Just going to preface with, I pretty much know already that people will agree with my dislike for this name, but, I guess I’m looking for some good old kind validation from the good people of reddit…
I realize I’m still newly pp, but I’ve been struggling for weeks with our baby girl’s name. Actually, longer than that. When I was pregnant, my (32f) husband (29m) and I kept the gender a surprise. So, we already had a boy’s name picked out, it’s a name he really likes and always wanted to name a boy if he had one, and I also really like the name. The girls name, however, was just a huge pain to pick out. The first name I liked I didn’t want to use because he has a friend w that name. The last name is Slader, so in my internet searches I came across Sloane, and thought at first Sloane Slader?? I did like it at first, for a solid minute before I saw all the hate online for the name Sloane. I voiced one day to my husband that I liked Sloane, he loved it, then the next day, shared my reservations. So, I kept searching for names that might sound good with Mae (middle name) Slader. I basically narrowed it down to Isla or Lydia, but husband wasnt totally on board with those. I started stressing about the girls name, but then my husband was basically like, don’t worry about it, we’re probably having a boy anyways (90% of us were thinking boy because of family trends), I agreed and just let it go. Had a little list on my phone and thought I would look at it if we had a girl.
Well, we had a beautiful little girl. I had an epidural and was just loopy yet so elated and in tears with joy. The name question came up very shortly after, husband threw out Sloane, so I (stupidly) just agreed, because… well… idk why, I feel like I barley even remember most of the day just from being over tired and medicated. Sorry, this sounds like I’m taking 0 accountability. I still kick myself for not advocating for my reservations against the name, and not referring to the list.
About a week into being home, I start feeling the remorse for naming her Sloane Mae Slader. Beyond her name being that if a plumbing brand, it’s the whole flow of the name I can’t stand. I pretty much just call her Peach, because she came out with ginger hair and peachy skin. I express my regrets to my husband multiple times to the point of literally looking at other names to legally change her name to. However, he LOVES the name Sloane!! So, I begin to feel awful wanting to change it because I don’t like it, yet, he loves it and would have to essentially grieve changing her name. But, now, I’m starting to feel resentful towards the situation. Resentful for not solidifying a name during pregnancy. Resentful for not putting a pause on the name in the hospital til the next day after some rest. And, annoyed that my husband can’t seem to like any other fucking name other than Sloane for her. I’m hurt because, this should be a name we both like. But it feels like I have to be the one to suck it up and deal.
TL;DR
I strongly dislike my 2 m/o baby girl’s name, Sloane Mae Slader. My husband is not making it easy compromising on another name to legally change it to. I’m looking for words of comfort or relatability I suppose.
P.s, please don’t rip me apart, I’m sensitive 😆 I understand my role in this, and I’m not trying to sound like I’m blaming anyone, just upset with the situation.
P.p.s - just because I’m getting a lot of Q’s on the middle name. Mae is a family middle name given to all the first born women on my mom’s side, and it’s just a cute lil tradition I like :)
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Holy smokessss I wasn’t expecting so many kindly worded, and honest responses! I’m also in shock by all the love for the name Sloane. I also appreciate those who were honest in their dislike for it - you were still respectful in your wording so I really appreciate that :) I obviously can’t respond to everyone now, as I also have a 7 w/o baby I’m caring for lol reading everyone’s perspectives and feedback has been really helpful for me and just where I’m at mentally/emotionally. I’m still going to chat w my husband more about my feelings on her name, and we’ll go from there. Thank you all, again 🤗