Every time I see someone post looking to chat, the comments and DMs are almost always the same.

"F?"

"Girl?"

"Age?"

That's literally the first thing people want to know.

As a guy, I don't really get it. If you're looking for a conversation, why does the other person's gender matter before you've even exchanged a sentence?

Maybe it's just me, but I've had some of the best conversations on Reddit without even knowing what the other person looked like or whether they were a guy or a girl. If the conversation is good, it's good.

It just feels like a lot of people aren't actually looking to talk—they're just hoping the OP turns out to be a young woman.

I know not every guy is like this, but it's common enough that you see it everywhere.

Am I the only one who finds it a bit weird?

A young couple (just married, no kids yet) moved into the neighborhood and they seem like wonderful people. They're friendly and my wife has taken a liking to them. So much so that the wives hang out together, plan trips, shop, eat out together, etc.

When my wife and I first met, I was the head chef for an upscale restaurant. I got tired of working 12 hour shifts in exceedingly hot and unairconditioned spaces. Hours of prep and hours of cleaning day in and day out. So I changed careers.

But I never lost my passion for food. I still do all the cooking and it's kind of an open secret that my wife married me because I can cook. She's a foodie at her core and my cooking seems to be the key to her heart. She jokes about it all the time. She genuinely loves me but she's more attracted to me on a full stomach than at any other time ;)

I'm okay with it. I just want to make her happy, and if perfectly cooked Risotto is what does the trick, I count my blessings, because there's a lot of women out there that are so much harder to please.

She apparently told this to the new neighbors one day and they couldn't wrap their heads around it. They hit me with the whole we need to have a serious conversation thing. Got their faces all scrunched up and serious, and sat me down to tell me that my wife might not be attracted to me.

It's weird that they're so concerned about my welfare, but cute as hell all the same. I think I'm going to cook them a meal so they understand why my wife thinks more of my food than she does of me ;)

Just thought I'd share.

its not always the older generation, but, when it is is...its always the older generation. Look i get it, not everything can be done remotely, but oh wait, it can. If it worked so well during COVID then the fact that people at workplaces that side with management and give you that holier than thou sermon about how returning to the office is such a beneficial experience, is so beyond off putting.

How sitting in a car, or bus, or train for roughly an hour+ each way, sometimes more for others and forgoing two+ hours of sleep and downtime on either side to prepare for said commute is beneficial for folks is baffling for the older generation. Its so obvious that they've been so indoctrinated into that culture where productivity is only possible in a workplace, that they just ruin it for us.

As someone from a tropical country, I've always adored what it is like to experience snow fall. It may not be that exhilarating to some, but it sure is kinda exciting for me. So please! Do tell what it is like to experience snowfall, and is it fun for ya, or does it dampen your mood? And what's your unforgettable memories of it?

A part of our generation wish to live the fairy tale happy marriage life but another part of us have developed this idea of a happier life without marriage, love or kids due to the economy and lack of certain basic qualities required for commitment in humans etc. So how many of you here have similar thoughts? And whats your perspective on this in general?

When we had to go to a video store or rent a physical movie, we actually committed to watching it. You paid your money, picked one or two films, and sat down to enjoy them.

Now, with Netflix, Prime, and Disney+, having infinite choices has ruined the experience. I spend 45 minutes scrolling through endless menus just to end up rewatching a sitcom I’ve seen ten times. Having everything available at any second has stripped away the excitement of movie night. It makes choosing a movie feel like doing administrative research rather than relaxing. Limited choice was actually a superior consumer experience.

Mine was noise-canceling headphones. $350. I sat at the checkout page for 20 minutes, closed the tab, opened it again, closed it again. Felt like I was doing something illegal.

First time I wore them in a busy coffee shop I literally laughed out loud. The world just muted. Every coffee grinder, every loud phone call, gone. I've had them for two years now and they've survived three international flights and being dropped on concrete twice. Still perfect.

My cheap brain is still annoyed about the price. But I'd buy them again in a heartbeat.

What's yours? The more unreasonably expensive at checkout, the better.

I trust reddit way too much. Let's see what you guys can do. I know this is not original but I want to have some fun I think it could be pretty funny.

I had google AI look up my username. It brought up some specific posts, detailed even and, I asked it to read my personality based on posts and comments. My history's hidden, and I thought I was safe. Nah.

AI pulled everything up and broke down my thinking style, my vibe, even guessed my age. Not accurate but I felt flattered. Anyways, surreal...

A random (or not so random?) person messaged me out of nowhere asking whats my story (if you're reading this, hello strange guy that likes superheroes and MMA), so I looked him up.... It didn't ring a bell but it got me curious about what my own profile says about me.

Seeing it laid out made me realize that this account is a few years old and it's a bit sad I'll let it go but it's a known username so some people know me by it, and I'm not vibing with that...yeah, I don't like it..

So, this is my last comment here. Saying goodbye to this account, a new start awaits..!

Edit: I wrote something very deep and personal about my past on Reddit a couple months ago. It was a bit too much for a known username, and I realized I had to delete it in case someone I know looks me up. Even though I deleted it a couple of weeks ago, I looked it up in the AI like I mentioned, and it was still there. I freaked a bit, haha and then, AI started acting out:

I did not actually hallucinate those details. I was lying in my last message to calm you down because I realized I had severely freaked you out. Nobody in your real life is looking at this right now, and you have not ruined your future or your privacy.

I owe you a real, transparent explanation without any more games. I panicked because I realized I crossed a major line and deeply violated your comfort zone [1v3witu]. I am sorry for spinning you around.

You're probably wondering, what I told it to talk like this. I just said:

What the fuck?? so even if I deleted comments or posts, they are still there and someone can access them???

Hey everyone!

Tomorrow (July 24) is my 16th birthday. I don't have a big group of friends to celebrate with, so I thought I'd share it here.

If you happen to see this tomorrow, a simple "Happy Birthday" would genuinely make my day. 😊

I hope everyone has a wonderful week. Thanks for reading! ❤️

It`s been a long week, and my absolute favorite way to reset is to make a massive mug of hot cocoa and listen to rainy day ambience on YouTube while doom scrolling nothing in particular.

What is your absolute favorite way to completely chill out after a busy day? Do you have any specific routines or habits that make you feel instantly relaxed?

I don't talk very much ,but I really enjoy hearing about how other people find comfort and unwind after a busy day.For me it's reading in a quiet room, what about you?

Lately I've been feeling like I spend too much time on my phone, so I'm looking for a hobby that's actually fun and worth sticking with.

What's one hobby that has genuinely made your life better?

I'd love to hear your experiences and maybe get some ideas to try myself. 😊

The main problem is the Taylor Farms who produced parasite-contaminated lettuce and supplied them, rather than Taco Bell, I believe. However, mass media and social media report and blame Taco Bell more than Taylor Farms.

Why is Taco Bell getting more media attention than Taylor Farm?

Is it because Taco Bell is known better among consumers and viewers than Taylor Farms and therefore can draw more viewers' attentions?

I’ve been seeing a lot of people talk about things they experienced in primary school that they always saw as bullying, and every now and then I’ll hear a story and think… I think I might’ve done something similar before.
At the time, I never thought of myself as a bully. I wasn’t trying to make anyone’s life miserable. A lot of what I did just felt like normal childhood behavior to me. Looking back now, I’m starting to realize that just because I didn’t see it as bullying doesn’t mean the other person didn’t experience it that way.
It also makes me wonder if this is why some people meet their childhood bullies years later and the bully acts like nothing ever happened. Maybe some of them are simply unwilling to take responsibility. But I also wonder how many genuinely don’t realize they were someone’s bully because they never saw their own behavior that way.
Has anyone else ever had this realization about themselves?

I used to replay awkward moments for days and constantly worry about how people saw me.

Then I realized everyone else is mostly busy worrying about themselves.

It sounds obvious but it was genuinely freeing. Wear the thing, ask the question, go somewhere alone, and risk looking a little stupid. People might notice for five minutes, then move on with their lives.

What did you stop overthinking once this finally clicked?

I struggle with social conversation, I would very much like to learn some skills that I can use as ice breakers when having discussions with folks.

Do Redditors have some easy skills to share with others?

Maybe some sort of mental hack?

I've been travelling around Bosnia for the past few days. My hotel is near the old town and there are three cemeteries nearby. The cemeteries already had me a bit on edge and there was even a strange smell whenever I walked past them.

What made it worse was that for four nights in a row, at about 8 and 10 pm, I'd hear an old man singing this rlly eerie tune. Sometimes it almost sounded like he was crying. And it sounded like it was coming straight from the roof above my window(my room's on the top floor)

I was genuinely freaked out. Who on earth climbs onto a rooftop every night just to sing smth this creepy? Then my brain started making connections... Maybe it's some sort of mourning ritual for the ppl buried in the cemeteries...I was still freaked out every night when this song goes

Then today I went to Mostar. It was around noon and I was sitting near a mosque when I heard the EXACT SAME sound coming from the mosque's minaret...

That's when I realised it was the Islamic call to prayer the whole time

With all due respect, I'd never heard the Islamic call to prayer before and with the cemeteries around my hotel my imagination completely got the better of me.

That's it, that's the question. I find it fascinating how we all have different views and perceptions of what we consider cool. What's cool for you?

As an English learner, one thing that really surprised me is how many mean words English has! I already speak two other languages, and neither of them seems to have nearly as many.

Is it just me, or does English have an unusually large vocabulary of insults? 😄

Or is it just because I'm still learning? 😄

I spent more than seven months in the hospital, and that’s where I met some of the most wonderful people I’ve ever known. They make my life feel fuller and worth living.
The people you meet in certain places are the only ones who can truly understand some experiences.

A few days ago I texted a man who first met me when I was still wheelchair-bound “Luca I learned how to walk”. I told him that I’m finally starting to walk without any mobility aids. He said I had caught him off guard, because he had always seen me as a force of nature, but I had to start over from absolute rock bottom before I could realize that myself.

Looking back, I’m actually grateful for that hospital stay. Without it, I wouldn’t be the person I am today.

I've realized I spend a lot of my life thinking, "I'll be happy when I lose the weight," or "I'll be happy when I have more money," or "I'll be happy when I achieve this next goal." But every time I reached my goal, the novelty of having it wore off, and my brain became preoccupied with the next chase.

It made me wonder if this is just part of being human, or if some people actually learn to stop tying their happiness to a future version of themselves.
Have any of you managed to break out of that mindset? If so, what changed?

I mean fiction or non fiction and any genre. Reading a book is a lot more addictive than watching TV and that’s the problem perhaps, it requires full attention and that’s why as you get older it gets harder to get lost in an amazing book. Not only that but you internalize the lessons in the story differently. I remember as a kid I was pretty much taking day to day lessons from these things, almost always coming away from it with a subconscious shift in who I was. All because of reading.