Guys I can really use some help. I'm very scared, and nervous. I got the pills in and I don't know how many of the miso I'm supposed to take, nothing I got specifies how many, I know at least 4, but how will I know I'll need to take more, how many more do I need to take? Do I take all 12?

Please, please help. I love in a state where it's illegal past 6 weeks I'm 8 almost 9 weeks now, I've never used Reddit before, I'm so sorry if I didn't do something right. But I can't find any information to help me. I've already taken the first pill last night so I know I need to take the miso soon. If anyone can help me I would greatly appreciate it.

I’m 8 weeks, in SC, I’ve been with my boyfriend for 7 months now. Yes, this was a BC failure. But he keeps pressuring me to get an abortion. I have had one previously but I cannot do the emotional turmoil after. After going through it once, I can’t do it. How do I even begin to tell him this?

And yes, I’d have to go out of state to get an abortion.

Hi so I’m extremely torn on whether to keep my baby or not. I’m leaning towards not and have a procedure scheduled. A few months ago after my relationship ended I started hooking up with my coworker thought I was being safe and taking all precautions clearly not. If I had this child I would be his 5th baby mama. He still lives with his 4th and they have a weird relationship dynamic I guess. So I’m assuming her finding this out would be very upsetting. I also come from an extremely religious family who would disown me for even considering the procedure but also I know who will judge me immensely if I keep it. I already had to go through with one 3 years ago because the father of the child got a terrible disgnosis and I barely survived it. The guilt was awful. But I’m not ready to be a mom I’m pretty sure I also got my chronic illness from the procedure 3 years ago. Another few factors my ex would hate me and I’d hurt him so much. I’ve been telling him I’m not seeing anyone cause I haven’t wanted to hurt his feelings but we still hangout all the time text everyday and he helped me move etc. he tells me he’s gonnna marry me and make it all right. This would hurt him so bad. Also where I work I’m a server his 4th baby mama used to work there so all my coworkers would probably judge me. So I’d be hurting his baby mama my ex and dealing with extreme shame from family friends coworkers. One of my friends even said she’d do it herself to spare me the embarrassment of being the 5th 😞 I told myself never again I never expected this to happen but it seems like all the odds are stacked against me. I’m also chronically ill so being a single mom sounds terrifying. I need some help and guidance on what choice to make

Hi all! 31F here. I was diagnosed with PCOS just over 10 years ago, but have been regularly ovulating and menstruating for nearly three years with only lifestyle changes and no medical interventions. My boyfriend and I are sexually active but use condoms.

My last period began just over 6 weeks ago. In the weeks following, I began to notice odd symptoms - breast swelling and tenderness, mild cramping, mild spotting, mood swings, increased hair growth in my abdomen.

After missing my period, I took a pregnancy test 8 days ago, and tested positive. I visited my OBGYN and, although she said that it was too early to do an ultrasound, my HCG levels were high enough to indicate a six week pregnancy.

As this was unexpected, my boyfriend and I were very panicked. He volunteered to marry me and work so that we can bring the baby to term, but we both knew that the likely choice would be abortion. I am pro choice, but found this possibility to be emotionally excruciating. My boyfriend has been very supportive, and pretty much moved into my apartment to do my chores and care for me.

Yesterday, exactly one week after the first positive pregnancy test, I began to notice clear, light red/pink mucus when I peed in the morning, along with some mild cramping. I have experienced both once or twice per week for the past week, and didn’t think anything of it. However, the bleeding increased through the day, to the degree that I needed to put in a pad. I began passing small (size of a lentil/sesame seed) dark maroon blood clots around 4:30 PM.

At 8 PM, I felt a strong cramp, and passed two 2-3 inch masses. One was a soft dark red/maroon triangular clot (the color of endometrial lining) with two soft white/jelly like pockets and a small, hard, opaque lump the size of a large pea between them. The other was smooth and dark red/maroon on one side and looked like purplish hamburger meat on the other. I have never had period clots that look like this, or are this large.

The bleeding greatly decreased after this, and has consisted of small bits of endometrial lining. Thankfully, I have no fever, abdominal pain, lightheadedness, or nausea/vomiting.

I called my OBGYN and have an HCG blood test scheduled for Friday. I also took a rapid pregnancy test and, although the test still indicates pregnancy, the indicator line is now extremely faint (compared to the strong lines that I’ve been getting all week).

I am very conflicted. Although I knew that I would likely have an abortion and am still waiting for answers, part of me genuinely wanted the pregnancy and is very much mourning. I am also reeling from the insane timeline of this whole thing - to be consciously pregnant for one whole week, only for the whole thing to end so suddenly.

Has anybody had a similar experience?

Just wanted to share my experience for the ladies who may be also going through it!

June 20th I took the first pill (the mifepristone), the following day I felt very tired, nauseated, and had bad heartburn. I was also vomiting the night of the 21st. On the 22nd, I took the misoprostol buccaly. At the 25 minute mark, I felt this overwhelming wave of nausea and ended up vomiting. While this was happening, I began having abdominal cramping, heavy bleeding (while passing large clots), and having sweats/chills. This happened for about an hour, then for probably 8 hours it was constant abdominal pain, fatigue, and bleeding. For the remainder of the week, light off and on spotting with the occasional clot would pass.

The majority of my bleeding occurred when I would sit on the toilet. I would pass moderate/large clots this way, and had normal bleeding when at rest in the pad.
With all this being said, I was keeping my NP up to date on what was happening. From the amount of blood passed, and my blood serum HCG levels trending downward (pre abortion level was 6571 IU/L, day 4 post misoprostol was 1955 IU/L, and 2 week post misoprostol was 1194IU/L) we assumed a successful abortion. As we know it can take up to 6 weeks sometimes longer for HCG levels to return to 0. This was not something we were worried about.

Fast forward to July 16th, I began having abdominal cramping and passed a very large clot. I soaked a pad in 2 hours at bedtime and continued to pass small clots for the next day or so. I let my NP know. We went back and fourth on weather it could be my period starting or possibly retained tissue from the abortion. I had no fever, chills, or foul smelling discharge. She advised I take a pregnancy test so I did and it was positive still. She requested an urgent ultrasound and bloodwork. When I was done my ultrasound, they advised I goto emerg, which I then learned I had a 2cm fragment leftover.

This morning I inserted the misoprostol vaginally due to the intense nausea I had from the buccal route. Fingers crossed I pass the tissue. If this is unsuccessful, a d&c will be my next step.

Sharing my story to hopefully help others who may experience a similar situation. We got this!

I’ve read conflicting recommendations: it’s safe to have sex when I feel ready, wait 1 to 2 weeks, etc. The abortion provider said to wait 6 weeks for sex and tampon use, just like if I had a baby. That seems excessive. I am 6 weeks and 2 days, SA planned for today.

How long did you wait? With a birth control plan of course :)

I am 24, been with my boyfriend for 9 months. It was not planned since we thought we were being safe. I do not know what to do. I still live at home with my parents. I am unhappy at home, but moving in with my boyfriend and being a family is not the solution. I love him with all my heart, but love is not enough to make a relationship work and I do not yet know if we have the right foundations for such a lifelong commitment.

I am roughly 3-6 weeks along and I am feeling overwhelmed. Prior to finding out I am pregnant, I did not want children. I am not maternal with other people's children; I did not even like them. Simply the idea of having a child grow inside me was appalling.

The goal was to reach financial independence and retire early, and live my life on my own terms in between, however that may look like. If I had a partner, I wanted to be a DINK (dual income no kids) couple.

Since I found out the news, I am struggling with it. It is not an easy decision either way. I scheduled an abortion, but I have doubts. I now can't stop picturing our baby -- our family. I think we would make up a beautiful family. There's no guarantee that our baby will be healthy or easygoing (basically the roll of a dice) and those two either make or break the happy family illusion I have right now. If both of these are not the case, I know I will love it either way but I am afraid I will become a regretful parent and detest my life. I am aware no child now does not necessarily imply no child in the future, so why is this decision so hard?

I am wondering if these feelings are because of the pregnancy changing my brain chemistry. Pre-pregnancy me would indulge in the thought for a brief second, then be disgusted because the want for everything that gets traded off outweighs the want for a baby... let alone a baby that grows in me.

My boyfriend is very supportive of whichever decision I make, though he did state his preference for an abortion. I think I also prefer it? The day I found out, before I told anyone, I made my way to a clinic, completely on autopilot, and would've had an abortion but they turned me away because it was too early to see anything. Now a week has passed and I just can't help but wonder 'what if's'. It doesn't help that I asked AI to generate pictures of what our baby would look like potentially (I am torturing myself at this point for some reason I cannot pinpoint)

The logical thing would be to get rid of the current clump of cells. After all, that is what it is at this point. It is so hard though. I do not understand why my brain cannot cooperate with logic since I found out these news. It is either abort or keep, adoption is not an option. If I keep, I know I will love it too much to give it away. If I abort, I will spend the next few weeks or months and every mother's day thinking what if's. But regretting not having it is better than regretting having it, no?

I need advice. Advice on anything.. what to do, what not to do, anything... I've only told my best friend and my boyfriend but I'd really appreciate some outside perspective please.

Hi, I had a medical abortion in week 12+6 on the 7th of July. I felt a lot of fear before the abortion and looked up other women’s stories but mostly found horror stories so I wanted to share my own positive experience. I’m not going to talk much of my emotional experience but of my physical and medical experience.

I found out that I was pregnant in late June and booked an appointment the next day for a MA at home. At the appointment I found out that I was further along than I expected. Because I was more than 10 weeks pregnant I couldn’t do the abortion at home so they referred me to a hospital that called me and booked an appointment.

I went to the hospital on the 5th of July to get the mifepristone pill and they took a blood test to find out my blood group. I also got four cytotec pills to take at home before my appointment on the 7th, high dose of ibuprofen and naproxen and a morphine pill to take in case I was in a lot of pain. They also informed me to come in immediately if I started bleeding and gave me a number to call if I had any questions . The next day I felt fine, no pain or nausea.

I was supposed to take the pain medicine at 05.30 am on the 7th and take the cytotec vaginally at 6am. When I woke up I had started bleeding and called the number that I received. She was a bit rude but eventually told me to not take anything and just come in to my appointment at 8am. I came in at 8am and got my own room and connected toilet. I then got ibuprofen and naproxen and the cytotec pills to take orally. They wanted to put an iv in me but I was really stressed about needles so she gave me the option to not have an iv and that they would put an iv in case of an emergency. The next hours I just felt some mild cramping and got a heating pad. I hade some light bleeding like the last day of a period. I slept a bit and the nurse came back at 11am and gave me to two more cytotec. I still felt fine and wasn’t bleeding much, I just some cramps so my partner and I went for a short walk. The cramps then got a bit more intense but not more than a powerful menstrual cramp. At 1.40pm I felt a pop and went to the bathroom and realised that my water hade broke. The pain got more intense bus still bearable. The nurse came back at 2pm and gave me two more cytotec and some more ibuprofen. At 2.15 pm I felt a pressure in my uterus kind of like I had to poop and went to the toilet. The foetus then came out and a few seconds later the placenta. They had a bedpan over the toilet that catches everything. When the foetus came out I had an instinct to look and to see the foetus was the hardest part. I cried for a few minutes and then pressed the button for the nurse to come. The took everything out of the room to check that I had passed everything. She then came back to give me a shot in my asscheek that was ment to retract the uterus. I hade to stay in the hospital for one hour so they could monitor my bleeding. I bled quite a lot but not abnormally so they let me go home after an hour. In the next few days I bled quite a lot and had some cramping. Now a bit over two weeks later the bleeding has almost stopped and I have no cramps.

I’m thankful that I live in a country that has accessible abortion care and a lot of support.

I realise that I’m lucky to have had this experience with abortion and I know that a lot of people felt a lot worse physically but I would have been grateful to not only had read stories of horrible experiences before my abortion.

I wanted to add another positive experience on here. Like everyone else I was reading lots of scary stories and getting freaked out!

Around 2 weeks after conception, I started getting this very strong feeling that something was very very wrong in my body. I almost went to the er, but i didn't even know what I would tell them. A few days later I started getting really bad cramps but no period. 3 days later, still a few days before my period was due, I took a pregnancy test. I was able to get the pills three days later, so around 22 days post conception. Hours after taking the first pill I finally felt relief from that impending doom feeling. I suspect but I can't confirm that my body was in the process of miscarrying.

I took the miso a few hours early (so like 20 hours after the first pill). Four hours later I started bleeding The cramps were bad but the 800 mg ibuprofen made them tolerable. I was able to go out grocery shopping and have a meeting from home totally fine. The bleeding was exactly the same as first day period bleeding but maybe a little bit more brown? I took the ibuprofen and zofran every 8 hours the first day. The next day I woke up with no cramps and the bleeding was minimal.

It’s been a week since i’ve had my MA. at the time i did it i was around 5 weeks. i had bleeding and cramping the first day and light bleeding the following days after which they said was normal. I went back to get my blood drawn a few days later at planned parenthood so they could check my hcg levels had gone down. i got a call 3 days after and they told me i needed to go to the er since my levels had gone up and they weren’t sure if i had an ectopic pregnancy. at the hospital i ended up getting a d&c since they were scared of infection but had told me that i only had retaining tissue left. my question is how common is this?? i thought i had bled out all the tissue and clots related to it. mind you i had no symptoms prior to my MA.

let me start by saying this isn’t my first time having an abortion, not my first medical one, but the first time I had to order the stuff myself without going to the clinic first. Heads up: I apologize in advance for any typos, grammar errors or anything like that it’s now 4 AM when I’m about to post this. I’m extremely tired. I have barely gotten any sleep for the past couple days
I live in FL. we unfortunately had the law changed where you cannot get an abortion past six weeks pregnant.. apparently, I was 7 weeks three days. I thought I was going to be forced into motherhood. Then a friend showed me how to get the pills.
Fast forward to now: inserted 4 to start. was supposed to insert a 2nd dose fours later, but the cramping was UNBEARABLE. my timing is a bit off, but after that dose about 4-5 hours later the bleeding begins.. finally I thought! About an hour, maybe two later if got heavy. No clots, but the four pills I took along with the fetus. I can’t even call it that anymore after seeing that. It fucked me up I’m not gonna lie. I’m still pro choice, and don’t regret my decision.
Now, this is why I’m scared. I’ve calmed down a bit after typing this out as the bleeding has slowed even more. I was definitely putting out the amount of blood that calls for a trip to the ER. yes I could have lied, and said i think I miscarried, and needed to be checked because of the blood loss. They can’t tell the difference between a medical abortion, and a miscarriage..if taken orally. The fragments from the pills can stay inside of you for a few days. Granted, I passed all four. One looked a little dissolved, but not really. I don’t really like lying.
Can anyone convince me this is normal? Now, don’t worry I’m not ignoring the situation at all. I just need to wait a few more hours until the place who prescribed them to me opens. I’m wondering if I need to take the second batch or not. Considering they were obviously up high enough, and per google my body took in enough of the miso since it was in longer than 30 mins, and what came out was undeniable. Just nervous about what didn’t come out? Like I said cramping, and bleeding have went down a down a ton. I was light headed, but was running on an empty stomach for a little bit more than 24 hours. Of course, I get shortness of breath if someone asks me if I’m having trouble breathing.. because now I’m manually breathing. Plus, the anxiety did not help.. that’s allll gone now though. All I do is worry though unfortunately. Anyone go through a similar situation? If so, how did it work out? How many doses did you take? And how do you take them?
Will update this once I get in touch with someone within 5-6 hours, hopefully earlier 🫶🏼

I would like more information about this, they made sure to repeat this multiple times to make sure I took precautionary measures. I wonder what increased fertility means and if this is true?

I just want to start this post off by saying I honestly can't believe the way SA's are processed in the UK - but I am grateful to be from a country where you have the choice to terminate safely and legally.

We went for our 12 week scan on 26/06/26. This was our second scan as our initial 12 week scan was actually when I was almost 10 weeks (PMOS/PCOS so period dates don't work for me). No issues found at our early one, so we wete excited to see our baby again.

At the end of our scan, the sonographer stated they were concerned about partial holoprosencephaly. This was on a Friday, and they told me they were putting my referal to fetal medicine through as an emergency. (This was not the case and I had ti chase it myself). On 02/07/26 we went for our referal. They said partial holoprosencephaly was not the case, however there were multiple fetal anomalies and that, essentially, oir baby would have had no quality of life if they even made it that far. We decided that ending the pregnancy was the kindest thing we could do as parents.

Because I could not bring myself to have a MA and go in to labour for a baby I would never get to bring home, I opted for a surgical one. It wasn't explained to me initially that this can ot be done in a hospital and needs to be done privately. I referred myself to MSI and had my first appointment on 08/07/2026. They were very kind at this appointment, and I then had my surgery date on 17/07/26.

I do not wish to scare anyone, bur for me, the surgery was traumatic. I really hope this is not usually the case. I was in the surgery room with 6 staff members, all doing different things to me at once. I can vividly remember my legs and feet being strapped in to the boots that become stirrups on the bed. While awake, I had to lay on my back and shuffle down in to position, with my legs raised. I was crying to hard I kept setting the heart rate monitor off. I will never forget the scene or the feeling.

I woke up 25 minutes later and immediately sobbed again. I was then escorted to the recovery room where thwre was a woman screaming in pain and 2 other women waiting to be seen. I was allowed home within 30 minutes.

All the nurses there were very kind, and one held me while I cried before entering the surgical suite. My husband was not allowed to stay with me or be with me for recovery, so be prepared that you will be ok your own for this process.

All in, it took 3 weeks from the initial suspicion to rhe termination of my pregnancy. I was 15+6 on the day we lost our very wanted baby. I am thankful it wasnt longer, but at the same time it felt like a lifetime of grieving before our baby had even gone. No time I had with our baby will ever have been enough.

If you are preparing for a TFMR, I am so sorry you are here. If you are just looking for an experience of a SA, I hope my.post can be of some help to you all.

And to my baby - I will always love you, and I am so sorry we did not get a lifetime together like I thought we would. To be your mum, even for a short time, was the greatest pleasure.

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hi, i was told that i would get my period 4-6 weeks after my abortion. it has been 4.5 weeks and im super anxious. i did get a pregnancy test last week and it was negative but somehow still scared whether i wrongly take the test.

2 mife and 6 miso for 6 weeks pregnant. Will it be effective enough?

Hi there. I just found out I’m pregnant and desperately want to not be. I’m 35, have 3 beautiful children (9,7,4) and was done having kids. Stupidly, I wasn’t the best with my bc pills, thinking it would be okay because it had always been okay. With my middle kiddo, I had preeclampsia and my youngest I was induced early to avoid having it again. Given my age, history and weight, it’s very likely that I would have complications with this pregnancy.

On top of all that, we’ve recently gone through a ridiculous amount of life changes. My dad passed away in October after a battle with cancer and me sitting beside him for his two weeks on hospice. After he passed, we bought a house and moved my disabled mom in with us. I’d planned to work and have caregivers and possibly get paid a bit too from the state but it didn’t turn out that way. I quit a job I loved and am now her full time caregiver. I’m struggling a lot to keep things organized as far as medication, appointments and such. She’s bedridden and is not able to help with much.

I struggle with depression and anxiety and have recently just gotten that under control after my dad’s passing. I also have adhd and am working on that too. As mentioned above, I’m considered obese. I just took the plunge and decided to start a glp-1, taking my first dose last week before finding out I’m pregnant. I felt like a normal person and was so excited to finally be doing something for myself.

My husband is incredibly supportive and will go okay either way. I know that I can’t handle another baby. I know that. I keep praying that I’ll miscarry so I don’t have to make the choice to get an abortion. I feel so selfish for wanting an abortion when it was my fault that I messed up my birth control. But I also can’t fathom life if I don’t get the abortion.

Anyway, thanks for reading. I’ve decided to not tell anyone besides my husband and needed to get it out somewhere.

I found out I was pregnant July 4th and was really early maybe 3/4 weeks and I scheduled a medical abortion for July 17th.

This is my second time using the medication from planned parenthood so I heavily prepared. Biggest pads I could find, heating pads and ice packs ready. All painkillers ready to take like clockwork, excess amounts of Gatorade and snacks easy on my stomach. Even changed my bedding to a set I didn’t really care about incase I bled all over it. Took the Friday and Monday off work so I had plenty of time to rest.

Worst was Friday, I had no bleeding for 5 hours so took the second dose vaginally (I’ve always taken them vaginally cause my nausea is so bad for weeks) and then bleeding started. I was in pain for about 5 hours before I could finally sleep and the bleeding was consistent throughout Saturday. I actually thought I passed it on Saturday but I’m guessing it was actually just a big blood clot.
Sunday I felt okay like I was bouncing back and in higher spirits and my nausea had finally gone and I was starving. Then in the evening I started getting cramps. Took some ibuprofen and went to bed.

Monday rolls around and I’m still okayish until around 4pm where my cramping was so insanely bad I was crying and glued to my heating pad. I bled a lot and frequently. I thought oh I remember this pain it’s finally passing. I tried walking around through the cramps and let gravity help along til it got to the point where the bleeding was so intense I decided to go to hospital.

They were really kind and I got seen to pretty quickly. I was worried from the amount of blood and the fact that I was on hour 76 from the second dose of pills. I had bloodwork done and an ultrasound that came back saying I was still pregnant.

I asked how could this happen I took two doses of the pills and I was at the 5 week mark. The doctor said it’s nothing to predict it and sometimes the cervix just doesn’t open up quick enough for the medication. She reassured me that it wasn’t a full sack so some of it had left my uterus and I could still be in the middle of passing the cells.

Cramping continued today pretty badly but bleeding has dramatically slowed down. If the cramping continues I’m going back to the hospital tomorrow. If there are still some ‘residual products of pregnancy’ I have to get a surgical abortion.

This didn’t happen the first time but hopefully it’s just delayed. I’m glad I sought medical advice to put my mind at ease to figure out what’s happening with my body. It’s okay to ask for professional help even if you’re scared and worried it’s an inconvenience. I did this alone and it’s going to be okay. Just have to keep checking your temperature to ensure there is no risk of infection.

I do not regret having the abortion. Take care of yourselves ❤️

Hello everyone I’m sorry if I’m all over the place I’ve been really stressed and I don’t know what to do. About a week ago I found out I was pregnant I’m only 20 and for many reasons I cannot go through with this pregnancy. My boyfriend has been so supportive and helpful throughout this whole process but our financial situations simply cannot handle this right now. For context I got kicked out of my house a couple months ago and my car insurance is ridiculously high because of my state. I work part time and my boyfriend just recently started his job and he also works part time. I’ve reached out to abortion funds but they haven’t helped because they ran out of funding and my state only has 2 websites. Planned parenthood gave me a quote of $700 for my abortion and $100 for initial consultation. Is there any advice you guys can give so I don’t cry myself to sleep every night from how hopeless I feel.

I had a surgical abortion 2 weeks ago at 8 weeks. I have no regrets as it was the best decision for myself and my partner.

I have genuinely never felt happier or more supported in a relationship than the one I am currently in even though we haven’t even been together for more than 6 months. I love him dearly and am very excited for what the future has in store for us. However, I am feeling so distant from him post SA and so unsure about my relationship. I feel insanely insecure and unsure of myself and doubt the future of my relationship a lot. I have never had thoughts like this prior to the pregnancy. I continually think he’s hiding things, lying etc. I try not to expel these thoughts and irrational fears onto him because obviously they are irrational, erratic and not representative of how I truly feel.

Whilst I am able to acknowledge this, I can’t help but just want to be alone and almost avoidant. I feel so distant from him and I just feel an insane lack of connection.

Understandably, this is a very emotionally and physically taxing thing in a relationship let alone one in its early stages. I wonder if I feel so distant because of my hormones adjusting or if it’s something bigger than that.

Would love to know about your experience post abortion? Did you feel distant from people or partners? Did you feel hormonal? etc. Thank you!

3 semanas e 2 dias após meu aborto medicamentoso. Estava sangrando muito pouco até então, normalmente parava e vinha umas manchas marrom de vez em quando. Hoje senti algo escorrendo e fui no banheiro, sangue vermelho vivo, pouco, mas mais do que estava sangrando antes, também passei a sentir uma colica leve. Isso é normal? O sangramento não parece aumentar o fluxo, mas continua vindo, estou muito preocupada.

Nos últimos 2 dias corri também, não sei se esforço pode ter haver com isso.

I got an abortion today. At 30, I never thought I would be getting an abortion from my husband's baby. We currently have a soon to be two year old who is the light of our lives, but he has some developmental (speech) delays which means he's takes up a lot of our time.

I found out I was pregnant around 6 weeks, and I was happy but I knew my husband wouldn't be (and he wasn't). I would come to find out it was more fear of trying to make it work when all he wanted to do was tell people I was pregnant. We tried all our options, but with no house, and not enough space, it wasn't mean to be. Today, I stopped my pregnancy.

The entire time I was pregnant, I avoided touching my belly (even though I loved to during my first). I touched it after I got into the car and apologized to them. All I want to do is yell, scream, cry and throw things.

I know I made the right decision for my family. I wish I found out a year and a half later when I could make it work, or never had to make this decision in the first place.

Does the guilt and shame get any easier? I know I have to be strong for my child, and my husband, who I love, keeps telling me I'm the strongest person he knows (which I hate him telling me that because I don't want to be strong - I want to crumble).

if anyone knows of any resources, I'd appreciate them. I am not open to talking to someone over email, text or phone right now but I may be soon enough.

It felt good to write this out so thank you.

I'm 29M. I never thought I'd be writing something like this, but if this helps even one couple avoid what we went through, it's worth it.

My girlfriend and I are an unmarried couple in India. We got careless. We sometimes relied on the pull-out method and weren't consistent with condoms.

We became the statistic.

When the pregnancy test turned positive, our lives flipped overnight. It was a 6-week gestation.

We had to be discreet. Plus, getting MTP pills in Gurugram (India) was near impossible, as it's considered "illegal" by many pharmacies there. The doctor wouldn't even prescribe them on paper.

We finally went ahead with a medical termination of pregnancy (MTP) using the Unwanted Kit (mifepristone + misoprostol). We genuinely believed it would be over in a few days.

It wasn't.

Not to mention the heavy cramps and bleeding that came after taking the second pill. According to my girlfriend, it was 3× worse than her first-day period pain. The total bleeding/spotting lasted 7–8 days.

The abortion wasn't complete. An ultrasound showed retained pregnancy tissue (RPOC). We waited, hoping it would pass naturally. More bleeding. More waiting. More scans. More anxiety. We ended up doing three scans, one every week.

In the end, she had to undergo a D&C to remove the remaining tissue, or it could increase the risk of infection and potentially cause problems in a future pregnancy, which we didn't want to risk.

From start to finish, the whole experience cost us approximately ₹26,000 (consultations, scans, medicines, procedures, follow-ups, etc.). The money hurt, but honestly, the emotional stress was much worse.

Watching someone you love go through pain while feeling helpless is something I wouldn't wish on anyone.

Those weeks were filled with:

Fear that something had gone wrong.

Repeated ultrasounds and doctor visits.

Worry about bleeding, infection, and future fertility.

Keeping everything secret because we're unmarried.

Constant guilt and anxiety.

I'm not writing this to scare anyone or ask for sympathy.

I'm writing this because I used to think, "Pulling out is probably good enough."

It isn't.

If you don't want a pregnancy:

Use a condom every single time.

Don't rely on the pull-out method.

If something goes wrong, learn about emergency contraception and act quickly.

Don't assume you're the exception.

We thought, "It won't happen to us."

It did.