I came out as non-binary over 4 years ago. Within the last year, I have gotten brave enough to ask people use my pronouns (they/them).
I dont know any other NB people in real life to talk to about this. I have one FB friend that is NB. Im trying to learn with no support. (if you join the conversation please dont argue or debate).
The reason I personally use they/them instead of other options because using they/them makes sense to me. The English language has had singular they/them when the gender of the antecedent is unclear or unknown since Shakespeare's time.
"Someone (singular) left their (singular) umbrella at house after the party. I hope they (singular) realize it and come back for it." So singular they works well for me.
3 different women who love me have started using yall when referring to me (I live in Mississippi where yall is standard plural of you). I have addressed each of them and asked them not to. 2 of the 3 argued with me.
All three of them cited that since they is plural, I am plural, so they have to use yall. I explained the best I could that singular they is singular, I am singular, so they should use you. (Im the only gender minority any of them know so they didnt get this idea from anyone who prefers singular yall, just their reasoning).
I made a facebook rant about it. 3 of the people that commented corrected me that yall is a non-binary pronoun. The NB friend said they dont use it but know people that do. A gay man from Texas said that yall is more affectionate than you and should be used as a NB pronoun. Another is a straight psych nurse that said she calls all her patients in groups or as individuals yall, because until they are balanced out on meds she cant ask their gender or pronouns.
Although I have only been out for a bit over 4 years, I never heard that any NB or other gender minorities used singular yall. I definitely get it for plural yall in place of gendered terms like you guys.
I will call anyone whatever pronoun makes them comfortable. Im just struggling with singular yall as a non-gendered pronoun to replace singular you which is already a non-gendered pronoun.
So far, the best explanation I read is that y'all is a contraction of you all, all means everyone, so y'all is inclusive. It sounds nice, but it didnt ring true.
I would like anyone who uses singular y'all as your singular 2nd person pronoun to comment or message me.
If you dont use yall as your singular 2nd person pronoun but know people IRL who do please comment or message me.
If you know of any articles discussing yall as a singular 2nd person pronoun, please share a link.
I really want to understand it better. Thanks