My wife and I have been together since 2004. When we first started dating, we had a game night with another couple. They heard us have sex all the time as my wife and the girl were roommates.
One night we were having drinks and playing a sex themed trivia game. When the question was asked “what’s your biggest fear in the bedroom?” Or something like that. My wife responded “a small dick!” Her friend responded “a big dick!” We laughed, but her BF had this defeated look on his face and it got super awkward. For a while, he kind of avoided me, but we were cordial.
Him and I ended up being really good friends without ever mentioning that game again. Since then, every time we would hang out, I would catch her glancing at my bulge.
Turns out, his size was discussed between her and my wife, and he did in fact have a small one. They are still together to this day; true love prevailed.

I'm having physical problems with sex because of my girth. I've talked to a few escorts about this, they're all recommending me to inform anyone I see beforehand. A few have DMd me about my size, showing a lot of interest but I'm on the fence about paying for sex. I'm just worried about hurting someone who isn't expecting it, but I also find it creepy to bring it up in conversation. Porn doesn't imitate reality.

Just a wondering post due to personal experiences lately.

How many women have you guys been with that actually enjoyed having their cervix, hit either gently or roughly?

I've recently had a strange run in with multiples that enjoyed their's being hit, and while it has been interesting, I know it's not normal.

Yo, I'm 19 and have a wedding coming up (not mine)

I found a way to deal with my bulge in regular pants. I usually go for baggy pants, but the wedding has a strict dress code, so I can't hide behind baggy clothes.

Do you have any tips or tricks?🙏🤝

Hey all :) I barely use my reddit account but I’m hoping for a bit of perspective on this. I’ve got a bit of an anti-big dick problem I suppose. I consider myself not a shallow person, I value emotional intimacy and connection above a lot of things. I’m 23, educated, nice I think, and I work in conservation (currently doing wildlife research in the canadian rockies!). I have a decently high sex drive, which maybe has something to do with it. I meet guys and talk to them, maybe go on a few dates, but I’m always disappointed when they pull down their pants.

As soon as I learn they’re below what my mind perceives as big I immediately lose interest. I feel a little bit ashamed I suppose. I feel like I’m holding myself back from pursuing a quality relationship with someone just because I honestly have it in my mind that I want to date a guy who’s actually packing. I can handle the pain lol. Then, of course, there’s the issue with me looping a big chunk of the dating pool off since not that many guys are even bringing much to the table. Half of me feels like it’s just lust, I’m not actually dating the man if I’m dating the dick, but the other half of me feels like it’s okay for me to have preferences and knows that I am looking for deeper connection.

I don’t really have this requirement for anything else. I’ve dated guys shorter and taller than me, older and younger, no race hangups, just compatibility wants. I’d appreciate any perspective on this, thanks!

I’ve only had one girlfriend so I don’t have much experience but she thinks my penis is huge and never seen one so big, I’m 7.2 x 5.6 which I know is above average my doctor has even commented on it but when I say that on Reddit or just online people seem to think it’s not big and barely above average, don’t know if everyone one Reddit is just lying or has 8+ inches?

I've been an occasional fleshlight/stroker user for maybe a year and a half now. I had an Oxballs stroker for most of my time until it broke and ripped in multiple places on me. For reference, I'm 8" long, 6.5" wide. Around 5.5" soft and maybe an inch less in girth. Not only did this stroker break open at the end but there were tears at the opening and eventually a rip going through the side.

I eventually knew it was time to get something better, so I bought a hard case Schag's. After clean and use for the first time, I was too thick to fit through the case. Like there was immense pain trying to fit halfway. The only thing I can do now is just use the stroker without the case but that was not something I thought about before buying (or at least I thought it was big enough).

I've had sex before, this trans guy I was in a relationship with for a few months had an issue once or twice with my size but things ended up fine. But now I wonder how extreme a size like mine really feels.

Anyone else have a similar issue?

I'm 43 and have an observation about size to share.

When teen I always thought I was mid. But I'd tell myself its fine. This came about with stress about "am I big enough", totally unnecessary in any case (and I don't say this due to endowement).

When adult the first time I heard I was big'ish around 30. That was a "wow, that girl is great" moment. Time went on.

Now I'm dating again at 40+ and cannot believe what's happening. One girl saw and touched my dick and would not believe its not implanted. Another says she needs a few day break from me each time because she's totally not used to the size.

Suddenly I'm enormous. Like wtf. I did grow a bit probably due to high usage but is it possible it grew that much it altered perception? Btw my ex would barely take it. She also would come from bare insertion..

Do dicks grow around 40? Or did the general dick perception shrink? I'm 6x5 flat and 7,5x6 up and did not measure myself the right way in the past so can't really tell if it changed.

Wondering if anyone here has a similarly shaped 'flat' penis which is wider than it is tall (in terms of cross section). My girth is 5.3 inches pretty consistently base to head, but due to the shape it is about 1.9 inches wide. Apparently that width would equate to ~6 inch girth assuming cylindrical shape. Does this have any advantage or disadvantage in terms of sex? I've never had any problems with it, and have received good feedback from women, saying that they feel properly stretched. Curious if anyone else has thoughts or experiences.

For reference I’m 8”x6.5”

So I always knew there were certain things I couldn’t enjoy because of my size. You know the usual oral, anal, perfect condom sizing, etc. On top of that I have been used to and ok with the fact that i have to be cautious and frequency of sex can’t be as often as I’d like. To me all of these were “oh no my steak is too juicy and my lobster is too buttery” problems. I came to terms and it was ok.

Well today it stung. My wife all but explicitly told me she would appreciate and prefer if I was a smaller size. We’ve been married for 5 years and I always thought we had a great sex life with normal ups and downs. I know it probably feels worse that it is but this one hurt boys.. this one hurt.

Edit: This is a TellBDP post I’m not torn up about it it’s was an “ouch” in the moment. Appreciate all the advice and looking out. Great community!

Edit: Again. This is not an issue that’s detrimental to my marriage. It is not an arousal issue and nothing specific brought this on, it came up in conversation. This is not a “it hurts all the time” it’s a “only an issue with multiple times a week”. This was not said with malicious intention and it is a “damn that really sucks” problem not “wtf do I do problem”. I appreciate all the engagement but i didn’t post looking for advice. My marriage is strong and happy so don’t message me talking bad about my wife and telling me I should leave my marriage. I’d like to leave the post up because it’s sharing something others might have dealt with or will deal with and it is not an end all be all.

So I stumbled upon this sub in a weird way.

My wife and I have been using protection when she is ovulating because we are done having kids, two great girls. I have had a vasectomy, but waiting on the timeline to test swimmer free. When we have had sex I always have issues getting condoms on, and they were always tight/no feeling, and would break often. Googling about breaking condoms had me measured for size. I had past partners comment, “wow” or “that’s a surprise” before, but never measured ect and thought it was an ego booster. Measured today and I realized what the deal was with the calcsd calculator.

My size is 6.75 NBP, 7.25 BP with 5.625 girth.

Looking for condom recs a couple days before a vacation. Must be something I can find local at a Kroger/walmart/ext.

Edit: past condoms I have been using that we’re breaking were Trojan Bareskin Raw.

I’ve been trying to find a subreddit or a website that will help me find more woman who are into bigger things in life but I’ve been having difficulty finding people that can take it respectfully not in a weird way but even with foreplay and a lot of time getting ready sometimes it just doesn’t work out. Anyone that knows anything or anyone lmk (21M)

Hi, just wondering if this has happened to anyone else. I was just laying in bed, and my bf leaned on me. He kept asking if I was hard. I was fully soft I’d say about 5 by 5 inches, but he still thought I was hard because it’s thick and long when flaccid. Just wondering if anyone else has had this experience. Thought it was funny lol.

Howdy! To put it bluntly I’ve been buying Trojan xl condoms and they’re fine enough when I first put them on, but eventually they constrict around my penis since my dick gets bigger as I get closer to finishing. The constrictions to a point where it gets like half soft, then when I take the condom off I’m right back to fully hard. Any good alternative brands would be appreciated!

I had to actually break down and buy a sex toy because my partner hasn’t touched me in years. All this anxiety and humiliation in buying the thing and my dick doesn’t even fit in it :( too thick. And when I do finally get enough lube to squeeze inside, I hit the back right away. Fml

7.5”x7 here. I was wondering if anyone has the same challenge as me and if there’s a better way. The amount of shaking needed after I piss is ridiculous. I hit the urinal and after shaking like 50x I still manage to leak about a tablespoon. Best I’ve got is to use the stalls and basically do a forward fold while milking my urethra all the way from the back of my perineum. Flipping annoying!

An actual problem that doesn’t involve me sucking at communicating with my gf? 🤯

Edit: it’s not a pelvic floor or a prostate thing, I’ve seen doctors for both. I have a hyperactive cramaster muscle that had me concerned for a minute and has me doing regular checkups as a result.

Here is a reverse BDP. In the last 1,5 years I have gained weight and my dick's NBP length is obviously reduced. As its length is not attention taking anymore, it looks girthier than before.

My partner and I are in an open relationship and recently I saw their sexts with the guy they’re currently dating and was honestly very frustrated. The texts were really raunchy and showed a level of sexual enthusiasm that they rarely show with me. I kept scrolling and eventually saw pics of him with his dick out and it was smaller in both length and girth than mine. My partner is often overwhelmed by my size and gets quickly discouraged by the difficulty they have accommodating/pleasuring me so reading the texts I thought “Man, if i was smaller she’d sext/fuck me more” :/

Like larger than standard(53mm) condoms that u guys have tried and worked for u who have a thicker penis and standard one didn’t fit.

I’ve been only able to find one option Durex real feel which is 56mm. Have u guys tried that one?

Any names u know that u use and is available on 10 minute delivery apps?

This question is for Indian men who have above average thick penis

Me and my gf have agreed to wait until marriage due to religious reasons- I know many of you may disagree but I ask that you respect our decision.

But without sounding weird sometimes I just look at my dick and think there’s no way a girl is gonna be able to take that all.

I actually am starting to get stressed as I think about my future and possibly of having a horrible sex life.

Has anyone been in this situation before ? What did you do about it ?

Idk if this is the right subreddit for this but I haven't found a more appropriate one. Maybe the men will relate on behalf of their women. I wish I could talk about my man's size without it being wildly inappropriate. If I can show off about me completing my masters and getting a nice job, why can't I talk about being able to take a fat pp like a pro? I worked hard for it too being in a LTR with a well endowed man, I've been training to take inch by inch for a year.

I have shown my close girlfriends his photos and I love their reactions and feel no jealousy whatsoever. He's all mine and I know it. My man (7.5x6.2) is the reserved one between the two of us but I wish he could also get to feel good about it. I used to be an anonymous exhibitionist on reddit and now I wish I could post the funny pics I took of his dick. Of course I won't do that as consent means everything but oh god I hate having to be humble with this info!