My mom grew up in the South Bronx, and the experience clearly traumatized her. She has a million and one horror stories and she gets close to tears whenever she re-tells them. Getting regularly mugged, beat up, stalked, catcalled, groped, and worse; how she had to force a "tough" face at all times, pretended she kept a gun in her purse, eventually actually started carrying a gun, etc.
I know the city as a whole is massively safer than it was in the 60s/70s/80s when she was living there, but I also know numbers and statistics don't tell the whole story.
I now have a potential job opportunity in the neighborhood (Longwood area) and my parents are very on the fence about whether or not I should even seriously consider the option. When my mom mentioned the location to her childhood friend/neighbor, said friend gave an emphatic "Oh HELL no, you're not gonna let her work there, are you?"
I'm a lifelong New Yorker, and even my own neighborhood was pretty grungey when I was very young, but it turned around a lot since then. I don't mind going to "grittier" parts of the city now and then, as I know how to pay attention. But I am an average-sized young woman, not tall or strong-looking at all. My mom and I are both Puerto Rican but we fall on the "white" end of the spectrum, which she says also made her more of a target.
I don't know if I'm naive for thinking someone like me could be okay pursuing this opportunity, or stupid for letting my parents' fears get in my head. I'm really not sure what to think anymore.