Guys I can really use some help. I'm very scared, and nervous. I got the pills in and I don't know how many of the miso I'm supposed to take, nothing I got specifies how many, I know at least 4, but how will I know I'll need to take more, how many more do I need to take? Do I take all 12?

Please, please help. I love in a state where it's illegal past 6 weeks I'm 8 almost 9 weeks now, I've never used Reddit before, I'm so sorry if I didn't do something right. But I can't find any information to help me. I've already taken the first pill last night so I know I need to take the miso soon. If anyone can help me I would greatly appreciate it.

34F, OH. NFP with my spouse for a few years. We’re both active fence sitters, can’t decide if we want to have kids or not.

Thanks to some very resilient sperm, I had a positive test at home at 3w6d (10 DPO). I had tracked with my usual tools (Oura, Natural Cycles and Inito), avoided high fertility and peak fertility days, only had penetrative sex once that month, 7 days before ovulation, on a low fertility day.

When I saw the positive test, my first internal thought was “Nope, absolutely not.” I had never been pregnant and as the years have gone by, didn’t think I could get pregnant, if I’m being honest.

I went in to tell my spouse and see how he felt. He gave a very thoughtful response resembling “your body, your choice” and “whatever you choose, I’ll support you fully.”

After some discussion about feelings, hopes, dreams and what the next year of life looks like, I ordered a medical abortion kit from Carafem and paid for rush shipping. We were traveling, so I knew I wouldn’t be able to start the process until 5w5d (according to everything I read, it was better to not start the process too early, as there’s a higher failure rate), but wanted to make sure it arrived before we left town.

Carafem was fantastic from the start. Accessible (in my deep red state that thankfully protected abortion access in 2022), affordable (sliding scale/financial assistance based on income), discrete (plain packaging with no identifying information) and all encompassing. They sent:

— Mifepristone (1 x 200mg pill)
— Misoprostol* (8 x 200mcg pills, green bottle)
— Zofran Nausea medication (15 x 8mg pills, orange bottle)
— Ibuprofen (50 x 200mg tablets, white bottle)
— Instant heat pack (can help with cramping)
— Maxipad
— Herbal tea (can help with nausea)
— Mints (can help with nausea)
— Pregnancy test (to be used 5 weeks after misoprostol)

In addition to the above, they provided well crafted PDFs with detailed instructions, guidance and support. I also had access to their team via text 24/7. They checked to make sure I received my package, inquired on when I’d start the process, and texted me the day I started my medicine and over the next 6 days as things progressed and passed.

Timeline of my process as follows:

Day 1 @ 12pm: took Mifepristone and laid low. Expected some nausea and cramping, had none and felt entirely normal.

Day 2 @ 11:30am: Took 1 Zofran, 800mg Ibuprofen and 1000mg Tylenol

Day 2 @ 12pm: Inserted 4 Misoprostol, wore an overnight pad and laid down for 30 minutes as instructed by Carefem.

Day 2 @ 12:30pm: Felt nothing, so I kept laying down. I didn’t have anything to do that day.

Day 2 @ 2:30pm: mild cramping began, no blood on my pad but when I went to pee, faint blood swipes were present when I wiped. A few of the pills fell out at this point, which Carefem said is normal and expected.

Day 2 @ 4pm: bleeding and cramping picked up, I’d compare it to a worse than normal period. Clots the size of lemon seeds were coming out, but still not filling a pad.

Day 2 evening/overnight: cramping ebbed and flowed, at its worst it was a 7/10 and I could feel it in my butt. I used 2 pads on day 2. Heating pad, ibuprofen and Tylenol were super helpful.

Day 3: residual cramping was mild, 4/10. I continued to lay low and take it easy, hugging my heating pad for extra comfort. I used 2 pads on this day.

Day 4: cramping had largely minimized, 1/10 at most. I was still bleeding but it slowed down compared to Day 2 evening. Used 2 pads for sanitary reasons only.

Day 5: no cramping, noticed my BBT and RHR had normalized. Bleeding was like the tail end of a period. I moved to my menstrual cup over a pad, as Carefem advised to wait 24 hours. I chose to wait a little longer.

Day 6: continued using my menstrual cup as bleeding tapered, no cramping. I only remembered what I was experiencing when my cup emptied while peeing.

Day 7 – Day 14: back to normal! My spouse and I had sex again at Day 10 and I had mild spotting. This is usually caused from the cervix still healing and being irritated by penetration.

I prepared for the worst, expected the worst and it ended up being an above average experience overall. I never felt nauseous, no chills, no fever. Just cramping and bleeding, much like a bad period.

I’m now 2 weeks and 1 day out since taking the first medicine. I had my follow-up transvaginal ultrasound with my OBGYN to make sure everything has passed and it has. It can take up to 5 weeks to test negative on a pregnancy test as well as for a normal cycle to resume (with ovulation as early as 2 weeks post MA).

Most of my pregnancy symptoms stopped within 24-48 hours (nausea, heartburn, high resting heart rate, high BBT, cramping, food and drink aversions, hypersensitive sense of smell, increased urination).

Overall, I feel physically like myself again and have had zero regrets. I kept waiting for the emotional fallout, but it just hasn’t happened, which is further confirmation that I made the choice that was best for me at this stage in my life.

This Reddit has been life changing for me and I want to pay it forward. If anyone has questions or is looking for support inside the US, I’m happy to support in the comments. 💗

I just had my 2nd abortion I feel so guilty about it but I can't have a kid i'm so young and I have no one to talk to about my boyfriend is too busy gaming he's been on the game all day and I just want someone to talk to and understand the way I feel. I can't stop crying i've been crying all day no one knows about but one of my online friends and I just don't know how to cope with it. I've never been this sad and alone.

I’m 8 weeks, in SC, I’ve been with my boyfriend for 7 months now. Yes, this was a BC failure. But he keeps pressuring me to get an abortion. I have had one previously but I cannot do the emotional turmoil after. After going through it once, I can’t do it. How do I even begin to tell him this?

And yes, I’d have to go out of state to get an abortion.

I think I’m just looking for any support or anything. I cannot keep this pregnancy due to so so many factors it’d be too much to post here, but this is the current situation:

I’m going to have to get a surgical abortion rather than pills, but I’m higher risk for it due to my quite low blood pressure(even lower as pregnant) and current pregnancy symptoms and I’m so scared and ashamed. I can’t take most birth control due to its impact on my suicidal ideation etc and I react to condoms(latex or non latex I just react to anything even water based lube). I use the patch which has been a godsend but my gp keeps telling me the nhs will not cover it. I cannot afford it permanently as I don’t have sex regularly, I only sleep with one person when I do, and I take plan b within the time frame everytime without fail. I didn’t realise I was pregnant due to being so busy as a full time carer on days and night shifts with my brother while he had short term memory loss after a coma due to falling 4 stories. & stress from trying to keep up with uni work during this time so I put many symptoms down to that(nausea, fatigue, hair loss, faint/vision loss when standing, back&neck pain, migraines). I didn’t notice until I could only get the surgical abortion but it still feels like my fault. I’m so terrified to tell the guy as it feels like I’ve failed him. I know it’s irrational thinking from being all hormonal but I’m really really depressed with it all. All the ‘prolife’/antiwomen thoughts are poisoning my mind even though I’ve forever been violently prochoice I think my brain uses anything to be mean to myself. Anyway, I won’t tell people as I fear judgement and I’m too ashamed but could really do with getting it off my chest and thought this might be the best spot. Has anyone else has a conscious sedation abortion?

I had unprotected sex a week and a few days after having medical abortion. It’s been a few days now, and I don’t feel any signs of infection or anything like that. BUT, I’m so worried about getting pregnant again. What is my likelihood? I know I messed up 😔 I’m a nursing student at FSU and I know better, I was just dumb:(

Here is my timestamped experience of my MA at 6 weeks traveling from sc to va:)

I was fully funded for my appointment. Please, please, please use your resources if you cannot afford out of pocket. I even got financial support for my hotel

- 7/21 @ 10:30am: took first dose of medicine in clinic
(I used Bristol Women’s Health in Bristol, Va. They were absolute sweethearts start to finish)

- 7/22 @ 11:15am: took 800 mg of ibuprofen and the nausea meds I was prescribed. Waited around and scrolled on my phone. I was so so anxious the entire time thinking about the pain, hence why I didn’t take it right at 10:30

- 7/22 @ 12:15pm: took 4 misoprostol vaginally. I found studies claiming women who took it vaginally had significantly less nausea so that’s the route I felt was best for me. Laid down immediately after and distracted myself on my phone

- 7/22@ 12:45pm: starting to feel some small cramps. They mostly feel uncomfortable, not painful. Continued to scroll

- 7/22@ 2:15-7:45ish: this was when I experienced the worst of it. I already get very painful period cramps so I felt I was a bit prepared for this. They were painful enough that I had to constantly move around, but not painful enough that I was moaning and groaning. Literally have no sense of time during this period. Started bleeding at some point during this frame however I have no fucking idea when

- 7/22 @9pm: currently writing this. Still have occasional cramps here and there, but very comparable to normal period cramps. I think and hope that I’m done with the painful part. I feel so relieved, so free. I chose a medical abortion to completely cut ties with my toxic/abusive ex and I don’t regret my decision one tiny bit. Having access to this type of healthcare gave me my freedom and I couldn’t be more grateful for the ladies who helped me.

- Didn’t have any nausea at all, I’ve gone through three pads (about half full) so far. I will continue to update if anything further happens.

- Resources I used

For finding clinics/ funds:
https://www.ineedana.com/
https://www.abortionfinder.org/
https://abortionfunds.org/find-a-fund/

Clinic:
https://bristolwomenshealth.com/

Organizations that funded me:
https://blueridgeabortionfund.org/
https://arc-southeast.org/

I started my first period last week after my surgical procedure abortion. It has tapered off like a normal period but it’s still lingering a little bit on day 9 😭 whennnnn will this end is it normal for your first one to be longer I mean mine are usually 7 so I already have long periods

i just got a surgical abortion and i only used tylenol and laughing gas for pain management and it was so painful and traumatic. i’m back home now with the worst cramps ever and horrible nausea. i feel so awful. if anyone had similar experience and has any tips please please tell me. even if you just want to share your experience. i feel so alone.

hi, so i have question, i had MA on 5th July and ive already tested negative today, 23rd July.

So i had protected sex on 19th July and the condom broke…. and i took a plan B immediately i think after 8 hours? sooo… my question is….. am i save from this plan b pill from getting pregnant?… i am just paranoid and scared….

hi everyone, I'm 20f, and found out a few weeks ago i was pregnant. I'm about 10 weeks by now, and I unfortunately have to have an abortion.

please don't hate me, but these are my reasonings. I have no job. I still live with my mother. my baby daddy will be kicked out of his house if I don't get it, and the top it off, I struggle with a handful of mental disorders. I am not mentally stable enough to support a baby right now, but I feel so terrible. I LOVE kids. I've always wanted a baby since I was a kid, and now I have that chance, but at one of the worst moments in my life.

I have nothing to give this baby. I would absolutely love it with all of my heart, but I can't financially support it, I can't mentally support myself either.

this is my first ever abortion, and honestly? I'm terrified. im getting a surgical abortion, and I'm SO scared it'll make me infertile. I want kids one day, when im ready. I know im 20, but I still feel like a kid sometimes.

It's moments like these that make me so grateful to have a supportive system around me, my mom has been so amazing along with my boyfriend.

Thank you for reading.

I skipped my deposhot due to a busy work schedule & had unprotected sex around July 4th weekend and last weekend with a partner I am no longer with. My last deposhot was in March 28th. I have a slight feeling I might be pregnant and it's been eating me inside that I have to do this alone. I got pregnant when I was 17 and having to do the abortion surgery alone took a toll on me because I was doing that without any support and I had a friend that refused to take me to a clinic due to her religious background. My first pregnancy caused me to be depressed and suicidal because I was pregnant with someone that did not emotionally cared about me other than a casual fling. I need some advice on how to move forward with this. I am extremely irregular and my pregnancy test came out negative because its too early, so the dr recommended I come back in 3 weeks to do another test. I am not doing okay right now..

Just wanted to share my experience for the ladies who may be also going through it!

June 20th I took the first pill (the mifepristone), the following day I felt very tired, nauseated, and had bad heartburn. I was also vomiting the night of the 21st. On the 22nd, I took the misoprostol buccaly. At the 25 minute mark, I felt this overwhelming wave of nausea and ended up vomiting. While this was happening, I began having abdominal cramping, heavy bleeding (while passing large clots), and having sweats/chills. This happened for about an hour, then for probably 8 hours it was constant abdominal pain, fatigue, and bleeding. For the remainder of the week, light off and on spotting with the occasional clot would pass.

The majority of my bleeding occurred when I would sit on the toilet. I would pass moderate/large clots this way, and had normal bleeding when at rest in the pad.
With all this being said, I was keeping my NP up to date on what was happening. From the amount of blood passed, and my blood serum HCG levels trending downward (pre abortion level was 6571 IU/L, day 4 post misoprostol was 1955 IU/L, and 2 week post misoprostol was 1194IU/L) we assumed a successful abortion. As we know it can take up to 6 weeks sometimes longer for HCG levels to return to 0. This was not something we were worried about.

Fast forward to July 16th, I began having abdominal cramping and passed a very large clot. I soaked a pad in 2 hours at bedtime and continued to pass small clots for the next day or so. I let my NP know. We went back and fourth on weather it could be my period starting or possibly retained tissue from the abortion. I had no fever, chills, or foul smelling discharge. She advised I take a pregnancy test so I did and it was positive still. She requested an urgent ultrasound and bloodwork. When I was done my ultrasound, they advised I goto emerg, which I then learned I had a 2cm fragment leftover.

This morning I inserted the misoprostol vaginally due to the intense nausea I had from the buccal route. Fingers crossed I pass the tissue. If this is unsuccessful, a d&c will be my next step.

Sharing my story to hopefully help others who may experience a similar situation. We got this!

Hi so I’m extremely torn on whether to keep my baby or not. I’m leaning towards not and have a procedure scheduled. A few months ago after my relationship ended I started hooking up with my coworker thought I was being safe and taking all precautions clearly not. If I had this child I would be his 5th baby mama. He still lives with his 4th and they have a weird relationship dynamic I guess. So I’m assuming her finding this out would be very upsetting. I also come from an extremely religious family who would disown me for even considering the procedure but also I know who will judge me immensely if I keep it. I already had to go through with one 3 years ago because the father of the child got a terrible disgnosis and I barely survived it. The guilt was awful. But I’m not ready to be a mom I’m pretty sure I also got my chronic illness from the procedure 3 years ago. Another few factors my ex would hate me and I’d hurt him so much. I’ve been telling him I’m not seeing anyone cause I haven’t wanted to hurt his feelings but we still hangout all the time text everyday and he helped me move etc. he tells me he’s gonnna marry me and make it all right. This would hurt him so bad. Also where I work I’m a server his 4th baby mama used to work there so all my coworkers would probably judge me. So I’d be hurting his baby mama my ex and dealing with extreme shame from family friends coworkers. One of my friends even said she’d do it herself to spare me the embarrassment of being the 5th 😞 I told myself never again I never expected this to happen but it seems like all the odds are stacked against me. I’m also chronically ill so being a single mom sounds terrifying. I need some help and guidance on what choice to make

I’ve received it yesterday I had a lot going on but I feel like I need to take it or I’ll back down I do have a short shift at work tomorrow 12-4 should I wait or go ahead and take it ? I’ve read about the pain so I’m unsure

Hi there! Just wondering if there is any risk to having sex (unprotected, with husband) shortly after taking Mifeprestone. I won't be taking the Misoprostol until tomorrow. Thank you!

I am 24, been with my boyfriend for 9 months. It was not planned since we thought we were being safe. I do not know what to do. I still live at home with my parents. I am unhappy at home, but moving in with my boyfriend and being a family is not the solution. I love him with all my heart, but love is not enough to make a relationship work and I do not yet know if we have the right foundations for such a lifelong commitment.

I am roughly 3-6 weeks along and I am feeling overwhelmed. Prior to finding out I am pregnant, I did not want children. I am not maternal with other people's children; I did not even like them. Simply the idea of having a child grow inside me was appalling.

The goal was to reach financial independence and retire early, and live my life on my own terms in between, however that may look like. If I had a partner, I wanted to be a DINK (dual income no kids) couple.

Since I found out the news, I am struggling with it. It is not an easy decision either way. I scheduled an abortion, but I have doubts. I now can't stop picturing our baby -- our family. I think we would make up a beautiful family. There's no guarantee that our baby will be healthy or easygoing (basically the roll of a dice) and those two either make or break the happy family illusion I have right now. If both of these are not the case, I know I will love it either way but I am afraid I will become a regretful parent and detest my life. I am aware no child now does not necessarily imply no child in the future, so why is this decision so hard?

I am wondering if these feelings are because of the pregnancy changing my brain chemistry. Pre-pregnancy me would indulge in the thought for a brief second, then be disgusted because the want for everything that gets traded off outweighs the want for a baby... let alone a baby that grows in me.

My boyfriend is very supportive of whichever decision I make, though he did state his preference for an abortion. I think I also prefer it? The day I found out, before I told anyone, I made my way to a clinic, completely on autopilot, and would've had an abortion but they turned me away because it was too early to see anything. Now a week has passed and I just can't help but wonder 'what if's'. It doesn't help that I asked AI to generate pictures of what our baby would look like potentially (I am torturing myself at this point for some reason I cannot pinpoint)

The logical thing would be to get rid of the current clump of cells. After all, that is what it is at this point. It is so hard though. I do not understand why my brain cannot cooperate with logic since I found out these news. It is either abort or keep, adoption is not an option. If I keep, I know I will love it too much to give it away. If I abort, I will spend the next few weeks or months and every mother's day thinking what if's. But regretting not having it is better than regretting having it, no?

I need advice. Advice on anything.. what to do, what not to do, anything... I've only told my best friend and my boyfriend but I'd really appreciate some outside perspective please.

Hi, I had a medical abortion in week 12+6 on the 7th of July. I felt a lot of fear before the abortion and looked up other women’s stories but mostly found horror stories so I wanted to share my own positive experience. I’m not going to talk much of my emotional experience but of my physical and medical experience.

I found out that I was pregnant in late June and booked an appointment the next day for a MA at home. At the appointment I found out that I was further along than I expected. Because I was more than 10 weeks pregnant I couldn’t do the abortion at home so they referred me to a hospital that called me and booked an appointment.

I went to the hospital on the 5th of July to get the mifepristone pill and they took a blood test to find out my blood group. I also got four cytotec pills to take at home before my appointment on the 7th, high dose of ibuprofen and naproxen and a morphine pill to take in case I was in a lot of pain. They also informed me to come in immediately if I started bleeding and gave me a number to call if I had any questions . The next day I felt fine, no pain or nausea.

I was supposed to take the pain medicine at 05.30 am on the 7th and take the cytotec vaginally at 6am. When I woke up I had started bleeding and called the number that I received. She was a bit rude but eventually told me to not take anything and just come in to my appointment at 8am. I came in at 8am and got my own room and connected toilet. I then got ibuprofen and naproxen and the cytotec pills to take orally. They wanted to put an iv in me but I was really stressed about needles so she gave me the option to not have an iv and that they would put an iv in case of an emergency. The next hours I just felt some mild cramping and got a heating pad. I hade some light bleeding like the last day of a period. I slept a bit and the nurse came back at 11am and gave me to two more cytotec. I still felt fine and wasn’t bleeding much, I just some cramps so my partner and I went for a short walk. The cramps then got a bit more intense but not more than a powerful menstrual cramp. At 1.40pm I felt a pop and went to the bathroom and realised that my water hade broke. The pain got more intense bus still bearable. The nurse came back at 2pm and gave me two more cytotec and some more ibuprofen. At 2.15 pm I felt a pressure in my uterus kind of like I had to poop and went to the toilet. The foetus then came out and a few seconds later the placenta. They had a bedpan over the toilet that catches everything. When the foetus came out I had an instinct to look and to see the foetus was the hardest part. I cried for a few minutes and then pressed the button for the nurse to come. The took everything out of the room to check that I had passed everything. She then came back to give me a shot in my asscheek that was ment to retract the uterus. I hade to stay in the hospital for one hour so they could monitor my bleeding. I bled quite a lot but not abnormally so they let me go home after an hour. In the next few days I bled quite a lot and had some cramping. Now a bit over two weeks later the bleeding has almost stopped and I have no cramps.

I’m thankful that I live in a country that has accessible abortion care and a lot of support.

I realise that I’m lucky to have had this experience with abortion and I know that a lot of people felt a lot worse physically but I would have been grateful to not only had read stories of horrible experiences before my abortion.

I wanted to add another positive experience on here. Like everyone else I was reading lots of scary stories and getting freaked out!

Around 2 weeks after conception, I started getting this very strong feeling that something was very very wrong in my body. I almost went to the er, but i didn't even know what I would tell them. A few days later I started getting really bad cramps but no period. 3 days later, still a few days before my period was due, I took a pregnancy test. I was able to get the pills three days later, so around 22 days post conception. Hours after taking the first pill I finally felt relief from that impending doom feeling. I suspect but I can't confirm that my body was in the process of miscarrying.

I took the miso a few hours early (so like 20 hours after the first pill). Four hours later I started bleeding The cramps were bad but the 800 mg ibuprofen made them tolerable. I was able to go out grocery shopping and have a meeting from home totally fine. The bleeding was exactly the same as first day period bleeding but maybe a little bit more brown? I took the ibuprofen and zofran every 8 hours the first day. The next day I woke up with no cramps and the bleeding was minimal.

Hi all! 31F here. I was diagnosed with PCOS just over 10 years ago, but have been regularly ovulating and menstruating for nearly three years with only lifestyle changes and no medical interventions. My boyfriend and I are sexually active but use condoms.

My last period began just over 6 weeks ago. In the weeks following, I began to notice odd symptoms - breast swelling and tenderness, mild cramping, mild spotting, mood swings, increased hair growth in my abdomen.

After missing my period, I took a pregnancy test 8 days ago, and tested positive. I visited my OBGYN and, although she said that it was too early to do an ultrasound, my HCG levels were high enough to indicate a six week pregnancy.

As this was unexpected, my boyfriend and I were very panicked. He volunteered to marry me and work so that we can bring the baby to term, but we both knew that the likely choice would be abortion. I am pro choice, but found this possibility to be emotionally excruciating. My boyfriend has been very supportive, and pretty much moved into my apartment to do my chores and care for me.

Yesterday, exactly one week after the first positive pregnancy test, I began to notice clear, light red/pink mucus when I peed in the morning, along with some mild cramping. I have experienced both once or twice per week for the past week, and didn’t think anything of it. However, the bleeding increased through the day, to the degree that I needed to put in a pad. I began passing small (size of a lentil/sesame seed) dark maroon blood clots around 4:30 PM.

At 8 PM, I felt a strong cramp, and passed two 2-3 inch masses. One was a soft dark red/maroon triangular clot (the color of endometrial lining) with two soft white/jelly like pockets and a small, hard, opaque lump the size of a large pea between them. The other was smooth and dark red/maroon on one side and looked like purplish hamburger meat on the other. I have never had period clots that look like this, or are this large.

The bleeding greatly decreased after this, and has consisted of small bits of endometrial lining. Thankfully, I have no fever, abdominal pain, lightheadedness, or nausea/vomiting.

I called my OBGYN and have an HCG blood test scheduled for Friday. I also took a rapid pregnancy test and, although the test still indicates pregnancy, the indicator line is now extremely faint (compared to the strong lines that I’ve been getting all week).

I am very conflicted. Although I knew that I would likely have an abortion and am still waiting for answers, part of me genuinely wanted the pregnancy and is very much mourning. I am also reeling from the insane timeline of this whole thing - to be consciously pregnant for one whole week, only for the whole thing to end so suddenly.

Has anybody had a similar experience?

It’s been a week since i’ve had my MA. at the time i did it i was around 5 weeks. i had bleeding and cramping the first day and light bleeding the following days after which they said was normal. I went back to get my blood drawn a few days later at planned parenthood so they could check my hcg levels had gone down. i got a call 3 days after and they told me i needed to go to the er since my levels had gone up and they weren’t sure if i had an ectopic pregnancy. at the hospital i ended up getting a d&c since they were scared of infection but had told me that i only had retaining tissue left. my question is how common is this?? i thought i had bled out all the tissue and clots related to it. mind you i had no symptoms prior to my MA.

I’ve read conflicting recommendations: it’s safe to have sex when I feel ready, wait 1 to 2 weeks, etc. The abortion provider said to wait 6 weeks for sex and tampon use, just like if I had a baby. That seems excessive. I am 6 weeks and 2 days, SA planned for today.

How long did you wait? With a birth control plan of course :)

I just want to start this post off by saying I honestly can't believe the way SA's are processed in the UK - but I am grateful to be from a country where you have the choice to terminate safely and legally.

We went for our 12 week scan on 26/06/26. This was our second scan as our initial 12 week scan was actually when I was almost 10 weeks (PMOS/PCOS so period dates don't work for me). No issues found at our early one, so we wete excited to see our baby again.

At the end of our scan, the sonographer stated they were concerned about partial holoprosencephaly. This was on a Friday, and they told me they were putting my referal to fetal medicine through as an emergency. (This was not the case and I had ti chase it myself). On 02/07/26 we went for our referal. They said partial holoprosencephaly was not the case, however there were multiple fetal anomalies and that, essentially, oir baby would have had no quality of life if they even made it that far. We decided that ending the pregnancy was the kindest thing we could do as parents.

Because I could not bring myself to have a MA and go in to labour for a baby I would never get to bring home, I opted for a surgical one. It wasn't explained to me initially that this can ot be done in a hospital and needs to be done privately. I referred myself to MSI and had my first appointment on 08/07/2026. They were very kind at this appointment, and I then had my surgery date on 17/07/26.

I do not wish to scare anyone, bur for me, the surgery was traumatic. I really hope this is not usually the case. I was in the surgery room with 6 staff members, all doing different things to me at once. I can vividly remember my legs and feet being strapped in to the boots that become stirrups on the bed. While awake, I had to lay on my back and shuffle down in to position, with my legs raised. I was crying to hard I kept setting the heart rate monitor off. I will never forget the scene or the feeling.

I woke up 25 minutes later and immediately sobbed again. I was then escorted to the recovery room where thwre was a woman screaming in pain and 2 other women waiting to be seen. I was allowed home within 30 minutes.

All the nurses there were very kind, and one held me while I cried before entering the surgical suite. My husband was not allowed to stay with me or be with me for recovery, so be prepared that you will be ok your own for this process.

All in, it took 3 weeks from the initial suspicion to rhe termination of my pregnancy. I was 15+6 on the day we lost our very wanted baby. I am thankful it wasnt longer, but at the same time it felt like a lifetime of grieving before our baby had even gone. No time I had with our baby will ever have been enough.

If you are preparing for a TFMR, I am so sorry you are here. If you are just looking for an experience of a SA, I hope my.post can be of some help to you all.

And to my baby - I will always love you, and I am so sorry we did not get a lifetime together like I thought we would. To be your mum, even for a short time, was the greatest pleasure.

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hi, i was told that i would get my period 4-6 weeks after my abortion. it has been 4.5 weeks and im super anxious. i did get a pregnancy test last week and it was negative but somehow still scared whether i wrongly take the test.