's a huge opportunity and exactly what I've been working toward for years

But here's the catch. I have a house in Little Rock and it's been rented out for a few years, but the tenants moved out last month. Now it's sitting empty…

And I have to sell it. Fast. Like, two weeks fast…

So I called a few real estate agents. Every single one said two weeks is impossible. Minimum 30-45 days, no matter what. Great…

So I started looking at other options. I saw one of those "we buy houses for cash" places and they claim they can close in as little as 7 days. No repairs, no showings, no waiting.

But how real is that? Does a 7-day closing actually happen?

I've also heard stories about these companies giving you an estimate and then lowering it at the very last minute. That's what I'm scared of. I know I won't get full market value. I get that cash buyers pay less. That's fine. I just don't want to be taken advantage of when I'm under pressure

Growing up I wasn’t included much in family outings and was often left behind without being told where my family was going. I cried to my mother about this from the ages of 10 to around 14. I was treated differently than any of my family members. I was an outcast. Whenever I spoke, rarely anyone would truly listen. I was struggling. At one point I came out to my sister who was around 25 at the time that I was Bisexual and she proceeded to out me to my mom when she had some underlying aspects of homophobia. Ironically enough my sister came out as a lesbian at 32 and everyone was fine with that. Anything that I told a person within my family was shared amongst everyone. I didn’t really have anyone to turn to.

When I turned 16, I met my boyfriend who I’ve been with for almost 4 years now. When I met him, I no longer felt like I needed to please my family for them to include me. In fact, I stopped going on their spontaneous outings. I said no when I didn’t want to go anywhere that I hadn’t originally planned on going to. I did not like plans that disrupted my daily life because I truly had a lot of stuff on my plate and I still do. I’m currently working and going to school. Paying for my own tuition, by the way. But now that I’m finding more independence as I become an adult, I’m getting berated for setting boundaries and not going on outings from time to time. They hold this insecurity that I hate them and I don’t prioritize them. But realistically, did they ever prioritize me? After a while it gets exhausting to pressure myself to be in places where I don’t want to be. But also don’t get me wrong, I do spend time with them. But even when I do, it doesn’t even get recognized, so in my head it’s like what’s the point?

There was a recent conflict that brought up a lot of these insecurities and I was just so frustrated. Because no matter how much I open up to them or try to make them see and understand who I am it never gets into their thick skulls. Am I wrong for not wanting to go out with them all the time? Am I wrong for being introverted and wanting to stay home? Am I wrong for feeling drained whenever I’m out with them? It’s genuinely so exhausting trying to keep up with them and their antics. And it’s honestly even more infuriating that they have this image of me that I don’t respect nor prioritize them when literally I’m doing my best to even keep myself alive!

I’m trying my best as a 19 year old to navigate what adulthood is like and it’s like I’m fucking drowning with so many conflicts. Like I’m struggling with my family conflicts, my relationship conflicts, my financial situations, college, and it’s just like I can’t breathe!

I don’t want to be viewed in the perspective that I’m this selfish person because I want to keep my sanity. I’ve asked so many people that care about me if I was a bad person or they viewed me in the same manner as my family does and they’ve all said that they don’t, but my mind struggles to believe this because I can never understand the narrative that my family views me this way.

Does anyone have advice on how to move forward in this situation? I feel like I’m drowning. I know I probably didn’t write a lot of context but my mind is kind of jumbled from everything going on that I kinda just threw a bunch of sentences together.

How can I cope with my family issues while waiting for the right time to move out?

Sometimes I feel overwhelmed thinking about my future. I’m a girl from an Islamic country in the Middle East, and I want to finish university here, then hopefully work and live abroad with my trans partner. I want to build a life where I can finally feel safe, comfortable, and be myself instead of constantly living a double life.

But sometimes everything feels so difficult—the career, immigration, residency, and eventually getting a partner visa. Even staying here and living together would be difficult because most people live with their families until marriage, so it feels like every step toward the life we want requires so much effort and planning.

I just don’t want our relationship to feel like something that has to be “fixed” or achieved before it can be stable. I don’t want to constantly think about what we need to do next just to be allowed to live normally. I want to enjoy our relationship without always feeling like we’re chasing some impossible future.

I know we’ll have to make plans and work toward the life we want, but I hope I can stop seeing it as impossible. I just want a simple life with the person I love, and I hope one day we can have that without feeling like we had to fight for every little part of it :')

I got a small brief job opportunity I’m 20m in a field that I hate in Texas.my friend in Colorado said there a position opening for a lil more money i applied and I do believe im going to get the job I’ll be gon for about 9 months while being closer to my friend group over there.i dont know how to pack or prepare for the move over there as idk what would be a necessary over there

Hello all , just want to vent I want to move really bad and I just feel stuck , because I really don’t think financially wise I can afford a place after maybe the first month , I do have a car but it was either car or move and I’m regretting getting a car .. I feel as if my family is holding me back as well as wanting me to stay home . I just want to move with my baby.

I just feel like I’ve been so mean and stressed about it because I think my job is not supporting me enough but I just really don’t even know .

Any tips or recommendations are appreciated. Thank you 😊

I turn 17 in a few days and while I have a family that loves me and says they will pay for my college and I can stay with them while I go to school, I have no desire for that. I’m living in central Arkansas and I wouldn’t mind staying in the area but i also wouldn’t mind getting away a few miles to where I won’t run into them. I really just need a small place to live either that a freshly 18 year old can put a reasonable down payment on and finance or rent a place for amount that is livable. Any areas that fit that description. (I’m currently in Conway AR)

So i have a bad household and i want to be able to move out but how do i get a job and move out ASAP when i turn 18? i want to move out instantly and never go back. how would i be able to afford a cheap apartment?

Hi, i’m 23 years old and for 3 years i’ve been wanting to move out of my mom’s house. it’s not like she does anything wrong, i love her to death. but since i am her only child, all my life up until now i feel coddled and don’t feel like much of an adult, even when i pay my own bills, she’ll kind of down play it as if the bills i pay rn aren’t “big girl bills.” my friend is looking to get her own place by Sept and she’s honestly just trying to be in a relatively cheap apartment too, not something lavish where it’s out of our budget and asked if i would be down to be her roommate. and honestly just looking at the cost for both of us to split, on top of the rest of my recurrent monthly bills, i really could afford to do it. what’s really holding me back is my mom persuading me not to move out and in her words she’d say “why would you want to move out and start paying rent when you could just live here for free?” it’s not about just paying rent though. it’s really just about having my own freedom and a bunch of other things that makes sense to me and why i want to move. but because i’m young, i do want to get some perspective of those who moved out at my age at some point, those who recently just moved out of their parents house and if you regret it or not?

I'm trying to get away from my abusive family, but I'm stuck on SSI because of my PTSD from living with them and I'm very isolated. My budget is tight, and I have a bunny that I need to bring with me.

I don't have anyone in my life to support me. Every local resource I've contacted has been painfully underfunded and unhelpful. The system is just oversaturated, and I'd like to stay out of a shelter for the time being. I've been searching for other survivors close to my age in need of community, or just people in general who understand how valuable mutual support is and might also want to share housing. My idea is to group up and rent a large house so that the cost of living is closer to affordable for me and I'll have the space I need for my bunno. I know what I'm looking for is freaking rare, but I seriously can't be the only one on a fixed income looking for this kind up setup.

Has anyone found support outside the system? In what ways can I find the right people?

Any abstract ideas, platforms, channel names, or Facebook groups where it would be appropriate for me to advertise are appreciated. I'm not even looking locally anymore; I've broadened it to the entirety of the state I'm in. Most reddit communities that are relevant are strictly support only, and the typical roommate search has utterly failed me. If there's a better place for me to post this, let me know.

Looking for minimum essentials (everything is furnished) so figure need : electronic, documents/papers, clothing work and personal, some sentimental decorations, bedding, toiletries (may be these when I arrive), my rocking chair for coffee/tea in the balcony. Anything else important? And things that can be bought little by little over time?

Hi, I've never made a reddit post before but im not sure what to do and im hoping for advice, or to magically figure this out once ive written everything down. I (20) am currently living with my younger sister, my mom and her, now, ex-boyfriend of 5 years. For context, my parents split up 6 years ago, and live in different cities. My dad's house is close to my work and I dont drive, but i stay there most days since it is close to my bus route. I have been switching between the 2 houses and cities for 6 months now.

I already dont like living with either of them. My father (47) is an alcoholic who cant keep his home clean. I dont think he owns any cleaning supplies other than a broom and he has lived in his place for 3 years now. There is always a smell and piles of garbage/dishes. Granted, he has gotten less verbally abusive since the split, but he is still always determined to be "right". His friends are also creeps who have said some weird things to me.

My mom (50) is emotionally immature in a way that has driven me insane my whole life. She talks almost exclusively in a baby/goofy voice and goes out drinking with her friends on weekend and comes home at 5 am almost blackout drunk. She is also unemployed, and hasn't had even a part-time job in 8 years. Both she and my sister think all my interests are stupid and dumb and that I care too much about things, which really impacts me negatively.

For example, im a huge swiftie. But I dont talk about her that much, because whenever I do, they talk about how horrible her music, personality and character are, and my mom actually banned her music in the house for years. They bring up my interests more than me to ridicule, but if I bring something up in earnest, they get angry and my sister does a performative dissociation.

Im getting off-topic, but i figured it was some added context, anyway

I dont know what to do, I dont want to continue living with my mom and sister, but I also want to stop living with my dad. I dont have any friends looking to move out, and im not comfortable sharing a home with a stranger. Im only working part time right now, 3 days a week, around 18 an hour, but have a good chance of full-time in September.

Im also a student, so between that and me being somewhat physically disabled (I have to use a cane to walk/stand for an extended amount of time) so i dont have the time or opportunities for a second job.

If I want to live alone near my work, it would cost around $1,400-$1,800 a month, which i cannot afford. But if I were to stay with my mom, she expects me to pay half of the rent for a 3-bedroom and 1 bath, which would cost around $2,400-$2,900 total.

I feel like i have no options, though realistically I have a bunch I guess. I have no one i want to talk to about this, so I figured I would come here 🫶

What do you guys advise me to prepare on before moving out of my family's home?

I'm extremely exhausted from all my family drama and how much they "depend" on me for everything. I also just want to restart somewhere else with independency and happiness. I intend to move out to live with my friend who live in a different state, and I only make so much money about 600$ a month if i were to save right.

I just want to know what should I do before actually moving away especially since this is a totally new state I've only visited once as a vacation. I'm also in college so I don't know what to do there as well, it's just a lot and I don't want to be stressed or have to come back to my family because it didn't work out :(

If you guys have any questions, please ask in the comments or something, I'm willing to answer!

Im a 17 F and I have the chance to move to another country in europe and my parents support it but if I move I would have to face dealing with my relatives and they are very strict and treat their women and daughters like shit. My family allows me to express myself and wants me to be educated. But they get easily influenced by others opinions especially if it comes from my uncles Im scared that I wouldnt be able to be free but moving to that country is such a great opportunity.If I dont move Ill have to stay stuck living with my parents which I dont want. So Im not really sure what to do.

Hi , im gonna try to make this short and ect but i need to move out hopefully in the next year and half . My parents are extremely toxic and controlling . I'm 20 years old and not enough freedom . I have little to no saving , i'm a full time student working a part time job getting payed mininum wage .

Im looking for jobs that pays more but its hard to find one that pays more than minimum wage and doesnt require full time. I cant do full time since im a student . Im just so lost and really scare of the possibilities of them kicking me out . Im not sure what to do help.

Is it okay ba to leave your family at the age of 25 and go back to your province and start living with your long time partner?