I (32F) am looking for advice about riding/grinding in cowgirl position. I’ve never had an orgasm given to me by a man (oral, fingers, penetration, toys, etc). But hear so much about how grinding is meant to be good for this, as you apparently get clitoral stimulation. I do often go on top, but my issue is a) my clitoris is quite high up and far from my vaginal opening, it’s nowhere near his body/pubic bone to be able to be stimulated by something and also b) I have an “innie” and my clitoris is behind my labia majora, so not visible at all in that position. If this is the case for you, are you pretty much lying down on top of your partner so your clitoris might make contact with their body? Are you also spreading your labia? I don’t really understand how it could work for someone with my anatomy!

Hey there, so I've left my toxic partner sone years ago and needed several years to heal. Since then I'm single, which is overall ok. But I've completely lost my sex drive.

I miss it, feel rather like a human but no woman. I've tried toys, audio, video, reading... nothing. When I masturbate, it's for relaxing, but I don't feel it.

I'm ok with my body and I like sex in general, I've just... lost it? My feeling tells me that when I will enter a relationship, it will come back. But I want it now, for myself, for feeling good in my body.

TW for SA, just to be safe.

Has anyone here ever gone through the motions while not actually wanting to have sex initiated by your partner? How did you feel afterwards and did you talk to your partner about it? I’ve experienced this and felt gross and sad after it, which I know is fully my own fault for not speaking up

Edit: is this not something that happens in normal, healthy relationships? I thought it would because it seems like just a communication issue

21F, a virgin, and dont own toys

- i can be physically aroused if i seek it, but pleasuring myself is always dull and boring both in sensation and my interest in it, i can do stuff for max 2 minutes before i get completely bored and stop, and its v frustrating

- i think ive managed to orgasm maybe 2-3 times in my life? Its hard to tell, because i think i pee when i do. And based on the characteristics i dont think its squirting lol😭 ive only been able to orgasm with a shower head, never from other methods of self-pleasure so i started wondering if i pee due to overstimulation?

- i dont feel pleasure fingering myself, its either nothing or its like an uncomfortable bruising pain. Clitoral stimulation also gets boring fast

Ive always just thought i havent figured out what works for me, or that i need toys, but now im wondering if it could possibly be medical?

Could i have pelvic floor issues? I know years ago when id do physical activities like jumping on trampolines id leak sometimes (i cant say how it is current bc i havent been physically active), and i have slightly odd periods, but im not sure if i have problems elsewhere

Any advice on this would be appreciated🙏