My husband and I have been at our current duty station for about 3 months now and I've been really struggling to find connection. For reference, he left for a training somewhat unexpectedly right after we moved here so I've been living alone most of this time. The base is quite rural so we needed to live ~30-40 minutes off base so I could have a realistic work commute (if we lived on base, it would've been 1.5 hr+ to any workplace). I'm very passionate about my career (it's the only thing keeping me sane and fulfilled right now) so we have no plans to move on base. I've been trying to connect with spouses but most of them live on base and/or have kids, so it's been hard to spend time with people consistently. I get lots of social interaction at work but it's so hard to come home alone each night. I've joined all the groups, messaged people about clubs, intramurals, etc., but everything happens on base and I wouldn't be able to make it there on time with my commute, and most of the weekend activities I've been invited to are focused on mom groups/children. Am I just making excuses for myself or is this just a rough set of circumstances?? Anyone else in a similar situation who has found a solution for this crushing loneliness? I'm generally a very extroverted person who enjoys meeting new people/a busy schedule so this is really draining me :(

Hi everyone, I just need some thoughts and opinions on what to expect and what’s the best thing to do in this situation. It’s my first time, and everything is new to me. We’re both 24 and currently in a long-distance relationship. We’re also a new couple—just a few months in—and I know it might be too early for us to go through a deployment situation, especially since it could last 6–9 months.

I’m “just a girlfriend,” and I understand there are things that can’t be shared, even details about when he’s leaving or coming back. He told me there could be little to no service where he’s getting deployed, and the best way to communicate would be through email—but even that isn’t guaranteed every day. Is it really like that? He’s in the Marine Corps, and I understand him completely because this deployment is something he really wanted and waited for in his career. He prioritizes his career, and I respect that—that’s why I’m trying to learn from others’ experiences and how to handle it.

We’ve talked about it a bit, but he’s been busy, and we haven’t had enough time to fully discuss everything on a call. The last time we talked, he said he’s committed and wants this to work—that we’re on the same page, and that his feelings won’t change when he gets deployed. He’s been consistent with me for months, and we’ve also talked about future plans. We’re not rushing into anything like marriage, but we’ve had those conversations to make sure we’re aligned with our individual goals and where we see things going.

I feel secure in our relationship, and I’m not really worried about cheating. What I’m more worried about is how we’re going to get through this—especially on my end, being the one who’s waiting. I would really appreciate any advice.

Wanted to get some advice on how to deal with uncertainty. My spouse is going from active duty to reserve because his MOS got full and he waited too long to reenlist. He wants to go back to active duty and he says he can’t start the process until he talks with a prior service recruiter or the career counselor at his new unit. Right now I have no idea whether he can stay in his MOS or if he has to pick a new one. There’s specific duty stations I want to be at. The needs of the military come first but I would like to know if possible whether I’ll have to be long distance and separated from him for another 6 months or if it’ll be 2 years. I wish I could have more information and I don’t know if I can talk to anyone to find out. My husband has no info and he just told me to wait and I just hate not knowing where I’m gonna be and if I’ll be long distance for another 2 years…

I want to date a person in the military (I am 19) male or female I don’t care as long as we actually like each other and it is not just a booty call. But where would one go to find these people, not like I can go on base as I am not military myself.?

For context: Me (F22) and him (M22) grew up together in the USA, went to the same schools and everything. I moved to Italy 3 and a half years ago, and we reconnected 5 months ago. We’re now doing long distance and he’s getting shipped out for Basics in September. This is the conversation I had with him, pretty short and straight to the point but it feels off. “It will be harder for you than for me.”
Should I really give this a shot or will I just surly end up getting heartbroken? I’m not sure what to do. What do you think? Anything helps❤️