I was diagnosed with prostate cancer in December 2025, Gleason 3+4, with only 5% pattern 4. The cancer is only on the right side, but a large proportion of the biopsy samples from that side were positive. My staging tests, including a PSMA PET scan, were negative. However, my PSA remains high, between 17 and 23.
After seeing three urologists and two radiation oncologists, my main options are:
- robotic radical prostatectomy;
- 20 sessions of radiation therapy with six months of hormone therapy.
I was also offered a clinical trial involving five sessions of stereotactic radiation therapy, either alone or combined with a brachytherapy boost, chosen at random. The short course of radiation appeals to me, but I do not want to risk being placed in the brachytherapy group.
I simply cannot make a decision. I am prepared to give up my sex life, but I am terrified of incontinence, chronic pain, and losing a significant part of my physical abilities. I do not want to survive at any cost if it means becoming highly dependent or losing most of my quality of life.
I have already suffered from neuropathic pelvic and perineal pain for years. I also have irritable bowel syndrome, hemorrhoids, and occasional rectal bleeding. The biopsy caused a very large internal and external hematoma, which has made me even more afraid of treatment.
I have a 10-year-old child and I want to be there for him. But I have also been treated for depression and anxiety for more than 15 years, I have serious financial problems, and I am currently at a very low point psychologically.
I really do not feel comfortable with the idea of surgery, but I am afraid I may regret not choosing it.
In my situation, considering my medical profile, my previous health problems, my psychological state, and my fear of side effects, what would you do? Has anyone chosen to go without treatment?