Hi there.

My boyfriend is autistic and recently it’s getting worse with his anxiety specially due to work and people at work.

If I have to describe my boyfriend, I must say that he is very good at what he does. He’s very particular about anything he does. He is very detailed and he does his work amazingly.

At work the higher ups are like high school bullies. It isn’t easy for someone who is autistic to work and to think straight when the manager or supervisors are all a joke. They are avoidant to Health and Safety, avoiding employees needs when addressed on 1 to 1 meetings. Never fixing problems and only dealing with it last minutes. I can keep going on and on.

I must say that all this experience has led me to believe that my boyfriend is the most normal than anybody else working there. He simply wants to resolve problems, work smoothly. Have a brilliant communication within the company, and not complicate things.

But because of this lifestyle and scenarios in his life, it’s getting really difficult for him to cope with the stress.

I would like to simply ask that if there is a solution to overcome the ruminating thoughts that he has so that he doesn’t have to to feel the burden and can be nonchalant and avoid all this bullshit. I want the best for him because I care for him because he is genuinely a good person. I know a good person when I see one

Thank you

She herself is diagnosed with autism. Before she was she knew she was and thought I was too. I said I wasn't and she said get tested because I have black and white thinking and I talk blunt

I told her I talk blunt when I'm joking or it's a statement and I talk blsck and white when I'm upset. Then I looked up black and white thinking and it's not how I think. I thought black and white thinking was overexaggerating one extreme with another but its also believing that extreme. Many times I talk the extreme cause it's the only way to get my point across but I dont believe it.

She told me she analysed my thinking and that she can predict a conversation with me which i find extreme creepy.

She also used thr 'all autistic people i know like sonic' when apparently autistic people are attracted to sonic for a different reason to me.

She claims my obsession with a celebrity is a hyperfixation when I just find him good looking.

She also says me feeling different from other people is autism when I later found out it was dysphoria.

My socia anxiety which I developed before meeting her she also says is autism.

I have no sensory issues, I understand between the lines and thats kinda the way I talk myself, I never shut up and I love talking ans have an endless social battery. I never stick to plans and routines unless important ans necessary. And the way I communicate and interpret your actions it's depending on my relationship with you. I know she prefers deeper talks so I talk deep with her. But when I talk deep I use more analogies and metaphors. I dont like deep convo all thr time cause it's unnecessary.

She also forces me to think in a grey area all thr time and I said sometimes things are straightforward ans she said that I never think grey when I do by ruling out possibilities to get to that 'black and white' pattern

Please help me i dunno how to stop her from forcing that label on me

I don't feel empathy.

I really dont feel any empathy, and I've avoided thinking about it and talking about it especially because it really sounds like I'm trying to be tough like 'I don't feel emotions. I'm a psychopath.' but the more I think about it I really dont care about a lot of things I probably should care about.

I know I'm not a psychopath because I do feel emotions, just very minimal when it's to other people.

My friends made a list on all the things they hate about me and I cried, but then I just didn't care. I know they wanted me to change for the better, but I really couldn't be bothered. I haven't cared about a lot in a while, even when bad things happened to other people, I just feel pissed because they're telling me about it.

For example, I was talking to a friend while playing games, and he suddenly started talking about how he was hurt by my words and actions because I was being mean to him, but all I cared about was how annoying he sounded and how he wasn't performing well in game. I think in really selfish because I don't care about things if they don't affect me. Like I'll be worried if someone thinks I'm a bad person, but only because it affects my reputation. Does that make me a bad person? I guess, but then again, if I tell someone, they'll think I'm horrible or they'll say a bunch of stuff about me and I genuinely can't be bothered. I don't even want to reply to people. I don't care what they have to say if they're not going to affect what other people think of me, but I'm posting because I'm worried. Is this normal? is it because I'm depressed or because I'm autistic?