r/SASSWitches • u/Hey-Syccamor3222 • 1h ago
🌙 Personal Craft A reflection on how practicing SASS witchcraft has helped me grow as a person and escape abuse cycles. No details of specific abuse given, vague discussion of gasslighting Spoiler
Hello dearies, I absolutely do not want to go into details because I have other things I want to do today than rehash what has happened, but I am so thankful for the work I've put into myself these past years that made my success today possible.
I practice witchcraft as an integral part of my life, but I'm full atheist. I have deities, rituals, prayers, etc, but at the end of the day none of it is literally true. Through my practice, constant learning and effort for improving my mental health, and the wonders of modern medicine, I am now happier than I've been in my entire life, but not at all through bypassing. I simply frame my life through my ritualized and spiritualized lenses, and I'm able to then do the real life activities that improve my life. Example: cleaning my house can be quite difficult with a chronic illness, but framing it as a game of conquering the mischievous clutter fae, it is much easier for me to accomplish since the lightened mood helps me tolerate my pain better.
That said, I wanted to share how I had an experience today that made it clear just how much I have grown as a person through practicing SASScraft.
Today, a family member returned to old abuse patterns, and although the hurt of remembering past events had me in a good cry session for about 10 minutes, I did not once fall into the victimization that was attempting to be put on me.
I have created a sigil for being a peacemaker, and it is set on Truth: the truth of what has happened, the truth of who I am and what I've done, the truth of what I believe in. So when I was verbally attacked and the old methods of flipping the script were employed in an attempt to make me do what was being demanded, I was at peace and knew who I was. I couldn't be exploited through threats, guilt, and an attempt to make me question who I am. I know who I am, and I'm a very good person who is kind to others.
And that's only one small example. I've grown so much through my craft as I have many things I've worked past, like my old tendency to fall apart if an abusive type withdrew their "love." I would always back down and give in, but not today. Today I am at peace, I stood for my values, and I asked to end the conversation instead of begging for forgiveness. And that didn't come out of nowhere. It was years of effort of cleansing baths to release the pain of love being a reward for good behavior, it was years of meditating in front of my burning cauldron as I did rituals for accepting that abuse is never justified, it was countless prayers said that were to ground me and help me think clearly so I could handle my triggers without jumping to an emotional reaction. It was all the quiet moments in nature pondering who I am, what I want, and what I want my life to be like. It was the conclusions I came to that I don't want to be treated this way, and I won't allow myself to be.
Today was a victory of being able to see clearly, of not falling apart and into unhealthy coping mechanisms, of being able to know what is true even if someone screams the opposite. I know who I am, and I've been able to explore that in grimoires, prayers to my sassdeities, times of stillness while contemplating the magic in my life. I wanted to share how proud I am of myself, but also how thankful I am to the people I've met that shared their craft and how it has helped them. Especially the folks that showed me that it's okay to be different and that people won't like you sometimes. I'm in debt to every person I've met that was an example of being able to cope with being disliked, yelled at, or mistreated.
And for anyone out there who is struggling, I hope that through dedication to truth and peace, you are able to overcome great struggles in your life, even if you previously spent decades in fear.
With Love!
Mrs. Marigold
