r/Prison • u/bearcat42 • 1d ago
Procedural Question Parole Hearing Impact Statement for predator family member after ~20 years, any advice is appreciated.
Hello all, in a few months is my (M35) younger sisters (F22) fathers parole hearing. I’ve been asked by the court to give a next of kin impact statement at the hearing, along with other family and my sister.
She’s 22 now, let’s call her Cori, my sister. He is in prison for what he did to her for several years, I’ll go into no details but you can assume the nature of the crimes against her when she was six and younger. It's what you're thinking it might be. He's pedo, she is his daughter.
Initially this felt like a benign obligation, but over time it’s sunk in how important this is. Not only to keep him in prison, but as an event in my sisters life. This is the first time she will see him after almost 20 years. Not that she’s been missing him, but more like a dragon that she has to slay a few more times in her life. This is just the first battle.
I’m curious of the experiences of others, how has this gone for you? How hard did you try with your statements? Any advice for someone who has never done this before?
How can I keep my sister safe? She’s always been fragile, made worse by our mothers overt, overly protective (and quite mentally ill) behavior. Cori’s been hobbled and though she’s in her 20’s, she ‘feels’ like she’s a young teen, greener than green in all things. Never had a boyfriend, never had any kind of job, no school after high school.
A big part of the impact I’ve witnessed is this, it affected her education, and as such, her maturity. She’s got a panic disorder according to our mom, that was the reason that Cori did her last few years of school via packets at home. Basically, she’s been stunted socially, mentally and emotionally since he went to prison.
I am concerned with hurting her by saying what I would think is important to say. But I’m also trying to help her and our mom to write their statements in the lead up. Neither of them are particularly well educated, so I’m there to help them speak their minds as clearly as possible to give the best impression to the parole board.
I just want to help my sister and keep this POS off the streets for as long as I can.
If anyone has any advice at all, please, a concerned older brother would very much appreciate some outside perspectives.
I posted this in some other more therapy minded subs and I didn't get many answers, but I was pointed here as you all may have first hand advice on keeping him in Prison and do's and don'ts of this process.
Please, if you have any thoughts, I’d love to hear them. Even slightly off topic or anecdotal thoughts are welcome.
Thank you.