My sister-in-law is in an absolute pit of an 18 month ketamine addiction. She's been really struggling with it non-stop for the last 6 months. She's been hospitalised and needed surgery after a fall while high, and then crashed her car high, wrote it off, and may be charged with possession as well as drug driving. Unfortunately, none of this has yet got to the stage where she can admit she needs help. She has kept it secret from her friends and work, and in any therapy/counselling sessions has only told them that she's depressed and has a bit of a drug problem. To put it in context, for the last 6 weeks she's probably been high 80% of the days, usually starting by 10am, often taking upwards of 4 grams at a time, sometimes more than 6. I took her to an NA meeting but she wouldn't go back, and I realised after that she drove us there high, which I can't try and do again.

My in-laws are now completely desolate, and are looking to try and take out a loan to get her into a private rehab facility, which they absolutely cannot afford to do. What are the other options here? She's clearly basically suicidal, she's probably got a BMI of under 15, and she's unable to get clean as it is, and she won't go to NA meetings. I know that no-one can make you get clean, it's something you have to do for yourself, but at this stage she's going to let her parents pay for rehab that probably won't work just because she won't be honest about other options, so please can someone let me know what help is actually available to someone in this scenario? Everything online is so vague.

One of the more fun courses my treatment center held involved sharing music that resonated with recovery. I was looking to see if there's any more songs that would fit the theme. I find it's cathartic to listen to when I'm feeling low instead of turning to past behaviors like I would have done before.

Thinking more A Team, less Semi-Charmed Life

My 15-year-old sister is a meth addict. I don't know how to help her anymore.
I'm posting here because I'm completely lost and hoping someone who has been through something similar can offer advice.
My little sister is 15 years old and has been addicted to meth for roughly the last two months. There was a period of about two weeks where she told us she was sober, but looking back, I'm not even sure if that was true.
We recently found out that she's no longer just smoking meth—she's injecting it now, which has terrified our whole family.
The hardest part is that our parents have basically given up on her. They don't want her living with them and have made it clear they don't want the responsibility. Because of that, my siblings and I have all taken turns trying to care for her and keep her safe, but we're all young adults with our own lives, and we're completely out of our depth.
At the moment, she's living in unsafe environments with people who are also involved in drugs. We know she's not safe, but she refuses to come home or stay somewhere stable.
We had rehab organised for her, and we genuinely thought it was our best chance of helping her. At the last minute, she refused to go, and because she didn't consent, there wasn't anything we could do.
She was also placed in a youth refuge for a while, but she was recently removed by police after vandalising the property. Since then, things have only gotten worse.
We've tried getting help through DCJ, but we've essentially been told that because she's almost 16, they'll "work on her when she's of an age for independence." From what we've been told, the plan is for her to eventually live independently, but I can't understand how anyone expects that to help a 15-year-old who is addicted to meth.
I feel like we've exhausted every option we know of. We're terrified that if things continue the way they are, she's going to end up seriously hurt or worse.
I'm not looking for judgment. I'm looking for advice from people who've experienced meth addiction themselves, had a sibling or child go through it, or work in this area.
Is there anything else we can do when she refuses treatment?
How do you support someone who doesn't want help?
Are there services or approaches we might not have considered?
Has anyone been in a similar situation where a young person eventually turned things around?
I love my sister so much, and I don't want to give up on her, even though it feels like every service around us already has.
Any advice would mean a lot. Thank you for reading.

my DOCs went from cocaine to meth to 7oh.

i lost everything to my addiction prior to 7oh even coming into the picture; wound up hospitalized and then sent to detox, following the loss of my house, pets, car, and job. i was forced to either be on the streets thereafter or move in with my estranged father who was also an active addict.

i moved in with my father whom i hadn't seen but twice in the 12 years of my life prior. he started giving me pain pills, and then i was introduced to 7oh after also having a relapse on cocaine. i tried everything. i was in and out of intensive outpatient for about 5 years of the 8 years of my active addiction. the hospitalization, the detox, the at-home detox attempts... i was hopeless.

i remember specifically saying, "other addicts can recover but just not me. it'll never be me." i truly never thought it was possible until i found a twelve step program and committed myself to it and i've been clean ever since.

i am now the Alternate Secretary of my twelve step homegroup online with over 5,000 members and am also a substance abuse technician at one of the top rated rehabs in my state. i help people every single day and spread the message of recovery and boy let me tell you, does it keep me clean every day.

recovery is beautiful and spiritual, helping the next person is the most fulfilling feeling.

i am SO grateful for my addiction, because without it, i never would've learned the tools i had to in order to save my life to reshape who i am as a person for the better and truly regain a beautiful outlook on life that frankly i never had even before i ever picked up a substance.

i wish this for all of you. keep going.

Hello j'ai 46 ans aujourd'hui j'ai commencé à fumer mes premières clopes vers 11ans ensuites des joints et des bières vers 13/14 ensuites ça a été les teufs entre 17/18 et la vingtaine avec tout les produits qui vont avec . Taz, mdma, LSD,opium....

Puis après mes 20 ans je suis tombée dans l'hero pendant 6 ans et là je suis tombée enceinte donc je suis passé à la méta

Puis jusqu'à aujourd'hui par intermittence ça été Coke, zub bière, Xanax pour mes crises d'angoisse..etc bref quand est ce que ça va s'arrêter ??

Est c qu'un jours je vais me sentir bien sans avoir besoin de prendre qq chose ?? J'aimerais tellement avoir besoin de rien et kiffer sans produits..

Vous pensez que c'est possible après tout ce temps ? 🫤

I feel pathetic. I've been a full blown addict since 14-15. I've used the point off and on for 7 years. Never got stuck on it. I had a three year break due to courts. This time around.. I'm stuck on it. Like I don't want to sit around and smoke all day till I get high but then hypocritically I'll sit there and stab myself until I can get high... I know it makes no since. N my arms look fucked up.. n my poor partner .. fuck. It kills him. He says what anyone would..

Half of addiction is the action

I quit doing heroin two and a half years ago but I kept smoking crack and doing meth. A year ago today I quit and I haven’t done anything but smoke weed since then. I go to a 12 step program, but this is the first time I’ve gotten any time when not living in sober living or something. I have a great life and I’m very grateful to have survived everything

Hey guys we all get addicted to something at some point in our lives. It can be anything like bad eating habits, watching corn, theft, cheating, alcohol, social media addiction, sugar addiction, gambling, doomscrolling, smoking.

What were you addicted to and how did you get over it?

Would love to hear your answers in the comments!

I'm just so over everything. I'm exhausted, depressed, and pregnant with this guy's child. No matter what I do, I just can't seem to leave the father of my child for good because he always comes back or manipulates me into taking him back.

Every time I leave and go no contact, he lies or tries to make me worry so that I'll talk to him again. For example, he left his antibiotics at my place. I went no contact, and he said he desperately needed them, so I sent one message back saying, "Mailbox." A month later, they're still there.

He'll tell me he isn't in a good headspace, and then I feel guilty, so I let him back in. It's just the same bullshit every time. He has cheated on me in the past, is in active addiction ( Iclies, and talks to other women behind my back.

He keeps talking to this girl. She also uses drugs. I'm completely clean, by the way. However, I have told him over and over to stop talking to her because I already have massive trust issues from his previous behaviour. They video call, call, text almost every day, and send messages to each other like, "I miss you." He also told me that he bashed her boyfriend the other night because her boyfriend hit her in front of him.

I just paid for a holiday away, and he has slept for the majority of the time. Last night we had a fight because he thought I was asleep, so he grabbed his phone and went outside. I thought that was odd, so I went to the back door and overheard him talking to the girl on the phone. He said, "So, are you going to come see me on my birthday this weekend?" I quickly opened the door, and he hung up the phone.

I broke down, told him I was done, and he simply said, "No, we're not." He then said he would never let me have another boyfriend for the rest of my life and that I was stuck with him for good. I am unable to have any guy friends, or even stand next to a guy with out being yelled out. One of our mutual guy friends gave me a gift and I got yelled out, called names and then he tried to put his hands around my neck before pulling them quickly back and headbutting me instead. All for not showing him my phone after he called me names.