Ok so maybe a weird question....but those are the best kinds!

I was born with my arm missing below elbow. So I have a stump that I always seen as male. Im a female (cisgender) but I see my stump as male

I'm 37 and today I just realised I have gendered my stump.

Anyone else? Congenital or otherwise?

Stay beautiful x Edit: And not because its a phallic shape

Just got my middle finger amputated this morning. Right away the pain was pretty severe. I would put it on par with my labor contractions. After getting some sleep and getting a few doses of pain medication in me, the pain is bearable now. I think the pain may have been coming from the after effects of the tourniquet coming off. Going to keep making some updates as I haven’t seen a lot of people that have had the Ray amputation done.

Ok here goes . I have never put myself out here like this but I’m honestly loosing hope at this point . I am a rbka and have been since July 2025. In sept of 2025 I had a bad fall right onto my stump . It reopened the surgical wound and bled like crazy . I went to the er and they just put butterfly stitches on it . I asked if they should sew it back up but they said it was too far from my surgery to actually put new stitches in . So from sept till March of this year it healed sooo slowly . Went to wound care 2 times a month to check on progress of healing . So then I finally got the ok to start the prosthetic process. Which I was beyond excited for . I was such an active person before my amputation and being in a wheelchair or hopping around with a walker was soul crushing . So since March I have been through 3 test sockets and still do not have a final socket . The problem is extreme pain . Every time I take a step in these sockets the pain and pressure is unbearable . It’s all over pain but mostly at the end of my limb . So my bone sticks out under my skin and causes a lot of pain right in the front and they have tried over and over to make it more comfortable to no avail . The other problem is that I have a bulbous stump. Which I have heard can make it difficult to fit into a socket. Also, my fluid volume changes a lot when I put the leg on. It’s very very difficult to get it to click even one time then as I’m walking around wearing it about an hour later, my leg is all the way at the bottom and causing a immense pain and also the whole entire leg and foot turns to where my foot sticking out to the side. So then I stop what I’m doing and I add some socks. That works for a little while but then again after walking around, I have to add more socks. and it still after adding all the socks is very very painful. I am just wondering if anybody else has had this experience. And what the solution was. I feel like I need an adjustable kind of socket, but unfortunately, I have Medicaid and they won’t pay for anything besides the basic old pin lock socket so if there’s any suggestions anyone could give me or have been through the same thing and found something that worked for them. I would really appreciate it because at this point I’m losing hope that I’m ever gonna be able to walk again !! And that to me is a fate worse than death !! Being stuck sitting down. It’s pure torture!!

Hey Everyone of r/amputee,

For years now I have had to deal with cancer coming back over and over again in my right leg, already having had plenty of bone removed around the area. Yesterday I got the news it's back again right below the knee and with everything that has happened over the past 8 years, the chance they have to amputate is pretty big, with a chance they might still be able to save it with no guarantee it has to be removed later when the cancer once again returns. And if they end up amputating, thanks to already missing 50% of my femur in my right leg, they would amputate up to just above halfway my right thigh.

I have the choice now to just amputate, but I have no idea what it will be like, what things I will have to start looking after or how this will impact my life further. I already can't use my right leg much so I am not afraid of losing functionality around walking/running or sports, but it's still a very weird concept in my head that in a couple weeks I might be down 1 leg.

So here is my question: what were your experiences like? What did you learn over the years that you would have liked to know before it all happened?

Hi lovely community. I've been lurking here since I found out last week that my 80yo mom will be joining you. I'm looking for ways to help her as best as I can, while trying to wrap my own head around it, and I'm not doing all that well with that atm. So maybe you people can put some things in order and perspective for me.

Situation in short is that my mom's toe pain was dismissed countless times since january, turned out to be a diabetic vein thing, all else failed and now she's scheduled for surgery. I'm furious that they let her wait and sit in pain for half a year waiting for this to happen, and more than a bit frustrated she never insisted on becoming someone's priority (and refused my and sibling doing so), as they never want to impose on those busy doctors.

I wouldnt see mum as an old woman mentally. She's got her wits about, is digital savvy and generally an insanely optimistic person, who has had countless of mental and physical setbacks in her life and somehow always manages to look at what she CAN still do, instead of what she can´t. Sitting still for the larger part of this year has wilted away her muscular strenth though, and because she hasn´t been able to work in her garden, she's rarely outside anymore (doesn't want to look at the rampant weeds, but also refuses help), and the reality of the leg sinking in has definitely hit her now I think.

One moment I can help and be optimistic. Something is getting done, and I honestly think she would benefit from someone working with her towards recovery, instead of her default solution: when in pain, sit in chair. (Mum's not a sporty person by nature). I've got loads of ideas to help make their not so suitable house work. On moments like today it feels like a death sentence, and I'm walking around half crying as if Im in mounring. I've noticed that being an eldest daughter who also happens to be a firefighter makes me an incredibly ill equipped person to not be able to help properly. My parents are very independent people. They've refused any help sofar, even though we live 10 miles away. I want to help, but I dont want to be a pest either.

To make things worse the surgery coincides with my summer vacation with spouse+kids. I needed/wanted to be away badly, and so do they. My parents say we should go. Mum says she'd rather call than have us visit anyway, wanting to cocoon and come to terms with it, and I know shed feel bad if her illness would 'cost' us our trip but I keep swinging from not going to going to flying out (1h) to visit halfway. We'd be back before she leaves hospital. I'm not too worried about the surgery in general, since it wont be full anaesthesia but a spinal one + sedation (she's had those before), but I'm not sure if I should be..

Sorry for the rant. Any advice on helping or coping as family is greatly appreciated!

Just wanted to share the "decoration" that I use to keep myself moving forward. (Lbka due to motorcycle) In the pic theres feet I use, the helmet that I was wearing, bike parts from the bike in my wreck, medicine to help save my foot (a bit over a year of limb salvage before the amputation). I wanted to add the metal spikes in my leg and a ruler next to them but idk where theyre at so ill settle with a pic of my xray instead.

Edit- im a bit drunk so dont shit on me too hard