Like the title says, what is it that makes gay men's voices sound high/female?

Thanks!

As a trans man, I’ve tried voice training exercises, but they either only last around 10 minutes before my voice goes back to normal or they end up hurting my throat. I have noticed, though, that over the past few years of just naturally forcing my voice a little lower during social interactions, I’ve ended up with a more androgynous or at least less feminine voice overall. Since I basically have all day every day to myself until September, I’m wondering if I could just intentionally speak in a deeper voice whenever I’m talking to myself or reading out loud. My goal is to get my voice as masculine as possible over the next 5 weeks. Could this actually work?

Just wondering if any other trans mascs have experienced this. My voice has dropped considerably and I pass when talking online to strangers, but my family still thinks I sound feminine. I've asked people if I sound fem or have a gay voice and they just say that I sound like a normal guy.

I'm wondering if its to do with my appearance (my face doesnt pass) or just a psychological thing since the voice change has been so gradual over the past 2 years. For example: my partner was immitating me the other day and pitched his voice higher despite us being in the same vocal range. I think my mums the only one that has noticed a difference, she regularly thinks I'm one of the other men in the house when I shout from another room.

It doesn't bother me too much, just find it funny I suppose.

Recently, I posted a clip of my voice and got some feedback on my false vocal folds. Here is a clip of me after attempting to fix it for a few days, but even then my voice doesn’t sound right. I really struggle with identifying these types of mistakes so I can’t understand what I’m doing wrong…is it related to vocal weight or is it still false vocal fold problems?

I'm out here wanting to sound like Ruffnut from How To Train Your Dragon or like Lynn Breedlove back in the day but all I can find is super Femme stuff! Y'all know anywhere I can find help with voices like that?

This is somehow less embarrassing than just talking, but trying to get my feet wet because I think I keep freaking people out with my Dr. Girlfriend voice. Everyone I’ve listened to on this sub sounds amazing!

MIND YOU 90s sailor moon of course!!!

Lol sorry

I'm also too tall to be kawaii but maybe .. on the phone? 😜

I guess my Japanese has room for improvement tho...

Hi everyone,

Im a trans man, ive been on T for a lil while now. Pre-transition I sang a lot (until I stopped cause dysphoria lol) and I wasnt terrible at it.

Now that my voice is slowly but surely stabilizing (not fully, as you can hear haha, Im still figuring out where all the notes are sitting now) I've started singing again. But even though I know my voice mostly passes when speaking, whenever I hear myself singing it sounds to me almost like my pre-T girly voice.

Not sure how much of that notion is dysphoria, so Id love some outside opinions on my singing voice.

(also ignore the crappy guitar playing, ive never been good at holding a tempo.)

Now to preface this I cannot with certainty 100% know what I sound like to others but from what I can gather and from friends and relatives I have a fairly androgynous voice, (too high to come off as exclusively masculine but possibly dipping too much to be percived as cis feminine) I occasionally employ vocal fry and tend to bounce between 100 to 200hz in regular speech.

I play games that tend to skew toward male demographics but seem to occasionally have players that have traditionally feminine voices, so it's not like there are no women just clearly fewer of them In these spaces;

and while most people don't seem to care much, I will occasionally get people like repeatedly (like sometimes in the same sentence in a way that feels unnatural) like adress me by starting and ending sentences with like sir or using he him on me more than once. Is this just like a standard gamer thing or should I take this as a sign that I should skew toward using higher pitch and resonance exclusively and like heavily focus on my pitch floor?

I personally would prefer to have an androgynous voice but the idea of it appearing like an open invitation for some people to like start making guesses at what I am kinda lowk drives me insane to be honest.

No matter what I can’t be satisfied with my voice, sometimes I feel like I wanna pursue vfs , I just am always somewhat insecure even when I make it more feminine just causes strain and it doesn’t sound as good as I’d like it, male puberty is the worst when it comes to voice.

I encountered this problem when playing my voice recordings backwards (so I can better hear myself): Is the perceptual quality of vocal weight altered when playing in reverse?

I intuitively think it is not altered since the shape of the curve is merely mirrored and that shouldn’t change the rolloff in the frequency domain. But I just want to confirm since I do feel it sounds different.