People are often traumatized by past relationships. If someone broke their leg, you wouldn’t expect them to run the next day. In the same way, a heart wounded by past relationships needs time to heal before it can build a healthy relationship.

Unfortunately the prices  in Africa are just as bad as the prices  in the USA/Europe.  In Dar Es Salaam realtors are trying to sell houses for $200,000 USD. There are nice parts of Africa I admit but there's way more parts of Africa that has poverty/slums. I honestly don't see a migration of people moving to Africa from the west or Europe because of the cost of living. Many people are sitting around everyday in many parts of Africa when they could be learning plumbing or construction or learning electrical work or farming (I could go on). Africa is what it is and there's plenty of people who don't want to be there if they have the money to live in  the west/Europe. Most of the continent of Africa lives in extreme poverty. the whole world  knows most of Africa has tons of  poverty. I see people on YouTube preaching that it's time for black people to come back to Africa but they're referring to Africa as "the trenches". How you referring to Africa as the trenches but want to price homes there like American bougie/fancy neighborhood prices. People in America pay high prices for homes in nice neighborhoods because they don't have to worry about lions jumping over their gates and eating their dogs, they have garbage trucks coming to collect their trash everyday...there's a million different things that separate America from Africa the reason prices/cost of living should not be  high at all  in Africa.  People live better on section 8 in the USA than they would in most of Africa. Corruption is something else in Africa. Most people in America are exterminating/killing rodents in their homes, in Africa because of the poverty there's many places where rats are being grilled to eat. Cmon now Africa will never be what people are trying to make it seem like it's becoming. It's going to take centuries for Africa to get on the USA level. I just watched a video on YouTube about a African country where women are getting raped all the time apparently. Like apparently it's normal to rape women in this specific country and also there is unprofessional circumcisions being done and plenty of babies are dying daily but you can buy a house there for $200,000 USD.  Nowhere in Africa should a home be $200,000 USD or let alone $30,000 USD because there's a million things that separate America and Africa. Africa governments need to have a reality check. Why would anyone want to spend USA prices to move to Africa when most of Africa is begging the USA and countries well off like the USA for food aid. Cmon now. Just saw a video on YouTube where Ibrahim Traore says that he wants Africans to start producing their own food, he said that in many parts of Africa people don't even work to produce their own food they are just begging the USA and other countries for aid. Oh don't get me started on how there is no food safety standards in Africa. Cmon now these people in Africa heads are gone if they think people are going to spend American prices to live in Africa. Literally there is no food safety standards in majority of Africa. You go to any restaurant in America and there is all type of inspections that have to be done on a yearly basis.  In hospitals there's all type of inspections that have to be done in the USA on a yearly basis. These people in Africa governments are charging American prices for the cost of living and Africa is not on America level. Again I know there's some parts of Africa that are trying to be like New York City or whatever like Addis Ababa but it's not a lot of countries and there's too many problems in Africa for anyone to leave the safety and stability of the USA just to go to Africa to pay America prices. It's not worth it. In America the trash and sewer systems are great, yes it floods in parts of America but the flooding doesn't last for long because the sewer system is great in America. America feeds its own citizens, plus 10 or more other countries on this planet by sending food aid all the time. America has homeless shelters and services to help disabled people. America has air conditioning in 95% of the country in restaurants, hospitals, gyms, shelters,I could go on...most of Africa is burning up from the heat. In America there's food pantries in every state giving away free food to people in need..in Africa people are watching others in Africa die from starvation. In America there's free government insurance and section 8 and plenty of people would rather live on that in the USA than to move to Africa where they see tons of people living in huts...their own people in Africa can't even keep their land or afford it or afford real houses. there's plenty of videos on YouTube showing people living in stick and mud hut with no ac or fan, they don't have a stove or a toilet or running water, In America there isn't many areas where those problems exist and if they do exist people are working to better the situations. there's not dozens of babies dying from circumcisions and female genital mutilation and in America if someone raped you you can get a rape kit done and put them in prison. Does Africa even have rape kits? Does africa have forensic scientist who examine crime scenes and do autopsies? In most of Africa the answer is no. So why the hell do the people on the content of Africa think they should be charging America/Europe prices for housing and food and necessities like furniture and clothing and cars. Oh when I went to Africa it was plenty of times I was outside pissing and shitting in front of everyone because it wasn't a decent bathroom around. In the USA there's bathrooms everywhere like in McDonald's , taco bell, burger king,hospitals,train stations,bus stations,airports,I could go on. Africa will never be on America's level if the continent ever gets there it will be centuries from now. Yes there's homeless people in America but they have clean drinking water, in Africa there's plenty of areas that don't have clean drinking water or they don't get water at all and are suffering from drought and famine. I saw a video about a woman farmer in Africa who was working in the fields and got bit by a snake why on the YouTube video there was no paramedics or emts that came to take her to the hospital. she sat on the ground for hours after she was bitten by a rattlesnake or a poisonous snake and she couldn't even get rushed to the hospital. I could go on but these politicians in Africa got it all messed up with the prices in Africa. not to mention most of the politicians in Africa are stealing tax money and money that's being sent to Africa to create jobs and help is being stolen by the politicians to buy Bentley's and Rolls Royce's and G wagons and they're balling with the stolen donations and watching many people in Africa suffer. ugh wtf. sorry if this is jumbled up, I'm typing so fast I'm so annoyed.

Is there any one that has been at Vanuatu , I would to know more abiut the country from a fellow Ugandan on what to expect.

Stop looking for the right person and start becoming the right person

Earlybird 120,000

Come and learn more about how to handle your mental health. It matters more than it is addressed.

This is probably going to sound confusing to most of you but I’d rather say it in its rawest form than pretend to be looking for something I’m not.

I’m 29M I have good things going on in my life,Im often busy Monday to Friday.So over the past few months I’ve been making some significant changes in my life. One of those has been choosing a celibate lifestyle and intentionally recovering from patterns of sexual behavior that I no longer want to define me.

What I’ve come to realize is that while I’m intentionally stepping away from physical intimacy, I still have a need for emotional connection so this isn’t exactly a dating post but rather It’s me looking for genuine confidant.

I’m more of an introvert than an extrovert. I love anime, cartoons, movies and the occasional lunch, dinner, coffee or activities like zip lining and all that stuff.Most of the time I’m perfectly happy staying home but I don’t mind coming out,just not to bars.

I’m hoping to meet a beautiful woman who is well spoken and would be open to building a friendship without any expectation of physical intimacy which would aid my recovery journey.

I do want to be upfront that this is an unconventional request, and there are boundaries that come with it. Rather than making this post unnecessarily long, I’ll explain those in more detail if you decide to DM me. I believe it’s only fair that you know exactly what you’re signing up for before we invest time in getting to know each other.

I know this won’t make sense to everyone, and that’s okay but if you’re someone who values meaningful conversation, healthy boundaries, and simply enjoying another person’s company without needing it to become something more, I’d genuinely love to hear from you.

If you think we’d get along, feel free to send me a DM.

Are people that join online dating platforms just too lonely, toxic irl or just explorers?

Like I've already seen people with everything and still can't get along with. Why would I be interested in a stranger whose character I have no idea about

Good morning
Hi stranger some liqour(waragi)

Some days can feel a little too quiet, and I’d love to meet someone special to share good moments with.

I’m looking for a genuine, intentional man who enjoys spending quality time together, exploring new places, enjoying nightlife, having deep conversations, and creating beautiful memories. Someone romantic, thoughtful, and who believes in showing care through actions the little things like surprises, flowers, and making someone feel valued.

I appreciate a man who is responsible, supportive, and ready to build a balanced partnership where both people bring their best.

No games, no hidden motives just a genuine connection with someone who knows what he wants. 22f

I love how everyone is conditioned to think there is some random person (of the other sex) born somewhere who is supposed to be their partner for life. It’s a cute thought/coping mechanism.

I’ve noticed a trend among my friends, mostly the females, where the ones who grew up in single parent households crave and idolize marriage, while the ones who grew up with both parents avoid the topic like the plague.

Boomer father’s bank loan approval was delayed, so naturally he called the bank in a beer rage and waged a one-sided name-dropping battle with the poor customer service person on the other side, then promptly picked a fight with boomer mom because she didn’t mind him turning on the TV. Yes, you’ve read that right.

“Stupid woman!”
“You women are very cunning and foolish!”
Majority of the children this man has raised/is raising are girls.

“You would be nothing without me! Look at all the money I’ve spent on you!”
“You people take and take, and you never give back! You’re worthless to me!”
He chose to impregnate multiple women on an uncertain financial standing.

“That’s why this and that has happened to your children!”
Sad story.
“Go back to your old husband!” A man that has been dead for years.

He later went on to piss in her flower pots right by the entrance of the house. Hopefully it rains tonight.

I don’t think marriage or that kind of relationship arrangement should be forced on everyone.

I also don’t think it’s a great idea for men and women to live in such close quarters for an extended time period, let alone raising children together.

Why does choosing a ‘life partner’ to nurture new generations with have to be based on how good the sex is?

You are probably going to be a good parent, breaking generational curses and whatnot, but forcing life on a bad marriage/relationship will definitely f*ck your kids up.

But hey, do you.
Everyone should do themselves. Or each other. Whatever.

Also what is it with boomers being so miserable all the time? Like I get it, the whole conditioning/trauma during their formative years, but damn… they hate celebrating good sh*t and they love complaining. And the distrust and victim mindset…. The negativity is highly contagious if you aren’t intentionally grounding and regulating.

Maybe voting should have an age limit as well.

Mwe, I am actually boiling right now.

I scroll through today only to see a brand new "🤎🤎🤎?" category set up in the sub out of thin air?!

Tagging [u/sheLiving](u/sheLiving) since you are the most active mod around here, forgive me if I missed a pinned post, but why were sub members not consulted at all? Where was the poll? Why didn't the mods ask the community whether we even wanted this type of matchmaking content clogging up the feed before dropping it on us? You guys just decided for everyone State House style!

I’ve already seen a soft dash amount of posts popping up under that "🤎🤎🤎?" tag today alone. Soon this sub is going to face a crazy influx of "looking for a fine lightskin in Kisaasi" or "how do I find a partner in Kampala" posts. Some of us are here for news, memes, real debate, and general discussions, we don't want [r/Uganda](r/Uganda) turned into a full time dating column!

At the very least, you should have run a poll, or restricted all relationship/dating posts to a single weekly pinned Megathread so those who want to look for love can do it there without spamming the main feed.

[u/sheLiving](u/sheLiving) and the rest of the mod team, please give us a poll or explain why "🤎🤎🤎?" was pushed through without asking the sub. We believe in democracy here!

What do you guys think ,are you happy with this new category or should it be removed/moved to a megathread?

EDIT: Anti, it turns out I am the one who was sleeping! 😩 Members have confirmed there was actually a poll/engagement on this that I completely missed. I hereby formally withdraw my State House accusations against u/sheLiving and the mods. Democracy is alive and well! Carry on ,banaange.

Take note of the above. Involve counsel. (Here at your service)

I have read the confession of fellow here who got "scammed" by a lady, a situation that almost ruined his long term relationship, thanks to his lenient girlfriend (bro needs to dig deep why he was forgiven though)

What if these ladies who post that they're looking for compatible men for dating? Are actually behaving like what most men do, (to eat and run away)

Like the title says, i'm hoping to find a walking community in busabala or create one if anyone is willing to join.

I am trying ,I pray it works. 29/M doctor by profession,am looking for a lady for intentional dating. Someone who is having their life together, feel free to reach out, thank you

Hey guys

Recently started a remote role paying 1k USD/month from a company abroad, wired directly into my local bank account.

I'm trying to figure out how people here actually navigate this without running into trouble down the road.

A couple of specific questions for anyone doing remote/freelance work in UG:

Bank Access & Flagging: If you don't file with URA, do local banks (Stanbic, Equity, Absa, Centenary) actually flag regular foreign transfers around $1k and demand a TIN or source of funds, or do they only care about much larger sums? How much access does URA really have to personal accounts?

My main long-term goal is applying for international master's scholarships (Chevening, Mastercard Foundation, DAAD, etc.) and study visas. Do scholarship panels or embassy visa officers ever ask for a URA Tax Clearance Certificate, or do they only look at bank statements to see that funds are there and don't care much about tax compliance?

Would really appreciate any real-life experiences or advice from folks who've been doing this for a while. Thanks!

So, I was looking through some recent demographic data from UBOS and the UN Population Division, and this stat hit me hard.

Around 85% to 86% of Uganda's entire current population was born after January 29, 1986. That means roughly 9 out of every 10 people walking around in Uganda today have literally never seen or known any other President or head of state in their entire lives.

When you break down the population numbers, it’s actually wild:

Median Age: 17.1 years old (second youngest population in the whole world!)
0–14 years: ~48%
15–24 years: ~20%
25–34 years: ~13%
35–39 years: ~4.5%

Total under 40 (born 1986 or later): ~85.5%

Nearly 80% of the country is under 35. For the vast majority of us, M7 isn't just a political figure, he's literally the only system, regime, and president we’ve ever existed under. Anyone who actually remembers life before 1986 is now part of a small ~14% minority in this country.

Just thought I’d drop this here because let that sink in for a second... what does it even mean for a country's mindset when almost the entire population has only known one leader for four decades?

What are your thoughts on this?

Now, me am exactly the opposite of every other good thing. Short, nerdy, yappy, but I do have a good Rolex guy and maybe if you won't fall in love with me you will fall for him 🤷. M23

I feel like life has been too peaceful, I'm even gaining weight. Should I start dating again and get some relationship stress? Cry a bit and fail to eat because of someone's son😆

Any married people or those in serious relationships to "encourage" me

M28 looking to enjoy a lovely weekday movie and beach date when it's nice and quiet. Hoping to meet someone who can hold a great conversation, good company, and appreciates relaxed & quiet environments, meaningful moments.

Love is a choice you make every day.

Hi guys, would you go back home in the village or rather hang on in the city right after job loss? By home I mean you parent's place.

Since it's the first relationship Wednesday, let me leave this here.

So, when people talk about long-term plans or relationships, they talk about a wedding, marriage, having children, and just living happily ever after, but my happily ever after looks a little different.

I never want to get married or have children. I do want a long-term exclusive relationship, though. Just shake hands on it, I guess..lol. I don't see myself sharing my space with anyone, let alone a man or child.

It also seems easier. I don't want to spend my days worrying about why my man is not yet back home at 12.. let everyone live their life. We just continue happily dating, have sleepovers, travel, and just chill.

Some might say why not just have a fwb, but I need the emotional connection and exclusivity. And I'm honestly not willing to compromise because I feel like I'm okay with staying alone and keeping my peace and freedom rather than doing something I never wanted in the first place and forever regretting it.

Please tell me it's not just me who wants this.

I am m28 but it is hard to find anyone that cares about what I care about.

I don’t care about nationality, tribe, looks or if she has a job. I don’t even care about having sex.

I just want someone that is interested in history and geopolitics. Does she know about the causes of World War 2?

Is she passionate about understanding the history of African Revolutionary Ideology and the impacts of neo-colonialism on Africa?

I have muted all the big socialites in Uganda on Twitter and I don’t care about Kampala Bar culture?

I would just like to spend time discussing how the US-Belgium Led Assassination of Patrice Lumumba led to the problems we have in the DRC today and how we can solve them.

I will never ask you for nudes because I believe the most beautiful part of a woman is her mind. I am 100% straight male but I don’t like seeing nude people it turns me off.

I tried posting this on tinder but it was futile.

Ok if you don’t like any of the above mentioned and you would like to chat are you interested in studying human psychology? Do you watch random documentaries on varying topics? What are you reading now?

Are you a writer?

We can exchange book and documentary recommendations, occasionally a tv series or two.