She herself is diagnosed with autism. Before she was she knew she was and thought I was too. I said I wasn't and she said get tested because I have black and white thinking and I talk blunt

I told her I talk blunt when I'm joking or it's a statement and I talk blsck and white when I'm upset. Then I looked up black and white thinking and it's not how I think. I thought black and white thinking was overexaggerating one extreme with another but its also believing that extreme. Many times I talk the extreme cause it's the only way to get my point across but I dont believe it.

She told me she analysed my thinking and that she can predict a conversation with me which i find extreme creepy.

She also used thr 'all autistic people i know like sonic' when apparently autistic people are attracted to sonic for a different reason to me.

She claims my obsession with a celebrity is a hyperfixation when I just find him good looking.

She also says me feeling different from other people is autism when I later found out it was dysphoria.

My socia anxiety which I developed before meeting her she also says is autism.

I have no sensory issues, I understand between the lines and thats kinda the way I talk myself, I never shut up and I love talking ans have an endless social battery. I never stick to plans and routines unless important ans necessary. And the way I communicate and interpret your actions it's depending on my relationship with you. I know she prefers deeper talks so I talk deep with her. But when I talk deep I use more analogies and metaphors. I dont like deep convo all thr time cause it's unnecessary.

She also forces me to think in a grey area all thr time and I said sometimes things are straightforward ans she said that I never think grey when I do by ruling out possibilities to get to that 'black and white' pattern

Please help me i dunno how to stop her from forcing that label on me

I don't feel empathy.

I really dont feel any empathy, and I've avoided thinking about it and talking about it especially because it really sounds like I'm trying to be tough like 'I don't feel emotions. I'm a psychopath.' but the more I think about it I really dont care about a lot of things I probably should care about.

I know I'm not a psychopath because I do feel emotions, just very minimal when it's to other people.

My friends made a list on all the things they hate about me and I cried, but then I just didn't care. I know they wanted me to change for the better, but I really couldn't be bothered. I haven't cared about a lot in a while, even when bad things happened to other people, I just feel pissed because they're telling me about it.

For example, I was talking to a friend while playing games, and he suddenly started talking about how he was hurt by my words and actions because I was being mean to him, but all I cared about was how annoying he sounded and how he wasn't performing well in game. I think in really selfish because I don't care about things if they don't affect me. Like I'll be worried if someone thinks I'm a bad person, but only because it affects my reputation. Does that make me a bad person? I guess, but then again, if I tell someone, they'll think I'm horrible or they'll say a bunch of stuff about me and I genuinely can't be bothered. I don't even want to reply to people. I don't care what they have to say if they're not going to affect what other people think of me, but I'm posting because I'm worried. Is this normal? is it because I'm depressed or because I'm autistic?

Hi there.

My boyfriend is autistic and recently it’s getting worse with his anxiety specially due to work and people at work.

If I have to describe my boyfriend, I must say that he is very good at what he does. He’s very particular about anything he does. He is very detailed and he does his work amazingly.

At work the higher ups are like high school bullies. It isn’t easy for someone who is autistic to work and to think straight when the manager or supervisors are all a joke. They are avoidant to Health and Safety, avoiding employees needs when addressed on 1 to 1 meetings. Never fixing problems and only dealing with it last minutes. I can keep going on and on.

I must say that all this experience has led me to believe that my boyfriend is the most normal than anybody else working there. He simply wants to resolve problems, work smoothly. Have a brilliant communication within the company, and not complicate things.

But because of this lifestyle and scenarios in his life, it’s getting really difficult for him to cope with the stress.

I would like to simply ask that if there is a solution to overcome the ruminating thoughts that he has so that he doesn’t have to to feel the burden and can be nonchalant and avoid all this bullshit. I want the best for him because I care for him because he is genuinely a good person. I know a good person when I see one

Thank you

For several years now, I haven’t been able to stop picking at the skin around my nails, consciously and unconsciously causing myself wounds—I think as a way to self-regulate. I do it so often that on my thumb—the finger I pick at the most—I’ve lost sensation in the outer layers of skin, working from the outside in; in other words, I practically don’t feel any pain until I’m bleeding. I really need help controlling this; I don’t know if anyone has any tips or suggestions on how to at least reduce it. Thank you very much for reading

I need some advice I feel like I don’t know who I am anymore. I was diagnosed with adhd recently I’m also working on getting assessed for autism. I feel like I’m struggling, hobbies that have interested me for years no longer do, i feel like performance at my job has decreased in a career I’ve been in for over 10 years and absolutely love it. What I can tell about the job issue is I’m constantly wondering if coworkers like me or dislike me, and I feel like my boss doesn’t like me also I feel like I don’t quite fit in. It seems almost every job I get feels like this, I don’t want to be worried about every little thing anymore. How does one navigate these issues? I feel like I’m always on alert and anxiety is running on overdrive. Any advice would be amazing I’ve been struggling with this for a long time now, and it’s really frustrating for me. If I had to describe how I feel with only one word I would attribute the word stuck. I don’t know what to do anymore, I feel so anxious all the time, or questioning why I don’t fit in and feel like everyone I work with avoids me at all costs. How does everyone else deal with this?

TLDR: Struggling with ADHD and potential autism diagnosis, experiencing decreased job performance, and feeling anxious and stuck. Seeking advice on navigating these issues and finding a sense of belonging. Ways to manage RSD and not being paranoid that the whole world is out to get me.

Hello guys , has anyone got some advice or recommendations in info I should look up for the following three things, tailoring trauma treatment for autistic people, how useful trauma treatment is for people who hear voices, and how different identities may be associated with different ptsd symptoms.

I‘m 22F, house/pet sitting at someone’s house. They have no curtains in the common areas. There are builders coming over everyday from early morning until evening. I like to just day dream, sit and do nothing, wander around, lie on the couch and take naps, and do my exercises in the living room in my workout gear. I also like to not wear bras in the house when I’m alone. I also sleep in (I can sleep til 12pm) as I’m unemployed. But I just feel so restricted, like I can’t just wake up and go about my day because they’re just there. I don’t feel comfortable doing anything and can’t relax, because they just walk past the windows randomly and come in and out of the house to use the toilet and kitchen. Do you have any advice?

I got officially diagnosed with level 1-2 autism this year even though there’s been multiple times my parents were told to. I’m exhausted, I can’t keep a job, I leave a bad taste in people mouths and there’s always a group of people that don’t like me. I’m usually having a lot of anxiety and come off mean and rude. I do have flat face sometimes and can stare a lot. When I’m overstimulated, symptoms like these can get much worse. I find it very hard to mask now after my burnout which caused me to get tested. I’m finally looking to get medicated. What medications and tips have worked for yall?

I got diagnosed with autism in 2021 and over the last year I’ve been writing a book about autism based on lived experience and I’m looking for short anonymous reflections from autistic people. If you’d like to share your experience, message me or fill out the form below that would be greatly appreciated! I want this book to be a range of voices so would love any input :)
https://forms.gle/hz2vJW3PTbX51qrK9

I'm trying to understand what sensory overload feels like because my daughter experiences it a lot. I'd be really grateful if anyone could share their personal experience with it.

My daughter started having problems that I was aware of when she was 12, she is now 39. Back then there was no knowledge about autism, at least not in our small part of the world. All the drs said it was just depression and anxiety. Not unusual for her age group, especially with going through puberty and also the changing of social situations at school. That began a decades long journey to multiple psychiatrists and therapist and an ever growing list of medications that didn’t work and were very difficult for her to get off of.
Despite all of this she managed to go out of state to college, at which time she started depending on alcohol and very, very heavy masking. She graduated came back to Texas and worked in different locations, in her field.
She now is experiencing extreme burnout. She hasn’t worked at all for the last year, goes hardly anywhere, and finds pleasure in nothing and has zero friends. She also has fibromyalgia and is in pain a lot of the time. Her father and I are 66/67 and taking care of her and her debts and medical bills. We’ve recently tried going in hormones to try to help with some of her issues. The problem now is that she has become so super sensitive to all medications nothing works even a little. I fear that’s she’s about to really lose all hope. I know I am as well. She doesn’t want to ever see another doctor or try anything new again. It has been countless attempts always ending in great disappointments. I’m truly scared and don’t have a clue what to do anymore. Is there no doctor that truly cares for their patients? Enough to go on their journey with them. To be in it for the long haul and not just pass them off to someone else to get rid of them because they can’t shove a pill at them and make them better? I am hopeless and scared. She’s never done anything wrong or hurt anyone. She’s so smart and talented but doesn’t have the strength to keep going through the motions

I am autistic and I have been having trouble with my emotional state for a relationship (more so for dating, but still). My emotional state when it comes to being with another person is... A little thrown off. First, I've never been in a serious relationship, but it's because my emotions grow out of hand really fast. I don't mean to, but I require A LOT of attention (only because I have several sensory issues and other things). I will get really emotionally attached to a person in a short period of time, and disconnecting from those ties is REALLY rough on me. How do I deal with this?

So I need help understanding if this is a issue or if this is something I should just let go? Your insight is so helpful

I have a teenage daughter who just got diagnosed with autism and adhd. She wears the exact same camo shirt every single day (she does change/wash them so they are clean but they are identical shirts)

Me and my husband want her to branch out a little so people don’t think she’s wearing a dirty shirt day after day, she says she will wear a green shirt but she needs us to buy 5 of the exact same shirt (and she won’t do that and wear camo on other days)

For some reason she only feels comfortable wearing one style / color of shirt and wants us to buy duplicates and just wear a clean one each day,

Can anyone explain why that might be she says she doesn’t care about clothes and doesn’t care if people think she is wearing the same shirt, she doesn’t like to think about what she wears

Any advice??

Hello,

I work in a school library and I just had a professional development session run by another library staff member. So she had this whole slide show about autism and pathologic demand avoidance. One thing she stated is that because PDA isn't officially a diagnosis we won't know if children have it or not so it is best practice to always use declarative statements and language when talking to students that have or are suspected to have autism. For example, instead of saying "Don't run in the library" when someone is running, just say "walking" or "we walk in the library". And starting with like "I'm wondering if it's it's time to pack up or "i'm thinking it's..." Basically nothing that is or could be perceived as a request to do or not do something. Just indirectly imply what they should do to reduce anxiety about being told what to do.

I'm just wondering if this is really something all autistic young people would be prefer to be spoken like? I'm talking like...10-16 year olds, but also younger children. I've found that in the past students with autism have responded to my pretty clear and blunt way of speaking, setting rules and boundaries, but now I'm just wondering if I've been causing them anxiety this whole time and whether I should modify how I speak to them?

Anyone have any thoughts?

As far as I am aware, I am neurotypical, but I keep finding autistic advice/experience videos and weirdly relating to them. Does this mean I may actually be autistic or is this a normal thing for neurotypicals to do? I am somehat introverted which may be why I relate, but is that the sole reason?