Neurotypicals keep asking for honesty and clear communication, then immediately get offended when they receive honesty and clear communication. Fascinating species.

Okay, I know it sounds odd as a title but I hate how people (mostly NSFW artists) draw Jaiden from JaidenAnimations (a real person mind you) in a sexual manner, like what the hell is this shit? It's extremely disrespectful as hell and I feel like it's very creepy to sexualize a real person who definitely doesn't feel comfortable about it, especially when she's publicly and explicitly AroAce (aromantic asexual). This also includes her mom.

But the problem is, even if she expresses genuine discomfort with anyone who lewd both her online and real-life persona while being unable to do anything about it, people like Shadman continue to double down on this very act even further, so much so that she actually has to delete ALL of her social media (Twitter/Instagram) posts because of it.

And if you seriously and unironically think "Oh, it's just the internet, you need to get used to people acting like that," "You're just being overly sensitive over things that doesn't affect your life in the slightest," or "Who cares? It's just a drawing, bro." don't fucking talk to me. This is bigger than that. This is a REAL person who happens to be subjected to constant sexual harassment by a bunch of freaks who violate their personal boundaries and deliberately stir them up by doing the very thing they told them not to. 

What would you call it if someone was shoving drawings of breasts and genitalia in your face every single day by a bunch of kids who thought it was funny? You'd call that sexual harassment. I'd call that junior high school. 7th and 8th grade were ABSOLUTE HELL. Everyone else was becoming sexually aware, and I still had that childlike innocence. And Jr. High kids are assholes. If you don't like something, they'll keep doing it. If they're your friend? That just means it's okay for them to do that. They will bring up nude pictures from the web and drawing obscenities which you find repulsive. You can't really say no, or else, you'll be considered an outcast... or gay (even if the guys were drawing pictures of dicks. I seriously don't get that. They call everything gay as an insult while being obsessed about dicks at the same time. I don't think that's an asexual thing either. Most of them are probably closeted themselves). 

And someone please, please explain this to me. Why did my friends keep calling me gay, when I didn't like looking at their drawings of penises that they thought were the funniest things ever? That is one of the biggest sexual questions that has alluded me all of my life. And no, they weren't using the context of "that's so stupid." That was, to them, a genuine indicator that I might have been gay. If someone made pornographic drawings of me without my consent, of course I would absolutely get fucking pissed at the guy who drew them, so how's that? Would you be okay with someone drawing porn of your parents? Of your siblings? Of your kid?

Let's not forget that aside from being an openly queer woman in real life, Jaiden is also both mixed-race/non-white (being half-Japanese, half-German) and neurodivergent (AuDHD), which certainly makes her identity even more of a jackpot to these online perverts jacking off to fetish art of her avatar. Isn't that fucking weird?

Oh, and you might not know this, but it's apparently a very popular trend to objectify both Asian women (especially when they also happen to be LGBTQ+ themselves) and autistic people for the sake of sexualizing and infantilizing them. I mean, I get that some people can have a type, but fetishizing an entire demographic to fuel your fantasies is morally reprehensible, and there’s this blatant misogyny/sexism in it because usually whenever someone is like this, it’s always an autistic woman, and never an autistic man.

Other victims include goth girls, gamer girls (which Jaiden is already technically one herself), and """"loser girls"""" (girls with messy hair and eye-bags).

Thanks for reading my rant, I guess...

That's it, I just got my assessment results, I am a recognized official autistic.

Hey so,

EDIT: okay so I know this post is long and most may not read it, but please in the nicest way possible, dont just comment responding to the image 😭😭, the image is a misrepresentation of news 😭

I don't usually post about things related to social issues bc usually its debate/discussion things which I just like, don't engage with much. But this post came up on my feed twice (see image of post including it's caption), and I tried to look for atleast a small sign of what I was thinking in the comments (and reddit versions of the post), and I couldn't, so now I'm annoyed at how everyone responding seems to have fallen for what I think is basically fear mongering (or atleast an ignorant misrepresentation).

Before I explain my thoughts, just wanted to say I am asexual, and I understand why people found it worrying for asexual people.

I think the person who made the post grossly misrepresented the Niger law by making it sound like the wording separately mentions asexuality, and it's encouraged people to believe they were specifically targeting asexuality. Obviously like, social media is exactly where you expect to see goofy things but I'm genuinely disappointed at the lack of critical thinking ?? Like a lot of people clearly found it confusing, what are "asexual practices"?? How can you know someone is "asexual" from their "lifestyle"?? Guys cmon if something is confusing, atleast search it up before just saying it means they wanted to criminalise "not having sex/not being married" or "sexual harassment/rape". And from what I saw, people were then quoting that (which has just come from Comments) as legitimately being what Niger is trying to do?

Again I understand why people are worried about this but the reason it bothered me is bc this is clearly stemming from people caring about the LGBT community, and I feel like it's very obvious that asexual people being targeted is NOT the main concern at all. Actually, I feel like its common knowledge that anti LGBT laws used to be standard, and they often don't just criminalise/target same sex relationships, they target freedom of expression, activism and charitable work, allies too and basically everything related (which was already restricted in Niger before this specific law).

Oh i forgot to mention (what seems to be) the correct wording of the law: " “Lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, intersex, asexual (LGBTQIA+) practices or any other unnatural behavior”(taken from https://outrightinternational.org/our-work/sub-saharan-africa/Níger). Small difference but basically they are clearly just using the most modern acronym to make it easier to target whoever they want. Like do we really think a country with this much anti LGBT+ rhetoric knows what asexuality (or being intersex, another thing ppl found confusing) is?? Do we really think they are even seeing a difference between bisexuality and being gay???? It's about restricting and criminalising what they (and by they, I mean the politicians/leaders of the country) consider unnatural. If someone was an offender and wanted to use this law to try and get away with sexual harassment/rape, they would mention the person was gay over anything else bc anti-homosexuality is actually what underlies these laws and what the general public would understand (as well as transphobia but a lot of people still just see that as an extension of homosexuality/unnaturalness).

And the reason I dislike it being misrepresented and left at that for the people interacting with the post is that I think talking about something important in the wrong way just dismisses the real issue. The real issue is a country making it more dangerous for LGBT+ to live in, and essentially criminalising just existing. Especially bc it seems like, in articles I read, they wanted to focus on restricting expression, including self identification , and activism. Something that has historically happened a lot, and that anyone with basic lgbt+ knowledge will know is still happening in some areas of the world. Yet the misrepresentation has people responding to it like it's a sorta "new invention" (e.g. "this is a ploy for people to get away with rape"), or something "strange and confusing" and almost gimmicky (e.g. "what does this even mean??"). But they know exactly what they are doing with this law.

Also I find it even more disappointing knowing that people will engage w stuff like this, clearly care about the issue, and then just not actually learn anything useful. Like I saw some comments where people seemed confused about the concept of "but that would just mean existing is illegal??". Like, yes....that is exactly what it was like at some point in most of the world😭????

Well, hope you enjoyed the read. And again, I fully understand where peoples response came from. My main annoyance is the person who made the post misrepresented it and encouraged fear mongering about a real world issue, and that no one seemed to pick up on that or just acknowledge what the main consequences actually are.

Oh and I didn't know where to post this so I chose this subreddit, bc I hate sharing information I feel is incorrect/inaccurate, and I think it's actually insane that they picked one word out of an acronym...... so well, maybe someone else will understand these thoughts here 😭 That's all.

Every single morning (ok maybe just 98% of them) I wake up with severe nausea, diarrhea, and vomiting. It doesn't matter what I ate (or didn't eat). It doesn't matter that I sleep with an incline pillow. It doesn't matter how good the rest is. Every single morning at about 4am I wake up in pain and spend the next few hours on the toilet.

I am autistic, ofc, so this sometimes leads to meltdowns. Let me set the scene: exhausted me battles with my stomach at 4am, by 6am even with the best attitude I become dysregulated from being battle weary.

Now I have to settle my nerves, get food in me, and get to work by 9:15. I was a paraeducator for disabled young adults. I loved that job but would often have meltdowns there from the compounded stress of the morning and trying to do my job well.

I have been unable to work since April. My issues are no better. I don't know what's going to happen. I take several medications for mental health, and with the nausea I know I could end up dead quickly if I become homeless. I mean, being sick and starving out in the elements is bad for anyone, but I'm not the strongest dude... I get cold real easily, can't eat easily due to ARFID, and stress will make me crazy after not too long.

Why is this country (USA) so hard for us to survive in? I know it's hard for basically everyone, but I swear if I *could* work normally like NTs, I seriously would! It would be so much easier than battling these physical symptoms, meltdowns, and worrying about homelessness.

ETA: I've sought medical treatment several times. I had an endoscopy and they found nothing. They called it functional dyspepsia and wanted to prescribe an antidepressant. I didn't want to mess with my psych med cocktail so didn't take the "new" med (amitriptyline).

Shout out to fellow autistic homies with other neurodivergent conditions along with autism. Shout out to physically disabled autistic people! Shout out to autistic people with chronic illness! You're awesome, keep being evil and awesome.

For context, my initial comment was saying how goth women are facing major oversexualisation.

They went on to call me an ableist and racial slur, but I cut those out for obvious reasons.

Is this just some arse doing what arses do, or am I actually missing a genuine point?

On the 22nd, the company said they needed me for an interview at 10 am. And then, on the same day, at 2:30 pm they said they needed me to go to work at 7:30 am to get my fingerprints recognition done.

I assumed that because it said I needed to go in at 7:30am it meant 7:30 am tomorrow on the 23rd, because it had already been 2 pm by the time I got the text. But no, i hadn't realized it said 7:30am the 22nd not 23rd, i.e., the day I was already on and which 7:30 am had already passed.

It literally said I needed to go to work at 7:30 in the morning on the 22nd, when they sent the text saying that out at 2pm in the afternoon on the

22nd, even though I had already been there at 10 am that morning for an interview.

So i just assumed I had to get to work on the 23rd when really I didn't.

I could blame neurotypicals, but not this time.

WHY?? HE IS COMMANDER CLASS! WHY IS HE ALMOST DOUBLE HIS ORIGINAL PRICE? WHY???? AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

OOH BUT NOOO, THE £50 FIGURE IS HALF HIS NORMAL PRICE??? WHY HASBRO?? WHY MUST YOU DO THIS TO ME AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

Don't want to be a workcel but disability benefits suck in the UK and I'm gonna be bankrupt and homeless if I dont find a job soon so....

There is an understanding of personhood that has been rattling around my head for a while now. I initially thought of this in relation to my experiences as a trans woman, but I believe the underlying principle applies equally to autistic individuals, and I thought this particular community would be receptive to the idea (or at least nonjudgmental).

So what is personhood anyways? What is a person? Stupid, question, I know. We all know what a person is, but that's not the same as being able to put it into specific words. The easiest answer is that it's just another word for "human." But is that actually accurate to how we use the term? It just so happens that we live in a world with no such thing as a non-human person, but we are clearly capable of understanding the concept of one existing if we look at fictional examples. Is Legolas from The Lord of the Rings a person? What about GLaDOS from Portal? I think the vast majority of individuals would say that both of them are, at least within the context of their fictional worlds. But they're not human. They're not even both biological. Clearly it's something else.

The popular phrase "dogs are people too" comes to mind. Now, whether or not you agree with the phrase itself is not actually the point here. The point is whether you know what someone means when they say this. It's fairly obvious that they are NOT saying "dogs are biologically identical to humans" or even "dogs have the same cognitive ability as humans." What it seems they are actually trying to communicate is "dogs should be treated with the same respect we reserve for human beings. They should be granted the social position of personhood."

Because that's what a person is, in my opinion. A social position one occupies. Or rather an individual occupying such a social position. And personhood itself? I don't believe there actually is a concrete and universal definition. It's like pornography. You can't define it, but you know it when you see it. So, in the interest of collective understanding, I will posit a possible definition based on its actual popular use. "A person is an individual that is broadly agreed to be invested with personhood, and entitled to the associated rights and responsibilities." A bit wordy, I know, and possibly a bit clunky, but I think it gets at a key element of the term: it is self-referential. A person: A.) is someone deserving of human rights, and B.) is someone who we all agree is a person. All words are defined, at the end of the day, not by what is written down about them, but by how they are actually used and publicly understood.

A person, then, is someone who all, or at least the vast majority, of the individuals who use the word "person" agree is a person. An individual who the majority of those individuals believe should be treated with human rights. What happens, then, if people disagree? If a small minority believes that a non-person individual Should be a person? If ten people think that "television" refers to a particular pasta dish, does that change the meaning of the word?

If the world doesn't think we're people, are we?

guess who has to drive :P

Some dude at work made a passive aggressive comment about me and a colleague sitting with our phones during downtime.

It was in the vein of "people just sit on their phones and don't talk to each other".

Little did he know that we DO talk to each other when he's not observing us. But he didn't think to consider that and judged us for what we did in that brief moment.

When I ran into that man again he made a point to turn his full attention to me and make awkward small talk. I responded politely and none of us felt enriched by our encounter.

He wasn't even interested in talking to me, it felt forced and unnatural.

I've seen this notion on social media before, usually accompanied by a picture of people on the subway with their phones out.

I mean God forbid people recharge their social battery! God forbid people do things just for themselves at all.

NT's don't even apply this notion to their own lives, and if they do they don't seem happier anyway, only judgemental and resentful.

NT lives seems exhausting.

what better excuse to impulse buy stupid shit I really don‘t need. I already had one mirror ball that I looted from work. it even comes with a motor and the proper safety stuff. the balls I bought yesterday cost 4€ in total (a small-ish one and 4 tiny ones on a chain) and are definitely not rated for dangling over a crowd‘s head. but I‘m not going to work! it‘s an educational field trip haha (I work in events).

the roadtrip playlist is currently downloading. it‘s an unhinged mix of all my favorite music. talk Tennessee Ernie Ford‘s „Uranium Fever“ mixed in with Korn, Falco and Heilung. and Secret Tunnel. some Spongebob songs. I‘m so sad Bernd das Brot isn‘t on Tidal anymore.

also, I learned from an autistic friend I made af a different festival a long time ago. she always brings those folding boxes to keep order. I bought a ton of those too, yesterday.

it‘s gonna be a great weekend. not looking forward to the overstimulation and the crowds, but I‘m very much looking forwars to live music, camping and hopefully making new friends.

also. it‘s gonna be 5 days of taking a break from reality. no worries, except when to see the next band and maybe getting wet, but I pray to the weather gods and I‘m also taking the weather rock my friend made a couple of years ago, when we missed the torrential rain by waiting in the traffic jam for 20 hours (Wacken 2024 lol) but all of our stuff stayed dry?

anyway, gotta keep packing. my ride‘s gonna be here in a little over 2hrs and I still need to by snacks and figure out some way to reduce the volume of my many things haha.

anyone else loves festivals?

I apologize for this crashout, but legit, I'm so smooth-brained and bad-lucked at this stuff, as either any girl I'm into is a lesbian or I can't read social cues for shit and I blow my chances. Any advice from our Evil ND Legion about how to survive and not wanna melt lol?

I've just returned from a Reddit Ban that I had to dispute(and won), because I replied "break jars, use glass for self defense" under uhhhh "what you do in room with jars and beads" post. Which is fair and reasonable for "evil Autism". I have returned, and I'm pissed. Only one thing will sate my desire for bloodlust, Bots and AI must be purged. I want the Automated System to BEGONE! I want the clankers to be DEMOLISHED!