Hi guys, I'm new to this and I wanted to get some advice from those who have gone through it. A little background on me: I just turned 20 and am on a weight loss journey. So far, I've lost 60 pounds through a mix of GLP-1s, dieting, and exercising. This process has taken over three years. I am still working on myself every day, but being heavy still after that much weight loss has affected my life in ways that I never expected. I'm young and going into my junior year of college, and although I think I'm pretty, I know the weight and extra skin have affected my confidence a bit.
In my mind, these are my hottest years, and having skin so stretchy and covered with stretch marks has affected how I show up. My arms have a very visible hang to them and I can pull my skin around 3 inches out. My breasts are small, but droopy and covered in stretch marks. My stomach and legs have almost a ripple effect of skin. Besides the physical appearance, the itching and chafing have been hard to deal with as well; my arms have been the worst, and I find myself itching my arms multiple times a day and trying to find ways to stop skin tags from popping up.
I still have about 60 pounds left to lose, and during this upcoming year, I've decided to be really intentional about hitting my protein goals, laying off partying, and committing to a personal Pilates studio 3–4 days a week. My goal within the next year is to move forward with a lower body lift and circumferential refinement, an arm lift (#1 priority), and a breast augmentation.
Regarding my family, they are encouraging me to have it done after I lose the rest of the weight. They want to cover the cost of the full body lift and the arm lift. I would be on my own for the breast augmentation, but I have saved for years, plus I have a year-long paid internship for my junior year.
The only person who is against it is my therapist. I've suffered with a food addiction for years prior to the weight loss. My heaviest was 280 pounds at 16, and my lightest was 200 pounds. I moved to Europe last semester, and my recent weight gain is alcohol- and partying-related, so I am now at 220. My therapist thinks I should wait 7–10 years before I do any surgery. I understand her reasoning completely: we should get the food addiction out of the way and prove stability for many years before we move forward with the surgery. Although I understand it, it's hard for me to digest.
In a way, I just want to feel beautiful. I have an amazing group of gorgeous friends who are all thinner. I feel beautiful when I'm around them, but insecure in public. I know I am the odd one out; this has been shown to me throughout the years. From being rejected by their sororities because they only ordered bid day T-shirts in size small (I'm not kidding either—this was told to me by my tutor, who is on executive board), to my stupid on-campus crushes ignoring me and talking to my friends. (Don't judge my friends; I don't communicate crushes with them because I already know I'm normally not the guys' type, and I don't think it's fair to ruin a potential relationship for my friends.)
I'm insecure about it and blame my body. Although I don't want to do this to get a guy or prove my worth. I have good friendships in my life, an active social circle, and good grades. I just want to feel like a normal college kid, not one with body wrinkles, or small boobs that touch her horizontal belly button.
I would love any advice you all have, whether it's plastic surgery-related, weight loss tips to push past a setback, or just general life advice or an additional perspective. I am open to all of it.