r/NonBinary 22h ago

Support My friends have been pressuring me for days because I'm not transphobic.

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715 Upvotes

I'm 14 and part of a friend group of around 10 people (I am nonbinary but they don't know that).

A few days ago they started talking about LGBTQ topics and I said I wasn't transphobic. Ever since then they've been arguing with me almost nonstop.
They've called me a heretic, told me I don't deserve to be Christian, and keep demanding that I defend my position.

Every time I answer, they come back with more arguments and tell me I'm wrong. When I stop responding, they say they're "still waiting for an answer" days later. They do this constantly even in discussions not about LGBTQ, harassing me and spreading false information.

The thing is, I'm Christian. I just don't believe the same things they do on this topic. They act like their interpretation is the only possible Christian view and that anyone who disagrees isn't a real Christian.

At this point it doesn't even feel like a discussion anymore. It feels like they're trying to pressure me until I either agree with them or give up.

How do you handle people who won't let a disagreement go and keep dog-piling you over it?

Because this happens almost every day its gotten annoying.


r/NonBinary 19h ago

Pride/Swag/I Made This! I crocheted a shirt for Pride!

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620 Upvotes

I have never crocheted clothing outside of toques and scarves, so I am so excited! Sadly it is SUPER warm, so I am working on a different mesh pattern with some really pretty ace coloured yarn! But I still wanted to share. I feel like a walking pride flag when I wear it


r/NonBinary 8h ago

Meme/Humor I think I cracked a kid’s egg at work last week

543 Upvotes

So I work as a counselor at an art center in a pretty uptight and preppy town; like kids being sent with salad for lunch and “I have to take swimming because I come from a line of swimmers and I have three generations of men with the same name in my family” levels of preppy. Most people have defaulted to “she” for me without asking, and I’ve pretty much gone along with it.

Last Wednesday however, I was taking some of my kids outside for snack time and one kid asked me “are you a boy or a girl?” I told him I was neither, and that I don’t feel like I have to pick. All the children were shook by this revelation.

Another little kid was walking next to me and looked extra surprised, so I asked them “what about you?” And they said “well… I’m a girl but sometimes I don’t feel like one.” And I told them they didn’t have to be a girl if they didn’t want to, and they looked surprised. I then asked if they wanted me to use he or she or something else, and I think they said neither but it was really quiet and kind of drowned out by the other children screaming about a dead chipmunk they found. So yeah. I hope that kid figures it out soon lmao.


r/NonBinary 4h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar Did a full makeup for my first time

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190 Upvotes

I will get better at it :3


r/NonBinary 7h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar Strong Alien💪🏾👽

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169 Upvotes

I've been doing calisthenics for the past couple months and I'm so happy with my progress so far!! I'm in the best shape of my life so far and I feel amazing:) If anyone's thinking about starting working out or doing calisthenics I very much recommend the Hybrid Routine by Hybrid Calisthenics. That's what I've been doing, along with going on lots of walks/bike rides and dancing in my room - which I count as a workout cause I be bustin a move when I get in the groove


r/NonBinary 8h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar Somehow feeling genderless while wearing makeup and a skirt

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152 Upvotes

Been experimenting now that my dysphoria is gone and I wanted to share this fit because it feels like an agender win, and I'm really happy about it.

I definitely don't have the confidence to wear it outside my room yet but knowing I could one day is pretty cool. I mean technically sharing it to the internet is wearing it outside of my room but it's less scary haha


r/NonBinary 17h ago

Discussion Non-binary "yall." Why? I really want to understand.

118 Upvotes

I came out as non-binary over 4 years ago. Within the last year, I have gotten brave enough to ask people use my pronouns (they/them).

I dont know any other NB people in real life to talk to about this. I have one FB friend that is NB. Im trying to learn with no support. (if you join the conversation please dont argue or debate).

The reason I personally use they/them instead of other options because using they/them makes sense to me. The English language has had singular they/them when the gender of the antecedent is unclear or unknown since Shakespeare's time.

"Someone (singular) left their (singular) umbrella at house after the party. I hope they (singular) realize it and come back for it." So singular they works well for me.

3 different women who love me have started using yall when referring to me (I live in Mississippi where yall is standard plural of you). I have addressed each of them and asked them not to. 2 of the 3 argued with me.

All three of them cited that since they is plural, I am plural, so they have to use yall. I explained the best I could that singular they is singular, I am singular, so they should use you. (Im the only gender minority any of them know so they didnt get this idea from anyone who prefers singular yall, just their reasoning).

I made a facebook rant about it. 3 of the people that commented corrected me that yall is a non-binary pronoun. The NB friend said they dont use it but know people that do. A gay man from Texas said that yall is more affectionate than you and should be used as a NB pronoun. Another is a straight psych nurse that said she calls all her patients in groups or as individuals yall, because until they are balanced out on meds she cant ask their gender or pronouns.

Although I have only been out for a bit over 4 years, I never heard that any NB or other gender minorities used singular yall. I definitely get it for plural yall in place of gendered terms like you guys.

I will call anyone whatever pronoun makes them comfortable. Im just struggling with singular yall as a non-gendered pronoun to replace singular you which is already a non-gendered pronoun.

So far, the best explanation I read is that y'all is a contraction of you all, all means everyone, so y'all is inclusive. It sounds nice, but it didnt ring true.

I would like anyone who uses singular y'all as your singular 2nd person pronoun to comment or message me.

If you dont use yall as your singular 2nd person pronoun but know people IRL who do please comment or message me.

If you know of any articles discussing yall as a singular 2nd person pronoun, please share a link.

I really want to understand it better. Thanks


r/NonBinary 22h ago

I gave myself a haircut today

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114 Upvotes

I had a full undercut for a long long time. It's taken me around 5 years to grow my hair out this long. Just gave myself a death hawk (I think that's what this style is called) and I'm loving feeling the breeze on my head again!


r/NonBinary 21h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar My go to outfit as an Elder Goth Millennial

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105 Upvotes

Be bold and do not be quiet. I love y’all so much.


r/NonBinary 13h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar Woke up early, went to the beach

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108 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 2h ago

Yay Euphoric moment.

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101 Upvotes

Made me really euphoric when one of my friends sent me this. So glad to have them.


r/NonBinary 14h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar new to ts

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69 Upvotes

i've been nonbinary for like a week now and i first came out because my friends started joking about me being non binary because i look androgynous and shit, at first i really thought i was cis but as i thought more about it, being non binary was really appealing to me.

as the time goes on i keep re thinking about stuff i've done in the past that deadass are like manga level foreshadowing lmao


r/NonBinary 8h ago

Its been a long time since I tried to look nice

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64 Upvotes

I don’t have many mirrors and haven’t worn clothes I’m comfortable in in a while i could use some encouragement and or advice? Not going anywhere special just taking family member out to eat but wanted to try with my look a bit today?


r/NonBinary 3h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar 44in Glutes! Hit my goal!

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Okay so I thought my glutes were still 43-43.5 inches but I measured this morning and was happily surprised to see I grew!

This is 4ish years of consistent glute training and I started around 40inches. I focus on glute training because it’s gender affirming.


r/NonBinary 13h ago

Yay Being nonbinary rocks

50 Upvotes

I’ve started going by he/they for the last few months and I love it like honestly I no longer identify as cis. Gender is a scam!!!! It’s a construct made to keep us in subjugation. We are free of the chains of gender and express ourselves without abandon.!!!


r/NonBinary 17h ago

How do I answer “what does [initials I go by] stand for?” without using my deadname or outing myself

48 Upvotes

I was inspired by another post but have a slightly different question. My chosen name is my initials from my married name. If someone asks if my name is short for something/what is it short for, and I feel like it, I explain that it’s the initials for my dead name. But if I don’t want to get in a whole conversation about it for any number of reasons, I feel stuck. Sometimes I just give my deadname (mostly to people who I won’t ever see again), but I’d rather not. Any ideas for how else I can respond?


r/NonBinary 7h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar Feeling ✨️aesthetic✨️

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44 Upvotes

Still growing out my hair! Also unsure on what to use as my pfp, opinions wanted ✨️


r/NonBinary 9h ago

Ask What song describes your gender?

43 Upvotes

A streamer I follow said the sing "Venus as a boy" by bjork was very gender for them so I want to hear about other songs that are very gender!


r/NonBinary 19h ago

Yay Learning to love myself so I took myself out for a date and got dessert, of course!

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31 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 1h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar Repressed for too long. Im going into a new stage in my life as my true self. I hope people will appreciate the real me.

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r/NonBinary 3h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar Good outfit for a night out this past weekend.

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33 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 4h ago

Pride/Swag/I Made This! Made these printable enby arcade machines. They are free to download

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30 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 1h ago

I just love doing mustache with my make up-

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:P


r/NonBinary 5h ago

Support How do I come out as Non-Binary to my parents without them being Angry?

21 Upvotes

I need some help please